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Unique Experiences || Reddit Stories! || Two Hot Takes Podcast

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This is the full, timestamped transcript of "Unique Experiences || Reddit Stories! || Two Hot Takes Podcast", an episode of Two Hot Takes published November 13, 2025 (1 h 50 min, about 20,773 words). It mentions 3 people, works and ideas, including Rice Purity Test.

What this episode is about

The discussion revolves around unusual and spooky experiences, particularly focusing on a haunted monkey named Gordy that seems to cause technological glitches and strange occurrences in the lives of those who encounter it. The hosts explore themes of supernatural events and their willingness to visit haunted locations in a group setting for support against potential hauntings.

Key takeaways

  • In today's tech age, even monkeys can disrupt our digital lives - watch out for Gordy!
  • Haunted houses may be man-made, but the fear they evoke is eerily authentic.
  • Unique experiences? Everyone thinks they’re special until you realize you've just met 20 others with the same tale!
  • When mixing spooky and cheerful, remember: it's all about finding balance between ghosts and holiday cheer.
  • Topless photos for science? Just another Monday in the bizarre world of workplace encounters.

Who speaks in this episode?

  • Michaela (Guest) · 55 min speaking
  • Kayn (Guest) · 55 min speaking

What is discussed, and when

  1. – 10:00: Ali
  2. – 30:00: Talkspace
  3. – 50:00: Rice Purity Test

Notable quotes from "Unique Experiences || Reddit Stories! || Two Hot Takes Podcast"

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Who and what is mentioned in this episode?

Products & tech

  • Rice Purity Test — Product · Referenced work · 2 mentions · first at
    Mentioned in the context of a story about a boyfriend's mom giving a purity test at family dinner.

Sponsors

  • Talkspace — Product · Sponsor · 3 mentions · first at
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Full transcript with timestamps

Okay. All the lights are off. We're recording on everything. Is, that, recording, even?, Also,

it, is. Okay. And, we, have, dual, slots, today., Dual, slot memory cards. So, um yeah, we're not taking any chances.

It's, not, going, to, get, us, this, time. Not, taking, any, card. Yeah., Wow., I've, like, technology. Ever since Kayn's little haunted monkey came here, I've had some technology glitches.

Ever, since, Kayn's, little, haunted, monkey came here. Yeah,, Kayn, has, a, haunted, monkey, named Gordy.

Okay. And, she, made, a, joke, and, she's, like,, he just like is really weird around technology. And ever since then, I've had like weird tech issues. And I'm just like, it's that damn monkey.

Gordy. Gordy. Why, would, he, do, Is, he, gone, now? Yeah., Yeah,, he's, gone. But, he, left, his, mark.

He, went, back, to, their, house., Yeah. Yeah, we talked about him a little bit on the spooky episode and she brought him into her house and then she heard like running around upstairs and she's like, "Oh, my dog must have got out of his kennel." Dog was in the kennel. Like it was the monkey.

That's, so, funny., Also, then, to, bring, the little monkey here like, "Hey, this is my little monkey that [ __ ] everything up." She loves that spooky [ __ ] She's so into it. She wants to go to all the haunted houses. I've decided I can do a haunted house if I do it as like a tht meetup. If there's like 20 of us

then, my, odds, of, the, ghost, going, home with me are a lot better. Going, home, with, you?

Yeah. At, the, haunted, house. I, don't, want, anything, to, attach, to, me. But, at, the, haunted, houses,, like, isn't that all man-made stuff?

Oh,, no., I'm, talking, like, the, real, spooky places. Yeah,, that's, not, for, me., That's, not, for me.

Yeah,, I'm, going, to, give, it, a, go., Yeah, I'm going to give it a go. But I'm going to have all of you there with me.

It's, over. It, is., It's, time, for, great, cheer, and Mary. Well, that is not what we have on this episode. So, maybe next week we'll circle back to uh merry and cheerful. I am going to do like a crazy holiday episode and do like bad horrible horrendous family.

Yeah. Happy, feelood, Christmas., Bad, horrible. Oo,, feel, okay, Christmas. Okay,

so, that's, my, my, sandwich. I, love, that., I, love, it, when, we, get, both.

A, little, best, of, both, worlds., We, had, we had like a really sad or scary or bad episode one time. Well, the episode wasn't like the stories and then you ended it with like a really happy one and I was like, "Oh my god

just, changed, everything., I'm, going, to walk out here a happy woman." That's, why, we, we, aimed, to, kind, of, please over here. But today's episode really wild. Uh Michaela came up with this theme of unique experiences. just experiences that are unusual and out of the realm and kind of like wow thought I've heard it all but that's still a little little unique. Yeah. I feel like it started on Twitter of like nobody's ever had an entirely unique experience and then sometimes you hear a story where you're like maybe that is an entirely unique experience or like a sentence that you're like oh that's never been said before ever. Yeah you'll see it in the comments on TikTok videos where you're like, "Oh my god finally a unique experience and it's just the most like insane situation."

So, I don't want to hype them up too much in case you guys are like, "Yeah know they suck." But I think they should be pretty good.

Yeah., And, if, you, can, actually, relate, to one of these experiences that we think should be a unique experience, let us know cuz I'm I'm very curious.

And, put, yours, in, the, comments. Yes. I, love, seeing, the, personal, ones., If, you have a personal one and you're like "Okay, I'll throw it out there now." like your I don't know your boyfriend ended up hooking up with your brother at a bar in Ireland. I don't I don't know something crazy

that, can't, be, unique., That's, definitely happened, to, at least, 20, people.

20, I, guess, out, of, the, bill, 8, billion, or whatever we're at. Yeah. Okay. Okay. But put in the comments and without further ado, let's dive in. This episode of Two Out Takes is presented by Ali. Women always come first with Ali. That's why they made Love and Libido, a supplement that helps take the pressure off so you can enjoy yourself and sex again. Be a little self- serving and get Love and Lobido at a retailer near you or aliy.com so you can get yours. That's olly.com and use code tht30 for 30% off at ali.com.

Okay,, this, first, one,, this, is, coming from ask a manager which is like this blog website where you can write into this manager Allison who's just like HR manager expert and she'll give you a response back. So, this is actually coming from there and the title is, "My coworker asked me to pose topless for an anatomy textbook."

Okay., I, work, part-time, in, a, small, sales office of about 10 people. About a month ago, one of my co-workers approached me about doing a project for his graduate program at a local university. It was for some sort of anatomy textbook or similar. It would be a photo of my breast with my face not in the photo for the textbook. I would be compensated for the photos. There were some red flags in his proposition. The photos would be taken by him in my home and he never presented me with official paperwork about it. I called the university and they assured me that whatever project he was working on was not through their university as there would have been extensive paperwork screening photos professionally taken etc which was what I had figured in the first place particularly for such a large university and for a master's program. My question is is this a matter that I should bring up to my boss? Is this something that

she needs to know about? Yes., Yes,, your, boss, needs, to, know, about that. This, is, such, an, elaborate, plan, to, just get pictures of a woman's boobs. Like oh my god

sir. It's, for, an, anatomy, textbook. Come, on. Okay,, then, where's, the, studio?, Where's, a professional photographer? Like, why would you choose me? Why? Like, why would this not go through some kind of blind like audition? I don't like I don't know how you actually choose a model for a textbook, but it's not that co-orker is someone I'd like to see the boobs of.

