I Used To Blow Guysw Jessi Klein

What is discussed, and when

1. 0:00 – 10:00: Brene Brown, Karen Huger, Adrian R., Atlas of the Heart
2. 10:00 – 20:00: Inside Amy Schumer
3. 30:00 – 40:00: Committed, Inside Amy Schumer, Joe Piazza, Matt Rogers
4. 50:00 – 1:00:00: Committed, Joe Piazza
5. 1:20:00 – 1:30:00: Titanic, Kate Winslet, Celine Dion, Seinfeld
6. 1:30:00 – 1:40:00: Committed, Joe Piazza, Titanic
7. 1:40:00 – 1:50:00: Candy Montgomery, Adrian R., Connie Stephen, I'll Show Myself Out

Notable quotes from "I Used To Blow Guysw Jessi Klein"

• Your grandmother is here i'm pressing the red button oh i'm on i'm on we've got cosmetics pioneer adrian r you don't need the damn ring light i do and legendary singer and actress connie stephen i love you listen to season two of call your.

  about Adrian R. · at 0:39

• I'm story stewarding you honey as we've learned from atlas of the heart by brene brown atlas of the heart everyone must watch everyone must watch atlas of the heart because i took notes i told you i took notes i took notes mentally i didn't.

  about Brene Brown · at 3:11

• Say and so just pray that i made it and pray that on april 17th i was on watch what happens live with karen huger honey you're going to do great this is one of those things…

  about Karen Huger · at 6:13

• Writing capital w and the guest is such an amazing writer and the new book which is out april 26th it's called i'll show myself out it's essays on midlife and motherhood i am…

  about I'll Show Myself Out · at 8:02

• Okay so that's sort of an on camera extraordinaire animated sense and then also emmy winner for inside amy schumer truly one of those people that's that's worked on everything…

  about Inside Amy Schumer · at 9:03

• I have younger parents the committed podcast is back for season seven not to toot our own horn but millions of listeners are waiting for the committed podcast to launch on november 17th.

  about Committed · at 32:07

• People like around matt and my age like it was titanic was the thing right it was a conversation for sure it was like because she bared her breasts and it was a breast and the car sucks like the car was made.

  about Titanic · at 1:21:34

• Three times i became like infatuated with kate winslet in a way that i think oh my god i remember i didn't know at the time but i was standing.

  about Kate Winslet · at 1:22:49

Who and what is mentioned in this episode?

People

• Joe Piazza — Person · 3 mentions · first at 32:44
  My email for the dms on my instagram and there's a hundred more just waiting for me so join me your host joe piazza and all the listeners who are already committed to committed…
• Kate Winslet — Person · 3 mentions · first at 1:22:56
• Adrian R. — Person · 2 mentions · first at 0:43
• Connie Stephen — Person · 2 mentions · first at 0:49
  Got cosmetics pioneer adrian r you don't need the damn ring light i do and legendary singer and actress connie stephen i love you listen to season two of call your grandmother on the heart radio app apple podcast or wherever you get your.
• Ron Pigpen McKernan — Person · 2 mentions · first at 1:18
  27 returns for an all-new season about the man at the core of the grateful dead's origin story ron pigpen mckernan the 27 club is hosted by me jake brennan the creator of…
• Jake Brennan — Person · 2 mentions · first at 1:21
  The man at the core of the grateful dead's origin story ron pigpen mckernan the 27 club is hosted by me jake brennan the creator of disgraceland the award-winning music and…
• Brene Brown — Person · 2 mentions · first at 3:17
• Karen Huger — Person · 2 mentions · first at 6:19
• Celine Dion — Person · 2 mentions · first at 1:27:12
  One of the goats and still has you know hardened fans because of that imprint yeah it was also celine dion yeah it was pop music it was diva worship it was camp it was budget and it was oscars in a culture when one thing existed so it.
• Candy Montgomery — Person · 2 mentions · first at 1:43:39
  Other night and jessica biel is on playing this i guess real life axe murderer killer named candy montgomery called her neighbor in 1980 and jessica biel is in a big curly perm…
• Jesse Clyde — Person · 1 mention · first at 9:33
  Incredibly bold over and honored that she's here to be on lost cultures this so please welcome into your ears jesse clyde oh my god you guys i don't know if i want to cry or throw up or both i'm going to be sold i might be both it's a.
• Matt Rogers — Person · 1 mention · first at 37:05
  The world is gonna lose their freaking mind seeing matt rogers in the show he is so i mean everyone is amazing but i'm just going to say matt i truly i'm not blowing smoke i very easily could have dodged out of this.
• Jesse Klein — Person · 1 mention · first at 1:43:10
  This is thrilling so i'm feeling strong yeah all right so here is the deal it's jesse klein's i don't think so honey and this is a moment for you to sort of rail against…
• Abdullah Asher — Person · 1 mention
• Aunt Rita — Person · 1 mention
• Mary Ellen — Person · 1 mention

Books & papers

• Titanic — Book · 11 mentions · first at 1:21:38
• Committed — Book · 6 mentions · first at 32:13
• Inside Amy Schumer — Book · 3 mentions · first at 9:08
• I'll Show Myself Out — Book · 2 mentions · first at 8:07
• Fifty Shades of Gray — Book · 2 mentions
• Atlas of the Heart — Book · 1 mention · first at 3:14
  Something say i'm story stewarding you honey as we've learned from atlas of the heart by brene brown atlas of the heart everyone must watch everyone must watch atlas of the heart because i took notes i told you i took.
• Star Wars — Book · 1 mention · first at 1:24:38
  About like someone like was so excited when their kid turned seven to take them like to show them star wars and so i'm like yeah i don't know maybe he's maybe he's ready just…
• Seinfeld — Book · 1 mention · first at 1:26:03
  She takes the deepest breath out okay i think i was like watching seinfeld when i was seven i was like yeah my parents didn't know what was on t and they left me on supervised…

Companies & orgs

• CityMD — Company · 2 mentions

Full transcript with timestamps

0:00 everybody raise your hand who wants to be a lawyer in here don't answer that question at least until you've heard a few episodes of class action why does anything else matter a new podcast series about the next generation of lawyers it matters because they have the wrong guy class action follows the drama of four teams fighting their way to win a national championship listen to class action on the iheart radio app apple podcast or wherever you get your podcasts hey rita hey ellen now that we know what a podcast is barely season two of call your grandmother is here i'm pressing the red button oh i'm on i'm on we've got cosmetics pioneer adrian r you don't need the damn ring light i do and legendary singer and actress connie stephen i love you love you love you listen to season two of call your grandmother on the heart radio app apple podcast or wherever you get your podcasts perfect the 27 club is back

1:08 the 27 club a serialized podcast about iconic rock stars who died at the age of 27 returns for an all-new season about the man at the core of the grateful dead's origin story ron pigpen mckernan the 27 club is hosted by me jake brennan the creator of disgraceland the award-winning music and true crime podcast listen to the 27 club on the iheart radio app apple podcast or wherever you get your podcasts look matt oh i see am i oh my

1:50 you sort of asked me how i was doing before we started remember i remember asking you and i feel like i'm not gonna like the answer and you know you know that moment right before you step into a party and you go i'm not gonna like this the energy you can already feel yeah there's something going on oh well step into the party babe at the party is an ear infection i heard it was a double i heard was a double ear infection double ear infection in one ear an outer and inner ear infection i can not hear out of my right ear it is a challenge and they've got me on a steroid right now though that i'm really sorry i'm not using it at the gym because i think i could like you know not to not blow the load on the book here but mom lift a car you know like when a mom came out yeah sure on this steroid they have me on for my ear infection i think i could lift a car well get ready for your nipples to look insane you're not going

2:44 on stability i forbid you well no it's too late bo because on wednesday i went and they put me on antibiotics and gave me a shot of steroids in the ass and today i got another one because my ear infection refuses to tame this is actually this is really actually freaking me i'm really scared i'm so scared oh no and i'm sorry i'm not being like i'm not like i'm swaging anything you're being perfect can i say something you're being perfect do you want to know why because you're being something say i'm story stewarding you honey as we've learned from atlas of the heart by brene brown atlas of the heart everyone must watch everyone must watch atlas of the heart because i took notes i told you i took notes i took notes mentally i didn't write anything down but i um i bought a balance of the heart today in a sorry industry term general i was like do you have to watch atlas of the heart and the

3:34 one where they were okay well she literally had the book but like when i described it to her she kind of like checked out and like wasn't making eye contact with me over zoom and i was like okay so i guess you i don't know what you're trying to communicate with me to me non-verbally are you are you interested are you not here was my sort of vibe in in absorbing brene brown and i would say to anyone at any general or or or outside of a general yeah what you're going to want to do is you're going to want to drink one of these thc seltzers by wonder from higher vibes we're not getting an ad this is not an ad it's just me sort of just extolling praise on this beverage which i'm drinking a blackberry lemon beverage oh my god and i sat here and i was so touched by what brene was saying that i wrote down these things connection is a listening and believing okay look at this nothingness is the answer to overwhelm if you ever feel

4:32 overwhelmed the answer is to just do nothing sit down do nothing if you can not if you're a mother not if you're a parent the enemy of connection is control that was like the last episode i know all of this oh honey you don't have to tell me when i saw the enemy of connection is control that really bro it really was a watershed moment renee brown brunette it's actually roller culture number 44. has a way has a way and i was just totally overwhelmed by all of this and honestly i'm employing a lot of these these sort of mantras because when i tell you the ear infection comes a day before i need to fly to new york to do watch what happens live which readers of this podcast know is my one true dream huge so huge and i will not allow an ear infection to stop me from promoting the upcoming i love that for you on the television program watch what happens live now that's interesting because it's

