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Gwyneth Paltrow | Good Hang with Amy Poehler

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This is the full, timestamped transcript of "Gwyneth Paltrow | Good Hang with Amy Poehler", an episode of Good Hang with Amy Poehler published January 6, 2026 (56 min, about 10,583 words). It mentions 49 people, works and ideas, including Josh Safdie, Enneagram, Good Hang, Rob Lowe, Nicole Kidman.

What is discussed, and when

  1. – 5:00: Good Hang, Nespresso, Adam Sandler, Codependency
  2. – 10:00: City Hall
  3. – 15:00: Apple Watch, Visible, Good Hang, iPhone 11
  4. – 20:00: Dick Rudolph, The Hollywood Reporter
  5. – 25:00: Conscious uncoupling, Madison Avenue
  6. – 35:00: Nicole Kidman
  7. – 40:00: Nicole Kidman, Robin Williams
  8. – 45:00: Cold plunge, Keanu Reeves, Laura Anne Nelson
  9. – 55:00: Good Hang, Kendrick Lamar
  10. – 56:14: Aia Xanerys, Cat Spalain, Good Hang

Notable quotes from "Gwyneth Paltrow | Good Hang with Amy Poehler"

  • Hello everyone. Welcome to another episode of Good Hang. We have a great guest today. It is the one, the only Gwyneth Paltro. Gwyneth and I, we get into it. We're going to talk about a lot of things. We're going to talk about.
    about Good Hang · at
  • This episode of Good Hang is presented by Nespresso. For those who never compromise on their morning rituals, especially their coffee ritual, Nespresso's new virtuo up makes your first cup irresistible. With a 3-se.
    about Nespresso · at
  • And Great Expectations and A Perfect Murder, amazing movie that she plays and later Two Lovers by James Gray. she's talked about as a movie star who hasn't acted in a long time immediately.
    about James Gray · at
  • No, I can't I like I got my wife and I got married in at city hall partially because I didn't want to like stand on a aisle and get looked at. And she's as people say, she's got that dog in her, and she can.
    about City Hall · at
  • Coverage and a reliable connection. Now, for a limited time, new members can get the visible plan for just $19 a month for the first 26 months. Ring in the new year with code…
    about Visible · at
  • You Gwennneth. Like you get so much stuff projected on you. And you spoke at the Hollywood Reporter event. you were receiving an award, the Sher Lanc Singh woman leadership award and you spoke really beautifully about it about this idea of.
    about The Hollywood Reporter · at
  • It must be nice to have Dick Rudolph, Maya's amazing dad in your life, too, because he knows so much about your dad who passed. Like to have somebody who knew your dad when that's always.
    about Dick Rudolph · at
  • I and she started singing Kendrick Lamar. Yes. And what Anna said which was so incredible is I got to tell you something and I.
    about Kendrick Lamar · at

Who and what is mentioned in this episode?

People

  • Josh Safdie — Person · 12 mentions
  • Rob Lowe — Person · 6 mentions
  • Nicole Kidman — Person · 3 mentions · first at
    I mistake her for Nicole Kidman and will never forget it for the rest of my life. and also we talk about her new film Marty Supreme out now and her return to acting. So it's it's a.
  • Moses Martin — Person · 3 mentions
  • Kendrick Lamar — Person · 2 mentions · first at
  • Lauryn Hill — Person · 2 mentions
  • Adam Sandler — Person · 1 mention · first at
    Made an a bunch of really amazing films including Good Time with Robert Patson and Adam Sandler's Uncut Gems and this is another you know big hit. So let's join Josh and see where he's where he's talking to us from. Hi Josh.
  • James Gray — Person · 1 mention · first at
  • Dick Rudolph — Person · 1 mention · first at
  • Robin Williams — Person · 1 mention · first at
    Robin Williams. Oh my gosh. I didn't get to do I thought you were just about to say I wasn't in hook.
  • Keanu Reeves — Person · 1 mention · first at
    Well, Keanu Reeves was my first like real, but when I watched St. Almost Far, like I wanted to like I would have gone with Jud Nelson.
  • Laura Anne Nelson — Person · 1 mention · first at
    But when I watched St. Almost Far, like I wanted to like I would have gone with Jud Nelson.
  • Cat Spalain — Person · 1 mention · first at
    For The Ringer, production by Jack Wilson, Cat Spalain, Kaia McMullen, and Alia Xanerys. For Paperkite, production by Sam Green, Joel Levelvel, and Jenna Weiss Berman.
  • Aia Xanerys — Person · 1 mention · first at
    For The Ringer, production by Jack Wilson, Cat Spalain, Kaia McMullen, and Alia Xanerys. For Paperkite, production by Sam Green, Joel Levelvel, and Jenna Weiss Berman.
  • Ann Roth — Person · 1 mention
  • Brad Falchuk — Person · 1 mention
  • David Fincher — Person · 1 mention
  • Elliott Smith — Person · 1 mention
  • Jacob Elordi — Person · 1 mention
  • Joel Lovell — Person · 1 mention
  • Rashida Jones — Person · 1 mention
  • Robert Pattinson — Person · 1 mention
  • Timothée Chalamet — Person · 1 mention

Companies & orgs

Products & tech

Concepts & topics

  • Enneagram — Concept · 8 mentions
  • Mouth taping — Concept · 3 mentions
  • Codependency — Concept · 1 mention · first at
    Into it. We're going to talk about a lot of things. We're going to talk about codependency, Bone Density.
  • Conscious uncoupling — Concept · 1 mention · first at
    A movie at one point where and it was like right after the kind of conscious uncoupling thing with Chris and there was like a lot of a lot of harsh stuff in the press and I think the distributor was like this might be too.
  • Cold plunge — Concept · 1 mention · first at
    Here we go. Make it perfect. cold plunge. A lot of controversy about whether or not it's right for women. I said that I do it and there were a lot of comments saying it's not good for women. Do you do it? Do you.

