The #1 Reason Your Relationships Are Failing & How To Fix It Instantly | Omar Khan

What this episode is about

The discussion focuses on the importance of understanding underlying needs in relationships and moving beyond judgment to foster connection and communication, emphasizing “loving assertiveness” as a tool for effective interaction. Through personal anecdotes, including a challenging encounter in Sri Lanka, the speaker illustrates how embracing empathy and seeking to understand others can lead to healthier and more successful relationships.

Key takeaways

• Even in conflict, underlying needs unite us; beyond rants, it's about seeking connection.
• Judging others by their worst behavior is like defining a masterpiece by a single brushstroke.
• Most people crave understanding; even anger often masks a deeper desire for acknowledgment.
• Strategies vary across cultures, but universal needs bind humanity—let's bridge with empathy.
• In tense moments, asking thoughtful questions can turn fiery exchanges into meaningful dialogues.

Who speaks in this episode?

• Omar Khan (Guest) · 24 min speaking
• Daniel (Host) · 10 min speaking

What is discussed, and when

1. 0:00 – 5:00: Loving Assertiveness
2. 5:00 – 10:00: Oslo Accords, Loving Assertiveness, Fortune 100
3. 10:00 – 15:00: Loving Assertiveness
4. 20:00 – 25:00: Loving Assertiveness
5. 25:00 – 30:00: Loving Assertiveness
6. 30:00 – 34:04: Loving Assertiveness, Omar Khan

Notable quotes from "The #1 Reason Your Relationships Are Failing & How To Fix It Instantly | Omar Khan"

• So Omar, I think it'd be really fun because you're a fun guy. As much as you are serious, I you are funny. You also have incredible quotes. You before we even started, you gave me like three.

  about Omar Khan · at 0:51

• That because you're teaching bridge building. So, would you like me to share what we what happened next? So following loving assertiveness which is built on the teachings of a…

  about Loving Assertiveness · at 1:53

• What did these situations teach you that you then took back to Fortune 500 companies, to business, to people that are not obviously in the same conflict zone? If you allow me, I'd like to talk.

  about Fortune 100 · at 5:41

• There was a remarkable play put on here at the Lincoln Center and elsewhere called Oslo and it talked about the Oslo Accords, the signing of the peace on the White House lawn.

  about Oslo Accords · at 7:07

Who and what is mentioned in this episode?

People

• Omar Khan — Person · Main guest · 1 mention · first at 33:22
  Interview subject explaining and demonstrating 'loving assertiveness' in contexts ranging from conflict zones to corporate leadership and marriage.

Books & papers

• Loving Assertiveness — Book · Primary recommendation · 11 mentions · first at 0:05
  Central to the discussion on communication and conflict resolution techniques.

Companies & orgs

• Fortune 100 — Company · Case study · 1 mention · first at 5:45
  Referenced in the context of applying conflict resolution techniques from international settings to corporate environments.

Places & events

• Oslo Accords — Event · Referenced work · 2 mentions · first at 7:15
  Used as an example of successful negotiation between conflicting parties, despite eventual breakdown.

Full transcript with timestamps

0:00 Do you find that most people in the world pretty much want the same thing? When we talk in loving assertiveness trends, my job is to get out of the judgment business because I don't know whether that person is good, bad, or indifferent. All I know is at that moment they're loud or provocative, difficult or easy. We've all been there. I I mean, I wouldn't want to be judged by my worst day or my worst utterance or my least mature interaction. And if somebody were to extrapolate from that and say that's who I was, that would be pretty devastating. At that moment, I have to try to open a window to possibility and see if they'll walk through it.

0:35 And one of the ways that we do that is that we go beyond the surface behavior and try to get to the underlying need. And it is needs that I do believe are universal. So Omar, I think it'd be really fun because you're a fun guy. As much as you are serious, I you are funny. You also have incredible quotes. You you before we even started, you gave me like three quotes that I either forgot about or didn't even know. Um so I can tell this is going to be a good one. But what is a a provocative standout moment that's happened to you because you've been through a lot of things all around the world uh but something that really stands out when you were giving some workshops in some country

1:23 let's go to Sri Lanka and I finish a workshop about communication and bridge building an angry man jumps up gets in my face and says your country United States wants to keep us economically down doesn't want us to progress How do can you stand here and be talking to us? Now, that's one of those moments where you either uh fire back, run for cover, dodge it, or say, "Oh," and you can't do that because you're teaching bridge building. So, would you like me to share what we what happened next? So following loving assertiveness which is built on the teachings of a man called Marshall Rosenberg non-violent communication and other companion methodologies like that.