5:29 also a segue though it's also a segue but can i just really quickly propose that you ask you pull a mariah carey famously mariah carey on watch what happens live asked andy to flip to the other side yeah so that she they could get her good side and i think if if you can't hear if you're out of your right ear then that means you have to sort of flip over to the left in order to hear best i should sit in andy's seat so that my left ear can be nearest to the ground dom herself karen and andy cohen andrew cohen i will not allow any ear nonsense and i know i know historically they're exacerbated by flights but i will not let it stop me i'm going to new york and by the time this airs the episode will have air to watch what happens live by the time you listen to this podcast episode i should say and so just pray that i made it and pray that on april 17th i was on watch what happens live with karen huger honey

6:21 you're going to do great this is one of those things where like you deserve this more than anybody i know thank you i know i'm excited yes do you agree i actually think i've put in the hard yards and i think if i'm gonna have my very first televised talk show appearance it has to be watch what happens live when they told me it was with karen hugher i fell out of my chair i was one of the best ever on the show i love that for you getting ready for my big take and they told me it was karen huger and i fell out of the chair no one could understand why i was so my faculties were so gone yeah but wow wow i'm so excited i'm so excited for you going on watch what happens live to promote i love that for you premiering on show time april what 29th streaming and it airs on sunday may 1st i don't understand it but that's what's happening and apparently there's a precedent for the streaming on fridays yeah yeah yeah we don't have we

7:13 don't have to get it we don't have to have that's not our job but here's the thing about our guests the showrunner the showrunner most powerful person in hollywood one might say i feel like this this is a major moment i have loved this person for such a long time hello hello i i have to say like when i first met the guest it was my call back audition before i left that for you and i was very nervous to meet her because then it's like a thing of you have to go be funny in front of the funniest person what and she's someone who's like she's not like these other people who like not like the other girls dip their toe not like the other girls who dip their toe into like memoir essays and you know kind of phone it in this is this is long form she's a long-form writer it's writing it's writing capital w and the guest is such an amazing writer and the new book which is out april 26th it's called i'll show

8:10 myself out it's essays on midlife and motherhood i am absolutely loving this and it's really caused me to i don't know about you but like really renegotiate and like think again about me being a child and thinking more and really considering my mother in a way that i never had until reading this and i i just can't say enough about it it's so funny it's so it's so smart it's right though like oh my god like i've never seen that sentence before it hits it hits i just finished it today i loved it just the end is really special yes let's tell this to her in person while we look at her through this we're gonna tell this to her in person and um listen i mean you may know and love our guest actually we spoke about voiceover before peek behind the curtain we were all chatting about you know setting up tech to record our voices during the pandemic you may know our guest as jessie on big mouth okay so that's sort of an on camera

9:06 extraordinaire animated sense and then also emmy winner for inside amy schumer truly one of those people that's that's worked on everything good and that will continue because when i tell you she's just such an incredible force behind i love that for you the series i'm lucky enough to be on with vanessa bay or molly shane and jennifer lewis at all i'm just so like excited to work with this person and i'm just incredibly bold over and honored that she's here to be on lost cultures this so please welcome into your ears jesse clyde oh my god you guys i don't know if i want to cry or throw up or both i'm going to be sold i might be both it's a hold my hair moment you guys are so nice thank you for saying such nice things i am truly flipping out to be on this with you guys deserving ass i i told you but right before we started recording um your last book you'll grow out of it was like my last great like subway read yeah uh-huh

10:05 and like it was it was just but it was just one of those books where i was like damn like i feel like she's really she you write with i don't know such like a crispness i don't i don't mean to like throw these words at you that like i don't know sound a little i don't know uh just like out of like if it's the source or something but like it was it i don't know it's just it's a really sharp book and i and then reading this i was like kind of expecting something similar but this is totally structured in such an interesting different way that i was like once again sort of blown away by like the thing you're trying to write being so unlike a lot of things that like people who work in comedy do that does that make sense no i um well again i'm just i'm so i'm so glad you read the first one on the subway um because you know what it is basically where it belongs on the subway or on the toilet is really where i want

10:55 my words to be books all good books yeah so then i'm telling you i wish i could be on the subway more sorry sorry go ahead no this one i know the subways maybe got a little dicey but you know so that leaves us with the toilet i guess but um yeah and i do believe in like having a book by the toilet i just i'm not trying to be like a flippant about it i think that's a great a great place to read but um it's so funny like that first book i was really kind of unemployed when i got like not really the offer to write the book i was hooked up with a book agent by my manager at the time and um i was really kind of i guess i think we had just finished shooting the first season of inside amy schumer and so we didn't know that people would like it we didn't know if it would come back i started i mean i liked it but i just assumed most things don't really go the way you want them to so i kind of was a i was out of a job i

11:46 didn't have anything else to do and then um i met this book agent david keane who was very encouraging and had read just like little bits and pieces of things i had i don't know little essays here and there that were on maybe the internets or something and um anyway i just wrote it really kind of on like a lark like we shopped it and someone bought it and i just was like oh books don't no one cares about a book but i don't know what i have to do i mean i was just wandering these streets i had nothing and um i would go sit at a little like cupcake wine shop near where i was living in new york at the time just oh you're welcome and just um get like a cupcake and a glass of wine at like a tight 11 30 a.m good and just type away and then it became a book it became a book but like i still think about poodle fishes versus wolves all the time poodles and walls i think about this essay you wrote about

12:44 working at snl and just thinking in terms of like the the the different levels of like not envy that you feel but like the the levels of like man i wish i could be in that place and then you get to the place and you're like i wish i could mean this other more inner circle of the place and then you get into that inner circle and then you're like oh there's yet another inner circle that i want to like try and get into and like and it just leads like into the deepest part of lauren's brain like how can i just go into like lauren's exactly in the cell all of a sudden yeah and it looks the same i'm sure his brain looks the exact same with that movie yeah i look the same as her the room is the same as the same it's the same it's the same it's the same but then but then i think you like wide and like scoped it out to like this concept of like and this was like when we were starting to like figure out that this was like a thing

13:28 that everyone was doing dealing with social media like when you see someone's like beach vacation photos like try to like resist that urge to be like i wish i was there because once you're there you're like oh it's not what i thought it would be anyway i just think that like you like we're able to take like this snl sort of narrative and then like make it seem very universal and anyway i just like not being a mother i like read this this new book and i was like damn like how am i it's so wonderful that like i'm able to like read it and go i'm gonna reevaluate things about my own life oh my god really yeah so that's so it's such a relief to hear because i feel like um i just sort of knew with this like i guess my son was maybe like around my son is almost seven now and um i don't know it just sort of struck me like when he was around like two-ish or three-ish like oh maybe i would like start to write a book about what this

14:20 experience has been like but right and i sort of talked about at the beginning of the book too like does anybody give like one hot [ __ ] about like reading about parenthood if they're not a parent and i know i've read books where like i didn't care about it so much but i was like i kind of wanted to just approach it from like this is this is like what i've been going through and also like i guess for me being a mother i did start to reconsider my own relationship with my with both of my parents but especially my mom who i you know i adore and i love her but i was like did she feel this level of like get me the [ __ ] out of here when i was a kid and i i i can't speak for you know all parents or mothers but i feel like if someone says no they're lying yeah there was a moment where and it was um there's a moment in the book where you discuss sitting with asher trying to get him to use a public restroom and

15:16 you're sitting because he's been successfully potty trained at home with the smaller i guess like a hero ping like a hero at home in a little plastic patty i literally i had a i had an extreme vivid flashback and actually had to put the book down and like walk around because i for the very first time was transported back to when i was a kid when i was a small kid i was deathly afraid of getting the throat culture like when my throat was hurting yeah and it still bothers me a little bit but i'm telling you like jesse it was like a thing where i knew i was going to the doctor later in the day and would and would be fidgety all day and cry and then i remember it one time we didn't even get it successfully because for 90 minutes when i was like six or seven i screamed and cried and i this is this is what struck me about it because it was the very first time reading your book that i act and this is what what really stirred me

16:12 and got me got me kind of emotional was i had never considered my mother as the main character of that situation oh my god i had never actually thought of her who she was the only person with me at the time my father wasn't there and this older male doctor who was fed up with me and letting my mother know it and me as a child obviously not having any like permanence outside of myself only being focused on getting this [ __ ] stick out of my mouth and away from me and getting home to watch tv or whatever and i had never really thought about what must be going on in my mother's head you know as someone who just wants her child to be healthy who also probably has a thing going on in her brain of this doctor is going to think i'm a mother who can't control my son who also is stressed out because it's so simple just sit there and get the throat culture done it's so easy but also is stressed out for the child and

17:04 what they're going through then maybe even emotionally taking the kids side because it is a lot it is going down his throat it has to be so much and i'm telling you your book and your writing and the way that you sort of described the situation got me to consider my mother and my parents in a way that i never had and i don't like that throughout the book i am sure that is like truly you don't even know what it means to me i mean i have many things to say i'm so touched first of all i mean that's like my dream of all this here are some notes i was taking my mind while you're talking i'm sorry to say she's still still running jesse has notes for me and by the way i always

17:59 why why is this still the technology we're using to find out if we have like the thing in the back the wooden stick on my tongue honestly it does create so much anxiety and stress in me it i it's the worst so poor young matt rodgers for us still having to do this well that's the first thing yeah secondly well and then i have something to say about your ear infection too in a very jewish moment i have thoughts for you about playing but yeah that's right i just don't let me forget that because it's important open to everything um i mean the other thing is you know just like in all the things you're taking off about like thinking about your mom and the situation and i've with asher like going to the doctor i mean it's better now because he's older but those moments of holding them down for shots them screaming the like truly pleading it's so heartbreaking and all of them yeah doctors judging me and