Places & events

  • City Hall — Place · 1 mention · first at
  • Madison Avenue — Place · 1 mention · first at
    Did you ever get fired from a job? I got f I got fired from like I worked in Madison Avenue at a toy store and I got fired. But you mean like a movie job?
  • Radio City Music Hall — Place · 1 mention

Sponsors

Full transcript with timestamps

Hello everyone. Welcome to another episode of Good Hang. We have a great guest today. It is the one, the only Gwyneth Paltro. Gwyneth and I, we we get into it. We're going to talk about a lot of things. We're going to talk about um codependency, um Bone Density. I mistake her for Nicole Kidman and um and will never forget it for the rest of my life. Um and and also we talk about her new film Marty Supreme out now uh and her return to acting. So it's it's a great conversation. Um and but you know we always do this thing before our guests come and join us where we talk well behind their back and speak to someone and get a question from them.

And joining me via Zoom is the director of Marty Supreme, Josh Safy. Josh uh has made an a bunch of really amazing films including Good Time with Robert Patson and um Adam Sandler's Uncut Gems and this is another you know big hit. So let's join Josh and see where he's uh where he's talking to us from. Hi Josh. This episode of Good Hang is presented by Nespresso. For those who never compromise on their morning rituals, especially their coffee ritual, Nespresso's new virtuo up makes your first cup irresistible. With a 3-se secondond start, easy open lever, and dedicated coffee creations mode button.

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Am I catching you in a trailer or in the back of a kitchen? Yeah, in the back of a kitchen.

Where are you? Where are we talking to you from? I'm in I'm in uh I'm doing Grueling Press in London and I they double booked me. They this was kind of added late so I'm actually eating in the kitchen.

And I said can I do it? They said can I do it in the bathroom? And they said no cuz we need to have access to the bathroom. I said do you have anywhere that I can do it? So I said the pastry thing because it's like morning stuff. So they said it's pretty the traffic here is quite minimal. So,

well, you know, as a director, it kind of makes sense that there's some interesting depth to this shot.

Yeah. Yeah. I I hope so. I mean, I actually am hoping that people There's some really good pastries here.

Yeah. Really? Like, look here. Let me see. Let me see. Oh, jeez. We got a croissant. We got

Can you see that? Yeah. There's like a braided something. What is that? Hello. Sorry. Now there's someone coming to get the pastries.

Thank you. Thank you listeners. Now the someone came behind and are grabbing the pastries from behind our set and we're going to need those pastries in there for continuity. We got to get those pastries back. Josh

some more. So we haven't had a chance to meet you and I am a huge huge fan of your films and your work.

Sorry. Wait listeners, there's another person behind Josh getting some more pastries right now. This is amazing.

Well, it's hard to make a good movie. Congratulations on making many. And this movie seems awesome. And you you work with Gwyneith and Timothy Shalamé, so many other great people in your film. First of all, your casting is super interesting. How do you approach casting? You're like you have someone in mind when you're writing or like h how do you approach casting in general? Um I for the mo I for most of the writing process I try to think of somebody and write with their voice. So like casting Gwennneth is reason why I wrote it for her is like I have this memory of her obviously she's was acting until pretty recently but I have this memory of her as like a teenager as like a kid in the movies like you know obviously her earlier like seven and and hard a PTA and Fincher and my cinematographer shot seven like those were like early like you're into film you're like wow these are so but then like talented Mr. Ripley

and Great Expectations and A Perfect Murder, amazing movie that she plays and later Two Lovers by James Gray. I mean, she's talked about as a movie star who hasn't acted in a long time immediately. And that I think for her also was really really special um because it was it was easy for her to tap into that, but she like brought she's cool. She's like

like a boulder, but also a feather at the same time. M. So, she's like she she brings that to the movie in such a great way, but she she sent to me right before we started shooting. I I I scheduled it so that the first thing that we shot was um her like acting on sta her character acting on stage for the first time in 25 years. So, and she turns to me, she's like, I I hope I remember how to do this. And it was something so like this person I like looked up to and one of my the greatest actors and I just you know revered her and now she's coming to me and she's so vulnerable and it was so human. It was so like perfect. It was so perfect.

That's the thing I think is so interesting about Gwyneth is she balances those two things like a lot of real like self-awareness and self- assuredness and confidence and then a very open creative and vulnerable quality. Both of them a lot and and I really um I'm so interested in talking to her about exactly that that moment in your film. Can't wait to hear you guys talk about

the moment in the film when she is on stage and she kind of gets this glee that she's great moment. Great moment.

Yeah. And and and you and it's shot so beautifully and captured so beautifully and it does feel like we're talking to her in that moment when she's feeling like I'm an actress again, whatever. And do you ever even really stop? And to your point, I mean, she is one of the guests that I feel like is the most projected upon. She is used to being looked at, which is already hard a hard thing. Like she she can withstand being looked at.

That's a hard thing. I can't. No, I I I can't I like I got my wife and I got married in at city hall partially because I didn't want to like stand on a aisle and get looked at. And she's like, as people say, she's got that dog in her, you know, and she can she's she's a lot. I mean, when I first went to meet with her, I just kept telling my agents, "Just just please just get me in front of her." I was like full on Marty. And I pull up to her house and I go in and there's this thing that Hollywood does that people don't Sorry. Um,

but there's someone else coming for croissant spot. Uh, people people don't know about this and it's something that I like learned in Hollywood a little bit later. It's like when you go and you meet someone in particular, someone of power,

you go in and they have this trick that they do. I'm sure you know about this where you have the assistant or someone they work with comes in after 15 minutes and they say, "Oh, you know, we have your next meeting is here. Do you want me to push it or do you want me to like do you want to, you know, jump now?" And they that's like a little thing is to get them out of the meeting like this is a hard one. I'm going to get out of it. And I saw her her assistant come in after 15 minutes. It's like, "Oh man, that was so brief." And but it was we were really connecting on the the history of this character. She's like, "No, you know, just push it." I was like, "All right, I'm in." And she pushed it like four times. So when I left, I was like, "I think I did it. I think I like convinced her to do this just based on the push rule." And

well, I know you are about to eat. And um there's nothing more st, you know, it's the first rule of directing. When you have a croissant in the shot, you're going to have to eat it by the end of the of the

one of the ones with the little Look at this over here. Look at this. Let's see what else we got. Josh is directing us. Ooh. Oh, chocolatecovered donuts. Um, okay. So, uh, to to finish out, we I asked my guests, uh, my, uh, Zoom guests to give me a question for, uh, the guest I'm talking to today. Is there anything big or small, you know, important, non-important that you would want to hear in this conversation with me and her, or like you wanted to always ask her or advice or thoughts or anything that comes to mind?

