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Why Successful Founders Self-Sabotage (The Upper Limit Theory): Sunaina Sinha Haldea

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This is the full, timestamped transcript of "Why Successful Founders Self-Sabotage (The Upper Limit Theory): Sunaina Sinha Haldea", an episode of Founder's Story published February 10, 2026 (32 min, about 6,107 words). It mentions 24 people, works and ideas, including Wealth Transfer, Sunsetta, Meditation, Mindfulness, Elvis Dan.

What this episode is about

The discussion examines the complexities founders face when balancing the desire to build a lasting business with the strategic considerations necessary for a successful exit. It emphasizes the importance of intrinsic motivation beyond mere financial gain and highlights critical early-stage decisions that can position a business for acquisition while navigating the emotional challenges of transition.

Key takeaways

  • Selling a business is emotional, like mourning a friend; build for resilience, not just dollars.
  • Think long-term while planning an exit; it’s a balancing act between legacy and liquidity.
  • Don’t chase money; a true exit depends on meaningful value beyond just hitting financial targets.
  • In the age of rapid disruption, ensure your business can survive shifts—think like a sequoia, not a sapling.
  • Founders often mourn after selling; recognize your business wasn't just a project, but a chapter of your life.

Who speaks in this episode?

What is discussed, and when

  1. – 5:00: Built to Last, Sunsetta, Deferred Life Plan, Jim Collins
  2. – 10:00: Upper Limit Theory, Elvis Dan, Gay Hendrix
  3. – 15:00: Deferred Life Plan, Randy Komasar, Raymond James, Sabil Capital
  4. – 20:00: Built to Last, Anthropic
  5. – 25:00: Wealth Transfer, United States (states), Raymond James
  6. – 30:00: Meditation, Mindfulness, Wealth Transfer, Europe
  7. – 31:37: Sunsetta, Mindfulness, LinkedIn

Notable quotes from "Why Successful Founders Self-Sabotage (The Upper Limit Theory): Sunaina Sinha Haldea"

  • So, Sunsetta, there's a few things that I am very excited to talk to you about today because it's been weighing on my mind. When I get something in my head, I can't get it out. It's crazy. Like,.
    about Sunsetta · at
  • Yeah. I'm I'm almost nervous for a lot of SAS people, people that are in SAS because I think for example, I make something and an LLM like a Gemini or Chat GBT could recreate what I'm doing.
    about Elvis Dan · at
  • Life have turned. The second part that I worked on in addition to this first part is there's something known as upper limit theory. Gay Hendrix very famous psychologist and…
    about Upper Limit Theory · at
  • That's what I took away from today. If you really want to exit and you want to be sustainable, then it needs to you need to build something that's going to last.
    about Built to Last · at
  • Number because that was very real estate focused. The answer is somewhere in the 80 to90 trillion dollars of wealth transfer that will occur from baby boomers to millennials…
    about Wealth Transfer · at
  • Leadership around the transfer and decision making. So, it's going to be quite interesting. And what a lot of financial advisors, the adviserss at Raymond James and beyond are…
    about Raymond James · at
  • Then I go to a course every year and certainly over the last you know decade or so I meditate every day. My suggestion to anyone is just to get started. Dip your toe in fact…
    about Meditation · at
  • Follow me. It's where I put my most detailed content. I try to stay away from most other forms of social media, but I'm definitely active on that one.
    about LinkedIn · at

Who and what is mentioned in this episode?

People

  • Sunsetta — Person · Main guest (name uncertain from transcript) · 2 mentions · first at
    Addressed directly by the host as the interviewee giving advice on engineering a business for a successful exit and the psychology of exits.
  • Elvis Dan — Person · Host / interviewer (first name only) · 1 mention · first at
    The guest addresses ‘Dan’ while answering questions; Dan drives the interview topics (exits, AI disruption, wealth transfer, mindfulness).
  • Gay Hendrix — Person · Referenced expert · 1 mention · first at
    Cited as the originator of 'Upper Limit Theory,' used to explain post-exit self-sabotage and adaptation to sudden success.
    Worked on in addition to this first part is there's something known as upper limit theory. Gay Hendrix very famous psychologist and life coach in the US coined this phrase…
  • Randy Komasar — Person · Referenced expert · 1 mention · first at
    Referenced as the author of the 'deferred life plan' idea (via his book), used to argue against purely extrinsic, money-driven motivations for entrepreneurship.
    Living at the beach. Then you're living a deferred life plan. quote another book that I read as a very young of course I was in my 20s when I read this book it's called a monk…
  • Jim Collins — Person · Referenced expert · 1 mention · first at
    Referenced for an analogy about building companies to endure for decades—supporting the episode’s theme of building to last while planning for an exit.
    Ways of thinking about growth. Right? On the one hand, you want to build something to last. To use the old Jim Collins analogy, you've got to buy think about this business…