18:49 i can't control my kid but then one other thing just to say is like and again i don't know your mom but i'm sure she's a perfect person she really is she's a [ __ ] perfect angel to have raised an angel such as yourself oh my gosh um angel's raising angels there's also like i mean the pieces where during and also because when kids are really little you're going to the doctor like every week at least like we were at the doctor all the time but they're just the moments where i'm like i just want to be doing something else like yeah i want to be having a drink i know and like you know there was like they think i talked around the book like you don't ever leave behind like i'm still in shock that i'm a mom yeah like i'm i mean i love my kid and i'm like i get my mom but i i'm always like i that's who i am yeah who i am is someone who blows guys not someone who sits around and holds down a kid to get a

19:48 thought culture that's something you had a baby trying to hold a baby down i am out doing stand up like i'm on a cat yeah i'm just gonna be getting something in my throat and you're eating yeah yeah i mean it was right there it was right there but um it's so oh the other thing i was gonna say is i'm also just so sorry to like have used the word potty with like two grown adult men because i feel like it's such a disgusting emasculating word and anytime i hear the word potty i feel like everyone's like sex parts fall off it's and i don't think so honey for sure i don't think so honey but anyway but that was that little thing is called a potty but i'm sorry that it's even been raised this early in this beautiful time no no it's actually perfect because i think you comment on the word horny at one point in the book and you're like why haven't we as a society come up with a better word yeah than horny strong because that feels

20:37 very like juvenile but potty i think is a very laden word in terms of like this story like if like when my like my sister potty training her daughter like or just when my sister says go potty to my niece in front of me i go wow that tells me the story of like the the journey that they've been on yeah yeah and i think i think that i think the word potty once you get to like an adult age you kind of there's an empathy there even if i even even even though i don't have kids i hear someone say up here and say potty to their child and i go oh my god like the the the insurmountable work that's been put into this oh my god well you are a true also a little empathetic angel for feeling that because i'm always just very uh it is i mean it is sort of um it's crazy it's kind of like like just once once i found myself doing that like that chapter that is about like being sitting on the floor of like

21:32 a starbucks restroom i truly think maybe this is where covenant actually started but somehow like some virus like blended up we were patient zero just like the germ layers that were created by my son like being not peeing while i cried or some tear fell from me onto like a man's fecal germ and then starbucks and now we have code but um yeah just those moments not only was i feeling very deeply sorry for myself but i i was just like god people have been doing this for ages and i've never freaking thought about this one that has to be the thing that you would never think it's like when you think like and we're gonna have children probably something you don't even realize it's like and the list is probably extremely long and you do get into all of it it seems like you do um but like potty training a child can't be on the brain it can't be on the brain no it was just not even a thought but it's also sort of

22:27 like i feel like uh like i remember as a very young person when i was like first looking for an apartment in new york and i grew up in new york so i knew like what what how hard it would be just like that feeling of once you're looking for real estate you're like it's all you can think about and that's all you can hear other people talking about for the rest of your life for the rest of your life and then you're like how is it not like all anyone's talking about like all the [ __ ] time but then that kind of got supplanted by by potty training and now it's on to the next thing i guess just as you go through each nightmarish stage of life you're just like isn't it why isn't everyone talking about this nightmare stage of life i think that's like the way the way the book is structured is perfect okay so for for um for the readers our creators yes um it's it's i this is so like i think you set

23:16 it up so really in the first chapter it's like it's a joseph campbell uh hero's journey but like what if the hero's journey is about not going somewhere else which is what traditionally how they're traditionally framed but you know staying a mother and not running the other way um and then the rest of the book is sort of like you kind of going through each part of that cycle um or the journey itself and at one point you say i think in the towards the middle of the book that like being a mom is like giving birth every day there's something like that just that that's that like ruptures a part of your psyche that you never expected before and honestly and i don't know i i hope you don't mind me saying this like for for a while i was like this is like unrelenting like like like me reading this book i'm just like there's so much going on here and then and then of course the last two essays are like

24:08 so beautifully like rendered that like it all like makes it okay and it all is like beautiful and wonderful and worthwhile and i was like oh my god thank god but you really had me at least like nail biting until the end being like is this woman gonna be okay is this like a weird podcast like an in memoriam and like

24:44 retrospective no yeah it is i it is a little unrelenting no but but then like but then but the point is that you survived and like the survival is like the is the journey and the survival is the beauty and then and then not to spoil it but like the last chapter you kind of describe this fantasy that you want to get ahead to where it's like you know your older son asher's in his 20s and you guys meet up at like cafe clooney and you guys catch up and he's telling you about his work and his life and who he's you know dating and this person that he loves i loved that it really made me feel like i want to be you know what i've actually tried i've actually made an effort but i i want to be more honest with my parents about what's going on in my life like yeah and i mean sometimes i know they listen to the podcast and get like a horrifying like a little clip of what's happening in my life like whatever [ __ ] sexual

25:38 journey i'm on that day they're so proud of you i think that they are but the thing is like um i i wonder it is that thing of like you negotiate how much you want to share with your parents and then i i said in reading the final pages of the book it was sort of very apparent to me it's like i think that they would love to hear the specific things i'm going through because you even described in the book like when you first sent ashore to preschool it's like looking out the window realizing he's spending you know four and a half five hours away from you and you're like it's crazy i don't know what's going on no idea what's going on i remember there was um first of all i truly cannot i'm just so sweet of you guys that you've like read and remembered any specific things i always read the book i always read the book no i know you do i know you do but it doesn't make it any less sweet or awesome we loved it it's our pleasure to

26:23 read anything right first of all so yes you can trust me if you want you know i won't shut up jewish mom jewish man all over um there was that movie i don't know if you ever saw it it's one of my favorite movies uh that mike mills movie 20th century women oh my god neb um and oh there's just that moment and this was like when i think it came out like when my son was very like a bait like truly a baby like a few months old or something but there was a line that she says where she goes end up bending as a mother and has her her son is like 13 or 14 is you know being a boy out in his little skateboard and listening punk whatever but she says i'll never get to see what he's like in the world i'll never know what he's really like in the world and it's like that notion that like sort of no matter how close you are with your child and and i you know it's my parents are you know not who it's still

27:14 alive and i i know it's that fascinating thing where it does just make you reconsider it all but when i heard that line in that movie and i was looking at my baby and i'm like even if i'm very close with him and i do everything right and we maintain you know i'm like maybe there's a world that much like boys still love their moms and women with like that feeling of just like he's i'm not the way i am with my friends with my parents maybe a little bit sometimes and they're pretty you know chill liberal human beings it's not like i'm massively purposely needing to hide something from them but when you realize like that it's like this person has come out of you and then one day they'll just really have this whole side that you'll never really get to know it actually i don't know matt i think like your parents listening to this podcast must lose their minds in the best way i they do think so definitely

28:13 and you know you know what's interesting it's like that's another thing is you can never really prepare for what your kid is going to become and i think that some of the some of the really interesting moments are when i realized i was an adult with my parents does that make sense yeah if i ever like got to a place where and i remember well this might be an overshare but like there was like a period of time there was like a period of time several years ago where i feel like i was explaining things about my perspective to my father and there were hard conversations i mean we had like one time a blowout in a in beer authority on 40th and i remember that night i remember that i think because i called you like crying because we had a blowout fight because i was explaining why i was supporting bernie sanders and it was just such a funny like that's a dad fight you know what i mean and what i said was what i said that

29:09 really took him out of the restaurant and down the street and we didn't speak for two days was that i explained to him that he may need to and and probably inelegantly i said this but check his privilege on something because he is an older straight white man who and that was like this was 2016 2015 2016 when people did not this was not just the vernacular you know what i mean this was still like something that was becoming yeah for for you know people of that generation like part of something they could accept hearing about themselves yeah despite the fact that you know the everyone has privilege etc as we know and it's about checking all of our own individual privileges in order to get to understanding but he only heard me me saying like he was out of touch and didn't have a social conscience and whatever and i think that two days later when we had a conversation i told him i was like dad i want to apologize for us

30:02 getting into a conversation where both of us got upset i never want to see you hurt but i will not take back what i said because because i i genuinely feel that's something we all need to do and maybe i could have gone about saying it better but his response to me was interesting because i could tell that he had considered what i said and maybe it had um you know illuminated him not just to that topic but to that maybe i was someone who could also engage with him about new ideas and things yeah which has to be kind of crazy when you gave birth to and reared that child and i'm sure that you and i know bowen has this with his parents as well yeah i'm so fascinated to hear like are you guys close with your parents i am i mean i we're on good terms i i i i could do better about like reaching out to them i i did call them yesterday um while i was reading your book just to be like i should i i

30:58 did like well i feel like i think matt and i have been in a lot of like parent content recently and like we like we we like saw everything everywhere all at once yes absolutely amazing so incredible and i told my parents about it too because i think that i think that they'll like really really enjoy i think almost for that reason too but you know i i identify as being close with my parents but it still is that thing where my dad did send me a text and he was like i really want your mom to come out and see you soon and i was like trying to find a time in my schedule that would be good and i was just like it's crazy to have to do this for your mother like drop everything you know what i mean and then in reading the book just like hearing the blood sweat and tears that goes into motherhood i'm just like it really it not it doesn't put you as a child in a state of guilt but it puts you in a it

31:41 gives you like a real understanding of the fact that like this person like survived so you could live survive so you could literally i just want to stop and say i'm so impressed that your dad is sending texts i think that's why he'd be on instagram too yeah oh wow yeah no my dad uh well my dad's pretty old he's an 81 or 82 no but yeah and my mom is i taught my mom how to send text she can do it my dad doesn't i don't think he's having a cell phone anyway so i'm impressed but you guys are also younger i have younger parents the committed podcast is back for season seven not to toot our own horn but millions of listeners are waiting for the committed podcast to launch on november 17th are you one of them i know that i say this every season but this really might be our best season yet because here's the thing about marriage stories you're never going to run out of them just when i think i may have found