Oh, man. Uh, what did your son think of the movie? beautiful because you guys just had a premiere. He just saw it and I spoke to him very briefly and he was he felt

he like had this kind of high about him but I didn't get to talk you know you get pulled in all these directions but um I wanted to talk to him more and his his name is Moses and the dog's name in the movie is Moses and Moses Moses is the purveyor the moral he's the moral purveyor so

I love that and also Josh I just find it so awesome that you know as the movie is coming out and it's getting these huge reviews and it's it's out people are getting to see it. You still care about what people think of it, you know, like it's it's important for you to hear how it's

in the roomating in the room. I try not to pay attention or read the stuff. Well, I'm here to tell you like

Oh, THANK I HOPE IT'S A HIT, [screaming] BABY. OH, THANKS. You got a you have a good meter on you, so that I'll like think you're not bullshitting me there. So,

Oh, it's a hit. The kids love it. The critics love it. Awards all day, babe. Get ready. I don't believe in jinxes. Thank you so much for your time. I can't wait. Send me a photo of you eating any baked goods that you get to get in that kitchen.

Okay. I really hope the camera didn't see me touching the food. Uh, thank you so much.

Thank you so much for your time. Such a pleasure. Have a good time talking to G. She's She's It's like talking to a movie star.

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Gwyneith is here. Gwyneth Palro is here and we're checking her earrings. I I mean,

I feel like maybe I feel like I need to come to you for this advice. I I I'd love to I'd love to see one off.

I agree. What about that? I like that better. God, no. I'm thrilled that you took my

Oh god, these are the worst. Yeah, I felt like they're like these big boingers. Like,

why do I need to do that? And were they clipons? Yes. And they were really painful.

Yeah. Thank you. Yeah. I don't think you need to boing it up. No more boers. No more boing big boingers on your ears.

That's what we're saying for 2026. Hi. [screaming] I'm so happy you're doing this. Thank you for being here.

I have not seen you in such a long time. No, I was trying to think. Um I feel like the last time we may have seen each other was Rob Low's 60th birthday party.

The most incredible younglook 60-year-old in the world. Rob Low. Incredible. It's all the plastic surgery.

Yeah. Over and over and over again. Over and over. Um, I mean, and and I I feel like I I I got to see you briefly there and sat next to your wonderful husband and had a really good convo with Brad, but um

yeah, that was it. But we didn't get to We didn't we didn't get a good hang. You know what I mean?

I'm very excited to talk to you today. Oh, thanks. Thanks for being here. Please lower your expectations.

I do enjoy a low expectation, too. Um but um I wanted to kind of start in the present. You play this character and Marty Supreme who is coming back to acting.

Yeah. You are also doing that in a real way in the film. You haven't been in a movie for 10 years. Yeah.

And there's this really beautiful moment in the movie where the actress hears the response and it's really cool and and has this feeling of like just I don't know joy of being doing something again. Did you feel that when you were making this movie?

I did. I did feel it. I was so um I don't know. It was like such a special group. You know, sometimes you do a project and you're like, "Oh, this feels really special." You know, it feels like it feels like we're making something worthwhile. I don't know if people will like it or not, but it's like a real swing and everyone's great at their job and

and so I was like, "Wow, I think I missed this." You know, it was like it really it it it felt so

I don't know like not pedestrian, like it felt very unique and like special. So, we had this thing where we talk to people uh behind their back, well behind their back before they come on. Oh boy. Okay.

And we talked to Josh Safy. Amazing. And what was it like to work with him? What kind of director is he? What was that experience like?

It's just great. I mean, he's brilliant and kinetic and you know what I love about working with him too is you never quite know what he's going for.

So, you never totally relax. you know, you're like, "What is he actually saying?" Like, "What what do I or like he'll you'll do something one way and then he'll

ask you to do the exact opposite and then back to the first way." So, you're like, "What do you want? What are we going for?" And I think that's by design, you know, to

sort of unearth something surprising or very real or do you like that when people keep you challenged a little bit?

Yeah. Yeah, I do. Like, cuz it's like a trust that they feel like you can handle it. as long as I think they're a good director.

Right. Right. Right. Because when someone's doing when you're I'm sure you've had this happen. There's no worse feeling in any job that you do, anywhere where you show up where you're like, uhoh, the person in charge is not ready or

Yeah. Good. It's just I think what happens as an actor on that set is you become risk averse. Mhm.

They're like, "I'm not going to go too far out on a limb here cuz I don't know if I'm in safe hands or not."

Are you the kind of person that would take over a situation if there wasn't a good captain? No.

I mean, I would like in the AD department. I do anyway. I'm like, "Guys, come on. Let's go. What are we doing?"

Me, too. I'm I actually It's actually like a problem I have to work on, which is like stop trying to shape the day,

right? I mean, I just like I think I have an efficiency issue, you know, and like when I I think what also really messed me up was when I went to go do Glee and I saw how much they got done in one day.

TV is incredible. It's a machine. It's like you are never sitting there. We work all day. Everything's so quick.

