#483: The Secret to Attracting ABUNDANCE in your Life with Cathy Heller, Coach, Author, & Speaker...

What this episode is about

Cathy Heller, a renowned coach, author, and speaker, shares insights on attracting abundance and unlocking one’s highest potential through the law of reception and universal principles of manifestation. Drawing from Jewish mysticism and ancient teachings, she empowers individuals with mindfulness and meditation practices to effortlessly manifest their desires and foster spiritual growth.

Key takeaways

• Kathy's success: Her podcast's massive 45M downloads outshine many seasoned media giants.
• The Law of Reception: It’s not about reaching out; it’s about opening up.
• Judaism’s fascinating micro-sized twist: Just 15M globally, yet rich with history and teachings.
• Kathy flips anti-Semitism: She offers a refreshing exploration of PR-Semitism and Jewish ideas.
• No Jewish conversion drive: Already connected to God? No need to switch sides.

Who speaks in this episode?

• Heather Monahan (Host) · 19 min speaking
• Cathy Heller (Guest) · 34 min speaking

What is discussed, and when

1. 0:00 – 5:00: Abundant Ever After, Abundant Ever After, Babylon, Jewish mysticism
2. 5:00 – 10:00: Law of reception, Rabbi David Aaron
3. 10:00 – 15:00: Law of resonance, The Zohar, Yoga Sutras
4. 20:00 – 25:00: NetSuite, NetSuite by Oracle
5. 25:00 – 30:00: Lisa Henson
6. 35:00 – 40:00: Home Depot
7. 40:00 – 45:00: Shopify
8. 45:00 – 50:00: Paralysis, The Gift, The King's Choice
9. 50:00 – 52:59: Abundant Ever After, Abundant Ever After, cathy.com, Amazon

Notable quotes from "#483: The Secret to Attracting ABUNDANCE in your Life with Cathy Heller, Coach, Author, & Speaker..."

• Podcaster understatement and author she hosts one of the top spiritual podcasts abundant Ever After which has been downloaded 45 million times it's incredible so proud of you…

  about Abundant Ever After · at 0:24

• In Egypt in Spain during the Inquisition in Germany during the Holocaust in Russia during the pams in Babylon they were kicked out of every single place they've ever lived…

  about Babylon · at 2:54

• And so I stayed for three years and I wound up meeting my greatest teacher Rabbi David Aaron and I'll I'll just give you this one teaching and then we can go into manifestation…

  about Rabbi David Aaron · at 8:44

• One part of what yoga is right if you asked deac choer to explain yoga he would talk to you about the yoga sutras and one of those sutras is physical so too in Judaism people…

  about Yoga Sutras · at 10:00

• Be true we create what we are so there is what is known as the law of resonance in music if I walk into a store and I want to buy a guitar and I pull a guitar off the wall and there's a row of 50 guitars on the wall and I take.

  about Law of resonance · at 14:10

• 25 1 37,000 that's the number of businesses which have upgraded to netsuite by Oracle netsuite is the number one Cloud Financial system streamlining accounting financial management inventory HR and more All For You 25 net Suite.

  about NetSuite · at 22:42

• Be earned and that's what we have to learn that's the sound of another sale on Shopify and the moment another business dream becomes a reality your reality Shopify is a…

  about Shopify · at 41:36

• You like takeaways for every chapter and journal prompts and you can get all of those bonuses at cathy.com book and you can buy the book wherever you want and it's it's so generous if you to be so humble and just like you give so.

  about cathy.com · at 51:47

Who and what is mentioned in this episode?

People

• Dr. Edith Eger — Person · 2 mentions
• Kathy H — Person · 1 mention · first at 0:09
  Somebody on the show multiple times but today I'm so hyped because I'm so excited if you haven't met Kathy H before you are in for a freaking treat I'm going to read her…
• Rabbi David Aaron — Person · 1 mention · first at 8:47
• Lisa Henson — Person · 1 mention · first at 27:48
  Los Angeles I started studying meditation which was like a total fluke because Jim hensen's daughter Lisa Henson brought me to a retreat a Meditation Retreat and because it was…
• Jim Henson — Person · 1 mention
• Tracy Litt — Person · 1 mention

Books & papers

• Abundant Ever After — Book · 4 mentions · first at 0:29
• Yoga Sutras — Book · 1 mention · first at 10:05
• The Zohar — Book · 1 mention · first at 10:25
  The T it's it's just woven into the whole thing and there's a separate book called The Zohar that really codifies the cabala but it's all part like if Jesus was walking today…
• The Gift — Book · 1 mention · first at 46:03
  She's so amazing she's a holocaust Survivor she's 97 she wrote These two best-selling books the gift in the choice which became Super Famous and she said there are four P's…
• The King's Choice — Book · 1 mention · first at 46:03
  She's so amazing she's a holocaust Survivor she's 97 she wrote These two best-selling books the gift in the choice which became Super Famous and she said there are four P's…
• Bible — Book · 1 mention
• Torah — Book · 1 mention

