BOITY THULO LEFT IN THE DUST AFTER TWO OF HER EX'S FIND THEIR HAPPILY EVER AFTER IN MARRIAGE

What this episode is about

The discussion centers on the struggles women face in relationships where they may be treated as placeholders rather than partners, highlighting the importance of recognizing manipulative behavior and reclaiming personal power. It emphasizes that women should not settle for relationships devoid of commitment and encourages them to trust their worth in the pursuit of true love and fulfillment.

Key takeaways

• It's 2026: No more being a placeholder; women are reclaiming their narrative and power!
• Men know early if they'll marry—waiting years is a red flag, not a romantic buildup.
• Lost track of time in relationships? You might just be a caretaker, not a partner.
• Gaslighting in love? That's a relationship trap; it keeps strong women feeling small.
• Exes marrying left and right? It's not you, it's them; stop internalizing their indecision.

Who speaks in this episode?

• Lynn Dakile (Host) · 19 min speaking
• Boity Thulo (Guest)

What is discussed, and when

1. 0:00 – 5:00: Anton Javda, Bitula, Caspest
2. 5:00 – 10:00: Bitula, Mo Tulo
3. 10:00 – 15:00: Shopright

Notable quotes from "BOITY THULO LEFT IN THE DUST AFTER TWO OF HER EX'S FIND THEIR HAPPILY EVER AFTER IN MARRIAGE "

• It's you are not the problem. Bitula was not the problem. They lie to you.

  about Bitula · at 1:26

• He put Casper and his wife Caspest who happened to date boy years ago and then he put Anton Javda who also happened to date with his new wife. He put them side by side and he said.

  about Caspest · at 2:47

• In my opinion, Mo Tulo you could say is a 10 out of 10.

  about Mo Tulo · at 7:53

• Women have kids with you and you don't know you can't do it. Whereas a person that works at Shopright and it's a security guard can marry that woman within a year because when a man wants to, he will.

  about Shopright · at 12:30

Who and what is mentioned in this episode?

People

• Bitula — Person · 2 mentions · first at 1:26
• Caspest — Person · 1 mention · first at 2:47
• Anton Javda — Person · 1 mention · first at 2:57
  He put Casper and his wife Caspest who happened to date boy years ago and then he put Anton Javda who also happened to date with his new wife. He put them side by side and he said the problem surely is these men got married and their ex.
• Mo Tulo — Person · 1 mention · first at 7:53

Companies & orgs

• Shopright — Company · 1 mention · first at 12:35

Full transcript with timestamps

0:00 because there's no way in 2026 we're going to let demons kill us, beat us, [ __ ] us around, um lie to us, drag us along for years or manipulate some of you into marriage because they just feel like, oh, well, this this is what I have. I'll just do it. When you are giving your heart and your soul and your every fiber of your being and then for letting that be you and thinking that I can't do anything with other person, you can. You will. You're better. You're a woman. Ladies, we need to wake up and start to see um after 25,000 years and this guy hasn't asked you to marry them, hasn't sent the letters to your family, he doesn't actually like you.

0:58 You're there to provide a service. You're his maid. That's what you are. You're his maid or something like that. There's something that he's getting from you. Your energy, your popularity, your something, your aura. And they chip at it and they make you small. They make you afraid of life. They make you okay? Because at some point you don't know that you're a placeholder. You actually believe the lies that they tell you. It's you are not the problem. Bitula was not the problem. They lie to you. There's something about you that is too dominant and strong and that's why they don't marry you. They just string you along and they can do it for years and then they're going to put a baby in you to trap you just in case they want to come back around and say, "Baby, baby, please take me back."

1:59 Ladies, don't fall for it. You just want drama. If that's what you're going to think must have been the problem. No, she was lied to. She was fooled. She was a placeholder and many women are placeholders. And in 2026 and moving forward, you're not going to be a placeholder. You are going to take your power back. And at the first sign, whether it's been 10,000 years in your relationship, you are going to have to detach. Your husband is out there. So stop saying was the problem. Thank the good Lord for saving her from those treacherous men.

2:45 Excel. He put Casper and his wife Caspest who happened to date boy years ago and then he put Anton Javda who also happened to date with his new wife. He put them side by side and he said the problem surely is these men got married and their ex didn't and the ex they had in common is who first of all second of all third of all now boy to girl at this point I'd say maybe you need to start consulting with those ancestors Because I'm telling you, it's the weirdest thing of all to see all of your exes getting married right before your eyes.

3:43 Dazzling diamond, welcome to the world. Hello. What is up you dazzling diamonds and the others? Welcome back to my channel. My name is Linda Kyle and this is the vault. Anyway, you guys, let's jump straight into this video. All righty then. You guys, if you guys haven't already, please do like, share, and subscribe to my channel. And if you guys do enjoy my videos, please do click on the thank you button. And before you guys leave out of here, please do drop me a comment in the comment section down below. And guys, keep on sending in your stories.