I, feel, like, people, sign, up, to, be, models. Yeah. Like they put themselves out there or go to casting calls. It's not like

totally. Oh,, this, random, person, I, work, with, in, my small sales office of 10 people also has a job shooting for anatomy textbooks

right?, Like, textbooks, are, professionally done. Like I would imagine that whoever is doing the textbook is like an actual professional photographer. Not like not like this is some side gig

and, it, wouldn't, be, at, your, house., It would be at, your, house., No., No., This, is, so, weird. Like either way, even if he did have a textbook that he was shooting for, it is still inappropriate to ask your coworker. Yeah. Ask Ask anyone else. Put out an open casting call as you're meant to do it. By asking your coworker, I think it's even creepier because it it also illustrates he's been checking her out. He's creating this elaborate excuse in order to see her boobs.

Yes., And, it's, like,, okay,, so, you, have, a textbook of you're going to shoot someone's

breasts, and, then, you're, thinking,, "Oh, who would be perfect for this?" Oh, that woman I work with, she would be perfect. Like, why are you thinking of me that way?

He, just, wants, to, see, her, boobs., He's been like how many months of them working together and now he's like, "Oh, this is a great in. I'm going to create this elaborate story about a textbook." And then I'm going to say, "Let's shoot it at your house so I know where she lives." How did he even Yeah. at her? Like that's so dangerous. He She definitely needs to tell the manager.

HR, needs, to, know, stat because, this, is, ridiculous., And, then yeah, the university being like, "That's not even a thing." last straw.

Yeah., No,, the, university, proved, they're moving it. If there were even more straws to be had, that's the last

I, think., Yeah., Camel's, back, is, already broken. So, on the original thread with Allison, here is her response back.

Mhm. Um,, and, it, was, kind, of, like, directed towards like my question is this, is this a matter that I should bring up to my boss? Is this something that she needs to know? And Allison goes, "Wo yes, absolutely. Today, your coworker is trying to prey on colleagues to take topless photos of them under false pretenses. Tell your boss, tell HR, tell other women. Frankly, even if his story were true, which it's not, it would have been really inappropriate for him to approach you, a coworker, about this.

That's, not, how, anatomy, photos, in textbooks work. This guy is a creep, and your employer needs to know.

Yeah,, a, thousand%., And, I, wonder, if, when she called the university if the university was also like like did they have any internal conversations about that?

I, don't know, cuz, who, knows, if, he's, even a student there. Yeah., Like, I, don't, understand.

He's, a, busy, guy., He's, got, a, lot, going on. He's and, that's, Yeah., I, do, not, understand this dude's story. is getting a master's. Was it his master's program

apparently, and, works, in, a, sales, office and, is, making, a, textbook, as, part, of, the master's program.

Yeah, it's, very, fishy. Yeah, we, do, get, an, update. Oo,, this, is, coming, 11, days, later, and, OP says this. I have to admit that I didn't wait until I read your reply. I wrote the email to you on a night when both my boss and the co-orker in question were not in the office, but my boss was in the next day and I went in early and told her everything. The coworker in question was immediately terminated. I wrote a report for HR, so he is considered nonrehable for any future campaigns. His desk was packed while I was writing my report to HR. And by the time I returned to the floor, someone else had even taken his desk.

Wow. They, moved, fast. I love this response. Love this response. It, was, kind, of, emotionally, taxing, for, me to respond to comments, so I didn't, but I did read most of them. Our office is incredibly lax compared to most people's, I would imagine, and my background is mostly in food service. So, I was honestly very surprised at how many people had chimed in with, "This is incredibly inappropriate of your coworker to approach you about." I think when one is used to inappropriate work environments, these sort of interactions don't expressly present themselves as immediately inappropriate, if that makes sense.

Yeah,, I, I, mean, that, does, make, sense., I think it's very normal to like wonder if you're overreacting when you're the one in the situation and it's a lot easier to be like, "No, that's crazy." and not okay when you are not in that situation. I mean, I've definitely had like when she says that, I think of my jobs in like nightlife, food service, too. Like I did bottle service. Like the people the people I worked with made comments all the cuz like it's about like how you look to some extent. So obviously there's like not really as much of a line there about comments people make about you. But then it's still like even in a situation like that, there are things that are like okay.

Yeah., And, it's, easy, to, just, like question it when you're in it. You're like, "Yeah, whatever. I'm used to it or it's not that weird. Like you kind of just like convince yourself because also you need to work

right? She, does, go, on, to, say, in, regards, to, a certain comment thread, yes, I was concerned about retaliation. This coworker was not only a former Marine but a knife fighting instructor.

What, the, See, sorry. This, makes, no, sense., Why? Completely, unique, experience.

Like, what, the, [ __ ], But, as, other, people have commented, I think women in general are concerned about retaliation in our everyday lives, not just when someone we know is harassing us. At the end of the day, this clown couldn't even put any damn effort into making his sleazy scheme smack of the official. So, I think he is not likely to put any extra effort into tracking me down over his part-time job. But I am walking accompanied to transit every night regardless. Thanks so much for your advice. I do really appreciate it and I appreciate everyone's comments. I hope that anyone who reads your site knows that they should feel comfortable reporting harassment when they experience it. I am grateful that in this case, things were dealt with very swiftly and justly because I know that isn't always the case. Yeah. I mean hey, if any of you have had a knife fighting instructor who's in a master's

program and works with you tell you they'd like to take pictures of you topless for their anatomy textbook, let us know. You know, if you know a friend who's that tab happened to, if you know like, hey, hit us up because that's unique. I'm curious. There's no way.

That's, crazy., Well,, it's, also, like, okay, I when people start lying about stuff, then I'm like, I don't believe anything. I'm like, was he a marine? Was he a knife fighting instructor? Is that like a common thing?

I've, Well,, I've, certainly, never, heard, of it, but they got to be out there.

Andy's, a, photographer, for, anatomy textbooks. Andy's getting his masters. and he works here. I think he's not a photographer for an an Well, he's definitely not a photographer for an anatomy textbook, but I think I think he was maybe saying he was making an anatomy textbook as part of his master's program.

H, But, then, I'm, like,, is, he, even, in, a master's program? No,, I, don't, know., And, also,, yeah,, maybe he was lying about being a knife fighting instructor because that sounds like like a I'm a I'm a knife fighting instructor. You don't want to mess with me.

It, does., It, sounds, fake,, but, like, we're going to, have, knife, fighting, instructors out there be like, "It's a real job Morgan." Well, it probably is. And I could see like someone who is a Marine go into that. But where does he find the time?

Lot, of, lot, of, things, going, on. Where, does, he, find, the, time? Lot, of, things, going, on.