You leave the set and you're like, "Oh my god, we accomplished so much." You know, we're like on a Marvel movie. You're like in your trailer for 14 hours.

I know. And and and for and then even take take TV and then go to SNL which is emergency room which is like we need something tomorrow.

No problem. And then in films it's like 6 months out and they're like we can't do it anyone going to come and get me.

I'm going to die. I'm going to die in my trailer. You know time is really weird.

It's weird. Yeah. Like time is your currency. like that's the only thing that's important left.

That's right. And we're not getting they're not making any more of it. So Josh was so so and and he said something very sweet like his question um for you which is is such a director's question and such a question from a director whose film has just come out is what did your son think of the movie? He wanted to know what Moses thought of the movie.

That's so sweet. He loved the movie. Yeah, he was I mean he I after the screening when I saw him I said he's like it it was incredible. It was I mean I had to kind of watch like this because there's some kissing.

Sure. So that he was not a big fan of but other than that he loved it. So many people project so much stuff on you Gwennneth. Like you get so much stuff projected on you. And

you spoke uh at the Hollywood Reporter event. you were receiving an award, the Sher Lanc Singh um woman leadership leadership award and you spoke really beautifully about it about this idea of versions of ourselves because I do think that every woman every everyone man woman understands that like

hopefully if you're doing some work and you're having some life experience you keep kind of shedding stuff and figuring out things about yourself and having those versions kind of be out in the world is really difficult because people get to have opinions about it but everybody understands that feeling. Yeah.

Okay. With that in mind, I want to go to like the tiny doll, the the little Gwyneth because

I I kind of I I know people that knew you when you were little. You sure do. You know, um Maya Rudolph went to elementary school with you.

Um what do you remember about being with her when when you two were little little people?

Well, our fathers were best friends from Two Lane University. Wow. And so Maya came to our elementary school right after her mother died, unfortunately. And I remember my dad saying, "Oh, my friends, you know, daughter's coming."

And we just became great friends since 7 years old. Yeah. Um, you know, I think our our senses of humor really developed together

with, you know, our other best friend and or a couple of them and then they all went to high school together. I moved to New York, but um stayed close with them forever and ever.

It must be nice to have Dick Rudolph, Maya's amazing dad in your life, too, because he knows so much about your dad who passed. Like to have somebody who knew your dad when that's always important right?

It's so important. It's like it conjures them again, you know, when they're in the room, they they talk about him and then it's like all of a sudden you feel the person. It's so nice.

So then you go to New York, you go to Spence. What kind of high school like what who are what are you like in high school? Are you confident?

I think I So I I we moved to New York City when I started seventh grade. M I was coming from California, you know, so I was like a very rare bird.

And um middle school is so brutal. I know. It's It's so tender. It's very tender.

It's like scarring for life. I think it is. And it's very um Everybody's trying on a lot of things. Like maybe I'm emo, maybe

maybe I like I only talk to animals, right? I was trying all kinds of things. How old were you when you did your Was Heart Your first film with PTA?

No, my first film I was probably 18, something like that. I had a few films where I had like one line,

you know. Um, it's sometimes it's hard to have one line. I know cuz there's a lot of pressure

and you're like in the mirror saying your one line and saying it again. Did you ever get fired from a job? I got f I got fired from like I worked in Madison Avenue at a toy store and I got fired. But you mean like a movie job?

Why did you get fired from the toy store? Do you remember? Oh, because I was work My parents always made my brother and I have jobs after school. And so I didn't know that like Oh, every everyone doesn't just go on spring break like people have jobs. So I went on spring break and then you didn't tell anybody. And then I came back and I remember the look on the woman's face. She's like,

"Where are you?" She was like, "No toys were sold." She's like, "You, this is not how life works." She's like, "You You're you're done here." I was so crushed.

Oh, yeah. I was like 12. It was really It was brutal. 12. I should have sued her for child labor law violations. Um,

yeah. But anyway, I I feel like I got I did get, you know, I was supposed to do a movie at at one point where and it was like right after the kind of conscious uncoupling thing with Chris and there was like a lot of a lot of harsh stuff in the press

and I think the distributor was like this might be too too hot to touch. Interesting. They were like we don't need the heat.

Yeah. Interesting. So that was great because I was getting a divorce and then I got fired off and it was so awesome.

You were like, "Oh, sorry that my divorce is bothering you." Yeah. Sorry. I mean, if I can stay there for a second, boy. Uh, [clears throat] you were ahead of your time.

Yeah. You really were. Uh, because you did, which is good and bad. I know it's not probably not easy. I think you've been in that position before. But you you like you gave a word you g and it wasn't your term. It was a term you were talking about.

Yes. Uh to to like bracket this idea that if you want to you can try to make um the dissolution of a marriage be one that isn't

deeply painful. You can try your best. You can have all the feelings, but you can still try together to make like a conscious effort to do that.

That's what you were talking about. And it's really interesting that people had such big reactions to that.

Huge. Because I think like say you had had a really nasty divorce or your parents had had a really nasty divorce

and then you hear this idea that like you don't h it doesn't have to be done this way. I think the implicit learning is like, "Oh, fuck." Like, they're saying I did something wrong. Like,

and which of course was not the intention, but I think of course that I mean that makes sense to me. Like,

oh no, like is is the inference that I messed someone up. Like that's not a nice thing to contemplate.

So, I do understand why it was so personal for people cuz it was like you only get see that kind of reaction

when it's personal. So true. And I think too, you know, we all we're all like when we're defensive

Yeah. about anything, it's saying a lot about about something. And when we're hurt, we we say things we don't mean, you know, we get angry, we respond. Like that's human. That's humanity.

Yeah. Comedy is a little bit interesting in this way too, which is like what we ridicule, like what we make fun of says so much about us. like what we laugh at makes it so much what we think is

and it's it's it tells on you like it really tells on you totally. Um you reveal yourself.