Books & papers

  • A Monk and the Riddle — Book · Referenced work · 1 mention · first at
    Mentioned as a book that discusses the concept of not living a deferred life plan.
    Don't want to work at all. I want to be living at the beach. Then you're living a deferred life plan. quote another book that I read as a very young of course I was in my 20s…

Companies & orgs

  • Raymond James — Company · Business focus · 2 mentions · first at
    Mentioned as the acquiring company of Sabil Capital, highlighting its role in the financial services industry.
  • Sabil Capital — Company · Business focus · 1 mention · first at
    Described as a financial services business founded by the guest, later acquired by Raymond James.
    Yeah. So I was fortunate that the business that I started and founded Sabil Capital was acquired by Raymond James Fortune 300 company. I was first investor in and chairman of the.
  • Mindful Chef — Company · Case study · 1 mention · first at
    A healthy recipe box delivery business acquired by Nestle, mentioned as part of the guest's portfolio.
    Business that I started and founded Sabil Capital was acquired by Raymond James Fortune 300 company. I was first investor in and chairman of the board for several years of a…
  • Nestle — Company · Business focus · 1 mention · first at
    Mentioned as the acquiring company of Mindful Chef, illustrating its expansion into health-focused food delivery.
    And that's what happened in all three cases. Somebody else stepped in and said, I recognize that what you've built is unique and different and it has value. It has value for me to me and here's what I'm willing to pay for it.
  • Barcore — Company · Case study · 1 mention · first at
    A boutique bar-based fitness business acquired by private equity, mentioned as part of the guest's portfolio.
    Called Mindful Chef. It was a healthy recipe box delivery business that Nestle acquired and a third one which was a boutique bar- based fitness business called Barcore in the…
  • Anthropic — Company · Referenced company · 1 mention · first at
    Mentioned in the context of AI businesses revising their financial strategies and facing challenges with gross margins.
    You're seeing that with some of the AI champions now that are having to look at gross margins. You saw the there was filings out for Anthropic and thinking Anthropic is now…

Products & tech

  • LinkedIn — Product · Contact / follow channel · 1 mention · first at
    The guest explicitly asks listeners to follow them on LinkedIn and provides a search instruction; it’s the only clear call-to-action in the episode.
  • ChatGPT — Product · Incidental · 4 mentions
    Mentioned as an example of an LLM that could disrupt businesses.
    Yeah. I'm I'm almost nervous for a lot of SAS people, people that are in SAS because I think for example, I make something and an LLM like a Gemini or Chat GBT could recreate…
  • Gemini — Product · Incidental · 1 mention · first at
    Mentioned as an example of an LLM that could disrupt businesses.
    Yeah. I'm I'm almost nervous for a lot of SAS people, people that are in SAS because I think for example, I make something and an LLM like a Gemini or Chat GBT could recreate…

Concepts & topics

  • Meditation — Concept · Core topic · 4 mentions · first at
    Discussed as a key practice for mental resilience and mindfulness, especially in the context of entrepreneurship and personal development.
  • Mindfulness — Concept · Core topic · 3 mentions · first at
    Emphasized as a crucial practice for maintaining mental health and resilience, especially for entrepreneurs.
    Working in finance three children sitting on boards and so forth has been supporting entrepreneurs as has been focusing on my internal mental state and mental energy and I do…
  • Built to Last — Concept · Strategy · 5 mentions · first at
    Presented as a key philosophy for building businesses that are sustainable and valuable in the long term.
  • Deferred Life Plan — Concept · Key argument · 3 mentions · first at
    Critiqued as a counterproductive approach to life and business, where individuals chase external rewards at the expense of intrinsic fulfillment.
    And that process is a party. It is grief. It is sadness. If your only motivation, it's this dollar goal. You if you are chasing the money and you are chasing what's out there…
  • Upper Limit Theory — Concept · Framework · 3 mentions · first at
    Introduced as a psychological concept explaining how individuals self-sabotage when reaching new levels of success or wealth.