4:37 We will be kicking off our podcast really, really soon. And I appreciate everyone that has. Um, it's going to be a banger. All right, in this video you guys, we are going to be talking about a story that I saw about Tulo, right? And how people are saying that Buulo must have been the problem because her exes, two exes, have now gotten married. And I beg to differ with everyone that says that she was the problem. She was not the problem. You get into relationships hoping for the best. Men get to decide whether or not they drop on one knee. You can be in a relationship for 18 [ __ ] years and you are still not married.

5:39 And that person can guess lie to you, lie to you and say, "Oh, this is the issue. This is the issue." What what a fish pace. The reason why they don't marry you. Men know from the jump if they want to wife you or not, right? And the relationships weren't even that long, but it happened. And now these guys are married after breaking up with her. Right? Men know from the jump if they're going to marry you. If they don't marry you, they are wasting your time. They are lying to you. You are a placeholder. And unfortunately, some women stick around because at some point you don't know that you're a placeholder. You actually believe the lies that they tell you. It's you are not the problem.

6:27 Bitula was not the problem. They lie to you. There's something about you that is too dominant and strong and that's why they don't marry you. They just string you along and they can do it for years and then they're going to put a baby in you to trap you just in case they want to come back around and say, "Baby, baby, please take me back." Ladies, don't fall for it. So I resent how people are saying that must have been the problem. No, those men lied to her, kept her as a as a place placeholder. So is she really the problem?

7:17 If she was being gaslit, if she was being played in the scenario, she dodged a bullet because even with the people that they have now married in the honeymoon phase, it's going to be all goooo gaga. But trust and believe, because they are inadequate men and they don't see a dime piece when they have it, eventually in those very relationships that they in now, they're going to start dropping the ball again. That poor woman is now trapped with that man that she married. In my opinion, Mo Tulo you could say is a 10 out of 10.

8:00 Business woman successful, popular, she has her own money, so on and so forth. Why wouldn't you want to build and further the relationship with a woman like that? Now, obviously, we don't know the dynamics of what she went through with these men, but never ever for a day in your life, ladies and gents, think that you just want drama if that's what you're going to think. Must have been the problem. No, she was lied to. She was fooled. She was a placeholder. And many women are placeholders. And in 2026 and moving forward, you're not going to be a placeholder. you are going to take your power back.

8:45 And at the first sign, whether it's been 10,000 years in your relationship, you are going to have to detach. Your husband is out there. So stop saying was the problem. Thank the good Lord for saving her from those treacherous men. We don't know what the dynamics were. Why does she have to be the problem? Also, you can say to me, Lynn, we don't know what the dynamics were were. Why do they have to be the problem? Now, they find they found the perfect woman. But why does boy have to be the problem? Why aren't you looking at it as in they wanted to be with an it girl and they used her cuz it was good for them at that time.

9:44 If you want to know more about relationships, toxic relationships, escaping toxic toxic relationship, narcissistic abusive relationships, please go and head on out to my other channel because these are the conversations that we are going to be getting into on that channel. And trust and believe that channel is for women. So you guys, you can stay away. If you want to watch, you can go watch because even men do get duped by these narcissistic or toxic people. Go and check it out. As consistent as this page is, that one will be true because baby, I got a couple of things to say about a couple of things. We are going to stop vilifying women and blaming them.

10:30 It was fault. It was bui It was fault. It was um Mini's fault. It's always there. It was It was um Bali and his fault. It's always the woman's fault. Always villainize the woman. Always, always, always. When the woman was giving their all, loving this man, carrying this man, supporting this man. When does it become the guy's fault for leading her on? And then after the breakup, six months later, they marry the person that they want to marry. Ladies, we need to wake up and start to see um after 25,000 years and this guy hasn't asked you to marry them, hasn't sent the letters to your family. He doesn't actually like you.

11:18 You're there to provide a service. You're his maid. That's what you are. You're his maid or something like that. There's something that he's getting from you. Your energy, your popularity, your something. your aura and they chip at it and they make you small. They make you afraid of life. They make you okay. So, thank goodness for and people are like for getting away even though it took so long, but they got away and they woke up and women are going to have to start waking up in 2026. Go check out my other channel. The videos are going to be there.

12:00 As we are kicking off 2026 on this channel, we're kicking it off over there cuz I'm tired of watching women go through this and then still be blamed, still be persecuted. It's wrong to lead someone on that long. There's no way in a in a span of 5 years and then beyond. you don't know if you want to marry this woman and then some of these women have kids with you and you don't know you can't do it. Whereas a person that works at Shopright and it's a security guard can marry that woman within a year because when a man wants to, he will.

12:45 When a man knows, he knows. And then also he knows that he's going to siphon your energy like a vampire and drag it out until he finds the one that he wants while he's building himself and you are deteriorating. Thank goodness that didn't happen to Uboy. Thank goodness that didn't happen to Entali who stuck around for so many years and even had his kids. She's still a boss and she deserves what she deserves and what she should get. The first ruling from that court situation, it was accurate and now he wants to contest it cuz he's a greedy bastard in my opinion. That's it. Woman, we're going to rise. We're going to stand up and reclaim ourselves.