2:10 I looked at a gentleman and I said sir I said it in the same intensity not being rude. I said, "Sir, are you very frustrated because you feel my country doesn't understand your economic realities?" And he stared at me for a second. He said "Yes they don't care." I said, "And you're very upset that your family suffering isn't understood by policy makers who give speeches but don't bother to actually listen or touch flesh." Yes. And then he said, you know, and our governments know better. It's not just yours. And I said, "And you wish that there were a way to get a hearing for some of these realities so that if there were genuine efforts to improve Sri Lanka, they could land and not misfire."

3:01 And he said, "Yes, and how do we do that?" And we had a conversation going. And I like this story because in 5 minutes this belligerent man who had clearly been seeking to blow up the conversation calmed down. We chatted. We talked about his family. We talked about how we could get word out and he said, "Would you like to have a cup of tea?" And this is Sri Lanka, so salant tea. No way I was going to say no. So, do you find that most people in the world pretty much want the same thing? Like most people in the world want to better themselves?

3:39 They they want to have a better life. They want to have a great life for their family. They want to do something purposeful. I obviously there are bad people in the world, but do you find going to these workshops and being all around the world that most people were pretty much looking for the good?

3:56 So, here's the thing. When we talk in loving assertiveness terms, my job is to get out of the judgment business because I don't know whether that person is good, bad, or indifferent, all I know is at that moment they're loud or provocative, difficult, or easy. And we've all been there, right, Daniel? I I mean, I wouldn't want to be judged by my worst day or my worst utterance or my least mature interaction. And if somebody were to extrapolate from that and say that's who I was, that would be pretty devastating. So at that moment, I have to try to open a window to possibility and see if they'll walk through it.

4:37 And one of the ways that we do that um is that we go beyond the surface behavior and try to get to the underlying need. And it is needs that I do believe are universal. strategies can be different. So if you're in a more developed country, you might need one type of strategy. If you're in a more challenged economic country situation, you might need a different kind of strategy. All right? If if if there's a crisis happening, a downturn, a recession, some kind of economic implosion, or you're going you're in a war zone, or who knows, you're just going through a period of polarization like we are here.

5:19 The strategies can be different, but the underlying needs which are more than one. I mean, it doesn't mean that my need is always the same as your need, but they're needs we can all recognize. Talk about conflict zones. I know you've been in them and you've been in some very, very unique situations, challenging situations. What did these situations teach you that you then took back to Fortune 500 companies, to business, to people that are not obviously in the same conflict zone? If you allow me, I'd like to talk about what we took back not only to corporates, not only to boardrooms, but even to bedrooms.

6:01 Because the dynamics are the same, whether it's your brother, your sister, your partner, escalated and put it into an organizational setting and it gets a little more complicated, but the dynamics aren't all that different. And take it up into conflict zones. And so, a lot of this work is a balance between power and love. So you need some level of accountability imposed, some consequences because otherwise you have a shouting match. Nobody's going to pacify themselves. What everybody does is just repeat their own corner. The problem with that is that we end up in a lose-lose scenario.

6:42 It's a culde-sac. Nobody gets anywhere. So there needs to be some leverage point, some organization, some body, some situation. and from and what we've learned from those conflict zones is that it is absolutely fine to negotiate with people who utterly disagree with you. This idea that I must get someone to agree with me before I can talk to them is absurd. There was a a remarkable play put on here uh at the Lincoln Center and elsewhere called Oslo and it talked about the Oslo Accords, the signing of the peace on the White House lawn.

7:21 Unfortunately, soon after it was signed, Prime Minister Rabbine was killed by a Jewish extremist and Arafat, never high on the emotional maturity scale, allowed himself to be browbeaten into launching another inifada. So, it was short-lived, but it was a beautiful moment because it was signed despite all the people who said it was impossible. And early on in the play, somebody says, "You want us to negotiate with terrorists, with people who blow up our civilians?" And he said, "Well, who else are you going to negotiate with?" People you're going to sit down and have a cup of cake with. I mean, a cup of tea or a piece of cake.

8:00 Who else is there to negotiate with people who may make your blood boil, your skin crawl, may make everything in you say, "These people cannot be spoken to." But if that were literally true, and maybe that person can't be spoken to, but maybe there are other people in that movement or in that faction or who express those interests who are more rational. That's clearly what happened in the Oslo Accords. They found people and some of the negotiators on both the Israeli side and on the Palestinian side, even though they came apart, they still their children are still friends today.