Companies & orgs

• Abundant Ever After — Company · 4 mentions · first at 0:29
  Podcaster understatement and author she hosts one of the top spiritual podcasts abundant Ever After which has been downloaded 45 million times it's incredible so proud of you…
• NetSuite — Company · 2 mentions · first at 22:47
• cathy.com — Company · 2 mentions · first at 51:50
• Home Depot — Company · 1 mention · first at 35:54
  Really special and so I hired this guy to string every box of Lights I could get at Home Depot and we got the Buddy the elf blow up and we got Rudolph and all the and it was…
• Barnes & Noble — Company · 1 mention · first at 51:30
  After People need to get this book so sweet you can get it anywhere you can get it at Barnes & Noble or Target or Amazon and then we created a bunch of bonuses which it's just…
• Amazon — Company · 1 mention · first at 51:32
  Sweet you can get it anywhere you can get it at Barnes & Noble or Target or Amazon and then we created a bunch of bonuses which it's just really fun when you write a book to…
• 23andMe — Company · 1 mention

Concepts & topics

• Kabbalah — Concept · 6 mentions
• Law of reception — Concept · 2 mentions · first at 0:35
  Downloaded 45 million times it's incredible so proud of you she's a practitioner of the law of reception which I need in my life and has a deep understanding of the universal…
• Universal principles of manifestation — Concept · 1 mention · first at 0:40
  Practitioner of the law of reception which I need in my life and has a deep understanding of the universal principles of manifestation I need this in my life and so do you…
• Jewish mysticism — Concept · 1 mention · first at 0:50
  Towards unlocking their Highest Potential drawing from the wisdom of Jewish mysticism and ancient teachings Kathy illuminates the path to spiritual growth and abundance through…
• Law of resonance — Concept · 1 mention · first at 14:16
• Paralysis — Concept · 1 mention · first at 46:35
  That what you create might not be great so you procrastinate and then it creates paralysis so I think all of that is impostor syndrome I think impostor syndrome is I don't have the courage to make something not perfect because I could.
• Attorney General — Concept · 1 mention
• God — Concept · 1 mention

Places & events

• Babylon — Place · 1 mention · first at 2:59

Sponsors

• Shopify — Sponsor · 6 mentions · first at 41:42
• NetSuite by Oracle — Sponsor · 1 mention · first at 22:47
  25 1 37,000 that's the number of businesses which have upgraded to netsuite by Oracle netsuite is the number one Cloud Financial system streamlining accounting financial management inventory HR and more All For You 25 net Suite.

Full transcript with timestamps

0:00 hi and welcome back I am so excited first of all you know I very rarely have somebody on the show multiple times but today I'm so hyped because I'm so excited if you haven't met Kathy H before you are in for a freaking treat I'm going to read her incredible bio because she's such a freaking force of nature such an incredible human best energy of all time I just freaking love her okay Kathy is a renowned teacher podcaster understatement and author she hosts one of the top spiritual podcasts abundant Ever After which has been downloaded 45 million times it's incredible so proud of you she's a practitioner of the law of reception which I need in my life and has a deep understanding of the universal principles of manifestation I need this in my life and so do you Kathy guides individuals on transformative Journey towards unlocking their Highest Potential drawing from the wisdom of Jewish mysticism and ancient teachings

0:53 Kathy illuminates the path to spiritual growth and abundance through her unique approach she empowers students to embrace their innate ability to receive and man man EST their desires effortlessly with a focus on meditation and mindfulness practices with her new book out now I mean we are getting into all of the things all the manifestation all the receptivity and all the love Kathy thank you abundant Ever After thank you so much for being here I mean everyone who's listening already knows what I'm about to say but your energy is so it it's like a laser I feel feel like it's so bold and so coherent there's nothing about it that's like diluted it's just like you speak from the deepest part of yourself and it's so fun to hear a woman uh tapped into her power like that I just love listening to you talk um and then you happen to be talking about me which is extremely kind but it's really just what's in you that's so embodied

1:54 which is really fun to listen to that energy so thank you for that and thank you for having me here and let's dive in to all the things I'm so hyped I'm so so so hyped all right I want to get into the book I want to get into first of all I want to address I mean Judaism right now and like what is happening in the world and and I'm not making this political at all but I'm just from a point of like empathy and this is like your life and I didn't even acknowledge that when we first got on and I'm just so sorry with like everything that's happening oh my gosh you know what here's the thing is that um this is a very ancient thing right like when we zoom out in history um throughout Humanity you know since the time of Abraham Abraham was the first Jewish person um Jews have had tremendous hatred um they were hated in Egypt in Spain during the Inquisition in Germany during the Holocaust in Russia during the pams um in Babylon um