13:34 G, you will heal. Go watch that other channel of mine. You will heal. You can call it aggressive motivation, baby. then that's what it's going to be because you have to get it into your head that you're so much better than that. You're a queen, a literal queen, an empress, everything. And there's no more of that [ __ ] in 2026. Oh, you're such a mad black woman. So what? Let me get mad. Let me get mad. Cuz that's the problem. for too long. Get mad. Whatever a man can do, you can do better. Whatever a man can provide, you can provide better. You can because you're there lifting him up all this time. And then they dog you. They break up with you. And then few months later, they marry someone else cuz you are a placeholder. And who's going to be a placeholder? Who's going to be a placeholder? Not you.

14:40 So go check out my other channel. Right. So no, I'm saying to you no. And I'm right. Boy was not the problem. It was those goofy ass men that were the problem. Zana. And we're going to stop that bull crap of no it girls don't get married. They do. They deserve to because these girls are actually not monsters. They're not as bad as we have painted them to be. Woman snatching, man snatching. They also want love. And a woman gives a lot of love, care. They take care of these men. And then they get dogged out and told online they're doing unspeakable substances.

15:39 Whereas that man never intended on doing right by that woman. Never did never never not a single day did he. And within those kind of relationships they dog you out. They put you down to the point where you are isolated. You start to your mind, you're confused in your own [ __ ] mind, not knowing who you are. But when you got with that [ __ ] you knew who you were. So kudos to them for getting away. So it's not You haters haters are going to say boy must have been the problem. No, she wasn't. I don't believe that and I don't know her like that and I don't know anybody like that and I don't know some of you woman like that but I am a woman and I don't believe that you will problem wholeheartedly I do not believe that I don't you're a queen and it's okay let them leave let them walk peace to you let them go and be some other woman's problem. Don't fight it. Let it go. It's okay, boy. Don't be embarrassed

17:03 that they got married. Phew. Thank goodness for you. It's not you. They're going to be somebody else's problem. You win. You win. You're going to stop blaming women for men's [ __ ] [ __ ] You're going to stop that thing. You going to stop that thing. You will because you know better. You know better. You know better. You will grow up. You will grow out of that thing. Naming and shaming women that give you their heart, their soul, their body and you dog them. You will stop. Right. Anyway, if you guys haven't already, please do like, share, and subscribe to my channel. And if you guys do enjoy my videos, please do click on the thank you button. And before you guys leave out of here, please do drop me a comment in the comment section down below. And please go and check out my second channel where we are healing, we are growing, we are becoming sexy, we are building those businesses, we are claiming back our power

18:24 because every woman has gone through that kind of thing one way or another, but you're going to Stop. You're going to reclaim your power. We're going to do it together. I'm going to help you. There's one woman that could have and at some point did lose their fire, their power, their femininity because of a man. I watched my mom go through this, but then she snapped out of it. My mom snaps out of things very quickly. She's very smart and very logical. All right. And then she built and built and built and became the woman that she is today.

19:12 You can do it, too. And I'm going to help you do that. So, go check out my other channel because there's no way in 2026 we're going to let demons kill us, beat us, [ __ ] us around, um, lie to us, drag us along for years or manipulate some of you into marriage because they just feel like, oh, well, this this is what I have. I'll just do it. When you are giving your heart and your soul and your every fiber of your being and then for letting that be you and thinking that I can't do anything with other person, you can. You will. You're better. You're a woman.

20:02 The man has the X Y chromosome and the Y chromosome is actually smaller. Woman is X X. It's X X. Why do you think that the male one is X Y and the Y is smaller? It's because they are mutated facts. Do your research. Your X X capital the X capital Y small is because their X that was supposed to be there was cut. It's mutated. You're better. You're a queen. Value yourself if they won't value you and know exactly who you are from within yourselves. They lied to you. The patriarchy has lied to you. It's time you take your power back. So, no.

20:59 Bulu was not the problem. She wasn't. And that's it. Right. I'll see you guys in the next one. Bye.

Questions about this episode

Who speaks in "BOITY THULO LEFT IN THE DUST AFTER TWO OF HER EX'S FIND THEIR HAPPILY EVER AFTER IN MARRIAGE "?

Lynn Dakile (Host), Boity Thulo (Guest).

What is "BOITY THULO LEFT IN THE DUST AFTER TWO OF HER EX'S FIND THEIR HAPPILY EVER AFTER IN MARRIAGE " about?

The discussion centers on the struggles women face in relationships where they may be treated as placeholders rather than partners, highlighting the importance of recognizing manipulative behavior and reclaiming personal power. It emphasizes that women should not settle for relationships devoid of commitment and encourages them to trust their worth in the pursuit of true love and fulfillment.

What is mentioned in this Lynn Dakile (The Vault Unlocked) episode?

5 people, works and ideas are mentioned, including Bitula, Caspest, Anton Javda, Mo Tulo, Shopright. Each one on this page links to its own page with every episode that mentions it.

How long is "BOITY THULO LEFT IN THE DUST AFTER TWO OF HER EX'S FIND THEIR HAPPILY EVER AFTER IN MARRIAGE "?

The episode runs 21 min; the transcript is about 2,842 words in 24 timestamped sections.

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