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How To Earn Trust and Influence According to Renowned Psychologist Robert Cialdini

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This is the full, timestamped transcript of "How To Earn Trust and Influence According to Renowned Psychologist Robert Cialdini", an episode of Tommy Mello published November 21, 2025 (39 min, about 6,034 words). It mentions 3 people, works and ideas, including Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion, Berkshire Hathaway, Influence Unleashed.

What this episode is about

Dr. Robert Cialdini, a renowned psychologist and author of the best-selling book *Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion*, explores the ethical foundations of persuasive techniques, emphasizing the importance of addressing the self-interests of others to foster trust and mutual benefit in any exchange. His research offers valuable insights for leaders, marketers, and individuals seeking to understand and ethically leverage the science of influence in their interactions.

Key takeaways

  • Benjamin Franklin was right: winning hearts beats winning arguments—self-interest drives persuasion.
  • Ethical influence? It's about educating others on how they can benefit from your proposal, not just selling it.
  • Empathy in persuasion? Just 15% get their way when framing requests as 'us' rather than 'me versus you.'
  • Desire isn't a dirty word; we persuade daily—whether getting a partner or kids to comply.
  • Unity—the new addition to influence tactics—makes people feel they're in this together, boosting the chance for agreement.

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What is discussed, and when

  1. – 5:00: Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion
  2. – 39:18: Influence Unleashed

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  • Dr. Robert Chaldini is the best-selling author of Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion, a book that has sold over 5 million copies, been translated into 40 languages, and remains one of the most cited works in both psychology and.
    about Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion · at
  • Him, there's only 75 seats. It's December 5th and 6th. It's called Influence Unleashed and it's going to be in Tempe at the Mr. Joe Polish, one of the best networkers of all time. And if you want to save some money, there's $500 off any.
    about Influence Unleashed · at

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a quote from uh Benjamin Franklin who said if you wish to persuade speak not to argument speak to self-interest of the recipient you have to put yourself in that person's situation the challenges that person is in at the moment you tell them what they will benefit from the exchange not why it's good for you but why it exactly will benefit them.

Prominent, persuasive, charismatic. Our guest today is largely regarded as one of the most influential psychologists and behavioral scientists of our time.

I love finding the answers to things that I'm curious about. Dr. Robert Chaldini is the best-selling author of Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion, a book that has sold over 5 million copies, been translated into 40 languages, and remains one of the most cited works in both psychology and marketing. Seek not dishonest gains. Dishonest gains are losses.

Today, his research continues to shape how leaders, marketers, and everyday people understand the science and ethics of influence.

Tell me what you're paying attention to, and I'll tell you who you are. All right, guys. Welcome back to the Mellow Millionaire Podcast. Today's an amazing day because I got the one and only Robert Shadini and his wife, Bobette, in the studio. Uh, our guest today is one of the most influential psychologists of our time, Dr. Robert Chadini, the best-selling author of Influence, the psychology of persuasion, a book that sold over five million copies, been translated into 40 languages, and remains one of the most cited works in psychology and marketing.

Today's research continues to shape how leaders, marketers, and everyday people understand the science and the ethics of influence. We've had you on Home Service Expert. I've read your books. I've gone to your seminars. Why don't we just talk a little bit about where you're at today? You know, I know you taught at ASU. What got you so obsessed in the influence game? And uh what are you excited about?

I think that I'm excited about um taking this uh to a broader audience than we have done before. uh making sure that the people who have paid for my research after all with your taxes with your donations to my universities and so you've paid for that research you're entitled to know what I found out about persuasion with your money right so I want to get programs uh available to people to understand the practices and procedures that make people most likely to say yes to us. How you can do it in an efficient and ethical way. Yeah, you've got we've got dynamite and you can you can use dynamite to blow up a bridge. You can do use dynamite to help build a bridge. We're going to be on the building side.