3:04 they were kicked out of every single place they've ever lived including their home in Judea right like um Jesus of Nazareth you know who was Jewish who was a rabbi like and then they were kicked out of Syria and Iraq and there's no end to it so um when that's your history I mean that's part of it so uh it doesn't I don't know it doesn't like it doesn't come as a surprise or it doesn't feel any different than my grandparents story or their grandparents story it's just kind of more of the same but on that note I think part of the reason I was really really excited about writing this book is because there is a lot of talk for thousands of years about anti-Semitism and I wanted people to have an experience of PRS semitism like I understand that we can talk about this one particular kind of hatred in the world which is people hating Jews like I get that there's a lot of boy is there a lot that's been said about it for good

4:08 reason but why are people Jews like what is it about Judaism that makes it special and it is fascinating when you think about how in the eight billion people in the world8 billion there's you know two billion that are in some version of Christianity there's about two billion that are in some version of Islam there's about a billion is that are you know either Hindu or Buddhist or whatever that is and there's only 15 million Jews globally that's it know that yeah and so if you if you really sit back and go so what is it about this tiny teeny tiny group of people what do they even stand for like what are the ideas or what is what is it that um makes it interesting at all why why is Judaism even something that that has stuck around so long and to me that was what was way more interesting is to share some of those ideas and so let me just share a couple things with you right now you know the

5:04 the biggest thing is that the the mic drop um of Abraham people say oh well he started this idea of monotheism but actually it's so much bigger than that right because the central prayer in Judaism is not that there is one God which there is but that God is one which means god is infinite so there's nowhere God is in which means we are all connected to that one which is why there are so few Jews because Judaism does not have the belief that people should convert to be Jewish because you're already connected to God you don't need to be Jewish to be connected to what you already are like really let that sink in that's a such a progressive radical inclusive idea that people can't even comprehend it but in Judaism there's never ever ever ever ever been it would be against the religion to make someone convert to Judaism we've never had it we've never done it in fact if someone wants to convert to

6:09 Judaism the rabbi is supposed to say three times why you're already connected to God you don't need to be Jewish because Judaism is an ethnicity it shows up on your DNA in fact when my husband and I got married since we're both Jewish we were told we are carriers of TX so our our we had to get tested and we had to do fertility treatment so that our children we could pick the embryos that didn't right because we have that now there's certain diseases and things that are genetically assigned to us because that is just like Italians or Italian Jews are from Judea right so even ashkanazi Jews if you go to 23 and me it says that ashkanazi Jewish DNA doesn't look like European DNA it looks like semetic DNA because it's semetic right it's a people so why do you need to be in other people you don't unless that other people make you think that in order to be connected to God you would need to no you're already connected to God so

7:01 the idea of Judaism is that you are someone because you're some of the one you're already a masterpiece because you're a piece of the master that every one of us has a soul and that soul is an extension of the Divine Light that's it and then what we get to do as humans is we get to be a vehicle for God's light and we do get to choose between Darkness and Light but that's the Soul's Journey right and the Soul goes through that process but it's all even the darkness God created 12 hours of daylight 12 hours of dark right like even the contrast helps us to uh find our way to our alignment the contrast is what helps you know what you want what you prefer what you appreciate what you are what you're not so we are all part of this Godly Divine Light that's number one and also when I first went to Israel after college I thought I would be there for three weeks and I stayed for three years and the reason I stayed is because

8:00 the very first teaching I ever learned is that the word for the Sabbath which is Shabbat um it means to meditate and the first time it's used in the Bible is when Abraham is meditating and it says and and Abraham sat and it uses this word for Shabbat and God appeared and so the rabbi said that is available to all of us when we get quiet we will hear the wisdom from the Divine it's that it's a breath away and I thought oh my gosh that is so beautiful I want to know more because growing up I really didn't know much at all about Judaism I was gr very secular and so I stayed for three years and I wound up meeting my greatest teacher Rabbi David Aaron and I'll I'll just give you this one teaching and then we can go into manifestation because this is kind of the bridge so it was in the early 2000s that I was living in Jerusalem and uh the The Law of Attraction became like a super hip thing and he said to me have you heard of it

9:05 I'm like yeah I have heard of it and he said well just so you know the Jewish wisdom would say it's not the Law of Attraction it's the law of reception and he said and that is based upon the fact that the word cabala literally means Li cabel cabala means to receive and um a lot of people don't know a lot about a lot of traditions for instance yoga is something that we think means exercise on a mat but yoga in Buddhist tradition is mostly um deep wisdom tradition that has eight branches and one of the eight branches is the exercise part of yoga but most people who really know yoga in the South Eastern Asian religions they're not talking about getting on a mat and doing down dog like that's only one part of what yoga is right if you asked deac choer to explain yoga he would talk to you about the yoga sutras and one of those sutras is physical so so too in Judaism people think cabala is a separate thing cabala is just