He's, got, more, time, now., He, lost, his, job. So, he, did, he, did, lose, that, job., Um hopefully he stays away from that job

and, the, women, op, work, there., Yeah., I just don't know why there needs to be better social skills for people. They need to stop men. They they need to stop falling into like toxic online rhetoric cuz it's like if you were just like a decent guy and like you want to see some boobs. If you just kindly asked people to go on dates and started to, you know maybe get interested in someone and courted them, you could see boobs probably a lot easier than this. Sure. Sure. But you don't get to just see whoever's boobs you want to see. that like that's just not how it works. And that is not the case. You can see boobs

but, you, either, have, to, look, them, up, or, you know, get into a relationship with somebody or have a consensual experience with somebody where you're both signing up for an experience that you are aware is the experience you're having instead of a fake experience you've con conjected conjected created. Something like that.

Something, like, that., Uh-huh., Okay. Moving on. Next. Oh, there you go. This next one we have is coming from the Ask Aubrey Instagram account. I actually have two coming from her.

I've, since, tried, to, find, both, of, them, on Reddit. I cannot. So, I don't know where Ask Aubrey is finding them. There's one I've seen on her page that I was able to go find and it's on the two hot takes subreddit. I think because I'm a moderator, like I can see any post and also it hasn't been removed from my sub.

But, I, think, on, the, other, stories, I, have from her, I think they were removed from whatever sub they were posted in. It's so hard to find posts on Reddit if like I that happens to me on Twitter.

Yeah,, you, sent, me, one, from, Twitter. Yeah., Like, I'll, find, a, po, like, a, Reddit post on Twitter and then I'll try to actually find it on Reddit and it's like impossible somehow.

I, know., If, you, don't, catch, it, quick enough and it gets removed there's really no way of getting it back. Like you'll have the screenshots and you'll be able to see, but for this one

and, the, next, one,, we, obviously, won't have any comments. Wow. Yeah, Instagram, comments.

We, do., We, have, some, Instagram, comments. We can read those. That'll kind of maybe satiate our our craving for a comment.

Okay,, here, is, the, first, one. My, boyfriend's, joke, at, dinner, made, me realize he's been lying about his job for eight months. I, 27 female, have been dating Ryan, 29, male, for about a year and a half. He told me from the start that he works in pharmaceutical sales. Makes decent money, travels sometimes for conferences, the whole thing. I never had a reason to question it. Last night, we went to dinner with my parents in Austin, where I'm from. My dad, 61 male, is a retired pharmacist and he was asking Ryan about his work which pharma company, what drugs he specializes in, that kind of thing.

Normal conversation. Ryan got really vague, like weirdly vague. Kept redirecting when my dad asked what his territory was and Ryan said, quote, "Oh, you know, central region mostly." And my dad was like "So, Oklahoma, Kansas?" And Ryan literally said, "Yeah, and other places. It's pretty fluid." Then my dad mentioned some new medication that just got approved. And Ryan had no idea what he was talking about. My dad looked confused, but moved on. Here's where it got weird. We're in the car after, and I'm like, quote, "That was awkward. You seemed really uncomfortable." And Ryan laughs and goes, "Yeah, your dad almost caught me." I was like, "What?" And he says, "I don't actually work in pharma sales, babe. I'm a grocery store manager. I manage the Whole Foods on Lamar." I literally just stared at him.

He kept talking like this was funny. Said he told me pharma sales when we first met because it sounded better. And then it became this thing where he couldn't figure out how to tell me the truth, so he just kept going with it. 8 months. He's been lying for 8 months since like March. I asked why he lied about traveling for conferences and he said he was actually doing training sessions for new hires at other Whole Foods locations. The late nights were just him closing the store. He genuinely seemed to think this was like a cute confession. like I'd laugh about it. He was smiling and said, "Come on, it's not that big of a deal. I still make good money." I told him to take me home and I haven't really talked to him since last night. He's been texting saying I'm overreacting and it was just small lies that got out of hand. My best friend says I should dump him immediately. My sister thinks I should hear him out

because everyone lies a little when dating. But I keep thinking, what else has he lied about? And why did he think pharmaceutical sales sounded better than store manager? There's nothing wrong with managing a grocery store. The lying is what's weird. Am I overreacting or is this as big of a red flag as it feels? This is a crazy red flag. And also like the way that he confessed to it is crazy. Oh, he almost caught me. Haha. Like she's in on the joke.

Yeah. She, has, no, idea., like, you're, about, to tell me something that like completely changes like now I have to think about yeah the late nights that you had and the conferences you went to like this isn't just some small little thing and for someone to be able to have such an elaborate lie to you for 8 months it would still be bad if he apologized and was like okay I have to tell you something like this has gotten out of hand and I'm so sorry for misleading you even if he'd had like a very genuine real apology like that it still would be concerning but he didn't even do that.

Didn't, No,, that's, a, really, good, point. I, I, don't, like, this., Like, I, I, do, think that lying is like to this extent it's something that with practice you get better at and you get more comfortable with it and you feel less bad about doing it and you feel like it's less of a big deal. And for him to be like so just in the zone with this, it does concern me for the future. It really does because for me, I look at this and it's like I think the response really shows something scary.

It, just, feels, like, really, manipulative and not necessarily gaslighting in that way, but it it feels like such a toxic thing where it's just like, "Oh, he almost caught me. Haha. Not that big of a deal." It I just I don't know. It's small thing. Small thing, babe.

The, response, is, concerning. But, beyond, that,, he, lied, not, once,, not twice. He has been lying consistently for months. They've been together a year and a half. She said like he's been lying about this for eight months. I don't know if this was a new job that he then, was, lying, about., I, don't know., But

he's, lied, to, you, multiple, times. Oh,, I'm, working, late, tonight., Got, to take a doctor out to dinner.

Yeah. He's, at, the, store., So,, if, he's, so comfortable lying again and again and again to you.

Mhm. He's, going, to, keep, lying., I, also, think it's just like how do you trust anything going forward when he's like, "Yeah, I'm going out to dinner with some buddies.

How, do, I, know, that, you, were, so, easily and capable of lying in the past about everything that like I don't have any faith or trust in you now?"

Yeah. Like, you, would, never, have, trust, issues. Yeah., And, it's, like he's, clearly, able, to, hide, [ __ ]

Yeah., Like, I, just, think, someone, like this that's so deceptive you can't be with. Like he needs to go start fresh with someone else. It's not you. This is absolutely crazy to lie like this for so long.

Yeah., And, I, think, you, touched, on, this with the gaslighting thing. I always like

the, way, that, people, fight, or, the, way people confess things or like the way that they show up to tough conversations I think says a lot. And this gives me the impression that like when he does something wrong, he will always minimize it. He will always laugh it off. He'll always act like you're overreacting like you're crazy for feeling the way you do. And I I don't like how that will continue to show up in everything that they have in the future. I mean, they're only a year and a half in. Like sometimes these things don't even show up for the first year and a half. Like imagine you have kids one day, you get married one day. Like all of these different things happen and now the stakes are higher and he's still like minimizing his wrongdoings and acting like you're crazy. You lied for eight months about your job. My dad has the job that you're lying about having. Like that also puts her in an uncomfortable

position because now she has to tell her family. Oh, my, god., Her, dad's, a, pharmacist., An old pharmacist. Like out of all the jobs you could have picked, why that one? I also wonder if that had something to do with her dad being a pharmacist. If he was like trying to impress her because it's like your dad's a pharmacist. Hey I'm a drug rep. Like I make good money.