I love it. Let's just start out with what is ethical influence. Let's start there. Ethical influence is the ability to move people in your direction by informing them into yes by educating them into a scent so that they know the value proposition that you offer them that is worthwhile to them but you just haven't known how to properly phrase it or deliver it. It's about the presentation of your case, not the core merits of your case. I can't change that. I can change the way you deliver the merits of your case that makes people psychologically more attracted to it.

It's so much fun because there's a great book by Daniel Pink called The Cell as Human and selling is just normal. Like when you meet your your fiance for the first time or your wife or your husband or you're getting your kids to make their bed, it's like we've got to have persuasion. And it's not a bad thing. You talk about reciprocity, commitment, consistency, social proof, authority, liking, and scarcity.

Yeah. Let's talk. It turns out that we've added one. Yeah. I called unity. And it's about saying yes to people because you feel a sense of togetherness or partnership with them. Not that you necessarily feel similar to them. You feel that you belong together. Let me give you an example from a study that was done because you were just talking about what do you say to somebody you you meet for the first time who is a a a potential uh date or relationship partner or even an existing relationship partner. What do you say when the two of you have a difference of opinion and you just can't get past that issue? It turns out there's this study that was done in Texas where they take people who were together in a relationship for more than uh 2 and 1/2 years.

Okay? And they give them each um they they say we're going to flip a coin. One of you we're going to ask you to persuade the other to come into line with you on a topic that you haven't been able to get resolution on together. Could be religion politics anything.

It could be anything. All right. And then the researchers leave the room and they are listening in and they're watching with through one-way mirrors and they look at what people say to get their partner to say yes to them. And they found three kinds of people. One used coercion. Say if you don't do this for me, you'll be sorry. Not only didn't that work, it moved people in the opposite direction. You can you can you can relate to that, right? any boss who does that to you

because I said so. Yeah. Because right the others were called the rational logical group. They said to their partner, "If you'll just look at this situation, you'll see that um it I have the I have the most rational logical position on this that didn't produce polarization. It just produced laughter."

Yeah. Oh, yeah. Sure. No change at all. And then there was a small group of people only 15% the only ones who got change empathy.

It was it was to say to use the term we and say you know we've been together for two years. I really appre I'd really appreciate if you do this for us. You see what it's not me versus you. It's us. It's weeness. And it's the only ones who changed. Simply using the term we you change the mindset from a a con conflict to collaboration. The only ones who got significant change just use the word we. I'm just trying to think about Bri and when I want to take her out to eat and she doesn't agree is we both like chicken.

I just I'm gonna learn this. There's probably a lot of techniques I could and I'm not trying to manipulate. I'm just trying to like figure the problem is now I'm just like pick three and I'll choose one.

Well, but see here's the brilliance of it. Isn't it true that you you and Bri are a we?

Oh, absolutely. We're a unit. And and what the researchers in this study did was take people away from that. They said, "Focus on this difference between you." And the 15% wouldn't have it. They said, "Nope. What we really are is a unit. I'm going to use the word we. I'm going to focus on the connection, on the togetherness of us. I'm going to bring that to top of consciousness. Not the difference on this one topic. I'm going to say we that's all you just bring to top of consciousness weeness instead of difference.

I love it. Made the difference. I I need to learn how to really implement these. I I understand. So reciprocity we do very good job. Um, reser honesty is pretty simple with respect and like you come in to offer something if you want something in response. Commitment. Let's go over like an example of commitment.

People say yes to those requests that are consistent with what they have already said or done or valued.

Yes. So, here's a here's an example from a restaurant, right? Um, restaurants have a problem with no shows. People who book a table and then they don't appear. All right. So, there's this guy in Chicago, Gordon Sinclair, um, Gordon's restaurant, and he read my book, and he made one change to what his receptionist says when she takes a a booking, right? She used to say, "Please call if you have to change or cancel your reservation." Right? He asked her to add two words and to say, "Will you please call if you have to change or cancel your reservation?"