Places & events

  • Wealth Transfer — Event · Core topic · 4 mentions · first at
    Highlighted as a significant upcoming shift in the financial landscape, with trillions expected to move from baby boomers to millennials and Gen Z.
  • United States (states) — Place · Setting · 3 mentions · first at
    Mentioned as the primary context for discussions on entrepreneurship, wealth transfer, and financial planning.
    Understand from your perspective, every founder that I know wants to exit their business. At least most founders in the US that I meet, they're the pinnacle is I want to make a…
  • COVID-19 pandemic — Event · Referenced event · 3 mentions
    Briefly mentioned in the context of market changes and business challenges.
    It. Here are the six. What are the 10 things I need to do? markets turn, cycles turn. You've seen what's happened to software. It's no longer the darling of the public markets anymore. Things, stuff happens. So, for that reason, from a.
  • Europe — Place · Setting · 1 mention · first at
    Mentioned as a location where meditation courses are available, alongside the US.
    Meditation type that the Buddha practiced. It's very purest and is goes back thousands of years. There are free courses in centers across the US, across Europe and beyond. I…

Full transcript with timestamps

Selling a business is a juxtaposition between two different ways of thinking about growth. You want to build something to last like hey this is this business is going to not just survive but thrive and have the impact for the next many many decades but at the same time think about when is it the right time to hand this business over. It's all about seasons and chapters of lives and that process is a party. It is grief. It is sadness. If your only motivation, it's this dollar goal. You if you are chasing the money and you are chasing what's out there, you're living the deferred life plan. That motivation can only take you so far.

Find a reason to do it inside of yourself. If it's inside yourself, you're able to reach for those muscles of resilience when the going goes uh becomes tough. So, Sunsetta, there's a few things that I am very excited to talk to you about today because it's been weighing on my mind. When I get something in my head, I can't get it out. It It's crazy. Like, it it bothers me until I can talk to someone. But I wanted to really understand from your perspective, every founder that I know wants to exit their business. At least most founders in the US that I meet, they're like, you know, the pinnacle is I want to make a business and I want to exit that business. But I don't think people understand what do you have to do early on to even get a business to a place where it could even be acquired by another company. What would you say is critical things that people need to think through early on?

Selling a business or engineering a business to a successful exit is a juxtaposition between two um different ways of thinking about growth. Right? On the one hand, you want to build something to last. To to use the old Jim Collins analogy, you've got to buy think about this business being a seismic staying force in your industry or vertical for decades to come. So, you've got to build day by day. like this is this business is going to not just survive but thrive and have the impact you think it can have in its vertical in its industry in its community of business people for the next many many decades. So build for the long term, but at the same time, and especially with your troops, build for the long term. At the same time, when you have a board of investors, board of advisors, board of uh your personal board of directors, whatever you call it, with them, think about when is it the right time to hand

this business over to the next fiduciary, right? It's all about seasons and chapters of lives and businesses that you start are yours for a season or chapter. What is that season or chapter where you are the best player to to hold the business as either the the primary shareholder and or the CEO and what would be the right time to hand it over? So think about that and think about it early but do it with a very small group of people who really know what they're talking about i.e. board and think about what are the milestones that the business needs to hit financially. You know, what are the key KPIs financially, operationally, uh with respect to the cap table, with respect to the industry, depending on, of course, what type of business you have. Think about what those inflection points might be between now and then that you need to hit to make sure the business is on the right track for it to be of value to someone

else. So, what do I mean by that? Say you have a enterprise SAS business. speak to a really smart savvy software investor. You may have them on your board. You may seek them out through your network to think about, you know, what are the metrics by which SAS businesses are valued? When are they acqu interesting for a strategic to acquire them? When are they interesting for private equity to acquire them? What is private equity looking for? What is the strategic looking for? Have that in your back of your mind as you build something to last. I think what happens, Dan, that is really dangerous is that people really focus only on the latter.