10:15 something that's essential to it's the mysticism of Jewish wisdom so it's part of the Torah it's part of the T it's it's just woven into the whole thing and there's a separate book called The Zohar that really codifies the cabala but it's all part like if Jesus was walking today who was a religious Rabbi in Jerusalem he could tell you all of these cous Secrets because it's all part of the same thing okay so the word cabala means to receive so what that means is Rabbi Aon said if you took a radio and you put a radio in this room and you turned it on you would hear music and then the question is where was the music before you turned on the radio and the answer is only that it was hidden in plain sight it was here but you couldn't perceive it because you didn't have the capacity to tune into that but if you have a receiver and we turn it on and it can it can receive that frequency now you can hear the music and

11:13 so manifestation is understanding that every single potential since God is infinite every possibility exists and the reality that you believe you're experiencing you're actually choosing that based on what your radio is tuned to so when you turn on a radio not only do you turn it on or turn it off but once you turned it on you can listen to hip-hop music classical music oldies music you're turning it on you're deciding and so if you are in alignment with your soul if you've turned on and tapped into the highest frequency of your soul everything comes to you and everything feels like love in your life and abundance because that's what the soul is the soul is abundant the soul is unbelievably whole and so it it's just it allows for everything to come straight out of escrow that's all loving that's all a match for you vibrationally and so when I learned that I started to understand you know how to really teach

12:12 the law of manifestation through what is the frequency that we are tuned to and how can we tune our frequency is a whole other conversation but that's essentially how we 3D print our life you know DNA is energy that is like coiled right we've all seen pictures of it but what it really is is an energy code and then we are each the 3D printout of that software coding which is energy so energy creates matter so the vibration that we are is the energy code in which we are creating everything that's the 3D version of our life so every single thing in our life our relationships our health our wealth everything in our life is whatever is the three-dimensional print out of our our energetic frequency and how we're imprinting into this radio so to speak well let me let me ask you a question I I'm so love this topic and I love your book and just love this um I love this energy this conversation because still

13:23 even though I am a student of this work for many years I do not have this thing unlocked the way that you do that is for sure and just even hearing you talk right there about um health wealth relationships right why is it like my health is killer like I can run a marathon like I have great sheep but then my I was talking before I still haven't been able to find you know that special relationship in my life why is it that some things could be elusive to somebody if it feels like you are a great manifestor and you are coming from a place of love and kindness like why are some things elusive yeah first of all it's a great question and second of all um this is what I would say because I've spent so much time thinking about it studying it living it testing it um here's what I here's what I believe to be true we create what we are so there is what is known as the law of resonance in music if I walk into a

14:23 store and I want to buy a guitar and I pull a guitar off the wall and there's a row of 50 guitars on the wall and I take one guitar and pluck the G string on the guitar all the other guitars will vibrate but only the G string that's literally science like the G string of every guitar will vibrate because I vibrated this one I plucked this one g string it will match it so everything in our life is a reflection of what is already which means that when we feel that we need need something in order to be whole in some area of our life we will not manifest it because we're not whole with that yet if you go on a date and you really want to fill up a part that feels lack around let's say love it won't work out well on the date but if you feel whole like deep wholeness and deep love let's say you have tea every morning with yourself and you invite the brilliant parts of you the terrified parts of you the parts of you that are

15:40 fearless the parts of you that are a straight up liar you invite your entire self and you have equinity and Grace and compassion there's like a deep wholeness that sinks in and if you think about like a movie version of this like you think about Zoe Des Chanel and the part that she plays in a lot of movies that character is a girl who RSVP to her own party and then wherever she goes she just attracts people that want to be at the party but she's good with it it's the same thing with money if you feel so abundant because abundance really is the lightess of your own being and Flow State and creative like just non-stop creative ideas that feels really abundant right you'll be a magnet for all kinds of abundance because you're just so Awake and Alive and in flow but if you don't feel that way if you feel kind of um you know scarce there's like a lack and you really keep feeling like your life feels limited and

16:52 you feel limited then you'll really really want the deal and if you show up trying to get the deal trying to get the job and you really need it it won't be great but if you show up in your wholeness and you're selling something pitching something or interviewing for something then what you will have communicated is you're really not attached to the outcome it's really whatever is the highest and best because you're really good where you are and anything else if it's meant to be it'll be also good but you don't need it and so then you'll most likely get offered the job so we create wholeness from wholeness we don't create wholeness from lack so wherever there is like deep wholeness there's just more of that deep wholeness and here's the thing is that we know when we're in lack when we think that there will be some big dopamine some big overwhelming happiness when this thing arrives because that deep

17:54 happiness should be something you feel right now and the TR truth is that when people are good manifestors and things show up in their life like love a relationship a child a whole bunch of money what they don't experience is oh my God oh my God it's here oh my God it happened oh my God oh my God they don't have that it's more um like equinity it's more like wow what a beautiful sunset it doesn't feel like this giant rush because they didn't really feel they were lacking it you know when you're really really thirsty and you hike up a hill you're like oh my God but if you're not really thirsty and somebody says here taste this green juice or have a glass of water you be like oh lovely but the truth is if you're in a relationship with something that you really really really needed you might wind up being codependent with the thing so the truth is when something comes in our life it's actually really pretty nice if you