It, was, either, that, or, it, was, his nightmare scenario of oh [ __ ] her dad is what I'm pretending to be and now I'm going to have to like lie harder. So weird. So break up with him. It's scary. the top comment on the Instagram post. And when she does dump him for lying and being untrustworthy, he'll be like, "I can't believe she dumped me because I work at Whole Foods."

Yep. It's, like,, it's, not, that., It's, quite literally not that. These, freaking, gold, diggers,, man.

She, wouldn't, have, cared. You, lied, repeatedly, again, and, again., Not just one lie, but dozens, maybe hundreds if you've been together that long and you're have enough cravings and working late that many times. Like it could be hundreds of lies.

It's, so, true., He, might, take, that, as, the lesson from this if she dumps him. Like oh, it was because of my job and not because of all of these extremely valid red flags and things that he did wrong. He is completely untrustworthy. There's no integrity there. There's no sense of ever being able to have faith in him going forward to tell you the truth.

Like I, also, think, at, a, bare, minimum, too,, I don't think he respects you. If he's willing to lie to you like that again and again and again

I, don't, think, someone, like, that, respects you. And, without, respect, in, a, relationship, like

you're, a, mat, they'll, walk, over. Yeah., like, they'll, do, whatever, they, want to do to get their way and make sure that their self is served. Especially if they've already gotten away with something like this and you're fine with it.

It's, crazy,, dude., This, is, crazy., The more I'm like I just I hate when people lie like this.

Like, I, understand being insecure about a job and like the urge to buff it up and, you know, make yourself sound more impressive. But like again, lying to a woman, lying to anybody about what you do for work so that they will sleep with you and date you, like that already is not okay.

Even, if, it, just, happens, once,, like, for, a one night stand, it's still like you're misrepresenting who you are and lying about your identity.

So, to, do, that, for, eight, months. Yeah., Yeah., It, just, Yeah. I, hate, it.

Did, I, reply, to, any Hate, it. Oh,, it's Nope., No,, we, got, no, replies., Wow.

We, don't, know, what's, happening. Any, other, comments, that, are, speaking, to you?

Nothing, that's, uh, worth, writing, home about. I mean, people are just like "Yeah, he's untrustworthy. He lied about something so unnecessary to lie about in the first place and then maintain that lie for over a year."

You, seeing, anyone, else, take, the, other other viewpoint? No. Wow., Okay., I, like, to, see, it., We're, in agreement.

I, love, it, when, we're, in, agreement. Yeah., Sometimes, I, have, an, opinion, and then I hear what the actual thoughts are and I shocked Pikachu face. I'm like I can't imag I can't believe it.

I, know., I, always, get, a, little, concerned for humanity based on some of the the votes on some of the posts but then I'm like I don't know. Everyone's responding with their own experiences and

yeah, teach, you, know, do, your, own, thing. Yeah. But, moving, on, to, uh, this, next, one., Story number three for us.

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Oh, wow., Okay, maybe, this, is, coming, from, r/ relationship advice. It's titled, "My 18 female boyfriend and his friends, 18, 19 male, played a viciously cruel prank on an older couple who lost their cat." Obviously, I'm breaking up with him, but what else can I do to make this right when it's like an older couple, I just like that's where I get too upset. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year. We are both honor students who are graduating in about a month. He's a good guy and we were going to try to make it work even though we are going to different outofstate schools. However he has a group of friends and when he's with them, he does very stupid things.

He was out with them last night and called me and told me he was at Purple Heart Park and if I wanted to come, I could come and see them. I live about a block away in Rita, so I told my parents and they were fine with me going. When I got there, they were like rolling on the ground. They were laughing so hard. I asked them what was so funny and they wouldn't say. Then one pointed to an older couple who was walking around with a flashlight calling the obvious name of a pet. I could not figure out what was so funny about that, but as the couple came closer to us, they said we needed to leave. When we got into my boyfriend's car, they absolutely lost it with laughter. I asked them what happened and maybe 30 minutes prior, one of them had spotted a missing cat poster and called the number and lied and told the owner that they had spotted the cat in Purple Heart Park.

I instantly knew the posters since one was on our mailbox and they had been there for maybe 6 weeks. In Tucson, we know when a cat is gone that long, a coyote had gotten it. I wanted to throw up. This was so cruel to do to those poor people to give them hope like that. I demanded to be taken home that second and he did. I didn't say a word to any of them and I hate that I even know this happened. I'm going to break up with him, but what can or should I do to make this up to the poor couple who is missing the cat? I'm devastated with guilt that I know something about it but don't know what I should do. I can't ask my parents because I'm afraid my dad will actually beat the crap out of them and risk losing his job. He's such an animal lover.

This I This is so [ __ ] up to get that much enjoyment out of it and to like think it's so funny and awesome that this poor older couple is searching through the park at night with flashlights because they think that their cat's there. And like they've been putting the flyers everywhere. Like she even found flyer for it in her mailbox. Like it's they've been trying so hard and this is so mean. It's so mean. 6 weeks to like a month and a half of your pet being gone. Like that is just cruel and devastating. And to like toy with them like that.

Yeah. It's, psychological, abuse., Like, it, it, it really is like when you are knowingly subjecting someone to like that false hope and like [ __ ] with them like that. That's that's really messed up. Like it's really speaking to deranged men like because they're 18 and 19. They're about to go off into the world on their own. Like these are not just kids. Like these are people that

really, don't, have, a, moral, compass, and need to find the light quickly because this is this is shitty.

Yeah,, it's, hard., What?, Go, ahead. I, was, just, going, to, say, with, like, her question at the end, initially I was like I don't know if there's anything she can do. But then also when I thought about it more, I was like, she probably does need to tell them that this was like a prank call because

if, they, have, this, idea, that, like, yeah, they could be out late at night like searching for the cat, like really trying to look in that area more, like renewing their efforts, and it's like all just because of a lie and like a joke. I think it's probably the right thing to do to tell them, but yeah, like damn, that's got to also like for them their faith in humanity is going to be shattered after that. I know. And it sucks cuz it's like that's not OP's job to have to do that. But it is kind of one of those like

it, would, just, be, a, nice, caring, gesture to be like, "Hey, like I" and I would just like remove yourself from it. I'd almost just be like, "Hey, I heard some kids talking at school that like they prank called you guys. Um, I'm really sorry." like I don't think they saw your cat

like, based, on, what, they, were, saying about this prank. Yeah. And, just, remove, yourself., You, don't, have to say my boyfriend like but like I think you could definitely tell them.

Yeah., And, you, can, offer, like, next, time you look I can go with you. I mean if you really want to do something to like try to make it up for them.

Yeah. Maybe, this, is, the, start, of, a, beautiful friendship. Who knows? But yeah, it's not OP's responsibility. I think just sharing that information with them so that they're not doing more sleepless nights looking for this cat.

Yeah., Top, comment, on, this, one., To, back you up, I can truthfully say there is no way I could continue seeing someone who not only did something like this, but laughed and laughed about it afterwards.