I've started a business. I want to sell it. Here are the six. What are the 10 things I need to do? You know, markets turn, cycles turn. You've seen what's happened to to software. It's no longer the darling of the public markets anymore. Things, you know, stuff happens. So, for that reason, from a day-to-day perspective with you and your troops, you've got to build something to last that has tangible value, profitability, great unit metrics that can be here for years and decades on its own if that's what the world throws at you.

Yeah. I'm I'm almost nervous for a lot of SAS people, people that are in SAS because I think for example, I make something and an LLM like a Gemini or Chat GBT could recreate what I'm doing in 5 minutes and then just destroys my business. I feel like there's so many apps that I see that I'm thinking like I don't know what either is special about them or they can be totally disrupted by AI or some other software or something or their service like the cost is is really going down so low to do things now and there's so many there's so many companies doing the same thing.

Something that interests me is a lot of people will say my company is my baby, right? like like they really feel like this company is attached to me. So when you exit that business like for yourself, did you realize something afterwards that maybe you didn't expect like oh my gosh now I feel different. I feel sad. I I feel a way that I didn't expect to feel.

Uh you are absolutely right and that process is a partying. It is grief. It is sadness. It's a changing of the seasons. It's the ending of summer and the beginning of fall and winter and you've got to take time to transition. And you hit upon a really important question because I hear two things. It's it's one of them is how do you feel through the sadness of of the changing of the guard if you will, but secondly, what else should you be thinking about or at least preparing for as you transition when you do sell a business?

So, so the two slightly um different but interrelated questions. The first one, as I said, it is grief. It is a parting of being the majority shareholder and or the CEO and or the owner operator of a business to now giving it to a new owner, handing over the keys just like you would say goodbye to an old uh house that you're leaving. Take your time to say goodbye and end that chapter. Mark the milestone so that you're you feel it within your body that something has shifted. Right? Don't act like it's another day in the office. And I know a lot of founders who do that and then only about a year, six months or a year later, something hits them like, "Okay, no, it's not another day in the office, right? The shingles have changed outside, things are different here."

Make sure you get the the moment to to to really land within you that somebody else now has the keys to the door. And if you're still with the business because you're in an earnout structure, you honor that. And or if you're handing the keys over and you're leaving, you mark that departure and you feel through your sadness. um because the ch seasons have changed and the chapters in your life have turned. The second part that I worked on in addition to this first part is there's something known as upper limit theory. Gay Hendrix very famous psychologist and life coach in the US coined this phrase which often happens to people when they go through inflection points right they you're used to operating in a band in your life and life has a way and your mind has a way of pulling you back into that band that band where you're most comfortable well what happens sometimes is the band moves upwards really immediately like when you

people that that win the lottery or sometimes it goes the other way too you go through deep grief or deep trauma your band moves seismically downwards too. But let's talk about the positive side. We're talking about founders and entrepreneurs. Do the work to understand that your band has shifted through the exit if it's a successful one. Um, and that you've got to shift with it because what often happens as the research gay Hendrick's research has showed this that a lot of people who win the lottery or have something really amazing happen, they actually self-sabotage their way back into the older band. Right? So often people who have won the lottery within five years will find themselves back down to the same income level they were at because all the wealth is gone or they go through divorces or they go through other traumatic events that happened to them. That actually happens to most lottery winners. And that's

because of the upper limit theory that is now activated in the brain that brings you back into your original band. Well, life has changed. If you've if you're an entrepreneur or a founder with a successful exit, the band has moved up and your mind's limits have to move up, too. So, make sure you invest in doing that work to flex your mind up toward towards a new reality of your life.