19:02 don't feel this huge rush when you get it it's more just like beautiful I want to appreciate this now I'm so grateful that this is here like when I had each of my daughters I wasn't like oh my God finally thank God oh my God oh my God this gonna do everything this is gonna be everything I it was more like wow I could really be a good mom to you because I'm so appreciative that you came in my life what an amazing blessing but not like okay you will be my happiness and you're finally here and I was missing it and now it's here and you're it and now like that would destroy my daughter right so when we manifest things they're the things we don't need when we manifest things they're the things that are a mirror a match to the wholeness that already is so then the question is we have to understand is typically when I say to people what do you want to manifest they usually make me a list and they'll say $5 million a

19:56 great relationship a great house blah blah blah and I'll say those are amazing things and every single one of those things is outside of you and then I'll say can I try another list tell me if you would like to Manifest this list how about you would like to manifest feeling connected to the mystical feeling like your life just moves in synchronicity having inner peace feeling the lightness of your own being having creative downloads feeling impact and meaning feeling deep inner Stillness and they're like ah yes I'm like right well all of those things you actually can tap into right now and then what people typically realize is why would you wait for something to happen to make you feel that good when you could feel that good right now and then what's even more interesting is people will say wait you're saying the way for me to get what I want is to feel good now tell me something to do other than that I

20:54 don't want to do that think about it Esther will say to people feel good and they'll be like no it's too hard I need something outside of me to happen then I'll feel good and she says oh you'll just keep pushing you further away because nobody ever felt good because something outside of them made them feel good and sustained it that way because happiness is an inside job and the people with the deepest happiness are the people that know that the higher love within them is all that they wanted and more and then everything else around them is just this like beautiful gift that they get to love and it's actually our job to love the things around us not to need them to love us so that's why there are certain ways in which you are whole you feel whole inside your health so you'll just keep manifesting it you feel whole inside your business you feel like your business is Flow State it's play it's a

21:57 it's an extension of you it'll just keep getting bigger and bigger but there's something that you unconsciously have that there's something in a relationship that will complete something in you and there's some need for it and some feeling of lack around it so then it won't come in but when you really come to peace and completion inside of yourself with whatever that is he'll just pop right into your field your business gets to a certain size and the cracks start to emerge things you used to do in a day are are taking a week you have too many manual processes you don't have one source of truth if this is you you should know these three numbers 37,000 25 1 37,000 that's the number of businesses which have upgraded to netsuite by Oracle netsuite is the number one Cloud Financial system streamlining accounting financial management inventory HR and more All For You 25 net Suite turns 25 this year that's 25 years of

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24:18 realization before this is wild it sounds it's gonna sound so ridiculous but this is such a big deal for me when you were talking about we don't need to get things from outside of us we just need to focus on the inside I never learned that as a child like I'm just being totally candid right I I never heard that was taught that in fact to the contrary I was taught if you want to get love if you want to be you know appreciated loved encouraged you need to go get the award go be the one that gets the gold medal get the title of top salesperson get the so when you were talking I was just realizing I was completely taught the reverse not out of anyone with bad intent but it was just what I learned is that insane no I mean first of all it's not insane I think that it's incredible you can have that awareness because I think that's what everybody who had good parents who want to protect you and want

25:15 you to do well most people that's what they were taught is that the more you accomplish on the outside the more you'll feel on the inside and the truth is that what we all really really really want is to find our own authentic power which comes from feeling the full peace which is sitting beside oursel and knowing that in every moment there's so much peace to take in and you know you look at nature there's nothing in nature that's rushing to accomplish anything there's no there's no trees that are rushing there's no Eagles that are rushing there's no there's just the beauty of being with what is and um you know in the blue zones these people live longer than everybody else because they're actually enjoying and savoring their lives and their lives are not about how many piles of things they have how many followers how many bank accounts no they actually want to cash in right now on this thing called

26:26 enjoying their moment and you know I look at my cat who's over there right now in my room like my cat is not proving its existence it just exists you know and the the the fascinating thing about it is it makes everybody in the house calm and so if we keep setting the goal poost that once we accomplish something we'll feel good we'll keep missing out on the good that there is to feel by really coming to know ourselves deeply and truly appreciate it for who we are and then also really savoring and taking in filling our bellies with the 19 shades of green outside the window and our our feet on the floor how they feel when they walk across the floor and the taste of coffee and the smells of things and the you know there's just uh we're missing that because we think that there's somewhere in the future that will feel better but then we if we're always in that place then we always want to be accomplishing

27:28 something in the future so we're never where we are and it creates a lot of cortisol and exhaustion and stress and uh we don't do well like that yeah after I left Israel and I moved to Los Angeles um I started studying meditation which was like a total fluke um because Jim hensen's daughter Lisa Henson brought me to a retreat a Meditation Retreat and because it was her I wanted to get up and leave like two hours in I was like this is so embarrassing cuz she'll see me get up and leave so I was stuck so I was like okay I you know I don't want to embarrass myself so I'm going to sit here on my mat but I was dying dying and um I walked outside but then I went back in and then I heard the teacher say something she was looking right at me and she said meditation is not about not thinking just like your heartbeats your mind will always race that's what Minds do meditation is about witnessing your thoughts rather