And then pause. Let them fill it with a commitment to do it. Unannounced no-shows dropped at Gordon's restaurant by 62% that day. and never went back up for two words because they engaged the power, the psychological power of wanting to be consistent with a public commitment that you have made. I love that. You know, are you you familiar with the guy Chris Voss?

Oh, yeah. One of the things he said is instead of asking people, hey, do you got a minute to chat, Robert or Bob?

Yeah. He says, have you given up? Have you g Have you given up on uh looking for a garage? I I just He always wants to get no out of people. Yeah.

To get rid of the no. Get rid of the no. Because not people are really excited to say no.

Then they're committed to saying I haven't given up. So what's the next step? What's what's logically congruent with I haven't given up? Well, brilliant. I I've got a friend who's a

a a Boy Scout leader, right? He's got two kids in the Boy Scout and he sells popcorn outside of uh supermarkets and he sets up a desk and people come out and they uh they sell them popcorn right as they leave. And he said to me, "We're having a terrible time. We're only getting about 15% of the people who come out who want to buy our popcorn." Well, I I can understand why. If you wanted popcorn, you would have bought it in the shop and you already spent your your budget. you're not. So I said, "Well, what do what do you say to them when they approach?" We say, "Excuse me, would you like to buy some popcorn? Uh, it would help the Boy Scouts." We only get 15%. So, try this.

Excuse me, do you support the Boy Scouts? Everybody says yes. And then you say, "Would you like to buy some popcorn?"

Order of operations. And it goes from 15% to 52%. Oh my goodness. And here's the best part of it. People, some people say, "I, you know, I don't really want your popcorn, but I support the Boy Scout, so here's five bucks."

I love that. All right. Social proof. Let's run over that one. That's the one that says people say yes to you if you can show them that a lot of other people like them have been doing what you're recommending them to do. So, like right now, I could pull up a map on my iPad and show you everybody in your neighborhood that's bought a new garage.

That's right. That's a good example. That's exactly right. Or just to say, look, a lot of your neighbors that we have good things to say about us. Now, there's this new product we're getting ready to work with and it says, so you got the options and it's most popular. Top choice. Top choice. And even if you could go further and put 977 customers, authority is pretty simple, but let's just talk about authority. When people are uncertain, they don't look inside of themselves to decide what to do. And a lot of times, people aren't sure they want to move in your direction, right?

But if you give them evidence that um people who are legitimate authorities have praised your product or your approach uh your your business, whatever it is, if you put that at the top of your presentation before they have seen one word of it, they're more likely to say yes because everything they see now is infused with the credibility of the experts who reduce their uncertainty. Oh yeah, if the experts say this is the way to go, then I believe it, then I'm likely to go in that direction.

So selfishly, I'll ask you for gargers. You might put like the property brothers or Mike Row or somebody like somebody that's kind of like blue collar soant.

That's I would say exactly right. Okay. The the experts in that field in that domain. So people say yes to no to those they like. And here's the key to those who like them. That's what gets I've been in a lot of sales training programs and they say the number one rule of sales is get your customer to like you. That works, but it's not the number one rule. Here's the number one rule. Show your customer that you like them.

Yeah. So what I say is there are three things that need to happen. And I coached three hours today on this during orientation. I said, 'N number one, the customer needs to like and trust you, right? I mean, they need to know that you're the expert. Number two, they got to love the company and believe that we're going to back up everything. And number three, they got to feel loved.

They got to feel approved. And the way that we do that is we laugh at their jokes. We take notes when they talk. Simple little things like smiling. When they when they ask a question, you don't respond right away. You internalize it. You know, it's like Dale Carnegie probably said the same thing is like let them talk, take a minute, tell them that was a really great question and actually maybe even ask him another question on a question to like dig in deeper.