32:35 and reported the very best marriage and commitment stories in the world i opened my email for the dms on my instagram and there's a hundred more just waiting for me so join me your host joe piazza and all the listeners who are already committed to committed the world may seem dark and gray and the news may be miserable on most days but we can promise you an hour of hope every single week listen to committed on the iheart radio app apple podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts my shiro always goes the extra mile stretches every dollar puts others first but now it's your time mom get free tips to help boost your retirement savings now at acetyrretirement.org brought to you by aarp and the ad council did you know that every year thousands of law students from around the country get together and try to beat the living daylights out of each other it sounds a little like mean but it's fun to just

33:34 tear something apart and if you think there's nothing more fun than a bunch of law students arguing all day and all night you refer to homeless individuals as mr ratzo join me katie fang for class action a podcast for people who like to listen to people who like to argue all of a sudden we take lawyers they graduate law school and we expect them to walk into a courtroom and talk about life and death and millions of dollars without any practice follow the trials and the tribulations of four schools from around the country fighting for the right to defend you listen to class action on the iheartradio app apple podcast or wherever you get your podcast wait can i say the ear infection thing yeah yeah yeah go go go cause this is important if you're getting on the i feel like actually i think when i was promoting my last one i had to fly and i had a terrible cold i didn't have an ear infection but i was

34:36 like very congested and i had but i was like i've flown with a cold before it's no big deal okay i don't want to scare you but then as we were started to um what i for the first time in my life i felt like a pain in my ear mm-hmm like someone was down like go ahead and stand like a screwdriver was going into my ear and i i honestly started to panic that like my brain might explode i was like i made a terrible mistake you're not supposed to fly with like this level of a sinus whatever i had and and then i was in pain for hours yeah and it's crazy because i'm i'm supposed to see pam anderson in chicago right after i get off the plane so i got i got to figure this out this is what my doctor told me to do and i did it on the way back and it helped take an incredibly strong decongestant like an hour before like an advil cold and sinus the one that keep behind the register because people can make methods the one

35:35 you need like your passport to buy yeah the one you need you need your new yeah your new drivers social security card exactly letter of recommendation i just didn't want to let you go without telling you that i think that's what you need to do because i want you to have a great time and watch what happens live and i'm so excited really you're going on i mean listen and that is and that's that see you can't stop parenting and i know you think of me as your i mean not as baby as a baby as you know jennifer lewis calling calling all of us babies which made me so incredibly happy but um the babies did you know that my nickname for for a second i didn't know she knew my name because i was only exclusively referred to as the baby

36:19 you were the baby pretty much the whole time but like also aidan's the baby but she most of her students were with you so yeah it was calling the baby was so incredibly sweet i loved that so incredibly sweet that's nice even even in his 30s still you know i got that baby face though it's actually a real culture number 15. you could be a baby in the 30s

36:45 um speaking of uh are you excited for it to come out oh my god we gotta talk about it let's talk about it i was just on like a hour-long marketing meeting where like it's so crazy um i also just need to say the world is gonna lose their freaking mind seeing matt rogers in the show he is so i mean everyone is amazing but i'm just going to say matt i truly i'm not blowing smoke i very easily could have dodged out of this but i'm so happy to say like i just you're just like like uh well i i wanted i was about to say a word and then i realized it makes me sound like a like a new york times critic but you're in no to be a new york times incandescent from within lit from within i remember once i remember when claire danes first like came on the scene like i was like still reading like premiere magazine and so i'm talking about her and myself for life and she's lit from within live from within

37:42 there's nothing better you could say about a title from within is titled no but honestly you know when some whenever i say someone carries the light that's the highest highest level the highest compliment i can give but it's like no i mean i i just i can't stop talking about it but like um you guys did such an incredible job writing the show and um you know obviously it came together really great but i just i you're you're very very very very good at what you do both on the page and on the laptop which becomes a teleplay play a teleo which is a paint which is on a page on a screen yeah on a podge i um that's so nice to hear i am i still feel like uh just in the rule of culture that you can still be a baby in your 30s i'm in my 40s still feel like don't look like a baby feel like a baby but you have to have you running a show i don't i i have to say i did think um you know a lot during during production about like you know

38:43 you are kind of the production mom yeah degree you know boss mom boss or whatever and then and i mean i love doing this show and and um i mean everyone made it such a pleasure and the crew so loved like it was just a sweepy group of humans and then how lucky am i to be working with just this cast of people and there are just so many days though where i just still feel a real emotional disconnect with like i can't believe like i'm you know i'm in charge like yeah yeah that is it is a crazy feeling like what because because you've earned it but but convincing yourself you've earned it is crazy well it's less honestly even the well i mean obviously i don't believe i've earned anything but um the earning aside also as i'm like looking at like half my gel no it's really unappealing nail situation your nails look amazing amazing just started peeling them off but um i remember the first uh like the first few weeks when i was

39:48 doing inside amy schumer with amy and our amazing work husband dan powell was the other ep on that show it was the first time and i wasn't the showrunner of the show dan was the showner but i was the head writer and another ep so it was like me and amy and dan were in charge of the show and um i had never been in charge of the show before and there was some moment where like some like a network or a question came up that like had to be answered or solved and it was like oh we should figure that out and then it was like where's mom where's mommy and daddy yeah and then we were all like where are mommy and daddy and then i was mommy and daddy and it was a really really surreal moment and the parallels not to whatever but like the parallels with parenthood are pretty intense where you're just like i never i maybe i i don't know if everyone feels this way i think i maybe i'm just very in touch with my inner little

40:43 baby who doesn't like know anything but i it's just always a strange feeling i don't know if you guys i mean i would imagine you guys both feel that or maybe you maybe you don't but sometimes feeling like you're both just such high achievers and doing such incredible things that just those moments where you're like it's just a version of i can't believe i'm here and then i'm supposed to know what i'm doing well like parenting um i feel like it's old self versus new self and like the reconciliation feels so crazy like you're like but those aren't the same people like i'm i'm like work mommy but i was never but i was baby before yeah or i'm mommy but i was baby before yeah it's a version of like i'm an adult like there's being an adult and then being a parent is like sort of super adult yeah really it's all just like truly in any capacity even before i became a parent any moment anytime i

41:31 have to fill out a form i feel like what am i doing how am i filling out a [ __ ] form yeah like any time i'm dealing with any kind of insurance i'm like this isn't for me yep that's the thing i think i'm the most baby about too and i just want to change insurance oh forget it no i was gonna ask you guys what are you what are you the most baby about in your life because i'm identifying with that i just had to switch my insurance from wga to sag and it was like learning to walk no i can't do it i i all of it we phone what is it for you little tasks um i i would say it's insurance i i have my like new insurance card just on my table i i i'm so scared to touch it i can't even touch it like it's like electric or something and then i just wanted to say that like it's so interesting hearing you say this and it's refreshing music because i think at least people in our circles have like really like

42:26 pooh-poohed on like the term adulting or the discourse around hashtag adulting sure it's a terrible word it's terrible it's so reductive but it does like it is like an index it's a name for something that like i think we that is very normal for people our age to feel yeah were in terms of like oh okay like i i have to like acclimate myself to like this new reality which like is a very like complex thing and of course it's stupid to reduce it to a word like adulting but i feel like people i don't know i don't know if you if you guys feel this way but i feel like people are afraid to talk about their adulting moments because the term has so much bad has so much like bad energy around it mm-hmm yeah no i know it totally well i feel like it's sort of like what i was saying before i can't believe people aren't talking about it more but it feels like when you open the door to talking about it people are so relieved

43:22 to talk about it because i'm like and again i'm i'm 46 i i really still i mean i'm exceptionally bad at all of those things like but like anything money bank insurance credit cards like i i just um and i was i i can give myself like i guess a tiny bit of grace although i think it's expired now because i i never was really taught how to do those things for whatever home act did not do what it needed to do i'm sorry at the long island public school i went to we had we had to take home back and i don't know bowen did you take all that i did not take it now so you think that as a result of me taking home eck i would know for sure by the time i got to college how to do like laundry no i didn't want to do that positive that by the time i had my own apartment i had boiled pasta for certain you would think i knew the difference between a credit card and a debit card because because it's such a simple

44:27 difference the answer is no no mech taught you how to cross stitch and he and and like eat an oven maybe that's it matt did your school have like the the robot baby basically like they would give you the baby yeah the baby which by the way has none of the complexities of a real baby okay the baby don't the babies don't get like you know colicky for no reason the baby there's always an injustice you know what we're talking about wait is this supposed to be really sad is this the version because is this where you were like trying you're taught how to like take care of something and have to take care of it yeah so they gave you a baby that was like basically like it had like a random timer on like they would program this like doll basically to like cry at insane hours wait can i just blow your mind i'm so sorry to interrupt but this is such this is such a like i'm more than ten years older than you when

45:18 i was a kid this we all had to do this but we were given a [ __ ] egg yep oh egg it was just an egg it wasn't a robot doll it was like here's this egg and don't break the egg for like two weeks no yeah and then it's such a you replaced it with another egg i mean what are we doing what are we doing they gave us a full-on baby and the thing is like the baby would as bonuses you got one they only gave it to helmet people they only gave it to home back people in high school so we had the baby i remember i took the but you get the baby for like 24 hours because i think that they were dealing with parents that were like don't give my kid this baby you know what i mean like i understand he needs to learn about making choices but i made my choices thank you very much and i had my child when i was damn good and ready and i don't need this strange robot baby coming in and absolutely screaming on a

46:14 timer like the baby's getting tossed yeah so so basically yes every five six hours the the baby needs to eat and then it goes to bed and then maybe it makes up what wakes up once but it's not a baby and so careful carries none of the danger of real baby and you are never going to invest in that baby the stakes couldn't be lower you do when the alarm would go off what like what do you say put the bottle on its mouth it was like a battery bottle so it's like registering whether you took care of it or not yeah and you didn't have to go ahead and buy a new formula you didn't have you certainly i'm sorry but the car seat thing in the book jessie goes into the mechanics of putting a car seat and it's one of those things like potty training where you can't possibly be thinking about it when you're deciding to have a child but the car seat may scare one away the car scene i will say um and again this is where like i