28:35 than being stuck in your thoughts and I I realized that that's why it had been hard I was thinking why am I thinking oh my God I'm thinking even more I can't stop thinking right it's not possible um and then Martha Beck was on my podcast and told me such a be I want to give her credit because she's the one who said this she said if you were looking at a um snowstorm it's like the most beautiful thing standing in the living room looking out at a snowstorm but she said if you were um if your car broke down and you were walking in a snowstorm it's so miserable and so she said when we have the compassion and curiosity and non-judgmental awareness to watch our thoughts they're kind of beautiful but when we are not observing our thoughts and we are just unconsciously being run by them it's awful and so I say that because the more we can cultivate our capacity to witness the way our mind works it's like wow

29:41 look at look at my mind she's scared again she's over complicating it again she's in the future again oh okay that's interesting and then I'm aware that I'm the one witnessing the thought so then if I'm the witness to the thought who am I oh I'm like the Deep consciousness of my soul and the part of me that is that conscious actually is always okay the part of me that's witnessing my mind is like wow there's like deep equinity in me all the time like there's a way for me to be at peace with whatever it is like isn't it amazing how no matter how our mind races we all like found a way to live through the pandemic and we find a way to live through our the people we love when we go to their funeral we find a way to be with it because the soul has this amazing capacity to be with things as they are and the mind is constantly trying to fight it and the Soul also has this incredible capacity to feel connected to

30:46 wisdom and love and compassion and it has a capacity to have creative downloads and insights but none of that comes from the mind and I say that because the more we witness it the more we do feel whole it's the mind that doesn't feel at peace it's the mind that feels it needs to accomplish more but who we really are doesn't feel that way it sounds so simple however I think we both know and this is why your book is so important um it's not right like we get caught up in the day-to-day like you said we get caught up in just the thoughts and and and not pausing and and not meditating and and not doing the right things where do do you think people should start like where can people who are just in the rat race start I mean I say things like in the morning the same way you select your clothes for the day like oh this shirt is going to make me feel sexy or this shirt's going to make me feel accomplished or everything has like an

31:45 energy and you select your clothes you usually usually take a second and think how do I want to you know sort of come across today I think the same way you do that you can select how you want to think for the day like understand that your mind runs on autopilot and it's going to play a whole bunch of perpetuating limiting beliefs and your mind loves you so much that it just wants to create a lot of fear because it believes that fear will keep you safe and fear turns into control and so if you stop every morning and play a game with your life and say I'm going to choose how I want to feel today and then you close your eyes and you say what would surrender feel like what would joy feel like what would play feel like you'll have a way better day even if you just think that for a whole minute a whole minute I think that's a really good way to start what would surrender feel like today can you

32:41 answer that question because surrender is elusive to me I find surrender hard well it doesn't have to be surrender it could be whatever word just feels like relief for you like whatever word feels like you getting off the hamster wheel and coming back to Center use that word like ease joy joy yeah I I definitely line with that yeah it's like what would joy feel like today okay like very often if I'm working on something with my team and we feel a little heavy I'll say let's stop and ask ourself what would be the most fun way we could do this and then we'll say well the most fun way would be if instead of renting a theater for 2,000 people we'll just rent a theater for 500 people great let's do that or the most fun way we could do this is if we you know I don't know like have a confetti moment and give everybody who walks in a little confetti popper and just give everybody that initial moment of like celebrate

33:39 yourself for coming and but and we're like great let's do that like whatever you need to add into your day select it select it from the buffet and and then also throughout your day your body is such an incredible lpness test like put your hand on your heart once during the middle of the day and ask yourself how's my body doing because your body is either regulated or disregulated you can either feel that you're stressed and your heart's like a little racing or you just feel really at ease and if you don't feel at ease you have betrayed yourself somehow you're either betraying yourself or you're not and betraying yourself might look like I just said yes when I metant no or I'm still sitting here working on on this thing and I really need a break I need to go take a walk check in with your body are you are you abandoning yourself or not because it's your life nobody gets the award for most

34:44 depleted you get to live your life so I think body checkin and choosing your thoughts that's a nice place to start a little bit about the art of receiving because that's another thing that I definitely you know becoming more self-aware I I I would see myself as someone who wanted to give give give and help others and set other people up for success but I had a very hard time accepting or receiving gifts praise anything from other people first of all I love that question and so I love when things happen in real life that are just really good examples because I think that words don't teach but experiences really can teach us lessons so the um example I gave for this in the book was such a fun one over covid I really wanted to give my kids like the best most amazing Christmas because everything was so shut down right and they were in the house so often and so I was like let's make it really special and so I hired this guy