That's exactly right. And now there's some new research to show how do you get liking online? Those people don't know you. They don't you can't they're they're not familiar with you. They're

they same thing with TV or radio. Yeah. So, it turns out there's a study that was done that shows that if you have a welcoming statement on your l the landing page of your website, you get significantly more conversions before again before they've ever read a word of your offer or business. You've put them in a state that you approve of them. You've welcomed them and you get significantly more conversion. Isn't it true? Again, it's ethical. Don't you welcome the people who come to your site. Don't you want to you welcome them? Of course. You just didn't say it.

It didn't it didn't go to top of consciousness. Scarcity. People want more of those things they can have less of. Right. Okay. So if you can show people how what you have is unique or uncommon or rare that they can't get it from your rivals. They want it more from you. And sometimes it's not any one thing. And here's what A1 does. You have a combination of strengths that nobody can match. And what you can do is put together that suite of strengths that nobody else can provide. And it's again, it's ethical because it's true. You haven't exaggerated, you haven't manufactured, you haven't counterfeited anything. What do you think is the biggest misconception people have about human behavior?

Um that it's cognitively based rather than emotional. What's one book other than your own that you'd recommend to every high achiever?

Dan Pinks to sell is the human. Okay. What's harder changing minds or changing habits?

Changing habits is harder. Because again, you can change uh you can get people to agree to do something, but that's not the same as getting them to implement that intention or that belief. That's the thing. Get them to engage in a habit that that captures the belief. And that's what you're focused on is implementation. What are some of the steps people take to really instead of understanding and learning how do they apply it? This is what we have learned. Give them small steps because if you give them these big changes that they have to make, it's just sometimes too much. They've busy days, busy schedule. They're not going to change the way that they have been doing things, especially if they've been somewhat successful. What's one thing that never stops surprising you about people from a psychological perspective?

Um, they think that they're that they're less persuadable than they actually are. They think that this wouldn't work on me. Oh yeah, these principles may work on other people, but they wouldn't work on me. And it's just not true. These principles work and the evidence is they work in a general universal way.

So let's go back in time. You're in your 20s. You get to go back and talk to yourself. What's a few pieces of gamechanging advice you would give long young Robert Chadini?

Okay. uh one is a quote from uh Benjamin Franklin who said if you wish to persuade speak not to argument speak to self-interest of the recipient. You have to think you have to now here's where empathy comes in. You have to put yourself in that person's situation. The challenges that person is in at the moment. the circumstances surrounding this thing and you tell them what they will benefit from the exchange with you from being not why it's good for you but why it exactly will benefit them and the things like scarcity you know uniqueness that you can only provide and and so on and dealing with somebody they like and who likes them those are exactly the kinds of things you can say that aren't just oh you're going to save money here. No, you're going to get a partner who like who likes you. You're going to get a a set of strengths that you can't get any.

Those are the kinds of So that's one thing I would I would say to myself from 20. And here's the other one. People don't sink the boats they're riding in. And your job as a communicator is to put the recipient in your boat with you. Here's what Warren Buffett does on every letter to his shareholders. He first mentions something that went wrong that year and he establishes his credibility as being an honest broker of information to them. And then he says, "But or however ornone." And then he goes into the strengths.

I've been getting these. And I'm telling you, it works on me every time because now I'm I'm I'm processing the strengths differently than before because I know they're coming from an honest person who's willing to talk not just about the strengths, but the weaknesses and then give me evidence that wipes out the weaknesses. Here are the strengths, right? that just

Well, plus there's the idea that your $75,000 share is now in almost $800,000 over TEDx.

That's right. But I'm telling you that that man is brilliant. He is brilliant. So, I wouldn't I wouldn't mind uh having people say, you know, um we're not the least expensive in the FE in here in town or in our industry, but Right. Do you know what um L'Oreal uh cosmetics had a marketing campaign that said, "We're expensive, but you're worth it."