47:04 i felt a little bit like am i just such a [ __ ] terrible piece of [ __ ] human being that i i'd like hate this so much and like so many days chose to stay at home rather than to try to put my kid in the car seat because there were just so many days where like there's many versions of him hating it many versions of me hitting it like him hysterically crying like to drive a car while a human being is just screaming behind you um is so nerve-wracking it's it's like very little is worth it because also when you're taking kids somewhere i'm like what are we gonna miss out on the rubber room and we're going to let's [ __ ] stay at home and at least i can drink here but um i'm not gonna and i'm not gonna drink a drive obviously yes of course of course our producer becca says i had to do the fake baby in middle school and i got stares in marshall's because people thought i was actually a teen mom which is also

48:01 something you're inviting because a lot of these kids after school hit up the marshalls like you do and they have to bring their damn fake baby with them and then you know in like mothers everywhere they they're just they're looking at that teen child and they're thinking who's her mother and then it goes back to your mother because of course she's named messages don't send mixed messages we want these kids to not be babysitting babies don't like don't give a bait it's like you should not be taking it i mean is that i guess the point i don't know you should be good at it or bad at it yeah what if everything's gonna be bad everyone in school was like we decided we loved it yeah you know what i'm going to get nothing um i have one i was just remembering there was one just in the world of like other sorry adulting a truly embarrassing memory just came back to me of being in college like my first few months in college and

48:49 my dad had like opened like a checking account for me to have because i was now an adult and i was gonna have a job yes at the school to pay for my tuition and i was my i was a shelver in our library and so my check i got to check every two weeks for truly it was probably about like four dollars but i was like i've got to go with my check but so i got this little check and i was so stupid and didn't know anything about anything how did you deposit the check yeah i took the check and i just was like i have a bank account and this is a check and there was one bank off campus and i just walked into it and i was like here's my chat and they were like who are you i have an account you don't have an account here and i was like oh but this is not the bank yes i am here for my father's bank and it wasn't i didn't know i just they were like you don't have an account at this bank there's different

49:56 things remember now i i was just so like truly just gonna take it back to how embarrassed like the person was like you're so [ __ ] stupid stupid yeah and i just but i really do feel like i mean i still feel this stuff all the time yeah bad i am doing it i don't know though like i think i like that you're very honest in the book about how like you know human beings like i think this i think you were talking about like um either was like the like underwear sandwich or something about like you know like human beings are like evolved to raise children um in a village like you have like everyone's supposed to hand down this knowledge to you and like i mean with the check situation like no one handed down the knowledge to you that you're supposed to like go to your branch of a specific bank but um i i like that i like that i like that there's um something so like concrete about like yes like it makes total sense to have

50:56 other people helping you raise your child and like i feel like child care is i think about for some reason i think about my nieces going to daycare and i think about the people working in that daycare and i start to like cry i'm like they have the hardest [ __ ] jobs in the world yeah yes yeah doing any of those wait how old are your nieces um they just turned four and two they're gorgeous and stunning and i think gonna be like they they might become nightmare models no they won't no because they're so beautiful that that that like you almost can't be that beautiful without having at least monstrous tendencies but they have the best parents and that's good but it may not matter when you're that stunned we'll see but um i mean it's nice to have the option totally next time but they also have their incredible uncle who will ground them no bone is going to be buying them garments and i this is this is this is something

51:55 that like my sister is like so like adamant about like she doesn't want to hire help and i respect that to an extent and i'm putting my sister-in-law she listens to the podcast she knows i'm saying this oh my god let's talk to you i'm happy to talk to your sister right now okay great please because yang i love you so much and we've talked about this and this might be like not cool to like make this public but she doesn't want help yeah i have a lot to say and and and that's what i'm talking about and that's and that's so like that's amazing um but i think she has this connection to like the way our mother raised us which was no help she was working these insane jobs to support us didn't speak the language that well when she was raising us like you know my mom is just an an incredible mother um a perfect angel too and i know and i know that this is coming from a place of like her wanting

52:46 to honor what our mother did but i think in the year 2022 it's just like it's crazy it's crazy so my mom you know i have two siblings there's three kids my mom also had no help there was never any help my dad worked two sometimes three jobs my mom worked a little bit for a while wasn't working when we were very young just because there was no help so someone has to legally be home and then she was a teacher so she would go teach she was teaching her school and then come home we were shitty little kids we didn't help her at all we're little [ __ ] but the same thing like they never had any help i think my parents had like one babysitter come one time and truly like a decade just nothing so i under and i when i was gonna have a baby i was like well i'm not gonna have help right i'm gonna get this cross because i'm gonna nail myself to it i'm going to [ __ ] honor what my parents did honor what my mom

53:44 did and then real quick yeah it was like [ __ ] that noise and it's a huge privilege to be able to have help and my parents don't have the privilege i don't know if they would have had help whether or not they did but it wasn't a choice and it's so much privilege to have that option but if you have the option i will just say i can't emphasize enough how much she should take it yeah just because i remember i remember who was who said this to me but it's like what are you trying to win there's no it's not winning anything it's not it's not taking away anything it's not like giving anyone a medal it's just we are meant to we are truly meant to have more help than we have and that was an interesting part of the book i think which contextualized this a little bit which i thought was so interesting which is that the doctor that you spoke to the best doctor in new york yes she i mean what this advice was like so clear

54:45 to me once i read it but it was you know we were designed our bodies or at least the woman's body was designed to like bear children at like 15 years old you know as a result of just how we've evolved and back then there would be more help because there were you know villages of people and there were literally parents that were still young enough to you know participate in the rearing of a child and now our society is just simply not set up for that and so to say i'm not going to have help is actually sort of against naturally what we create we are descended from gilmore girls everyone is supposed to be gilmore girls it is always supposed to be like you're 14 and your mom's like 26 at best number 50. we are deciding from our girls but it would be like gilbert girls would be in the house living with like 10 other people 10 other younger girls yeah yeah yeah it would be like thank you girls oh my god someone's talking your

55:43 great grandmother would be like 56. yeah yeah capable capable people all over the place i was what's called a geriatric mother because i was pregnant when i was 39. and that's considered geriatrics yes like 34 is right i think like starting at 38 you're like a geriatric pregnancy right now anyway medicine but um i my parents and my parents you know i i have an older brother who's four years old anyway my parents were oh like i was old and so they were old and they were nearby but like they weren't going to be able to really help yeah you know what i mean so yeah that's the thing it's just we are we are this idea of like this nuclear family we're like yeah that's how you're supposed to do on your own is really it's really [ __ ] i just want to disclaim uh to my sister that this is not we're not being prescriptive necessarily this is just i would never dare tell her how to parent a child especially being a [ __ ] childless

56:46 homosexual um but like i just i i heard me and my brother-in-law agree on this that like help would be powerful that's powerful cause he's a force of personality he is she is but i think i think i think my mom also kind of agrees too that like anyway we're not we're not we're not we're not like pressuring you know her into doing this i just think and and she is like and she's going through huge positive changes in her life right now in terms of her career and all the stuff and she's going to have time to like really pursue things that she wants to do um going forward which i'm so happy for her about um but i think even then like give yourself some latitude to like i don't know like cater to your own needs while she of course is the best mom in the world to these girls anyway and i'm telling you it will be because of her if they're not nightmare models because of how gorgeous they simply are i mean like

57:43 i see pictures of them and i sort of have to take another breath oh wow that's like an extra breath i'm glad you said that because the number one thing for me is also and and i know i came in really hard about getting help and as much no no you were you weren't you weren't no no no but it is really important that like the most important thing to me is like to each their own and like everyone needs to like find their path and like no judgments about like mothers who are staying at home without help no judgements about 100 no judgments but all i will say is if anyone i do think there are a lot of mothers and if anyone is listening if one of them is your sister maybe one of them isn't your sister but if there's like a little i do feel like there's a lot of mothers who would deep down would like some help but feel guilty about that right and in those situations i just think people should permit permits i understand the guilt

58:40 but permit permit the committed podcast is back for season seven not to toot our own horn but millions of listeners are waiting for the committed podcast to launch on november 17th are you one of them i know that i say this every season but this really might be our best season yet because here's the thing about marriage stories you're never gonna run out of them just when i think i may have found and reported the very best marriage and commitment stories in the world i open my email for the dms on my instagram and there's a hundred more just waiting for me so join me your host joe piazza and all the listeners who are already committed to committed the world may seem dark and gray and the news may be miserable on most days but we can promise you an hour of hope every single week listen to committed on the iheart radio app apple podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts you care for the house the kids and our

59:43 future ashiro's day is never done so let's start saving a little more now get free tips to help boost your retirement savings visit asia retirement dot org brought to you by aarp and the ad council did you know that every year thousands of law students from around the country get together and try to beat the living daylights out of each other it sounds a little like mean but it's fun to just tear something apart and if you think there's nothing more fun than a bunch of law students arguing all day and all night you refer to homeless individuals as mr ratzo join me katie fang for class action a podcast for people who like to listen to people who like to argue all of a sudden we take lawyers they graduate law school and we expect them to walk into a courtroom and talk about life and death and millions of dollars without any practice follow the trials and the tribulations of four schools from around the country fighting for the

1:00:42 right to defend you something listen to class action on the iheartradio app apple podcast or wherever you get your podcasts we would desire to ask you the question wouldn't you say about i would say so i would say so question is that jesse we want to ask you what is the culture that made you say culture is for me do you understand the question i mean well i have a couple it's how should i lean into the answer like what we're talking about hard hard and raw zero protection no math no mask i i love this i love the chapter in your first book uh it was about how you became a comedian yeah and i think you like it was like kind of sectioned off it was like first it was like you know joan rivers or it was remarks or it was like like it could be that and i'm not i'm not prescribing you the answer no i feel it can be anything i mean for some reason i had in my mind to talk about like um dirty seeing the movie dirty dancing