How does somebody do that? Well, I would suggest it get a get a really good coach because hopefully at this point with your exit, you'll be able to afford one. Um, so I used a coach who taught me about the theory, talked about the ways you can be aware of when it activates itself in your day-to-day life, in your family, in your business world. Uh, to be able to notice it. And awareness is the light that burns away me many ills, right? So that's the first step to it all. Um the second step of course is to be able to talk your way through whatever emotions you're feeling when you hit that upper band limit. So your band can start edging up. Um said another way, when you hit find yourself hitting the band, instead of dragging yourself lower by having a massive reaction to something, keep yourself there. Feel the discomfort. We spend so much of our lives as a society racing away from discomfort. Actually, discomfort is

sometimes really good to hold at because that's where the change happens, you know. Amazing. I I love that. And it got me thinking that sometimes what I what I do for myself at least, I've heard like a friend of mine say the same. I want to exit for X amount of money because if I get X amount of money then I can invest X amount of money then I can take dividends of X amount of money or then I don't have to work anymore and you know like I need to make $10 million in an exit because da da da da but I don't think people fully understand too like how much do you take home in the exit because I've heard a lot of different things but at the same time do you think this is a bad way to think about it in terms of I need to I want to exit for X amount when h you know how would we even know but also maybe that's putting a limit on ourselves

it is putting a limit on yourself um and I would ask anyone who's going into a a new business with that endpoint of a really specific financial goal to say take a breath uh because there's other ways to skin that cat if that's what you're after and entrepreneurship is by far the hardest because entrepreneurship comes with a tremendous tremendous amount ount of um failure risk, execution risk a and and ups and downs in the journey. If your only motivation or your primary motivation by a long way is exttrinsic, it's outside of yourself, it's this dollar goal or it's I want to go buy that house or actually I really don't want to work at all. I want to be living at the beach. Then you're living a deferred life plan. uh quote another book that I read as a very young of course I was in my 20s when I read this book um uh it's called a monk and the riddle by Randy Komasar Randy went on to become um a venture capitalist at clin

Perkins uh he was a professor at Stanford at the time I met him there and he says it beautifully you if you are chasing the money and you are chasing what's out there you're living the deferred life plan right you're working to live another day that motivation can only take you so far. That motivation's got to cap out, especially when the going goes rough. And in entrepreneurship, almost always the bowing gets rough and a and sticky and full of incredible emotions. Find a reason to do it inside of yourself because you have something a gift to offer the world because you are building something with tremendous impact for the world because you believe in your business idea solving a need that the world has. If it's inside yourself, you're able to reach for those muscles of resilience when the going goes uh becomes tough. What's ends up happening if you're just tracing the number?

Things get hard. Things get wobbly. You think, "Oh gosh, this is really hard." Um maybe there's another way I can solve for that number. You go off you go to do that and then off you go to do that. And don't we all know so many people who've just pingpong chasing that thing that's so elusive? And guess what? Often eludes most of those people. So I guess if you're exttrinsic then you need to play the lottery. Don't be a founder. So it makes sense. I like that. I'm only kidding. But I I totally could see. I mean most people I don't know what the percentage but it's like majority of companies will never you know exceed to five years and then 10 years and I think it's like only 6% of companies in the US will even hit a million dollars in revenue. Um it's it's quite low and then that's not counting

uh you know net profit is even lower. I I have some friends and I told them like don't be an entrepreneur. Just keep your day job. Like you make a couple hundred grand a year.

Totally. Invest that. Maybe invest in someone else's business and then retire and then you have no stress. Like why would you even

You have no stress. Why would you quit to start a company? Indeed. And you know help others from go join banking, consulting, go work at startups, be an employee. Um right go do that journey if you're solving for a number. If you just want a great life out of this journey, go do it that way rather than hey, I'm going to become a f founder entrepreneur because that is a journey that has to come from deep deep within because the going does get rough.

Yeah. Something like I work 80 hours a week so I don't have to work 40 hours a week when you So you've been a part of three exits each time. What was your personal what was your intrinsic motivation for the next thing? and maybe going back to you know your most previous one that happened in 2021.