Disgusting. No wonder you are so upset. I feel for you and wish you and the cat owners all the best. the the laughing about it and the the amount of enjoyment they got out of it is definitely the worst part in my mind. Like it's the enjoyment of someone's suffering. And even if it wasn't the boyfriend's like idea and he just went along with it, it's like okay so you're just like a follower to like anything any awful thing people say. That's like ew.

I, don't, want, to, be, with, someone, who's like a weak willed, no backbone [ __ ] Like you're an [ __ ] and you're weak.

Yeah. Yeah., It's, not, looking, good, for, you. Yeah, my guy. So,, we, do, get, an, update.

Wait, we, get, an, update., So,, I, posted, the original on Sunday morning after it all happened and here it is. So, basically breaking up with my boyfriend was an easy decision and I did it over text. He said that like after a year, he deserved better than a text breakup. I said after what I saw him do on Saturday night, he really didn't. He tried to say that the prank was not his idea and I really needed to cut him some slack. I said that maybe it wasn't his idea, but I saw him laughing just as hard as his friends. And that was enough for me.

He's been a total [ __ ] at school, but it started turning on him bad when I explained to people why we broke up and who he was with, a guy who graduated last year who's a creep. What was harder is what I should do with the people. I had two choices as I saw it. either not call and let them have false hope the cat was still alive or call and let them know they had been pranked. Basically after thinking about it all day, I decided that if it were my dog in question, I'd want all the info I could get. I was so nervous calling them, but the lady answered and I think I said I had some information about their lost cat. She basically stopped me and said that it was a miracle, but their cat had been turned in to Puma County Animal Control 2 days prior and they finally gotten a return on the chip and they called them that very morning and they had just gotten the cat home.

Oh, my, god,, I, was, so, relieved, because, I didn't have to tell them some awful news about how my boyfriend was a piece of [ __ ] I was also happy for her because she seemed so happy. I told her I was very happy her cat was home and said goodbye. So that's like really good news. And I'm happy to get rid of my idiot boyfriend.

Oh, my, god., I, didn't, expect, a, happy ending to this. A, here, teared, up. I, like, I, cuz, I, thought, there's, no, way they're ever going to find the cat. So the only two things that can happen here is either, you know, they tell them it was a prank or they let them have false hope like she said. And this secret third option, like, are you kidding? Thank God.

Behind, door, number, three, my, faith, is, back., Things, can, be, okay. I, know., Really,, really, good, ending., And

hopefully, boyfriend,, ex-boyfriend, wakes up, gets his [ __ ] together. I mean

I, mean,, it's, pretty it's, pretty, irredeemable,, but, maybe there are some 18year-olds who still have the potential to grow and become better people. And I think a lot of people in this world do something that they maybe spend the rest of their lives feeling bad about. Like they say something or they, you know, act in a petty way that like just wasn't nec or whatever. And then there and maybe he'll grow a conscience after this. I don't know.

I, think, so., I, think, like, if, you, got dumped over something like this I, hope, it, doesn't, push, him, the, other, way where he's then resentful and sneakier and whatever. Like I hope this is like a Oh,

yeah., No,, this, was, shitty. Yeah, there's, consequences., And, hopefully, he learns. I mean

he's, young,, 18,, 19,, however, old,, but like you got to grow up at some point. Yeah, we do all have to learn empathy. Like it is a learned thing over time of like, okay, I'm not the center of the universe. Like just because I'm living in my head doesn't mean everyone else isn't living in their heads, too, you know?

But, for, some, people,, it's, a, slower experience, I think. So, I'm I'm more lenient now cuz the cat's okay and was returned. I'm like

still, definitely, stay, broken, up. Yeah., No,, no,, no., But, I'm, like, maybe this guy has there's a chance one chance there could be a better person. I don't know.

Yeah., I, don't, know., It, is, interesting. That's like a conversation we've had quite a bit on this podcast is like is empathy something you can learn? Like are we just born empathetic? Like there are some people that I think like they they would just will never get empathy and I think that's just the way their brain is.

Something's, not, firing, in, a, part, of their brain. I don't know. But like I do think you can also learn how to increase your empathy. Yeah. I think I mean I remember being some kind of age in the teens and like understanding for the first time that like other people's perspectives are because they've had completely unique experiences from mine and like you know like I think you start to understand other people more and more and more. But I do think also, you know, children are often very kind and like sweet and understand like, "Hey, that hurt mommy."

And like they learn that lesson pretty young if they like hit mommy and it hurts or something. But yeah, I I think you see this a lot with teenagers. And even though 18 is technically an adult it's like there sometimes 18-year-olds aren't really adults. Yeah. Yeah, I mean there's guys in my life that like were very immature for their age and they were they were like two years behind what their actual age was just because of school and you know they were in a different grade than what their age was supposed to like

put, them, in, age, like, grade, wise, or whatever that is. So I think like everyone can mature at different rates but like

okay these, are, the, moments, though, that, like could could make that 100%, this, is, the, fork, in, the, road., So hopefully he takes the right path. But moving on to this next one.

Very, nice, of, us., Very, generous, of, us, to hey to, give, them, a, little, bit, of, hope, there.

If, that, cat, wouldn't, have, been, okay,, I would have been driving to Tucson and hitting someone with a bat. But cat's okay. So we're okay. Okay. So this is the other one coming from Ask Aubrey. Mh.

And, again,, we, won't, have, any, comments from OP. OP, because, that's, just, we, don't, have, it.

Mhm. Um,, but, it, is, an, interesting, one, and, I think it's worth a read. I, believe, you., If, Morgan, is, saying, a Reddit story is worth a read, all right strap me in.

Buckle, up., So,, this, is, titled,, "My boyfriend's mom gave me a purity test at family dinner, and now he's mad at me for leaving." Oh god. Unique experience for sure. A purity test. Okay. I, 26, female, have been dating my boyfriend, Ryan, 28, male, for about 10 months. Things have been pretty good until last weekend when I finally met his parents at their house in Atlanta for Sunday dinner.

Hey,, I, got, Atlanta, on, my, shirt., Look, at that. I was so shocked when she gave it to me. I didn't even know what to say. I just stared at her. She took my silence as me refusing to answer and said, "I see. So, you have things to hide." I stood up and said I needed to use the bathroom, but instead I just grabbed my purse and left. Called an Uber from the driveway. Ryan didn't even notice I was gone until like 20 minutes later when he came back inside. He's been blowing up my phone ever since, saying I embarrassed him in front of his parents and I should have just played along to keep the peace. His mom is apparently very upset and crying, saying that I rejected her attempt to get to know me better.

Ryan says his mom is just protective and comes from a really religious background, so I need to be understanding. But like a purity test on an app at 26 years old, am I insane or was that completely out of line? I cannot imagine this happening. So it's an app. It's a purity test on an app.

It, must, be., Yeah,, it's, not, OP, isn't writing this the best. I mean, a lot of people, I think, are like kind of like are we sure this one's real? But I will say long before AI ever existed, and obviously people could still write creatively online, I had a story, and it was an episode, it was an unhinged episode. I think it was Unhinged 2.0. me, Lauren, and Justin. And we had a story about a woman writing in, and her fianceé had kind of blindsided her the night before the wedding and was requesting that his family check her highman for purity before the wedding.