35:52 to string every box of Lights I could get at Home Depot and um we got the Buddy the elf blow blow up and we got Rudolph and all the and it was just really exciting and my husband said to me you're not going to be able to string all those lights and I thought he's like such a downer like he needs to like you know move on like we're doing this so we spend thousands of dollars to like make it like Clark Griswald like Christmas Vacation like crazy and uh we go to turn on the lights after this guy has spent three days stringing these lights and um not only did the lights not work they went on for like a few seconds and then they all went out but everything in my house went out like it blew a fuse so my refrigerator wasn't working and I'm like what's going on so we keep trying it keeps blowing blowing the fuse so my husband comes outside and the guy is there who strung the lights and we we all go to the breaker to look at the

36:52 circuit breaker in the garage and we realized that and I had just never done this math before I had never done this but when we added up all the boxes of lights times the amount of Watts that each of them took and all the little blowups we came up with a number for how much power we needed right wattage wise and then we looked at the breaker and we saw that we didn't have enough in the breaker to hold the electricity and so my husband said that's what I meant he's like I was saying with all that light you would have needed ahead of time to call the electrician and added more to the breaker that could hold the light and so what we don't realize is in order for us to receive more more love more blessing we have to have the capacity to receive it and what's really interesting is that each of us has a certain amount of lived experience and the body is really interesting if if something is new your brain will receive it as a

38:14 threat so if somebody you meet my husband and I were dating and we got engaged and he offered to buy me a car and I was like absolutely not we're engaged why would you buy me a car my lease is up on my car I'm going get myself my own car and so we went to the dealership and then he went in to talk to the guy and he's like oh let me just see if I can get a better price and negotiate and then he literally comes out with the key and I was actually devastated that he bought me the car devastated because my dad had never bought me a car my parents got divorced he left before I could drive I bought myself my first car I paid my way through college and my brain registered that as this isn't safe like what would I now be obligated to do or what is this going to cost me or what do I have to sacrifice now what do I owe you so I was demanding that he undo it but he couldn't undo it and so um it's interesting I quickly

39:25 started to make a lot of money in my business after that because I realized that being married could potentially mean that my husband was someone I want I wound up really needing and it wasn't safe to need my father because he left he left us so I started to become a total type A like workaholic so that I could have my own money until I realized oh this is just my I've hit my capacity my breaker I didn't have the neurop pathways to tell me oh it's totally safe to receive just say thank you because it was new and so I had to create and that's literally how the nervous system is we manifest as my friend Tracy lit says we manifest at the speed of safety so as we continue to have true feelings of safety in the body we'll let ourself like you go to dinner with a friend let me pay for it and you'll just say sure thank you you'll feel safe safe to receive or you start in your business you start

40:31 asking for what you want to be paid and you feel unsafe after a while you say it's safe to exchange my value for this amount I can do it now it's safe I'm safe to be abundant I'm safe to let myself receive a compliment someone tells me I'm pretty I don't have to say oh my God you're totally crazy I look like crap thank you I appreciate that I receive that so we're literally just like the Christmas life we're having to put more on the circuitry to expand to stretch past what we're used to because a lot of people growing up in their houses love was not actually love it just looked a little bit like love but it was actually business it was earned you had to earn it and so in their life it's hard to receive Lessing because they they then feel like the more I receive the more obligation the more I have to sacrifice and so they receive a little less so they don't have to feel that they have to earn more but

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43:36 manahan to take your business to the next level today join me shopify.com monan you can thank me later un learning everything that we've been taught yeah in a lot of ways it really is it's I mean it just leaves me scratching my head that I'm just so grateful that your book is out there I'm so grateful this conversation is happening and I just wish I'm so happy for our kids i' I'm sad for us I mean at least we're finally getting this information now but it is wild don't you think of that how differently you're you're raising your daughters 100% it is so crazy and and I'm sure that they will you know um lovingly find fault in other things that you know they they pick up that I'm still processing and haven't figured out I'm sure but yeah I I do think there's so many things that I have um sort of gone through the looking glass with and they no longer have to hold that stuff like this morning my daughter goes

44:40 before she left for school she goes oh she's in sixth grade mom you need to sign my test because I did really badly on it you know I got a D minus and I said to her I looked at her you know I put my hand on her shoulder and then I looked at her so she turns her head looks at me and I go and you know what I think about that and she goes yeah you you just think I tried my best and I didn't do badly I'm like of course like you know do your best like she's a great kid you know she's such a nice person and I said to her and you know that you might find that you actually can do better and you also might find that like math is not your thing and you're going to do well in life because you're just a really kind person which is like the best thing to be and she's like I know you always say that and so I sign it it's like yeah in in many ways they have learned that they don't have have to do anything to

45:28 be loved because that's ridiculous so powerful it's so good just it's just unbelievable to I have this realization right now it's really really powerful so thank you for that talk to me a little bit about impostor syndrome because I know a lot of the people listening right now struggle with it I know me starting out as an entrepreneur I struggled with it so so much how do you help people deal with imposter syndrome well I think first of all um I spoke at an event this week and um it was Dr Edith eager's event she's so amazing she's a holocaust Survivor she's 97 she wrote These two best-selling books the gift in the choice which became Super Famous and she said there are four P's that we have to get rid of and the first P She said creates the next three and the first she's a psychologist as well but she said the first p is perfection of them and it creates she said procrastination which then creat