1:01:50 i'll speak on this speak on this um i feel like just just like a little little jewish young nerdy flat-chested virginal little my little self like that movie did loom extremely large when i first saw it it was not in the theater because i wasn't cool enough to have friends to go to the theater with but we did i think like after i don't know saw it on vhs so the when i finally did make friends so i was about like 12. that's around vhs with friends age 12. i can't remember i can't remember yes but i just remember i was like it a lot it unlocked a lot yeah and unlocked a lot i was like oh like there here is a movie that's like not about like the blonde other human like it was just like the pov is this girl with like a big [ __ ] great nose and her little kids walking across a log she's gonna like be in the catskills and it's gonna get like reamed by patrick's day and she's gonna get picked up and

1:03:06 tossed around picked up and tossed around i mean when those reels i mean i know we've all seen them probably a million times but like i don't like the rehearsal sessions yeah for dirty dancing that like started to go around where you like see them like see jennifer gray and patrick swayze like practicing and like she's in her like yeah

1:03:38 like first of all it was like one of the first times i felt like just truly a hundred percent horny yeah like and just like i think a little bit yeah just like the pov of it i was like and it was such a huge movie i don't know i just was like maybe i could be a little horny yeah and a little jewish girl doing around with patrick swayze and like i don't know it just was like maybe there's hope for me story wise sex wise yes absolutely and there is something to as well this set this sound will uh like that like that like deep man's voice yeah just being like i'm coming to [ __ ] you you know what i mean and then the response of and i'm just like yeah you got [ __ ] i'm just saying there's something about that song it to me is is it an oscar winner i know it was nominated i feel certain it's not it it actually is it won the academy award for best original song and that did okay for sure it must have been yes

1:04:44 original song someone also say some other notes that still like ring on full horn for me and i'm sorry to say it but like the moment just like because that's what's playing when he reams her on that futon 100 don't you feel that cry like and she's like i'm worried that i'll never feel the right feeling right now i'm doing like a truly terrible one-woman show but um yeah all of that stuff that was just like very very very sound very funny party making sounds my voice just like crack you you went from virgin

1:05:29 the fire was lit from within the fire was lit and i mean i think it was a fire it was a fire that probably got lit by dennis quaid in the big easy if that is something you guys have ever seen if you haven't high recommend okay i recommend it i'll put that one on the list dennis there was there was a period of time there were yeah he really sexually worked for me dad i mean that's what dad is yeah you know what i mean no i know anything i mean i i've always liked like a very big nose and like he had like such a gigantic nose and you know what they say yeah they call it anyway huge difference so everyone for everyone at home the readers what they say is that if you have a big nose you got a big [ __ ] huge [ __ ] huge [ __ ] i had my little tweenage teenage girl wall was like covered in like pictures i cut out of magazines like dennis quaid yeah it was like dennis quaid and harrison ford yeah guys

1:06:22 who could swing an axe of course yeah yeah exactly anyways so that was big i'm mourned for these children who don't have the collage on the wall not that i ever did but like it's it's no one has a collage on the wall anymore i don't think a lot of people do i think they're like they have cork boards and [ __ ] where they like stuff but there's nothing like the aesthetic of cutting out a page cutting around a celebrity and just scotch taping it to your wall directly is like unbeatable yeah i mean that's a really i will say well yeah because there's no magazines anymore but i had like that all these magazines and i just i introduced a picture like i mean talk about thinking about your parents pov now in a way that like you didn't like i was just in my very we also were in a very small apartment because of new york city so it's not like there was any privacy or like they would have not known what was going on in my room but

1:07:12 like to just see their little nerdling slowly putting up this like like one by one over a month is like so funny sad to just slowly really think she's just making a jerk she's making being this age and like on remembering vividly how horny you were at that age like now thinking that we ever thought we could get it past them it's unbelievable how horny children are and what it must be to watch that happen under your own roof on roof and just yeah and also that it was just like happening in slow motion like every day like just another man and they're like then they get to assess your taste they're assessing my taste they're like seeing and i really can't stress enough like how awkward i was so it's not like clearly our like sort of like blossoming young daughters like still just sort of look like i don't i can't even i mean just so many braces and glasses but then like pulsing with sensuality and wanting

1:08:16 to get boned by these men and then and my parents also having the decency and sweetness to never mention it never talk about what was going up on the wall did they ever ask you about jacking off well did they ever make an issue of it did they find anything um i'm positive that my mom would just sort of like see like like a stain on something and just not think anything of it and just not ask questions um no i'm actually very grateful that they never brought it up what about you there was a time where now i mean i was just like absolutely caught like my my mom like found [ __ ] on something and she i heard right now she and she goes i don't know what this is but you need to talk to your father about it and i was like it's nothing oh my god actually no i vividly remember what it was i was like i fell asleep i took i took a nap and i drooled i literally said that and then i literally like showed her like see look and put my

1:09:15 head down on the pillow like next to the gum and i was like see it was drool and my mother looked at me and she was like you need to talk to your father about this and i was like brothers could katrina have her she had one older brother but she was not ready to deal with it like and so basically i heard them talk in the next room and my mom goes to my dad this is the conversation i swear to god and i couldn't make it up my mom goes did you ever do that and my dad said no and i remember i felt i'm sitting there i'm listening to it and i'm feeling so betrayed by my father because i'm like you [ __ ] of course you've done this i was like stick up for me and then i remember my mother was like you need to talk to me about it i can't and he came in like 15 minutes later and he was like you just have to be a little bit more careful and what's happening is completely natural it's fine but you just have to be more you just have to be

1:10:14 more careful and that was period all he said pretty good pretty good 20 years later you're screaming at this old man about bernie sanders and you need to be more careful with that privilege this man saved your [ __ ] life i literally i but i vividly remember the moment i had been caught maturing that commentary i mean yeah i know this is um no pun intended this is coming for me one day um has he shown any little signs of horniness i'm really even sorry for bringing him no well no no he's sick so no but i mean little kids do but i will say this all little kids especially i think generally like i know and also like my friends who have daughters same thing like around five six like they are just like touching their genitals all the time all the time but like and also they don't know so they're just doing it in front of people like all the time all the time it is so funny when you just see kids hump

1:11:14 they're just publicly just touching themselves they don't know and they're totally innocent and they're not you know it's not sexual but maybe it is like it just sort of feels nice or it's comforting or it's like anything but you are iconically feels nice that feels really nice but i have had moments with myself you don't want to shame it's like that especially but they get to be an idiot where you're like you kind of go from other people so but like there are times where like my son and i are like watching tv together we're watching dinosaur train a great show truly a shout out uh and he starts to touch himself he's more like just like a guy it's almost more just like a man just like it's a cowboy yeah it's like it's like hand and pants and that's another moment where i'm just like what is this life like again what is this like just sitting here watching someone discover their dick just watching

1:12:15 me jessie klein i am sitting on a couch watching a show called dinosaur train with this young kid who's got his hand in his pants like l bundy like again i'm like i used to just drink and blow guys i don't know why that's always where my mind goes it's just the other identity it's the other person i totally get where your mind is going there because matt when you agree when you're blowing someone like it's it's it is just like it's a confecting moment where you go this is who i am this is a real name it's so interesting um i was also just like thinking the whole time where did you just use that okay cathexis which is i think when you are like so when you like form this like psychic like association bond with something that you are defined by it yeah i'm butchering it but it's like a freudian term let me look at yes and it often comes in the heat of a moment the concentration of mental energy on one particular person idea or

1:13:16 object especially to an unhealthy degree yeah well you think like i sh i actually only exist for this right now um and those are the moments where and that's actually and that actually i think is what's addictive and gets people sometimes doing bad things is because when they're really really detached in their everyday life from what brings them this cathexis to blow jobs yeah to blow jobs or really to perform whatever type of oral sex is your sex um but the thing is it's very um interesting to think about that in that context while you were talking i couldn't stop thinking about when i got pubes and that's gonna be a whole other thing when i got when i first got pubes that was like i think it's like when you first get pubes and when you first realized your boner connects to wanting to [ __ ] those are two moments it's like that's when you that is what puberty really is i mean that's the when you can

1:14:11 connect those two thoughts and really do the mental math in your brain that's when you realize you are you know outgrown god it's funny because i too have like a very vivid it's like just like the time like a vivid little shard of america i remember the first pube yeah i just remember being why are we talking about this whatever let's not start dancing dancing being in the bath and like just chilling like this is not going i wasn't masturbating it was more just like singing about truly i think probably just being a book just being reading and i was just being in the sun i think i was reading and then i just was like i'm just gonna look down and then i saw there was like god so crazy to be having these memories while we're having these conversations i've thought about this forever but like i remember seeing like oh there's like little bubbles like little like bubbles like attached down there to like

1:15:07 what are they attaching to is it i haven't seen it before and they're like on like little hairs like what what what like that's a new thing and then i just was like better keep reading this book i don't know about this at all yeah i have to get out of here back to kafka this this literally though jessie when you discovered you had it might have been it was this very intellectual home this literally though not to make this clunky connection but this is why i do love big mouth is because it it minds the most specific like hard comedy out of these things and it's like it actually it reminds me of the specificity with which you write in the book too because it's like something the comedy in that show is so specific and so vivid and so blown out and obviously because it's animated they can do that that's what makes it like classic to me and we're sitting here so engrossed in this conversation

1:16:04 because it is you do get the opportunity to be so specific about it which is why it's so funny and so i mean they're so incredible and like the the writers on that show and nick and everybody and mark and jen nick is unreal he is i don't he a full unicorn of a man just like a white horn a bristly tail and you know we all see in our mind's eye what kind of uniform