You do. Um and I have to say I've always really admired your sense of humor about people's reactions to things like you have to you have to kind of have it. And we got to experience I mean we we I got to like do SNL with you and see how funny you were and it was really fun. We did have fun. I was just thinking today about the stuff that we did together.

Do you remember? I was thinking about that I was thinking about that sketch we did where Will played our dad and we were like our angry dad

and we were like gangster teenagers like thinking we were we gangsters. Yeah. Like I think the joke of the scene was we just quietly ate dinner. We were like scraping.

Yeah. We would we would like have an outburst and then go back to like quietly eating like awkward teenagers with the family. The second time I was definitely less nervous. The third time I was

Yeah. I feel like I got to sort of enjoy it and it was fun to like meet different incarnations of the cast and stuff and like I think I was on like Jimmy's first season.

I know there was a sketch with you and Dr. and Jimmy when they used to do like Sully and Denise like Boston teens.

They were at the prom. Oh my god. That's right. I totally forgot about that. Yeah. And you did a pretty good Boston accent, I have to say.

Thank you. It's not easy. It isn't easy. And now I married a guy from Boston. So

does he does he I mean Bostononians are really picky about the Boston accent, you know.

Well, there's different kinds. There's sort of the Petrician one and then there's

which is pretty much gone. Kennedy one is kind of gone and the there's just like kind of your local

Dunkin Donuts doesn't have really a Boston accent except like on o words like he's like stock

he says yeah you can just like it's like very Oh that's nice he's like socks it's just subtle but it's there

totally socks I get it when I get a little angry or a little tired you do I had a a hard time when I would do parks and wreck with the word um I still have a hard time with it. Government.

How do you say it in because I want to say government, right? Like I want to go I want to skip over the e rn. I want to get rid of the r.

Yeah, get rid of it. Yeah, who cares? Who cares? Say it your way. Okay. You You're an actress. You do 15 movies in 5 years.

Wow. That's psycho. I mean, babe, that's problematic. How did you do that? I have no idea. It's probably why I quit for 10 years afterwards.

I was like, "No, I'm not doing that." No. 15 years. That's insane. I know. Can you imagine? I just like but like this sort of touches back on what we were talking about which is

I didn't feel like I knew myself and had the agency to say yeah no I I I felt like I better just keep going and going and going and I didn't bring a lot of strategy to it

you know. Yeah. Well, you don't know what you don't know. Like we can't be tough on ourselves. We were you know you're trying to figure out especially in your 20s. I mean your 20s is I think a really difficult decade.

Oh my gosh. It really is. It is. Then there's so it's just you don't know at all who you are.

If there's a problem, do you like people how do you like people telling you about a problem? Let's say um I'll make up a problem. Like let's say someone uh isn't isn't going to show up for something that you want to do. Like you're you're scheduled to do something and it's not going to happen. How do you like being told about the problem?

Just straight up. Yeah, that's what I suspect. I don't want to preamble. I don't want you to soften the language. Just be direct.

Same. A direct approach. It's always And and are you direct with other people? Yes. Now I am.

And I didn't used to be. Do they Do you What do you do when you notice that your directness makes them uncomfortable? What do you do with their uncomfortable feeling?

Yes. Well, I'm a recovering codependent. So, I used to do anything and everything not to say the thing that would make the waters choppy.

Mhm. And then I realized how many more problems I caused. Like real problems, you know?

I so relate. Can you say more about this? Yeah. Like I think when you don't say what needs to be said in the moment to spare somebody else's feelings, first of all, like you're rejecting the truest part of yourself.

Mhm. And then it's going to come out another way. And that's like you'll end up being dishonest. You'll end up not saying what needs to be said. You'll end up stringing out some lame relationship for eight extra months and treating them not so nicely because you have stuck yourself in something, you know, you just make a mess.

Yeah. So, I think around the time I turned 40 is when I started to move into this like I really need to stop doing this. And I worked with a coach

on how to hold the uncomfortable feelings of somebody else and disappointing somebody else. I really had a problem with it with men. Like when I worked with men, really hard time disappointing them

um or saying something that wasn't aligned with their version of things. and and now um I don't know and then it's so self-honoring when you just speak the truth and you can do it very kindly

like and it's also not your responsibility to take care of somebody's feelings when you've simply said the truth

it's a huge and not just women everyone needs to learn it but especially when you learn as a woman our age that people are responsible for their own feelings it sounds like a very simple thing but it's very very hard to learn

Yep. Yep. Yep. YEP. [screaming] [screaming] Now that you're in a new film, like are you able to look back at some of the films that you've been in and see like be kinder to yourself about stuff? Like are you able to be a little bit sweeter to yourself about anything? Yeah, I mean I think as far as the work is concerned, I think now that I had such a long break and things have changed and

you know it's like now I'm like the venerable old, you know, you know what I mean? And like I did this interview with Jacob Allerty the other day and he was like, "You've done this and this." And I'm like, "Fuck, I'm old as hell." Like

it's so weird. People are like, "My mom, I remember my mom loves you." [gasps] When my mom was in high school, she loved SNL. Oh my god.

Can I get a selfie for my mom? Like, how old am I? Like, um, but I I do think that, you know, there's there's been a bit of a It's so interesting because now I'm like, "Oh, yeah." Like, I did these things that now, you know, at the time you don't think that they're going to be

Yeah. whatever. And then it's like, you know, people send you 10 pictures every Halloween of Margot Tenon Bomb costumes or like people say like, "Oh god, I had a sliding doors moment where I X, Y, and Z." You know what I mean? It's like,

yes. Cultural things that stuck. Yes. Exactly. And and I and oh, I worked with this great director in his first film and this one and his second, this one is first. I'm like, yeah, cool. Like, I did do that stuff. That's neat. you know, and it feels like

for the first time, I'm able to feel the impact of the work that I did earlier in my life.

Okay, so with that in mind, I'm going to do a quick speed round with you about your movies

cuz you've been in so many and I feel like you've talked about them forever, but here we go with speed round. Shakespeare and love.