46:27 creates uh paranoia you're like paranoid that what you create might not be great so you procrastinate and then it creates paralysis so I think all of that is impostor syndrome I think impostor syndrome is I don't have the courage to make something not perfect because I could get rejected and I won't belong to others if I'm not perfect so I'd rather not do anything who am I to do this is really uh what if it's not great what if people don't like it and the truth is that there's no straight lines in nature it's not a thing and the truth is that there's no one in the world who's ever given been given a permission slip by God like oh yeah you're ready now to have an opinion or to do this work like who's anyone to do anything like who was Oprah to tell herself that she's worthy of like starting the Oprah show she did like who is anyone to do anything I heard Ed shearan say that um when he when he used to go skiing

47:32 he'd go into the mountains and they you know go to a cabin and they turn on the water and because no one had been there for a few weeks the water would come out like brown and then they'd let the water keep running and it would be clear again like within like five seconds and um he said when he was songw writing he experienced the same thing where like when you're first writing a song you have to to kind of let the water run a little bit through the sludgy water and as you keep writing just it gets better and better and so he said most people judge themselves on the brown sludgy water because they just didn't give them themselves a chance to like get into Flow State but it like it takes a minute you know and and um I think if we have the courage to make something mediocre and we keep going we won't be able to help make it something brilliant after a while and and we'll find the thing that

48:29 we're meant to make like we're not all meant to be great at cooking or basketball but there's certain things that when we just start where we are we'll be kind of led to what's brilliant and kind of flow state will take over and it'll it'll direct us where the river wants us to be and I think we all start out with that like who am I to do this because the mind wants you to be safe so it wants to control and predict the outcome but the soul knows that you've been preparing to be you in every moment you're in your whole life and you don't need to prepare you just need to trust yourself in the moment and be with the moment and the most brilliant thing will be created and I think the impostor is the is the mind because we both H we all have this two this both and it's like the soul version of us and then the somebody suit we're wearing and the somebody suit wants to prepare and overthink and overd deliver and the soul

49:28 in us just wants to show up in the moment and see what's the most loving openhearted way to live in this moment and that part doesn't have impostor syndrome like truly the most impressive person in a room is not the one who went to the Fan's College it's the person who's the kindest the most impressive person in the room it doesn't matter what they're wearing or what they drove to the party it matters how people feel around them so the thing is that so interesting is we have this impostor syndrome like I don't have a PhD or you know I'm I'm just starting a podcast I don't have any downloads when really the most impressive thing to anyone is not how many downloads it's not where you went to college it's how authentic are you how real are you how kind are you how willing to be humble are you and and if that is the most impressive thing which we all know that it is when we hear that we're completely overqualified

50:26 ified to be authentic and real like how often on my podcast do I say things like I don't know the answers to this I want to find them out let's do it together you know on my podcast I often say it's not look at me it's come with me let's figure it out I don't know you know because I don't claim to know at all I'm just kind of like coming up with what I think is like the best possible way that I could add value in a moment but I think that that is the antithesis of impostor syndrome is the the small part of you the mind in you thinks you have to know everything and your soul just wants to be curious like let's just ask better questions and be be here Moment by moment being the most authentic that person that we can and and that becomes really powerful so beautiful all right tell us where can everybody get abundant Ever After People need to get this book so sweet you can get it anywhere you can

51:30 get it um at Barnes & Noble or Target or Amazon and then we created a bunch of bonuses which it's just really fun when you write a book to create extra value and I do think that we came up with things that people would love like a Morning Journal and affirmation cards and a book companion guide that gives you like takeaways for every chapter and journal prompts and you can get all of those bonuses at cathy.com book and you can buy the book wherever you want and it's it's so generous if you to be so humble and and just like you give so much space to your guests and um you learn from everyone you're such a lifelong learner and it's such a beautiful quality because you have so much to share and I really feel that from you and I feel how just generous you have such a generousness about you and um I just really appreciate it's just such a beautiful gift you're gonna make me cry oh my gosh you're the best right back at you I have

52:28 such a special connection to you you are such an amazing human I'm so grateful for all the work you do I'm so grateful for your podcast I'm so grateful for this book and super grateful for you and I can't wait to see you in La soon my friend thank you all right go to cathy.com book get the bonuses you're gonna want them get ready to change your life and get ready to start living your most abundant ever after until next week keep creating your confidence you know I will be see you then

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Cathy Heller, a renowned coach, author, and speaker, shares insights on attracting abundance and unlocking one’s highest potential through the law of reception and universal principles of manifestation. Drawing from Jewish mysticism and ancient teachings, she empowers individuals with mindfulness and meditation practices to effortlessly manifest their desires and foster spiritual growth.

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