1:16:43 the stuff that they that they excavate about puberty is so yeah it's so deep and they're like almost every time i get one of those scripts there's something in there i'm like oh [ __ ] [ __ ] yeah they haven't thought about that like the stuff they did with like jessie getting her period and like they've got like more about like tampons and we were just like it's so real and small but so emotionally huge yeah are you gonna this is this is an annoying question and i'm sure you've been asked this a million times is this going to be like teachable to asher when he's like that age or is that going to be like something you show big males yeah well you know it's so funny because i have some like a couple of friends might have kids who are older like they're like 13 actually a an old friend of mine who i met when we were in fifth grade and now it kills me because her son is now the age like when there's moment he was the age

1:17:44 we met yeah yeah wow but she told me that they watched big mouths together a lot of people watch it with their kids and now i have to say it makes me so happy because i do think it's like such a positive incredible show and like could bridge so many conversations for parents to have but at the same time i think about like sitting with my mom or dad oh my god like looking at anything like the tiniest smooch happening on tv and i would have to like go get in a car and drive to another state i couldn't i couldn't sit next to them and look at anything so i don't quite know how that yeah no that's kind of a crazy thing to think about um you know like hearing mommy's voice someone with mommy's voice having a period you know like like i don't know oh my god that's crazy until you just said that i honestly hadn't even thought about i was like oh well i watch this show with him like the way my friends watch

1:18:42 it and i'm like oh i'm in it you're in and your name her name is jessie jessie and there's some stuff coming up that i'm remembering oh boy i really haven't even thought about that forget it forget i asked you know what it's funny i feel like though there is a certain time where you understand your parents sense of humor and then it's okay because you can you can all accept it as like a comedic program like i remember i don't know like my dad was always like i think okay with me watching certain things with him and my mother was the one that was like richie and i would have to get sent out of the room like austin powers i think my dad would have loved to sit and watch with me but my mother was i would categorize her as freaking out during the whole thing i don't know i don't know about this you know this is a this is too much and she would just she just wouldn't stop and in an effort to get her to stop

1:19:35 so he could enjoy it he was like yeah go get out but one time during the day he took me to nutty professor and i think i did have to ask some questions about about things after that and that's i guess just the risk you run when you invite the child in on big mouth you know my dad was put like i said he was working many many many hours and so i don't know what circumstances could have possibly led to him being in charge of me and my best friend at the time when we were nine years old somehow it must have been a day off from school i truly think my mom must have maybe had a surgery like something she must have truly been recovering from an anesthesia but my dad god blessed me he's like the one the one time it was like somehow he was in charge of me my best friend were nine years old like what is he gonna do with us for the day and he took us egypt we're nine he took us to see amadeus

1:20:39 i mean that is my main memory was it was like so much heaving tit there's mania insanity it's like i took my sense of blue as the warmest color but i really think in his mind he was like i'm going to see a movie about mozart like he just didn't in fairness as i like to say in fairness there's no internet maybe he just was like it's a movie about music perfect for me i mean me and my friend talk about like certain things like when you see something as a young person or a kid that like you're not supposed to have seen yet and you're a teenager or whatever and it that it gets burned in like things get burned in there and like i remember like amadeus like what burned and we were not okay for i think for people like like around matt and my age like it was titanic was the thing right it was a conversation for sure it was like because she bared her breasts and it was a breast and the car sucks

1:21:44 like the car was made the hands fully covered my eyes and i remember that so vividly oh yeah i remember the conversation because i remember that was when i started the honestly the culture that made me say culture was for me uh one thing that could really be in the running was the titanic from craze a friend the frenzy the thing of titanic and leo when it was like inescapable and i just remember because it was so inescapable my parents did have to have a sit-down discussion about whether or not they would let their child me see this movie and what the parameters were because i became so one-track-minded about titanic

1:22:35 this is what i'm saying you were seven and you were gonna see titanic yes but jesse imagine uh revisit again the monoculture if he was only talking about one thing it was the only thing it was the only thing you wait did you so did you go see absolutely like at least three times i became i became like infatuated with kate winslet in a way that i think oh my god i remember i didn't know at the time but i was standing oh my you know what i mean i was like like when i remember when i first saw alicia silverstone and clueless i i didn't know at the time i was standing but and then rose when she turned around in that hat and then what about kathy bates i remember standing kathy bates the second i saw her and you and what was what was the moment it was it was molly brown and i remember moving to denver and i hated it but then we did a tour where like there was the molly brown house whatever it doesn't

1:23:31 matter but like i think it matters the most and you know it whatever thank you it doesn't matter no it does it fully matters it fully matters but like okay is it just like blowing your mind that like matt was ashamed that we were asked for sage just to flashback to what i was saying before like so asher is going to be seven in june and we really only watch dinosaur training maybe you don't understand what dinosaur train is it's a show about uh dinosaurs taking a train through various parts of the dinosaur era honestly that does [ __ ] incredible um it's actually really well done but yeah i can't imagine him watching titanic but but it's interesting because he also now i do know he and i'm not like um i'm not trying to like shield him from stuff i will say like i find like a lot of shows that are made for kids are just so hyper and annoying and shitty yeah so i've always wanted to like we're just like so violent and

1:24:27 crazy and like really just awful um but i do know like i remember i read an article a few years ago in the times about like someone like was so excited when their kid turned seven to take them like to show them star wars and so i'm like yeah i don't know maybe he's maybe he's ready just titanic feels a little amadeus mostly other than the handle car window and the boobs you know what the thing about it though is it's violence and like that's another thing is it's just like there's a there there's gunfire there's that incident you see hundreds of people died thousands of people died and honestly those are the images those are the images that i do remember from seeing it and like i i do sort of feel uh i have like i lurch when i think about like you know watching them wade through the dead bodies in the water it really was so i don't know about all that but the titties were just titties you know what i mean like and i

1:25:23 continued to stand throughout i think i deeply knew in my soul i wasn't attracted to her but i definitely thought she was glorious and i had an appreciate and i had an appreciation and just she like was a full movie star and i was so obsessed with her so i feel i would have been a nightmare had my parents not let me see that film and also of course in the back of your little gay mind there's leo is that that was definitely a part of it at seven so just around the river ben she takes the deepest breath out okay i think i was like watching seinfeld when i was seven i was like yeah my my parents didn't know what was on t and they left me on supervised to watch tv and i would just like turn on like whatever syndicated five o'clock like sick amazon yeah might be a little sheltered i sure might be a little no no i'm just but no we're just saying like like it's i don't know maybe matt and i are a little [ __ ] up but like it's not

1:26:23 i don't think it's because of those media you know i mean i was gonna say to matt like what percentage of your personality do you think exists because you saw titanic when you were seven oh my probably if i were to really think about it yeah yeah a lot and also you know because titanic for us was titanic for us was the mania around titanic and then like the oscars being like musky that yeah exactly yeah and then p and then like and then the kids like i don't know gay boys our age being obsessed with award shows like i think that that that's an imprinting moment like it had to line up perfectly it hit every box because it was it was like it was literally learning to learning to stand an actress yeah it was you know matt and one of the goats and one of the goats who actually literally did become one of the goats and still has you know hardened fans because of that imprint yeah it was also celine dion yeah it was

1:27:15 pop music it was diva worship it was camp it was budget and it was oscars in a in a culture when one thing existed so it just of course we're all gonna have like a you know when a baby opens their first size and sees mommy thing with kate winslet and celine dion they're here forever that's so i mean the just thinking about i will i i don't want your parents if they're listening or whatever to feel like i'm judging them for using titanic no because as we're talking about i am remembering just it was like there was just titanic yeah and it was like that was like a rule of culture like you just had to go see it like the minute you the minute you cook here for a full year and i actually remember seeing it at union square with uh my boyfriend at the time and uh it was the craziest thing because it was packed theater because titanic and uh right at the moment where kate winslet is on the iceberg we've been waiting to

1:28:25 see this ship [ __ ] sink and we're like everyone's like like waiting like i want to [ __ ] see that bogo down she's on the thing she's blowing that whistle or whatever iconic in front of me one row in front of me someone projectile throws up and the person in front of them like someone who had just been like guzzling it down or drinking and like the total fear screamed just a lot like it was someone oh my god oh my god there's like so many it was truly so important were you laughing though in the moment could you could you find life behind because but it was just it was like everyone was having titanic ruin also that's like a moment where she's literally everyone was experiencing her live yeah and to have that moment this is the regal union theater whatever the hell which has really seen it all oh my god the things i've seen there talking about blowing guys oh my god good for you i don't know but also

1:29:32 literally before before we do i don't think so honey there is something here there is something here because also you as a person who is a parent and the story that i always bring up for this is bone remembers anna drezen me and bone went to go see 50 shades of gray on valentine's day the first day of the first day came out and we this is one of our favorite things that's ever happened sorry for your love so no we actually were doing quite well very enriching we so we're there and we're watching the film we're experiencing and absorbing fifty shades of grey and the audience was very bonded by like you know you know act two by like the end of act two like this was an audience that was willing to laugh at it there's an audience that was like kind of understood how campy and stupid and funny we were all there together like to see fifty shades of grey yes so then probably i'm gonna say at least

1:30:24 five or six lashings have gone by you know what i mean like we've seen the girl um participate in bdsm for certain and we hear from the back of the theater literally like if you could pick the sentence that a baby says they said it daddy i gotta go to the bathroom and when i tell you the entire the definition of a catharsis when we all realized that there was a child who had seen what we had seen oh and we all like held each other's strangers strangers looked each other in the eye and knew that they were bonded for life it was so crazy the movie ended and we were sort of like debriefing about it and i remember anna said yeah but you know what though like maybe they didn't have help and they really wanted to see the movie and i thought to myself you know what there is a negotiation between you know what one for them one for you you have to survive too you need to consume media it's of course one of the

1:31:22 food groups media it's like a is as important as a carb and so what are you gonna do like and deprive yourself and then i did say that i was like yeah they're probably not fifty shades of grey and we all agreed but you know what there's something to that like you you gotta watch one naughty professional talk about something getting burned in oh yeah burned and that's what i'm saying there's nothing as bonding as a crazy new york city movie theater moment like those moments especially like in a certain time period but like the person throwing up at titanic was one where just everyone was like we have to survive like we must like the iceberg we must survive this together yeah yeah there was i remember when i went to go see the sex in the city movie like the first day it came out which i want to say was maybe a valentine's day situation i don't remember but that i mean just basic basic basic