8:41 And that brings goosebumps. uh every time I tell that story. So when we realized that that was doable and I wasn't involved in that particular case but we've been in Lebanon, we've been in Sri Lanka, we've been in India, uh we've been in various conflict situations in Pakistan in the Danny Pearl times after 911. I was a consultant for the Catholic Church building leadership in Pakistan because they're a persecuted minority. And that's why power and love, loving assertiveness. Because this new age suggestion that all you have to do is keep the peace and smile at everyone doesn't work. There is time that power and consequences have to be brought to bear that says no, this is not okay. We cannot. And at the same time, we need love. Understanding what would drive you to want to behave this way. What are the needs? And can we find better strategies? So now you come to a corporate setting. We were invited by a

9:41 very large company and this chairman said uh our strategy is beautiful but it's not getting implemented. Help me figure out why. And so I asked every I took the nineperson leadership team. I said sit them at round tables and we'll have a series of discussions. The HR person came to me and said very worried she said you cannot make the marketing and sales director sit at the same table. I said why not? She said they hate each other. I pulled the chairman, a very smart, capable, accomplished leader in many, many other ways. These are not dumb people. That's why, you know, when Daniel Goldman pointed out emotional intelligence is distinct from IQ, uh that was a revelation, but it shouldn't have been one if we actually looked at how the world operates. And I said to him, you're not serious. You asked me why your strategy was stuck and your HR director just told me your marketing and sales director cannot even sit at the

10:38 same table. He said, "I know. I know. I know." So I said, "Listen, so either you overrule her and seat them at the same table without even bringing it up. You just do it because I'm so dumb. I just asked for people and we just tossed everybody's name into a hat and there they landed and let them stand up in front of a room and say I can't sit with this guy. I said they'll never do it. I said or we go home cuz you have the answer. They sat down and three days later I remember when the marketing man director turned to the sales director and said, "You are my challenge, but I'm willing to undertake it." And the sales director said, "This is the first time I've actually gotten a sense of what you're trying to move forward, not just what you're opposed to."

11:32 And I can get on board with some of that. It sounds like loving assertiveness is what we need. And I'll give you an example of why I'm kind of shocked of how, let's just take the US. Uh, and I've had the opportunity recently to travel around the world and talk to a lot of people. And I I'm fascinated that surprising a lot of people feel similar in different places, but let's take the US. You have, you know, one party thinks a certain way and if you want to be a part of the other party, you have to think it's another way. I was I was listening to people talking about how they can't date somebody who is from a different political party. they can't be with friends with somebody who thinks differently. It's like this the internet and social media specifically now has forced us if you want to gain traction online. You have to be polarizing which I know you mentioned earlier you but you have to be polarizing in a certain way

12:31 and I wonder even sometimes if these people even believe it or if they're just literally going to get traction online but what it what I've seen it cause is now everyone then feels that they have to choose a side. And I always felt myself that what what made me stand out or different in my life was I like I seek to understand why somebody is having that bad day or they feel a certain way because I don't want to judge them based on that one interaction because like you said what if their father just died 15 minutes earlier and they're having the worst day of their life.

13:08 How how do you look at this in terms of how do we tell people especially I think young people especially young people I feel like they feel they really have to choose a side and they cannot be around nor associate themselves with anyone that thinks any different than them and I find that to be very scary.

13:29 Yeah. I mean you've raised so many important points uh and I'm going to delve into them. Um, do you mind if I backtrack for just a second cuz you like stories and I just want to leave you with one from that interaction from that corporate uh sales and marketing director. When I started that conversation, I put up a quote from my old pal um Tom Peters, the Uber guru with whom I worked and it was the quote said, "A leader today has to be the rock of Gibralar on rollerblades." And one of my most prized possessions at the end of that session is that this company gave me as a gift a rock and a pair of rollerblades and this and they did achieve that strategy. Anyway, that was just I thought you'd get a chuckle out of that and it might be a nice image. The rock of Gibralar on rollerblades because I think that's not irrelevant to the rest of your question either. By the way, too many people understand the rock part

14:29 and too many people don't understand the rollerblades. You know, it's it's very interesting when you think about the founding of the American Republic, which is not fashionable, I suppose, now to lionize anymore, but some wonderful things came out of it obviously. And the first cabinet when George Washington put it together had Thomas Jefferson and Alexander Hamilton on it. If there were ever people at loggerheads, if there were ever people who did not like each other, if there were people who philosophically were opposed, and he did that on purpose.