She's still intact. Oh, my, god. So,, I, do, think, there, are, people, out, here that are like this. I feel like there's stories we've read or things where people have been like, "Yeah, his mom confronted me and asked me if I was still a virgin, if if I was good enough for her son or like, you know, people imply stuff like that all the time."

Yeah., I, think, that, the, the, purity, app, of it all, especially upon first meeting is like what makes this a unique experience. But to have like a mother-in-law or like mother of someone try to find out if their future daughter-in-law would be pure like that is not that crazy. Like that that unfortunately is happening. And I cannot imagine like showing up to meet my partner's parents for the first time and they pull out a purity app and say take this test and then so you do have something to hide. I'm 26. I am 26 years old. Like yes I've lived a life. God forbid I've lived a life.

So,, doing, some, quick, research, there, is, an, app, in, the, app, store. Look, for, this.

It, is, called, the, Rice, Purity, Test, Plus. Um,, looking, at, some, of, the, questions. There's a screenshot. Does it have reviews?

No, reviews, yet., Not, enough, reviews, to generate a rating. But, um, this is real. From what I'm seeing, this is real. And here are some of the questions. Held hands romantically. Been on a date. Been in a relationship. Danced without leaving room for Jesus. Kissed a non-family member. Kissed a non-family member on the lips. French kissed. French kissed in public. Kissed on the neck. Kissed horizontally. Given or received a hickey. Kissed horizontally. Kissed or been kissed on the breast. Kissed someone below the belt. kissed for more than two hours consecutively, played a game involving stripping. This is like this is so funny because this is also kind of a meme that goes around on like Facebook or Twitter or whatever social media app sometime where it's like, oh, add up your score and if you've done these things and then say what your score is, but don't say why your score is what it is. And it's like

oh my, you know what? So, that's, what, it, does., Every, single time you check the box, it does subtract a point. I believe there's a hundred questions. I can only see to number 43. I'll make sure we post the image on our Instagram so you guys can see. I don't I don't, know if, you'd, be able, to, read, it on YouTube, but we'll put it in there as well. Everything sub subtracting from your score and then like having to say that to your partner and their family is so demeaning. Like, oh, here's my number out of this of how pure I am. Like, I mean, these they start to get a little crazy, too. like seen or read porn, gone through the motions of intercourse while fullfully dressed, undressed or been undressed by a member of the preferred sex, showered with an MPS, member of the preferred sex, fondled or had your butt cheeks fondled, had your breasts fondled, had or given blue balls, had an orgasm due to someone else's

manipulation. Are these worth different amounts of points? Purchased contraceptives. Like is holding hands going to subtract the same amount as I believe so?

That's, crazy., It's, not, even, a, good, test. Um,, yeah., It's, used, to, see, how, pure, you are. It's free, fun, and exciting. It has 100 questions, and the lower the score you get, the more things you did and the less pure you are. It's fun free, and exciting. I believe that this is a thing because when I was going through my like elementary school stuff I found a contract that I had signed with the church.

What? And, I, and, I, grew, up, Christian, and, they had like created this contract of like I will not kiss until this age. I will not date until this age. And then it has like my like 7-year-old signature on it. So, this does not sound far off to me because I literally signed a purity contract.

I, I, just, like, I, don't, understand, this mindset. I'm like I'm I'm lost in the sauce on this website. There's now there's a website for it too, the ricepurityest.com and it goes caution. This is not a bucket list. Completion of all items on this test will likely result in death. Stop. Um, this is not a bucket list. So funny.

Question, 70., Had, sexual, intercourse, 10 or more times. Traveled. She's, 26.

Traveled., Okay,, I, am, like, [ __ ], up., I would actually check so many of these boxes. Yes, cuz you're an adult woman.

Traveled, 100, or, more, miles, for, the primary purpose of sexual intercourse. Yep. Right here. Wait, I've taken planes 2,000 miles to get [ __ ] Like, what? Wait,

this, mom, would, hate, my, guts. That, being, a, question, is, so, funny., And that's also hilarious.

Had, a, pregnancy, scare., Ding,, ding,, ding, ding. Well,, yeah. I, have, not, done, um, number, 100,, though. Okay.

Engaged, in, beastiality. So,, there's, some, wonky, questions, on here. And, again,, is, that, worth, the, same, amount of points as holding hands? Like, there should be some

Let's, find, out., Let's, find, out., Okay,, so I'm clicking holding hands. Okay., calculate, my, score, 99., Okay,, so, it took it took one off

right? I'm, going, to, take, this, lovely, test again. Okay, bestiality for example. Beastiality score of 99. Same amount of points holding hands or participating in beastiality.

A, well, done, test. Same, amount, of, points., So, given, all, of our research here

yes,, you, know,, I, always, say, I, believe these stories about 90% of the time. I

I, actually, I'm, very, convinced, looking, at this app. I, absolutely, believe, that, this, is, a thing that would happen. And honestly like

even, if, it's, not, a, mother-in-law, with, a purity app, I'm sure that there are like pastors out there, you know, when people are like getting married and they consult with a pastor, I'm sure that there's like some communities where this purity test in a written form of some kind is used. Like this does not sound

like, they, made, an, app, based, on, there being no paper trail history of it.

It's, just, such, a, crazy, thing, to, do, in 2025 as well as like to a 26-year-old woman. And that's the thing, he's 28 she's 26. Like is he also getting this purity test? Like does his mother care about his purity or is it only this girlfriend's? It's like, and her if her mother gave him the purity test, would like his mother also think that's weird? Like, why are you doing that to my son?

Yeah., No,, this, is, ab, absurd. I, think, the, overall, question,, am, I insane?

No,, you're, not, insane. Was, that, completely, out, of, line, leaving the family dinner in an Uber?

No., I, would, have, done, the, same, thing. The, fact, like I, I, do, wish, like, you, would, have, just given your boyfriend a chance to be like, "Hey, this is really inappropriate. like I'm gonna go. I wish you would have got a chance.

I, think, she, just, kind, of, like, left, and went out and just like got in the Uber and left. It sounds like he wasn't there during this conversation. Like he was outside maybe cooking, hanging with dad.

Interesting. Whatever. Maybe, she's, helping, mom, in, the, kitchen and she slips the app her way.

I, do, wish, you, would, have, given, him, the chance to respond. Like I think you already

Yeah,, I, would have, a, boyfriend, problem, based, on, him being like she was just trying to get to know you. You already have a boyfriend problem not just his mom being an issue. But if he would have stood by you more in the moment before you left, like then I would have been like, "Okay." Like

you, know,, boyfriend's, a, good, guy., He's standing up for you. Mom's crazy right?

But, at least,, you, know,, now, you, know, and he can set some boundaries with her.

Yeah., But, that's, not, the, case., Now, he's taking his mom for, this, absurd, crazy, thing., And, no,, I think

that's, a, toxic, like, triangle, to, get, into of like now mom's crying. She's like "Oh my god, I can't believe this happened. Why'd she get so upset with me?"