Yeah. So I uh was fortunate that uh the business that I started and founded Sabil Capital was acquired by Raymond James Fortune 300 company. Um I was first investor in and chairman of the board for several years um of a business called Mindful Chef. It was a healthy recipe box delivery business that Nestle acquired and a third one which was a boutique bar- based fitness business called Barcore in the in the UK that got acquired by private equity strategic. So those are the three they were all sold in the 2021 early 22 era. So always better to be lucky than right. So grateful for that. What I will say um is that with each of them I wanted to do well while doing good. Now it might sound cheesy and hokey, but I truly believed in the mission of the businesses to be able to really add a dimension of in these cases vitality, health, wellness, a different way, a different approach in my financial

services business, a radically different approach to doing age-old uh lines of business. I believed those thesis going into each of those journeys. And guess what? If you as an investor, entrepreneur, yourself believe firmly that what you're doing is different, unique, differentiated, and has a place in the world as uh evidenced by your customers, then somebody else will too. And that's what happened in all three cases. Somebody else stepped in and said, I recognize that what you've built is unique and different and it has value. It has value for me to me and here's what I'm willing to pay for it.

Yeah, that has to be the thesis. I had was involved in another startup journey just as a passive investor. In this case, it was a fintech business. Guess what? Wasn't such a happy ending because that team was very focused on staying alive fundraisers who just live fundra to fund raise. How much can I raise then I'll burn through it? Then how much can I raise next time around? And how kicking the can of profitability down the road saying, "Well, let me go do this with this money and then I'll come and think about that later." that strategy they you can certainly do that but at the end of the clock will run out at some point on that somebody when he's when they're looking to buy value is are going to ask the tough questions. So you're either going to have to answer those tough questions now or you're going to have to answer the question tough questions later four five years later but the questions are

coming they still need answers so the sooner you think about them the better. I know a lot of people like that. They're just like you're saying, they're hyperfocused on the growth, which it not maybe it's the VC pressure of like grow grow exit without really looking at profitability and then they don't really take home any money. They're not even making a salary. Like they're doing a hund00 million a year, then they get kicked out of their own company and they're know now they're suing and now they're trying to get back. I mean, that's the whole reason why I never personally raised any money ever. I know I could have grown 10 times more, but I was always afraid of of these things happen. I've heard I've heard mixed things around private equity, NVC, angel investment. Like, what do you what do you look at when you when you think of all these different ways that people can get capital from taking out a loan? I

mean, what would you if if a founder came to you right now? What would you look at to help them determine what is the best route?

Absolutely. And listen, nothing wrong with venture or angel capital, but venture does focus predominantly on growth and ensuring you get to size and scale uh before turning your mind to other metrics. Now in the last three or four years, profitability is being mentioned more and more in venture conversations, especially unit economics being mentioned in in investor conversations more than they were the cycle previous to that. So that's good to see. Private equity is especially private equity buyouts, leverage buyouts as they're known, that's heavily focused on cash flows and profitability to go and play that game. You must be profitable or you must have a pathway to profitability. But venture and growth capital very much all about growth hacking yourself and there is a place for that. You have to grow first to get to a scale where you can then engineer for profitability. But don't delude

yourself as to when that occurs. Right? You're seeing that with some of the AI champions now that are having to look at gross margins. You saw the there was filings um out for Anthropic and thinking Anthropic is now revising its gross margin um it's downwards. People are talking about why that is. You know, compute costs, etc. At some point, it's coming for you. You better have those answers sooner than later. Unfortunately, too many founders just don't want to answer that question now. They're thinking that the next fundraiser is going to bail them out of this one and then onwards they go.

That's a dangerous place to go to be. You may be saying very conscientiously, I'm going to grow for the next three years and get myself to this minimal scale and then I'll turn my mind to ensuring that I'm as that that's my last round. Some of the entrepreneurs and businesses I've invested in that I respect the most have done that. They've taken the venture funding. They've taken the angel funding to grow to a minimum scale, but have said, "Listen, this is likely my last round because I'm now focused on a steady state, profitable, cash flow producing business that continues to grow, but maybe grows a bit less because I'm not burning to grow."

That is the best, most sustainable way to do a a business that's built to last. And when you build it to last, somebody will absolutely see that value.

I'm going to get a tattoo. Built to last. It seems like was that like Ford or one of those like trucks their motto is like built to last.

That's what I took away from today. If if you really want to exit and you want to be sustainable, then it needs to you need to build something that's going to last.

But it I scares me every day. I'm thinking this I'm thinking the same like I don't know if I'm going to last because I really don't know if I'm going to be disrupted tomorrow. Like all the time I I see new tools, new things. I'm like, "Oh my gosh, if you can automate everything I can do with some app, I don't know if I'm even going to be valuable." Um, I'm You and I talked briefly before that. I know we're going to change a little bit here. I am very interested around the wealth transfer that's going to be happening specifically from baby boomers down to mostly millennials and Gen Z.