15:04 Abraham Lincoln, when he brought on his his cabinet was called a team of rivals. These epical moments in our history were made possible by bringing into the tent all of the opinions from smart capable people who were diametrically opposed in some ways. And there's a wonderful story about how eventually um Jefferson had to invite Hamilton to a Montichello type dinner of the type he was famous for hosting to decide where the new capital would be and how war debt would be settled. They had to break bread, drink wine, have a meal together, and find a way to save their fledgling republic.

15:48 Now, so all I guess I want to say is that this is the period is not unique in being polarized. I mean, the people that Lincoln brought in were the very people trying to defeat him politically who venerated him by the time we lost him. And even LBJ when he was asked why he still kept Jay Edgar Hoover said he said I'd much rather have him on the inside pissing out than on the outside pissing in. So the polarization may not be unique, but we seem to have lost the capacity. The emotional intelligence has actually declined because we've all gone into bunkers. You know, I worked with a a lawyer who had been a congressional aid and he said that he and he was a Republican, those on the Democratic side. So, this was during Ronald Reagan's period. And Ronald Reagan and Tip O'Neal, you know, didn't necessarily like each other very much, but they could get things done. N Gingri and uh Bill Clinton weren't pals,

16:51 but they could balance a budget together. And in those days, those congressional aids could still have lunch together without being considered disloyal. today would be considered betrayal. So to answer your question in terms of what do we tell young people? I would tell them do you want to solve problems or would you like to be right? That's the question because you can't have both. If and rightness anyway is a precarious accomplishment. You know, Oliver Wendell Holmes once said, "The truth is a shifting residue from a competition of ideas.

17:31 It's a shifting residue. It's not permanent." Well, how are we going to have that residue at all if there's no competition of ideas, which means I actually hear the other idea, understand it, and then can fairly compete with it or against it. So the question to ask the youth is do we want to make progress or do you want to be right because we can't have both because the only way to make progress is to enroll people with similar needs but maybe very different strategies.

18:05 So Omar I can't help but laugh but you you know what something I think about when you say that phrase I can't help but think about marriage.

18:14 Yes. And many times or even let's say marriage or business partnerships many times

18:22 let's go marriage let's go there let's go in marriage many times this has come up in my mind where I want to I want not fight back physically but I want to like say something back or I want to argue because I feel like I want to be right and then I've I've had to learn to adapt over this last many years and adjust to I I really I want to get the tattoo of that phrase. Like that's how much I love that phrase because it I I Why do you think people I just know so many people tell me about the arguments they're having, let's say their spouse or relationships. And I feel like every single one that I've heard the last few years is related to what you just said.

19:09 So why is it that people have a very very hard time I think being able to do that in a relationship?

19:17 So some of it is we have not been provided the correct vocabulary or the framework. You know if you imagine and I'm going to be more specific Daniel but if just allow me to backpedal just a little bit to give a perspective to the people who are listening to this or watching this. For some reason, we would not ever think that you could just do plumbing without any kind of experience or training or uh knowledge. Uh you wouldn't think that you could drive a car without some education or training or licensing. But the most volatile, the most in infinite infinitely intimate act connecting heart to heart, mind to mind, soul to soul with another human being is something most of us think, well, I'm a natural.

20:04 Everybody thinks they're a great communicator and of course the world the wreckage in the world shows we're not. Everybody thinks they're a great listener and of course the look at the amount of litigation that we have in our society. That puts the lie to our skills at rapport building or listening or connecting. So the first thing I would say is we need to be willing to be re-educated. There all these people want to be educated in AI. That's fantastic. How about also being educated in the emotional ability, the literacy, the vocabulary, the understanding of human needs. So I think one of the reasons is just we're maladroid because we haven't been equipped.

20:50 you know if if you don't have uh if you don't have those skills if you don't have the vocabulary if you don't have the framework that I have to understand what this person's need is right now and may I give you an example

21:03 please I'm really enjoying it by the way because I right off the top of my head I think yes we don't have the skills and the only skills I have are the ones I've learned let's say watching my parents or something and it didn't work out for them So, I probably don't have the right tools.