Uh, what words help you get into a British accent? um you know it's like the vowels like you sort of have to change the placement of the vowels like so any any words like um uh the a's the o's and and words like perfect

cold mountain how cold was the mountain I wasn't in cold mountain oh forget it then

but thanks for thinking I'm Nicole Kidman bonus Wait, why did I bonus? I don't know, but I'm so happy shut. What was it like working with your husband, Tom Cruz?

Oh, he was hot. Yeah, I bet. Iron Man. Um, is there a lot of waiting around? You answered that. That was my question. Is is there a lot of waiting around on Iron Man?

So much waiting. [snorts] Crafty must be good. Marvel Crafty must be insane. I don't know.

Oh, interesting. They cheap out on You know what I have to say? I think like I think snack foods can be dangerous

and snacking is like at least I I know for me is completely emotional. Yeah, completely emotional.

Yeah, it is, isn't it? Yeah. It's just like if you're not having a cigarette or you're going for

those were the days. I know. Remember cigarettes? [gasps and sighs] We talk about it here and we know they're very bad for you, but God

God, you came up with such a great time. I know, man. I I know. You know what I decided when I'm like 87? I'm going to start smoking again.

Fantastic. I mean, I remember when we were in the 2000s when there was a lot of that. And then also, you were the first person to say the word macrobiotic

biotic diet. You were on a macrobiotic diet. Yeah, that was that was a great phase where it was like cigarettes and tofu with the brown rice and the seaweed. Like I don't know what I was [gasps]

just cleaning your house while it's on fire kind of thing. Exactly. Yeah. Okay. Um sliding doors. You you mentioned it. Do you ride the subway?

Do I ride the subway? Yeah. I mean I haven't in a while because I don't live in New York City anymore, but when I did, I took it all the time.

Go pretty incognito. Like do you feel like you can kind of blend? Yeah, I feel Don't you feel like New Yorkers are just they don't care?

Yeah. Uh Contagion. Was it weird that everybody was watching it during the pandemic? Yes,

everyone was watching it. I know. Everyone got really into dark [ __ ] I know. And it's like they wanted to see

you dying from I know. Your character. Your character. It was very It was weird.

I know. Um, royal tenon bombs Halloween costume. Yeah. [gasps] And so much more.

And so much more. You're smiling. What's your I just love I really love that movie.

Yeah. That's a great movie. And I had such a good time making the movie. Yeah. Such a cool charact. She's so cool.

She's so cool. She's so cool. I know. With her wooden finger. I know. Her cigar. Talk about cigarettes.

I know. And I had quit smoking and then I had to smoke in the movie and and you were like, "Oopsy."

I was like, "I guess I smoke again." That um fur coat. Whose idea was that the costume? It's all Wes. Wes Wes Wes knows every how he wants every

single prop and costume and everything. He's so wonderfully specific. I loved that. Like I loved stepping into this drawing, you know, of his.

Yeah, that's what it felt like. It's so cool. Talented [snorts] Mr. Ripley, did you speaking of clothes, did you have use any of your own clothes in that film or did you keep any of the You're so

I should have kept some. You know, I should have kept some I wish I had kept a couple like one souvenir from every movie,

but I never thought to do that at the time. I I Annne Roth, who's like the most legendary costume designer, did that movie and um so she was just so amazing. Oh, I love those costumes so much.

But legendary costume designers can also be really intimidating. Like they because they they don't let you keep anything.

That's true. View from the top. Do flight attendants talk to you about that? They do.

Yeah. That's the that's the that's the best part of having done that movie. Do you ever think about like a fantasy other job you would do? Would there be a job like it whether it's flight attendant or like where you would feel like you'd be good at it?

I would like to be a chef if I wasn't like I think I could have done that. Well,

I love cooking and food and Yeah, that that would be I I could have like a little restaurant somewhere,

you know? Um a hook. Yeah. Robin Williams. Oh my gosh. I I didn't get to do I thought you were just about to say I wasn't in hook.

No, I was panicking. Panicking. Don't Don't think I will forever think all my whole life that I said you were in Cold Mountain.

What? I just want you to know this is an honest mistake. I mean, Nicole Kidman and I are very

interchangeable. Thank you very much. But Hook, did you work with Robin? No, I didn't.

Did you get to know him? You know, I only got to know him a bit when Goodwill Hunting came out because I was dating one of the people who wrote that movie and was in that movie.

We're well aware [snorts] and um so I got to know him then. So you guys were dating during Goodwill Hunting. Fantastic Boston movie

after. Okay. But when it was coming out and so he was around for that press and stuff. Yeah. He's so good in that movie. That movie really is.

I love that movie. It's a perfect movie. I agree. It's a fantastic movie and it's so um uh it's so uh uh like rainy day movie. It's like a rainy day.

And the um and um Elliot Smith who did all the music and Gus like it's just perfect. I love it so much.

What's a rainy day? If what's a movie that when it comes on you're like jackpot I'm going to watch it. like a rainy day,

you know, a plane movie, something if you're like, I gotta watch. I like like all the 80s movies, you know,

like like Santa almost fire. I will never not watch that if it's on I, you know, getting back to Roblo.

Mhm. Rolo as we called him on set. I would just sometimes like sit there always he loves and he's never had a he's never really had a nickname he said. And the best thing is it like didn't spread as much as you guys tried to make it a thing.

We all call him Rolo because it didn't go outside. You know what I mean? And he really I think wants it to go outside.

Of course he's he's like I've never had a nickname. I know. He loves it. I remember like the first day on set me saying no. It was his birthday and he was shooting on his birthday and I was like oh have you ever been on set for your birthday and he was like yes like 400 times. And I was like, "Right, you've had a long career." Um, Sando's Fire Billy

Rolo as Billy, as Billy, bad boy. Can't change him. Heaven. Heaven. He was never my celebrity crush.