1:32:16 path theater of ladies there is the moment like everyone's like there were balloons like it was so basic but we were all like we're basically seeing this and we love it and i'm whatever it's a great movie sorry but the first one moment the first one oh it's great oh the first so good no not the one where they're in dubai yeah yeah yeah yeah like offending everyone we're talking first but but there was that moment there was a moment when carrie like reveals the closet that big like built for her in the apartment and the entire audience of new york city ladies goes down yeah there was like an audible theater wide guy it's a great show and then what does she say like hello hello lover i live here yeah yeah yeah yeah oh no hello lover that's what it is yeah everyone's living in like a three roommate situation in murray hill i literally was talking i mean that's budget and that is important so get those

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1:35:17 without any practice follow the trials and the tribulations of four schools from around the country fighting for the right to defend you listen to class action on the iheartradio app apple podcast or wherever you get your podcast i think it may be time i don't think so honey because we've sort of arrived at that point where we're so full that we have to unleash this energy um i certainly have had um a certain culture dictate my life over the past several days so i haven't i don't think sonny based in that okay this is matt rodgers i don't think so honey's time starts now i don't think so honey antibiotic culture why do they do what they do to our buttholes it's [ __ ] insane i've been on the antibiotic augmentin for several days what has done to my digestive system is unforgivable unfathomable and unsavory i find myself bereft nothing is solid i don't understand why and i didn't do anything to even deserve my ear

1:36:23 infection and that's another thing i don't think so honey that i've been following 30 seconds this type of malady because i've never been in a pool a lake a pond i've not been near anything i shower so responsibly god god you're up there literally watching me shower you know you know i'm not asking for this i keep my ears clean as a whistle i don't think so honey that as a result of just the fates i have to be on these antibiotics poked prodded strapped please five seconds god if you're up there and you remember i didn't do anything deserve this have mercy on my butthole i'm [ __ ] water and that's one minute oh my god oh my god augmentin it and it's such a it doesn't it sounds like a villain in a film i've been on it like

1:37:15 it is all about water and it is all about also which you don't take as seriously at the time but really people should taking the antibiotics with food with food you must do this and i don't think i realized again adulting sorry now i don't think i realized antibiotics like were what they were yeah like when you're a kid and you get sick they just put you on antibiotics and then you live your life and your dream but i remember when i was in my 20s i was on put on like two different antibiotics too close together and my digestive system wasn't the same for like six or seven months oh my god i thought i was gluten intolerant so like you got it i'm not even kidding they over prescribed me at the city md and i've done i don't think so honey city md before but um did you know is because he loves to give you a shot here but i and i got a shot in my butt again today of steroids i'm on let's say the planet saturn i really do

1:38:15 mean all right we're we're going to offline about doctor i just want to say doctor wanting to just being so like shot happy is concerning i i i if it's not for you he's there for you when you need him he really is okay great great great only take the shot when like you have like chlamydia or something yeah but girl what i'm telling you might does it really yeah he kind of is more like like you know halloween how everyone gets candy he's more like that he's more like that he's more halloween

1:38:51 oh my goodness gracious okay well pray for me everyone oh my god everyone this is bowen yang's i don't think so honey now do you have something are you feeling very good i do i do i love that i love that okay so now it's i didn't want to say it i have a voice but now whenever i say i love that for you i feel like i'm like dropping some promo but it really is vernacular it's vernacular that's why it's called that all right great this is great i don't think some of your time starts now i don't think so honey gift shops call them what they are candle stores okay there's nothing but candles and stationery the options are limited i went to two separate ones on my way to work to buy a gift for someone the offerings were the same it's either candles cards maybe like a quote-unquote hard puzzle something that's marketed as a hard puzzle because it's like a monochrome puzzle where you can't really

1:39:46 put it together so easily because the colors are all the same i i don't we have to step it up we're in a post christmas candle snl sketch world where like buying a candle for someone is like not okay anymore i disagree with you i love candles i love candles um i don't like that there's the stigma on them now but i also don't like on on an equal note uh how gift shops only sell which is candles i don't care that it's different companies uh i just need something more you need to do more and that's one minute i will also submit wrapping paper which is interesting because at a place that sells wrapping paper you think there'd be more options of gifts of gifts yeah but but the options are limited as my sister in my heart said can i also i mean i just want to attack on i mean i have my own thing but when you open a tube of wrapping paper and it's it's mult it's like multiple individual sheets and that one long tube

1:40:41 i'm like what are we playing what are we what are we doing what are we playing why are you assuming the size why is this like stiffer harder paper like am i the queen of england here like what's that also just big tube let's talk about this right now when it looks like it's a big tube and you find out it's mostly tube oh my god you're playing with me you're playing with me and that's gas lighting yeah that's gas lighting and i'll say it even lower and in a whisper that's gas lighting and that and now now we have to like and the thing is too about about the stigma on candles there's nothing wrong with candles there's nothing wrong with candles they bring joy to everyone you can never have enough a simple pleasure a little self-care and everyone in the world has candles and it's universal it brings you together it gets you together from the smell and the aura that it brings and we're post we're post irony with candles sorry

1:41:42 thank you so much thank you because it is this like it you're so right man it's it's it's like every call there's like a carbon a meat dish in every culture there is there is oil and wax and a flame in every single culture in the world that is a rule of culture number number 48. there is a way there's oil and candles in every culture culture cult around the world around the world hashtag hanukkah guys i will come forth the rap gift that i gave to the lovely pas and people and i love you candles each and every one and each one was received not only with gratitude but also also with a conversation because the thing about candles is they all have a scent and so it's not just talking about the candle you can also then engage about how much you love that scent here's ones that people always respond to cedar yes mimosa oh my god and of course forest fire of course all right dipstick base phase diptych dosan um is always good

1:42:54 too i mean i love to give people candles because i hate to buy them to buy them they should only come as gifts yes i mean i'm sorry i know we've been talking for five hours i'm not gonna keep rolling on this thing this is thrilling so i'm feeling strong yeah all right so here is the deal it's jesse klein's i don't think so honey and this is a moment for you to sort of rail against something in culture for 60 seconds as we just have so are you ready to do so i mean i hope i can live up to this guy yes of course you will here we go this is jesse klein's i don't think so honey your time starts now i don't think so honey can we talk about jessica biel in this trailer for this who show candy an innocent jessie clan watching tv the other night and jessica biel is on playing this i guess real life axe murderer killer named candy montgomery called her neighbor in 1980 and jessica biel is in a big curly perm wig

1:43:46 and glasses and i'm like honey you still look like jessica though 30 seconds you're still giving me just sitting next to justin timberlake courtside of the lakers i don't care that you have on your perm wig i don't care that you have your warby parker aviator glasses no hate i'm sure you're great in it but this is a role i saw what you look like in real life with love i mean she killed someone she's a four or five or six at best you're attempting to leave this role to a juilliard grad who's a four five five is this role yeah a lot of conversation in the culture right now about who can play what and i still don't believe intense playing fives that's one minute this is hugely important i'm talking about of course i actually see her in those classes and that wig and i'm like let someone else shine yeah she killed someone she's a four four five six the implication that only the murderer is probably no bizarre

1:44:57 have someone write a screenplay for you where you play an axe murderer who was a tent yeah you know a real person i know you want your your emmy and your award and you want to do like real acting but like don't don't put on that wig in those glasses to be like a woman in texas who killed someone yeah 100 you or at least find the hot one you know what i mean i never want to judge another woman's appearance but i looked at the real candy my family and i'm just saying it's not a jessica beale role she's not she's not unattractive she's just a regular girl no no she's a glamorous i do want to look this person up oh candy montgomery it's just a regular account yeah oh she's uh she's pretty you know you know who's good at this i feel who's good at this is blake lively like blake lively plays all different kinds of people but she always makes sure they're looking good i just think jessica is such a specific

1:45:52 level of ten yeah and just to have it's like i wanna sound candy and it is really funny like the chasm let me look at it hold on wait wait i'm telling you i'm sending you this specific photo let me just put it in the chat i'm sorry can't even come right it's a little bit of a ricky's wig okay wait can you click on that i just try hold on and then stroke stunning this is incredible oh my god

1:46:45 you know what i mean it's like i don't know probably probably could have found we probably could have found a linda tripp type we could have found i mean you know charlie infamously elaine yeah for that oscar and it worked but she never needed she never did it again no which which we respect which we were it's like tens only i don't know she can't do that she was like

1:47:19 one of the best things that anyone could possibly do would be to pick up i'll show myself out which is out on april 26th which genuinely made me think and feel and laugh and i just feel like i'm better for reading it and it is going to make me reach out to my mother um and already has and call your moms and jesse you're like literally the best i cannot tell you how grateful and honored truly i am to be on this and i'm going to watch titanic tonight and um and show him sean you should see it yeah well we can turn out like you and we'll oh hello guys thank you you're the best thank you for coming on i love that for you is streaming on april 29th and you better remember that everyone yes um and yeah what do you say about and we have a story i think we end every episode with the song

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What is discussed in "I Used To Blow Guysw Jessi Klein"?

In order: 0:00 Brene Brown, Karen Huger, Adrian R., Atlas of the Heart; 10:00 Inside Amy Schumer; 30:00 Committed, Inside Amy Schumer, Joe Piazza, Matt Rogers; 50:00 Committed, Joe Piazza; 1:20:00 Titanic, Kate Winslet, Celine Dion, Seinfeld; 1:30:00 Committed, Joe Piazza, Titanic; 1:40:00 Candy Montgomery, Adrian R., Connie Stephen, I'll Show Myself Out.

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