21:23 Well, and it's not just you. I didn't have I don't have those skills either. It's a practice. And loving assertiveness, the book that we've just come up with on Amazon, takes you through that practice. The workshops we do make people practice. It's muscle memory because when the moment comes, you cannot just count on I'll talk myself into doing this, right? It's got to be a practice. And so the example I'll give you is somebody let's suppose that you want to go and party that evening and take something simple though you're welcome to give me a tougher case. Okay. And your partner says I want to stay home.

22:05 I don't want to go to a party. I'm tired. I want to stay home. Now on the surface you can't both go out and stay home. The strategies are irreconcilable. Right? And so either you can say you don't want to go out with me, you're, you know, a drag. The other person says you're just scared of intimacy. You always want to be in a social setting. Why can't we ever have time together? And now you're stuck. What we learn to do, however, is somebody you say, "Hey, I want to go out." And person says, "I want to stay in." You take a breath and you say, "Are you are you feeling very tired right now? Is it is it right now that you need some rest and care?

22:44 and and you'd like to maybe be open you'd be open to going out at another time and you have the person tell that back to you immediately diffuses the situation. And if the other person is also literate and they say and you're bubbling with energy and you want to go out and be with friends so maybe is there a way we could be together that's a little more exciting than us just channel surfing and then you can then you know it's amazing when both of you have empathy for each other's needs the strategy always suggests itself the strategy is never the problem but because we fight over strategies instead of the underlying needs and that our feelings are the spotlights. What we're feeling point to the needs and we show you the practice in the book. It's full of examples as is the workshop real case studies uh both on with families with parents with uh business associates and yes in organizations and international

23:45 settings. Yeah. I wonder how can you use this because it almost sounds like sales like I mean like I could use this for sales like you're saying you know I think I've done so many sales trainings and they talk about empathy and mirroring and other I don't know a whole bunch of things and I might even be saying them wrong because it's been it's been a while but I wonder really it's like the art of persuasion

24:07 and here it's not the art of persuasion because I'm I never want to persuade you to do anything other than fulfill your need. So, I've got to find out what your need is, and I want to confess to you what my need is and to see if we can collaborate on a strategy that honors both those needs. It doesn't have to be 50/50. Maybe you're less tired than I am needing to go blow off steam. Or maybe it's the other way around. So, it is I mean, because at the end of the day, I may not get what I want. You may not come out for a party or I might not stay home. We might decide, hey, you chill out and hey, you go with those friends of yours with my blessing, blow off some steam, and then come back and we'll be together. You know, that's all possible.

24:51 And any hybrid of that is possible. The sales version would be, I'm going to wink, and they're going to want to come out with me. I'm going to create a sense of need to be out with me. That's this outcomebased Whereas this is needs-based compassion and connection, but it's loving assertiveness. So, I get to tell my needs and I get to receive yours and we both try to make life more wonderful for each other without abdicating who we are. That's the practice.

25:23 I love this because my wife, she graduated with a degree in psychology. She's a very good communicator and she always tells me that I am pretty much a very bad communicator which I agree and so I've been working on this for many many years around you over 10 years I've been working on how like you said the muscle memory how to be a better communicator and how to to to do it in a way that it flows. So I I can't wait to read the book. I can't wait to read Loving Assertiveness. But if people want to get in touch with you, Omar, they want to learn more about obviously not just the book, but you have workshops and I'm sure it sounds like a lot of education. How can they do so?

26:05 And Daniel, do you mind if I say two minutes about what your wife said to you just before I answer that question? Because I just wanted to just say to your wife, okay, that could you tell me what about my communication frustrates you the most? Don't I don't want a diagnosis whether I'm good or bad. What is it you wish I would do that I don't do? And whatever she says, just repeat it back until she says, "Yeah, that's it." And when she's spent, you could tell her, just say, "And would it be okay if I could share with you what I most wish would happen when we interacted?"

26:44 And never with judgment. It's just just remember this observations, feelings, and needs. That's it. So, if you ask her to just be clear about what it is she wished would happen that isn't happening, play back to her.

26:58 Just something to add on to there. I was told I read somewhere I can't remember if I was told or read somewhere I don't to to try and not say like you always like you always forget to get me something at the grocery store or like you always because for some reason it's like very quick to when something happens to want to say Omar you always make do this or you always forget this even though it's not always but then that puts the other person I feel like in super defense mode.