They're, in, meshed., We, all, know, that., You all were hearing it in your head before I even said it. I've held off for quite some time saying that now, you guys

cuz, we, were, doing, research., Cuz, we, were on the ground doing research. We, were, on, the, ground, doing, research. But I think like you chalk this up and you run the other way. This is

a, unique, experience, that, you, have, for the books. You know what to avoid. Hopefully this comes up a lot sooner in other relationships if it comes up again and is not a unique experience. But I really This one's not worth being around. Like the mom is genuinely

if, you're, getting, this, goofy, the, first time you met her. Imagine what kind of mother-in-law you will have to deal with the rest of your life if you choose to proceed down this path.

The, audacity,, the, like,, nope., I, can, do whatever I want. Like, I can't imagine that that would ever get better. It would just get crazier and crazier over time.

Well,, and, the, fact, that, he, like, I'm, like looking at his response and getting so mad. He said like she should have just played along to keep the peace

right?, So,, he, knows, what, she, did, and, he still is taking his mother's side.

Yeah., And, it's, like,, why, do, I, have, to talk about my intimate experiences? Because some of them are intimate. Like if you go down and look at the questions.

Yeah,, we, can, laugh, about, the, holding hands thing. Pregnancy, scare, and, like

a, lot, of, intimate, personal, questions. Questions that honestly violate HIPPA. They violate HIPPA.

That, would, be, such, a, funny, response., I'm sorry, but this violates HIPPA.

Like,, come, on., So,, I, think, at, that, point it's, like,, "No,, I'm, not, going to entertain someone basically harassing me and violating my privacy and being completely inappropriate. That is none of your mother's business."

Do, you, want, me, to, go, into, detail, about how I suck your dick with your mom?

Oh,, and, that, time, I, fingered, your butthole. Yeah., Should, I, tell, your, mom, that?, Like,

why, would, she, even, want, to, know, about that? I like would not want to know. Because she wants to [ __ ] her son.

Oh, she, wants, to, know, exactly, what, her, son is doing. She's going to live vicariously through this purity test.

Oh, my, god,, it's That, might, be, a, reach., Okay,, that, might be a reach, but it's it's gross. And I think you need to break up

and, inappropriate., It, has, to, stop. The, tough, comment, on, Instagram., What's worse than a boy mom? A religious fanatic boy mom. Run. Next comment. He took his mom's side. He always will. Next one. And how is he not furious at his mom for being embarrassing? Also people need to stop misusing that word. A fart at dinner is embarrassing. This is just way out of line. Batshit crazy behavior.

Yeah,, I, will, say, the, Instagram, comments, they're a little more rambunctious than what we see on Reddit these days.

I, know., I, do, like, the, Instagram comments. Batshit, crazy. It's, so, entitled, and, like, inappropriate and wrong. I just Yeah

I'm, at, a, loss, for, words. Yeah., If, he, can't, take, your, side, in, such an obvious situation like that, you are signing yourself up for a world of disappointment and being left out to dry.

Yeah., Okay., This, next, one, coming, from our very own Two Outakes subreddit, 7 days old. Seven days.

Yeah., Titled,, "My, ex, posted, a, happy anniversary with me six months after we broke up."

I'm, obsessed, with, this., So,, my, ex, and, I broke up in April. It wasn't messy, but it wasn't exactly peaceful either. He wanted to focus on himself, which was code for flirting with girls on Discord. Anyways, fast forward to now, November about 7 months

and, one, of, my, friends, sends, me, a screenshot from his Insta story. Quote "Happy 3 years. Love you forever." with a picture of us from 2022. I actually thought it was a throwback or something but no, he literally captioned it like we're still together. We haven't spoken since the breakup. I'm not blocked or anything, just ignored. So now I'm sitting here getting texts from mutual friends asking if we got back together. And I'm like, what alternate reality is this man living in? I don't know if it's to make me look like I still care or to make him look like he's the loyal one who never moved on. But either way, it's weird. Like, dude, we broke up half a year ago. You can't just retroactively celebrate an anniversary that doesn't exist. Part of me wants to respond with "Happy delusion day, but I'm being good." At first, I was like, "Oh, this is so funny. This is so crazy. And now I'm like, is this scary?

Yeah. Like, I, I, think, it, might, be, a, little, bit scary because obviously, someone, having, delusions, that involve you

is, a, scary, situation, to, be, in. Sure, is. I, have, one, friend,, my, friend, Ellie,, her ex posted like on her birthday, happy birthday to my favorite ex, which was already crazy. Ellie but this is so much crazier. Ellie, what the heck?

They're, like, friends., It's, just, a, It's like objectively a hilarious thing to post.

Okay, but, yeah,, like, I, don't, know, if, like, is is he having some kind of health like mental health problem? That's what I'm getting.

Is, he, actually,, you, know,, or, is, this more of like a scary stalker type situation? Or is he like I don't like a secret third option that I'm trying to think of.

It, It, is, really, for, me., I'm, like, it's giving it's giving mental health crisis and just like okay something is really up here and he needs some help because

the, delusion, you, broke, up, what, did, you say seven months you broke up in April it's now November and

we've, been, broken, up, for, half, a, year over over half a year and you're posting a three-ear anniversary we're not together

so, who, are, you, trying, to, impress And if you're not trying to impress someone, it's pure delusion

right?, More, than, anything,, if, someone's lying about being in a relationship it's usually like pretending that they're not in one so that they can hook up with people.

Like,, I, don't, see, what, the, upside, of pretending you are still in a relationship with somebody is.

Maybe, the, flirting, on, Discord, hasn't worked out. And so now he's just trying to like be cool to the other guys he plays Discord with.

Oh, yeah,, like, I've, got, a, girlfriend. Yeah, I got this hot girl. like like he's probably telling all these Discord people like, "Oh, no, no, no. Like, I'm not hitting on you. I have a girlfriend." Right? Cuz the other thing that's confusing to me is this isn't preceded by any like he's been texting me trying to get back together or, you know, he's he's texted me as if things were normal before. He's shown up at blah blah blah. Like, this isn't like over the last seven months he's been trying to keep that relationship still going. It's like out of nowhere he's posting this.

So, that's, why, it, feels, kind, of performative in a sense. It, does, feel, performative, is, a, really good word for this.

Yeah. And, yeah,, maybe, that, is, it., Maybe, it's about these Discord people. Maybe he's trying, to, be, like,, "Well,, I, have a girlfriend anyway." Maybe he was rejected and everyone knows that on Discord. And he's like "Well, I'm fine. I've still got I've still got somebody." I don't know. Either way, hopefully it's more like that because that makes it less of a threat to her. I feel

true. It's, like,, okay,, my, ex, is, crazy, and, he's not succeeding at finding women after we've broken up. But

I, don't, know. I, don't, know, either., It's mixed, up,, though., So,, let, us, know.

I, know., Keep, us, posted, on, this., I, I would respond knowing me. I'd be like

"Yeah, hey,, curious, about, this., we're, not together, right? Like, what, can, you, take, this, down?, Like, I wouldn't want that up there even.