Who was? I mean, well, Keanu Reeves was my first like real, but when I watched St. Almost Far, like I wanted to like I would have gone with Jud Nelson.

Oh, interesting. You wanted the more professional. Yeah. Billy was too happy, you know, really like smart and cheater. Like that was my type.

Yeah. Also, when you rewatch that movie, it's like everyone is so dressed so professionally. I know. Like every we really did dress like we were when we were in our 20s, we dressed like we were 60 year olds.

Yeah. The ' 80s was And it's happening again now. you know, like not the Wall Street thing, but sort of like this sort of grandma chic, like all the all the hipster cool kids are sort of, you know, it's like the soft everything's soft shoulders and knitted things and

I got a quarter zip just for this interview, so you tell me. It's looking really good.

Thank you so much. You're welcome. Um, okay. And Han, both Han, you brought up Rashidita. Both Rashidita and Han love you and talk about how fun it is to hang with you and and how

like they both, you know, and and they're I think representative of a lot of people who kind of want to know what you think about things cuz they trust your style. They trust your what you said like the work you try to do to figure out what is the best thing of things. And it's not even about the things. It's just like, is there someone who's keeping an eye out? Um, keeping an eye out and figuring out like, is there a better way to do something?

You love that. Love that. Where do you think that comes from? I think I'm an enog one.

Okay, jackpot. Here we go. So, like I'm always trying to improve everything. Great. So, for people, I don't know anyone who's listened to this who hasn't. Hopefully,

what is anagram one? How would you describe? Are you into the enagram thing? Very much.

Again. Okay. Do you want to guess my number? Nobody ever gets it right. Oh god.

Here we go. I'm always I always get the wrong I always people guess the wrong number which saddens me cuz I love Can I ask Yes. Ask

ask some questions please. Okay. Like how would you describe yourself as someone who really enjoys a dinner party? Yes.

Okay. Would you describe yourself as somebody who is very focused on achieving?

Yes. Are you a a peacemaker? No. You're talking about three, you're talking about nine. I'm neither one of those.

I know. That's what I just gleaned. Yeah. Um, so how I have a Peacemaker wing. Okay. Ah, so you're a one. You're not a one with a two wing.

Okay. You're not an eight. Yes, you are. Okay. You're an eight. I know this. You're an eight.

I am an eight. You're an eight with a nine wing. Yes. So I'm not a monster, right? Cuz I got a little peacemaker in me. But I'm a I'm the ch I'm a challenger.

Okay. And I and it's I I I think I hide it. But I definitely relate to all of that feeling of like

authority stuff and challenging a little bit and wanting to lead and want and feeling very happy with direct people. Like I'm I I'm like you. Like I really like when people tell me the truth and are direct. I can handle it all day long.

Wow. But when people come sideways I'm like what's going on? Yeah. It's such a bad icky feeling

bad feeling. And I love anyagram ones because ones are on it. Yeah, we're on it.

And they believe in like getting it right. They're the hardest on themselves. Oh yeah,

they are really hard on themselves. Um we are trying to make things better, right? We're the reformer.

So you're always and I've always been like refining to figure out what is a better way to get efficient like to do like

Yeah. to improve yourself, to feel contentment, to you know reduce inflammation, to be a good partner, to be a good divorce person.

Yeah. Okay. So, with your striving for perfection in mind, I have another one more speed round.

Oh, okay. Perfection speed round. Here we go. Make it perfect. Um, cold plunge. A lot of controversy about whether or not it's right for women. I said that I do it and there were a lot of comments saying it's not good for women. Do you do it? Do you like to do it? How do you feel about it?

Uh I do do it more sparingly like my husband does it every single day. So I spent a lot of time researching this and what I think I understand that the net net of it is cold plunging is not unilaterally terrible for women. But we kind of need to listen to ourselves and maybe not the water quite as cold as the men

like that. Maybe not quite as long as the men. Um, and you know to just be mindful of where where we are, you know, if we're exhausted and you know cuz it can be quite taxing on the body. But it's still there are still benefits for us.

Speaking of temperature, what do you like for your sleeping temperature? Well, the older I get, the colder I like it.

Me, too. Um, I like, you know, in the 60s. Yeah, me too. I love it. Crazy. Alcohol after 50.

Oh, why did they have to ruin it for us? I know. It's like It's a dis It's a disaster.

It's such a bummer. Coffee? Yes, big time. I'm a big coffee drinker. Uh, how do you how do you drink your coffee?

With he raw heavy cream. What? I know. Shocked. I know that's very New York of you and not California.

I know. I know. Good job. I'm I'm like the alt I'm not the alt milk queen. Yeah, same.

Yeah. Oh, do you have regular milk? I have cow milk. I have half and half. Yeah.

Yeah. No shame in it. But I don't really do coffee. I do tea. Oh, because coffee is a little

very English. Okay. Lemon water. Love it. Great. Bone density. What are we gonna do about it? We are gonna we're gonna, you know, talk to our doctor about potential estrogen supplementation.

Totally. We're gonna do heavy weights. Yes. Lots of heavy weights. Are you doing heavy weights?

Yeah. I do it on this giant really heavy Pilates reformer thing called the Lree.

And fantastic. That seems to be good right now. Yeah. Reformer. It's called the Lree. It's very, very good. And we're gonna gag down protein 70 times a day.

Bone broth. Has that come and gone? Bone broth is great. I still I still like bone broth. I

I I think it's it's fantastic for your gut. It's full of protein and collagen, all the things.

For some reason, people thought I I only drank bone broth. That I I'm but I I'll have it as like a cup of tea in the afternoon.

That's my favorite way to have it. Interesting. Uh, sleep routine. Talk me through it.

Okay. So, I have to take a bath every night. And Wow. Yeah. Have to. Non-negotiable.

Interesting. And if there's not a bathtub, then I have to shower. Like, I got to get the day off with water. And I think part of my good sleep routine is eating dinner early. So, not going to bed on a full stomach.