Yeah. Yeah. Increased market share by 300%. Oh wow. Bring down the barrier of um doubt. Am I should I believe this person? You tell them something that is true but may not be all that great. That you're you're not the least expensive. But but here's here's what wipes out that because you're worth it. Oh, and I should tell you that uh the first u version of that that ad uh was we're expensive, but we're worth it. And it didn't work. your make it possess make it about them make it about self-interest you'd done something with Charlie Mer Warren Buffett and Birkshshire and I love that story and I think you own a little bit of Birkshshire Haway can you tell that story 25 years ago I went to my mailbox and there's an envelope legal size envelope and I opened it up and it's a single share it's on paper back in two 25 years ago. That's they were, you know, they weren't just digitally sent to you. There's a single share of

Birkshire Hathaway a stock and it's worth $75,000 and there's a note attached from Charlie Mer who is, you know, was renowned as the brains of Bergkshire Hathway. And that's a high bar because Warren Buffett is the other guy at the top. And and the note from Charlie says, "The first chapter in your book influence is about the rule for reciprocation that we are obligated to give back to others who have given value to us. We have made so much money from your book that you're entitled to this $75,000. Okay. And I was in a I was in a a a chair with with wheels on it. I read that and I I shock I it knocked me back in my chair and I rolled into the wall behind me.

It's now worth $735,000 for one share because Buffett and Munger, they're amazing financial investors. And I just held it because hey, that's from Charlie Munger.

That is so cool. The late Charlie Mer. The late Charlie, he died one month before his 100th birthday. Bob Ed and I were were planning to go to his birthday party. Um, and we had our tickets and we had our hotel and then he he passed. And so, um, it was a it was a tragedy.

I love reading their books. I just think this is a cool story about the how waiters and waitresses can earn 23% by using the law of reciprocation. It's a cool story.

Yeah. Uh, and again, research is not just my hunch or speculation. If if a waiter comes to the table with a you know the bill on a tray, that's the control group. All right. How much do they tip? If the waiter puts a single mint, tips go up 13%. If the waiter puts two mints on the tray for each diner and they say two relate two for us two, they go up 17%. If the waiter puts one on the tray and walks away and then turns around and comes back and uses approval and says, "You know what? for you nice people because you've been such good guests.

Gives them liking, right? And puts the second mint down in front of them. The tip goes up 23%. Right? So, he's got reciprocity and liking in that combined and you get these gangbuster results. I actually want to ask you this to poke some holes in it. So, we've got some things that are high value, low cost, like a search protector and a magnetic deco hardware kit. And so, me and Luke have been talking about this and saying, "Look, Bob, you've been a great client of ours. Second time we've come out here. I want you to pick whichever one you think would be the highest value because you've been such a great client." And then, um, walk out to the truck and grab it. And, you know, we've been thinking about this, but we'd like to give you both. I want would that that would

I just I want to make sure. Wow. Right. Wow. That's great. Social proof is everywhere. Reviews, likes, followers, you know, it's everywhere now. Do you think the modern obsession with metrics strengthens or distorts the original psychology behind customer decisions?

Provided it's ethical, provided it's honest, it strengthens them. But here's the study again. Wall's talking about a study. So if you wrote if you have uh let's say 90% of um of dentists uh approve of our toothpaste, right? If instead you said 89% you get more conversions because you've shown them you're honest and it's up there at 80. It's still up there like this. What you have to be sure of is that you don't because you know the worst was nine out of 10. That just sounds like you pulled that off the top of your head

or what would even be better is 89.2%. Exactly. They I mean they know remember in in in school you're uh like a math teacher said don't just give me the answer show your work.

Yeah. If you've got 82 89.2 Do you did your work to find the real statistics? They're going to honest. You're going to they're going to see your honesty. Yeah. No, I love the idea. They just came out with a study that the garage door improves your home's value by 260%.

Yeah. Not just almost 290%. No, 268. And what we're going to do, check this out. I think this is the coolest thing. Right at the end, whatever door you go, it's going to show your house on Zillow before and after.

Wow. Which is, I think, a pretty good idea cuz it's an investment into your home. Wall Street Journal just came out and said, "Before you think about remodeling your bathrooms, it might not be worth it, but your garage door is."