27:31 So I mean if you want to comment about that all I would say is that it should be about observations. So the version of that would be that uh I'm frustrated that when I think we've agreed you'll be bringing me something from the store. For example, this last Tuesday it didn't happen. Could you share with me what what went wrong? Was I unclear? Were you irritated by the request? Uh, I just want to understand that. And if they don't hear judgment or a demand, they'll tell you the truth. And it might be, "Oh I'm really bad at that. I need to get better at that. I'm going to work on that." Or it could be, you know, I was so busy and you yelled that out as I was leaving and I had too many other things on my mind and the phone went off, my boss, whatever. And then you can exchange that empathy, but it'll be a moment where it's been paid attention to. So it is true that always never but the real

28:30 thing is no diagnosis explore observations and ask questions and just share your feelings. When that happened I felt that maybe my request wasn't important enough you know and could you could you tell me how I could put that request across in a way that it might land better? Well, you are right because on Tuesday I did forget because I got that phone call, Omar. So, I don't know. You You must be inside my head right now seeing what's my thoughts are. But no, I I super appreciate this. I had a great time. I learned a lot. Like, if people get this, I don't know what the divorce rates are. Probably 50 60%. I don't even It could be higher at this point.

29:15 I a lot of people aren't even in relationships. they don't even want to get married because I don't think they even want to go through what they feel might be challenging. I think if they get this and we all learn to communicate in a more effective manner like what you're saying and leveraging this empathy and and these things that you're mentioning, I think I think divorce rates will go down. People will have better marriages, better relationships. I think practice.

29:41 The answer to your question is um the website is www3 dash s as in sam-consulting.com and when you do 3-sulting.com the link to the book on Amazon will come up. uh there'll be a link to an upcoming workshop and certainly people can connect with me, reach out to me. This is the sixth book that I've put out there, but the first one on this topic. Um we do have a Substack for people who insist that they must have a sneak preview. Um but read the book. It's it's been a labor of love. Um and it's a homage to Marshall who created non-violent communication to the founders of NLP with whom I worked with a man called M. Scott Peek who was an author of a book called the road less traveled. He was my mentor for 10 years and his foundation for community encouragement.

30:40 And so a lot of wisdom if there is wisdom there I have truly been fortunate to sit on the shoulders of giants.

30:48 Okay. I have another question because you just mentioned NLP. I feel like you know Tony Robbins there's a lot of people that have talked about things. I feel like they mention NLP. I and so many people all of a sudden started talking to NLP. I know what it means, but I don't really know what it means. But what did from the the the the father of NLP? What did you learn about what it actually is and how it's really implemented? And is that what we're already been talking about?

31:18 I I learned this from the founders. There were two of them and they didn't get along very well eventually either. They needed some loving assertiveness training maybe subsequently. Uh but they were brilliant. They were geniuses. What they did was they modeled their thesis was that if anyone in the world can produce an outcome, we all share the same neurology. If we model not only what they do on the outside but their inner self-t talk uh the emotional states and what they do to manage themselves, we can approximate those results. So they looked at family therapists who read the same books but had disproportionately better results in healing family rifts but they went to the same schools they had the same PhDs.

32:04 So what they looked for the difference that made the difference. So neurallinginguistic programming neuro mind central nervous system languages verbal and non-verbal program set of steps we take to produce a result. And the biggest takeaway you know for NLP I'll give you one um from this conversation it's in loving assertiveness is that just because it doesn't hurt me doesn't mean it doesn't hurt you. So sometimes we say why so irrational. Why would you get upset over that? All that means is I wouldn't get upset about that but you're not me and I don't I'm not the center of the communication universe. And the correlary is just because it feels good to me doesn't mean it feels good to you. So hearing that perfect word I love you or that phrase could be everything for one person. For the other person it might leave them cold. They might say show me talk is cheap. So I am not the meaning of your

33:04 communication is the effect it produces on the other person not your intention when you sent it. All this and more is in loving assertiveness.

33:12 Omar like I could three months of quotes just from this conversation today. I mean that that was amazing. I can't wait to read the book. Loving assertiveness Omar Khan. uh you are like one of the most chill, relaxed people, great storyteller. Like you are a pro at this. I can tell that you've been practicing for a long time and I imagine your workshops are just as entertaining. But thank you so much.

33:41 I hope you'll join one. I would love to have you there. Let's go. I mean, I'm I'm excited. I I want to attend. So I uh but I appreciate you joining us today on Founders Story.

33:51 It was a real privilege, a real joy. Um, and you're very good at what you do. You're a great midwife and medium for this.

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