Yes. What time do you like to eat dinner? I like it at 6:00. Okay. Me, too. I make my reservations at 6:00 p.m.

So do I. I love it so much. So great. And I honestly sometimes I like to be the first person in the restaurant.

I I was last night. Mhm. I did 5:45 last night. Incredible. I know. To be in bed and have eaten by 8:00.

Is there anything better? No. I think about bedtime all day. Me, too. I love it so much.

Me, too. So much. And then Brad and I usually watch something in bed, which I know you're not supposed to do. I know. But, you know, it's so deeply relaxing to me. Like, get in there in a cold room and like watch some serial killer doing something. So great.

And then, you know, go to sleep and then Oh, I have mouth tape and earplugs. Mouth tape.

Yeah, I'm big into the mouth tape. I know that's controversial, too. Mouth tape because there's a whole mouth tape movement. There's pro. There's But but mouth tape is helpful. Do Are you a grinder? I'm a grinder. So, it's helpful for me. Also, I really believe that there's no oneizefits-all solution. Like, we're all so different. Totally. We have such different genetics, different phenotypes, different

tolerances, allergies, toxic loads. Like, we're all This idea that one thing works for everyone, I think, is not true.

See, this is why we love you, Gwyneith. You It's true. You just said all this stuff and it was like you're you are not selfish. You are not a gatekeeper.

No, that I am not. You're like, I'm trying this. Would you like to try this? I don't think this works, but who knows? You are It's interesting. It's kind of like the the um

even though you're maybe consider yourself a person who's trying to get it right, you're not afraid to like try and fail with things and you share it with us. For sure.

Yeah. Yeah. I I believe in I mean also because I'm such a researcher and such a guinea pig like I want to share

I want to share the learnings. Then take it or leave it. Okay. And then the last thing I'm going to ask you about is um what is making you laugh?

So the thing that's made me laugh the hardest in like the past year. Mhm. When was the SNL thing that I lazily did not go to? Cuz I

You didn't go to the SNL 50th? No. Wow. What? I know. It was a mistake and I regret it. So, I just want to say that out loud.

You were like, "Oh, that's You just thought like I was like, that's I'll wait another 50 years."

I was like, "It seems like I I had so much work at the time. It's going to be hectic."

And I was like, "I got to go all the way to New York." I had something the next day so I just couldn't go.

But I watched the thing at um Radio City or whatever. What was the night before thing?

Yes. Incredible music show the night before. Wait, what are you going to say? I love it. I don't know. I'm going to I'm going to try to

When Anna and Will Yes. did the church thing. I talked to Anna about it. Bobby and Marty.

Did you write that? I wish. No. Paul, the great Paula Pel, incredible writer on SNL and performer and Anna and Will do these Bobby and Marty cult.

I I and she started singing Kendrick Lamar. Yes. And what Anna said which was so incredible is I got to tell you something and I I think I said this Anna but I just want to extrapolate for a second about it. To me, it was so it was like such a win for the comedy kids because it was such a cool night. They literally followed Lauren Hill. They came on after Lauren Hill and their job was to settle everybody.

They had to go like, "We're going to wait. We're going to wait until you stop talking. Quiet." They kept telling everyone to be quiet. And it was so to me that's like that I don't know what brand of comedy you call that but it's like that funny bones

where what what what was the Kendrick Lamar song? She's like um Oh, we got we got to look at it for a second. It was what was it? What was it?

Please. Yeah, let's just watch it and I hope we can get it on like it's the 50th SNL. It was like on Hulu or something like that.

Here we go. Honestly, I commitment. I'm sorry. I know the commitment kind of humor. What do you call that? I'm sweating.

Like real. To me, what I would call that, honestly, it's a great question. To me, I would call it like committed. Spit take. We got a spit take. Our first one. We know our first spit take on Good Hang and it's Quinn. It's all over my skirt.

Here we go. Here's some tiss Good hang tissues. I can't breathe. It's so funny.

Wait, let's play it again. I'm sweating. I'm dying. [gasps] Oh my god. Okay, so that's called sketch comedy.

I need a fan. We're having a hot flash. Oh my god. I'm the one in the quarter zip.

A sketch comedy induced hot flash. Yes. I feel like what you're talking about is real, which is I feel like it is commitment. It's commitment. Here, I'll take it.

I'll pick it up on my way out. [gasps] I feel like it's commitment and I feel like it's characterbased sketch comedy with music.

That's how I describe it. It's so to me that's like the funniest thing I've ever seen.

I know what you mean. I like, you know, it's like these weird specific things and in person it was so funny.

That was really fun. It was really fun. Gwyneth, I'm Thank you so much for coming on. You're such a good hang.

You're a good hang. Thank you so much, Gwyneth. It's so fun um to hang with you. Uh and you gave us this first bit take that we've ever had on the show and we hope it's not the last. So, thank you so much. And, you know, for this polar plunge, um, I want to talk about polar plunges. I want to talk about cold dips. There was a lot of controversy when I brought it up last time, and I am here to just remind you, you don't have to do it. I like it. It makes me feel alive slash like I'm going to die. And I like it. I know it might not be good for all women. And um, maybe it's not good for me. I'll find out.

Okay. But I'm gonna keep plunging and um it does make me uh feel better. Okay. I don't know. I don't know what to say. I appreciate um I I I'm not telling anybody to do it, but if you want to do it, I think it's great. Okay. Anyway, thank you so much for listening. Thanks for joining us and see you soon. Bye. You've been listening to Good Hang. The executive producers for this show are Bill Simmons, Jenna Weiss Berman, and me, Amy Polar. The show is produced by The Ringer and Paperkite. For The Ringer, production by Jack Wilson, Cat Spalain, Kaia McMullen, and Alia Xanerys. For Paperkite, production by Sam Green, Joel Levelvel, and Jenna Weiss Berman.

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