And I say because I think Gen X is kind of like at retirement age already, so I'm kind of like removing them. But millennial, Gen Z, um I you know I saw something 38 trillion in real estate not counting you know retirement stuff and I know you have a number too this and this is just speaking about the US perspective um I don't know much like outside of that but

what is going to happen like what's going to change when this trillions and trillions of dollars now get placed on the people that many of them can't afford a home many of them probably don't even have $500 in in their savings account and they've been like working these jobs or maybe they're laid off, they can't even find a job and now they're about to get what?

Yeah, absolutely. I think that it is uh much larger than the $ 38 trillion number because that was very real estate focused. The answer is somewhere in the 80 to90 trillion dollars of wealth transfer that will occur from baby boomers to millennials and gen Z over the next two decades. That is a seismic shift of asset and wealth that is going to go to another generation. Now keep in mind um this is the largest reallocation of private capital in the modern history. number one. And number two, millennials are already in their late 20s to kind of call it early 40s. When this transfer occurs sometime in the next decade, two decades, this will be some of the youngest ages of the recipients that we've ever seen before.

Um, right, millennials and Gen Z will be fairly young when they inherit so much of this wealth. And it's going to be, you know, all because and they'll hold on to this wealth if they can for longer than ever because of longevity, increased, you know, health care, uh, getting better and and and other sort of strategies to live longer. So, we're looking at a really interesting inflection point in in humanity in general. By the way, this is US and beyond. Keep in mind that millennials and Gen Z, but let's talk about millennials because they're going to inherit uh most of that wealth first, really have a very different mindset.

It's been recorded and discussed at Nauseium. You know, I I I'll paraphrase by talking about the fact that millennials really prioritize purpose and impact as as you've mentioned. You know, I think they talk about flexibility. They talk about liquidity. They want transparency and control and to do good for the world. They want balance in their work and life. If it's not just all about work, work work like it is for the boomers. Um, it is a very different generation. Now, here's another thing that's true. Most wealth transfer results in wealth loss. Is there's a lot of research that shows that by the end of the second generation, but certainly by the third generation, more something like 60 or 70% of the wealth that was transferred down is lost, whittleled away in bad decision making. It's not performance related. It's really all about a lack of leadership around the transfer and decision making. So, it's going to be

quite interesting. And what a lot of financial advisors, the adviserss at Raymond James and beyond are doing with their boomer clients is putting together structures in place to ensure the wealth isn't whittleled away quickly in the hands of the next generation. There's a tremendous amount of estate planning going on, guard rails being put into the estates and trusts as to when the transfer occurs, under what conditions. It's both financial, but it's also very emotional and relational about family governance and education and requirements around preservation of the wealth and decision-making powers and and how that's shared and and how the money will be managed that it does last.

So all of these are discussions are ongoing as we speak at the big wealth advisors and their clients around the US and beyond. But it's going to be fascinating to watch. No question.

I've been telling people and listening to you this is like universal basic income but not from the government. It's from our parents. I think if if you all of a sudden get millions of dollars and you can't just spend it on a jet and then going out and doing something, if you have guard rails and it disperses, you know, money every month or every year, however is whatever it's set up. I'm not I'm no expert in any of this, but I'm just thinking out loud like

if it is and you get a home maybe that's paid off and maybe you live in that home because you you don't really care where it is. So then people will move to different I'm I'm very very interested to see yeah how this

it's going to be fascinating. It is going to be fascinating. And you know there there was an article in Financial Times a couple of years ago saying the you know the the the default bank is now the bank of mom and dad right you don't have to go and get a bank loan the way the boomers had to do to get their first mortgage and pay it off. You go get it from the bank of mom and dad. things are going to shift when it comes to the financial landscape of the world but certainly of the US in a meaningful way in the coming decades. It's going to be fascinating to have a ringside seat on that.