You know what, Tommy? You're interviewing me, but I learn from you in these interviews, too.

No, I Oh, absolutely. You know, a lot of times people will say, "Wow, that's more than I thought it was going to be." And a lot of times I tell the guys say, "Yeah, it's an investment."

Because, yeah, because you're worth it. Uh, I want to do a real life demonstration of your methods of influence in real time. And so, and listen, I don't mean to put you on the spot. If this doesn't go well, we we could try something else. But try to convince me not to read your book. Do it in a way that actually makes me want to read it. Okay. You know, um that book is um is written for an an audience of intelligent lay people, people who are not trained in psychology, but who are interested in psychology. So, if you're not interested in the psychology, I don't want you reading it. I don't want you wasting your time on uh persuasion if that's not important to you.

That's really good. This is a personal question. So, you know, the first four letters of culture are cult. And a cults, it's a bad word, I guess, but call it a team. And you're getting people aligned. You could call it a brotherhood or a sisterhood. you know, we have going on 900 people here and I believe I want the best things. I want to take care of our clients. More importantly, I want to take care of the people, but I need them to believe and I need them to know they're doing the right thing for the client. But some of them think that's a lot of money, yet they live in an apartment and on a pair of Jordans and a Nike t-shirt that cost $300. But what would be the best way to create that community? Put them in the boat with you. Put them in the boat

with you and show them the unity, the togetherness, the partnership, the value, and the self-interest of being in that strong, speedy, powerful boat with you. People don't sink the boats they're riding in. So, there's a book called Driven. This is a personal question. It's like you reach the pinnacle of success. could be faith, could be family, could be could be physical, you know, could be even financially, but the goalpost always moves. And um I'm just curious from your point of view, I'm sure you've seen these people. I mean, you might, you know, you still go to ASU, you still do massive research and and you know, I just I I've never felt this feeling like I've arrived. And I think there's a lot of people out there that feel the same way. And we're more prone to be called dyslexic or ADHD and everything else.

But yet Einstein was dyslexic and probably considered ADHD. And you you've met these people.

Sure. And so what do you tell them? What what are I value them? I value their their uh differentiation from the n other 95%. But I'll tell you something that I think they need to understand that makes it okay to be that driven person. Go. I'm gonna go back to Charlie Mer. He was a capitalist to the bone, right? But he was what I'll call an inclusive capitalist. He said to me once, "The purpose of accumulating wealth is to be in a position to help people who are in peril."

Yeah. Well, that's I think the Bible says that, too. Yeah. and and you so now you've got the resources to do that to help in a broader way and you don't have to blame yourself for collecting those that that wealth for accumulating that wealth because it's put you in a position to be a helper. I love that. You know, one of the things we've always said is you can't take it with you, right? U two more questions. Do you have any habits that have changed your life?

Yeah. Research. Here's the one that that has worked for me all the the most I would say in terms of pushing me ahead and that is when I have uh some task that I'm that is arduous or negative or bother you know it's just not a a a fun thing to do. I get rid of it by getting done with it. I don't procrastinate by diverting myself or displacing myself from that task. I mean, I I don't do that. I get through it and that makes it go away rather than putting my mind on something else.

Yeah. All right. Last thing, then we'll get out of here and go to dinner. Um, when's the last time someone changed your mind about something and persuaded you?

It was um Babette and I saw uh a movie together and then we talked and I didn't like it and then we talked about it and she started bringing up things I didn't even see and I went from negative to wanting to see it again. What movie?

It was called um Anatomy of a Fall. Yeah. Well, listen, you've got so much going on. You know, what are you excited about here in the next few months going into the next year? We've got a program coming up in December that I'm really uh excited about uh where uh we're going to bring in a very small number of people, only 75 people, and really focus on moving them from a level of understanding of the principles of influence to a level of knowing how to apply them. I I for I'm I'm sending I'm sending a couple guys. So, we're we'll send that up. Um well, listen, I'll give you the final thoughts, close us out. I can't be at this event. It's December 5th and 6th, but I'm going to have a couple people there on my team. So, um yeah, give us some final thoughts. I'll let you close us out.