Well, we what we have to do is in in a year two in five years if I still have this show and you come back and let's talk about the welch for the transfer that's happening in five years. Hopefully, I'm not going to be here in 10 years still doing this. I I hope. So, I know for you and for me mindfulness has been really really a struggle. Well, it's been really important in my life. At the same time, I know you've really mastered mindfulness and meditation and I need to get better at that. I need to get better. So, what have you learned and what could I do right now to get better?

Well, firstly, I'm not sure anyone masters it. Even the Zen masters will cringe at the word master because I think it's a journey for us all. We're all learning. We're all walking the path together. We may be in different places in the path. uh but the end is is is certainly not available for us to see because you're continuously walking and you're continuously practicing day-to-day moment to moment. So the end is the journey itself. You know what I mean? So my one and only superpower working in finance um three children sitting on boards uh and so forth has been supporting entrepreneurs as has been focusing on my internal mental state and mental energy and I do that using um the meditation. It's a it's the meditation type that the Buddha practiced. It's very purest and is goes back thousands of years. There are free courses uh in centers across the US, across Europe and beyond. I was lucky

enough to find my way to one my first course almost 14 years ago and since then I go to a course every year and certainly over the last you know decade or so I meditate every day. My suggestion to anyone is just to get started. Dip your toe in fact dip the nail of your toe in the water. Um, people get shocked when they hear that I meditate for at least an hour a day, usually uh, two hours if I can, and they're like, well, where do you find the time? Firstly, go look at your time on your screens and how much time you spend on device every day. I'll show you the time is right on there in terms of your screen usage. Go shave that down by 90 minutes there. There you go. You got it. U, but secondly, it's all about training the mind muscle. The way I describe it is the mind is a an organ and a muscle that needs training and development. The way you brush your teeth to clean them every day. The way

you take a shower, the way you go to the gym and do u squats for your glutes and and exercises for your biceps and so forth. What do you do preventatively for building the mind muscle? Right? You build your body so that you can be strong and you can lift things and if you get sick, you can recover quickly. What is it that you do for your mind? do it that I do that anybody does for their building their mind resilience muscle so that when the hard times happen and by the way they happen for one and for all that your mind has the ability to bounce back from that because it's been built to a point of having the the tools to be able to rebound and rebound quickly. So if you were sad or happy or depressed because something happened in your life for four hours and now because you can med you have a meditation practice it's three hours and 45 minutes that's 15 minutes of liberation you won yourself

and you can incrementally grow that number more and more towards that liberation column. Get started start with five minutes a day to hold that practice for six weeks. Then go to eight. Go to 10 and build the mind muscle. Doesn't matter which app. It doesn't matter which style of meditation. If you can invest in yourself by going to a meditation course, that is an investment because it takes time. You got to disconnect from the real world. You got to hand in your devices. You got to go out into a c meditation course camp for 3, four, 5 days, a week, 10 days, whatever it is that that your course um that you've selected has. But it is the ultimate investment in yourself because when we have our own mental resilience and I know that whatever comes our way, we have an ability to deal with it, reset, recenter and that we control what we put in our minds and how we process what goes in it. It is the one and only

superpower any of us can have in this lifetime. Well, that is the superpower we all need. And I like how you said it. No one's really an expert. They can't really master it. You're it's it's your journey and you're going along the journey. that mastering is the journey that you're going along and mindfulness. I mean, it's it's definitely something that, you know, like you just said earlier, we do all these other things to ensure we're okay, but we really don't always think about how our mind is. So, I I appreciate you sharing that and I love how you're spreading this word to people and it's so passionate of yours because I know we've seen what happens if you if you don't have a strong mind and things do go sideways, it can be really detrimental to that person and I'm very passionate about that as well.

Um, if people want to get in touch with you and they want to find out more information, they want to follow along the journey, how can they do so?

Please follow me on LinkedIn. Just search for meha and I'll pop right up. Follow me. It's where I put my most detailed content. Uh I try to stay away from most other forms of social media, but I'm definitely active on that one.

Well, Sunna, I can relate. I think LinkedIn is the only one that I really use all the time. I try to not even look at any other social media. It's very distracting.

You and me both. Smart man. Well, this has been great. I learned a lot today. I've been thinking about all these things. So, I'm glad that you came on the show and in five years, you're going to come back and let's see what happens in five years from now. Let's see what happens. Thank you for having me.

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