Here's what I'm going to my final thoughts. Select the right people for that event. the people who can articulate what they learned not just to you but to their peers. All right, I'm on it. I've been to a lot of his seminars. If you want to catch him, there's only 75 seats. It's December 5th and 6th. It's called Influence Unleashed and uh it's going to be in Tempe at the Mr. Joe Polish, one of the best networkers of all time. And if you want to save some money, there's $500 off any ticket. It's just A1 Garage Capital letters. I'm not making any money. I'm not an affiliate here. I just support this guy and his wife Bobette that's sitting back there. Uh what do you want to tell us real quick, Robert? What can they expect from this event? I don't know if any uh of your listeners uh viewers are sports fans, but it I've never tired of seeing after a loss coaches or uh players saying we had this

great game plan and everybody understood it but we didn't execute it. This event is about executing the practice of influence. It's not about just understanding those principles and practices and techniques that move people toward yes. It's about moving to their implementation and focusing on that that link. And we're going to spend a couple of days uh drilling down on how you uh how you do it. Not just uh what the principles are, but how how you uh make them work for you.

I love it. Listen guys, December 5th and 6th in Tempe, Arizona. This is a do not want to miss limited seats, 75 seats. Well, listen, Bob, as always, it's a pleasure to have you. Always inspired, excited, kind of just giggle to myself like cuz these things are they're simple, but they're they hard. You just got to do a little bit of the work. And I like the bite sizes. Yeah, I like that idea because you read the book and you're like, there's a million things to do, but just get a couple right and then watch it work and then you're a believer for life. So, thanks again for being here and thank you, Bobette.

I enjoyed it, Tommy. Yeah, it's always fun. Thanks so much for listening to this episode. Like always, we're going to close it out with the Tommy truth, which is a little slice of wisdom from me to you that can help guide you in whatever you're striving towards right now. A $3 cup of coffee can lead to a $250 million company in revenue. So, I read this book called The Influence by Robert Shadini. He also wrote a book called Persuasion. And what we learned is there's seven ways to influence people's outcome. And one of my favorite ones is the law of reciprocity because it works in every single country, every ethnicity, every language. When somebody does something for you, you want to do something back.

Even if you bring the dog a bone, it goes a mile with clients. A1 this year will do north of $250 million in revenue. A part of that success comes from one other tactic. Our texts call the customer on the way and say, "I'm stopping for coffee. Can I grab something for you on the way?" Think about that. It's unexpected. It's thoughtful and it starts the relationship off on the right foot. That's the principle of reciprocity in action, my friends. And that's it, guys. We'll talk to you next week.

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Who speaks in "How To Earn Trust and Influence According to Renowned Psychologist Robert Cialdini"?

Tommy Mello (Host), Dr. Robert Cialdini (Guest), Bobette Cialdini (Guest).

What is "How To Earn Trust and Influence According to Renowned Psychologist Robert Cialdini" about?

Dr. Robert Cialdini, a renowned psychologist and author of the best-selling book *Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion*, explores the ethical foundations of persuasive techniques, emphasizing the importance of addressing the self-interests of others to foster trust and mutual benefit in any exchange. His research offers valuable insights for leaders, marketers, and individuals seeking to…

What is mentioned in this Tommy Mello episode?

3 people, works and ideas are mentioned, including Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion, Berkshire Hathaway, Influence Unleashed. Each one on this page links to its own page with every episode that mentions it.

How long is "How To Earn Trust and Influence According to Renowned Psychologist Robert Cialdini"?

The episode runs 39 min; the transcript is about 6,034 words in 79 timestamped sections.

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About this transcript: the episode's spoken words as captioned on YouTube, split into timestamped sections. Reclip.Me locates every person, work and idea in the text, keeps the time it is first named, and quotes the words around it verbatim. Last updated January 24, 2026.