Yeah. Like, you, can, tell, your, friends, and everyone will know and you can kind of clear the air, but at the same time like

I, also, wouldn't, necessarily, want, that out there and be like what what's going on? Why why are you posting this?

Like, why, did, you, say, that? And, then, you, can, also, figure, out, if there is a threat, right?

Like, is, he, going, through, a, mental, health crisis? Is he delusional? Could he show up? Like could something bad happen or like is he just trying to look like he's got game

right?, Or, did, he, lose, a, bet?, Did, he, did he get dared? Like did he Oh,, yeah.

You, know,, like, I, don't, know., I'm, trying to think of any other, possible, reason., But

that's, a, really, good, point. So, weird. Beyond. I, hope, she, asks, him, and, then, tells, us.

That's, what, I, need., I, need, to, know, how this played out. Let me see if there is an update. So top comment on the post. Not going to lie, that is [ __ ] weird.

Yeah, that's, unhinged, behavior,, says, the, next comment. You can't celebrate an anniversary with someone who's not even in the relationship anymore. Good on you for keeping it classy. He's clearly doing enough embarrassing for the both of you. Um, someone goes, exactly an anniversary with who? You can't be in a relationship by yourself, buddy. It's called daydreaming, not dating. I'm not seeing any comments, no update to the post, so please let us know. Mark yourself safe for us, please.

I, know, it's, very, very, odd,, but cuz, there's, such, a, spectrum, of possibilities here. Like the least concerning being like this was some dare or this was like I don't know, lost a bet., I, don't know., Worst, is, he, is, having delusions that he's still with you and could get violent.

So yeah,, keep, us, posted, please., And, um, I don't know. Definitely a unique experience. Like usually it's not getting pictures posted of you once you've broken up. Like Right. I just I don't know. I've heard of like unless you're still friends and hanging out.

Yeah., Like, that's, so, different., But you're broken up and he's posting for your anniversary. Like what what's happening?

Yeah., I've, heard, of, like, trying, to, get someone back and posting like I miss you like like crazy, you know, like Facebook posts of I miss what we had. But not pretending that you're still together. That's where it's like, what is going on here?

Yeah,, it's, a, bit, perplexing. It, is, a, bit, perplexing. Baffling., I'm, I'm, confuled, by, it.

Yeah. Befuddled, even. Yeah., So, am, I, by, this, next, one. Is, it, befuddling?

That's, a, big, word. Is, it, befuddling?, Befuddling, could, be, a theme. Befuddling., Dating, can, be, scary. Befuddling voyage into the unknown. confusing or perplexing? Befuddling.

I'm, befuddled. So,, this, is, coming, from, our, friend, um Charlotte Dobé's page. It is titled, "Am I overreacting for throwing out all of our soap after finding out how my boyfriend actually washes himself?" Now I'm scared. So, I, 26 female, don't even know how to start this without gagging. This happened earlier this week and I'm still going through waves of disgust and disbelief. My boyfriend, 28 male, and I have been together for about a year now. We recently moved in together about 3 months ago. Before that, we'd spend weekends together, but I never really paid much attention to how he showered.

I guess I just assumed he was like everyone else. Soap, lofah, washcloth maybe body wash, maybe even one of those fancy shower puffs. You know, normal hygiene. I'm so scared. But oh, how wrong I was. So around this Monday, he had been feeling sick the night before. Some bad food, he said. I woke up to him rushing to the bathroom. Poor guy had a bad case of diarrhea. No big deal. He took a shower afterwards and I didn't think twice about it. I had showered earlier that morning, and by the time he was done, I was already half asleep. So, I didn't go in there again.

The next morning, I got up to take my shower. I pick up our shared bar of soap and saw boooo chunks on it. His boooo chunks on it. This is actually worse than I meant than I imagined it could be.

I, gagged, so, hard, I, almost, threw, up., I dropped the soap immediately, turned off the water, and just stood there trying to process what the hell I was looking at. When I finally called him over, I asked him what the hell happened to the soap. He looked confused. I explained what I saw and he goes, "Oh yeah, I took a shower last night after I went to the bathroom. I probably didn't rinse the soap off right." Dude, what? And then that's when I learned something that made me question everything about this man. He doesn't use a washcloth or a loofah or a body brush or even his hands in a lathering way. He literally takes the bar of soap, wets it, wets himself with the shower hose, and rubs the bar directly all over his body from head to toe, including his armpits, his dick, his ass, and apparently after having diarrhea.

I didn't even know what to say. I just stood there horrified, replying every single time I'd used that damn bar of soap on my own lofah or washcloth. So the next day, my first thought was to throw away every bar of soap we had and both of shared, leaving just my body washes in the shower. When he saw me doing this, he got defensive. He asked why I was overreacting and said I was making a big deal out of nothing. I told him I wasn't comfortable sharing soap anymore because now that I know what he's been doing, it's just nasty. I didn't shame him. I just said, "I didn't realize that's how you washed and I can't share a bar like that again." He got quiet and said, "So, you think I'm dirty?" I told him, "No, I think the [ __ ] that you put on our soap is dirty.

I think the [ __ ] that I can see on our soap might be." I told him no, but that his method is unsanitary which I mean, come on, it's objectively gross. Especially if you're using the same bar that touches your butthole in private parts. Then it sits there collecting whatever didn't rinse off like the poop chunks. He didn't storm out, and a few hours later, I got a call from his sister asking me why I embarrassed him and made him feel like a disgusting person. Apparently, he told his family about it. His mom texted me something like, "Men have been using bars of soap for generations."

What? You're, making, it, sound, filthy. Why is this becoming like a traditional like this? All right.

Am, I, insane, for, thinking, this, is different though? Like yes, people use bar soap, but most people don't literally rub it between their cheeks and then put it back for someone else to use. Now he's been giving me the cold shoulder and his family thinks I'm some germobsessed neat freak who humiliated him over a piece of soap. So for second opinions, am I overreacting? This made me physically ill, Morgan. I already feared what this situation could be from the title and it was so much worse somehow. Like this is a health hazard. She could have gotten some kind of like Yeah. Like a bacterial infection and like Yeah. Like also he has food poisoning. That's why the diarrhea is there. Like you are sick sir and you use that bar. soap as a douche. He was douching his [ __ ] with the bar of soap. Like

I, don't, feel, I, don't, feel, okay. Like,, this, isn't, okay. The, fact, that, there, were, chunks, on, that.

No chunks. No, she can only ever while she's dating him use body wash now with a sense of peace. Like I body wash with a pump. I would yeah I would immediately feel like I need to like bleach my entire body. Like I don't know how like this would make me feel very ill. Like I'm trying to think okay movies like in movies in things like I've I've taken a personal bar of my soap and I've like took the soap bar on my armpits before.

Yeah. I, would, never, put, that, soap, bar, up, my ass and, it's, not, a, dirty, dirty, ass, I, ever shared. Granted, armpits are gross, too. So, I don't know. Like, I'm like, is this a thing? Is this a common way to use the bar of soap? Cuz like, does the soap kill germs as it sits there? Because it is soap. Can soap grow germs like a petri dish or does soap kill germs? Like, do we have to be this scared? But it's the fact that this bar of soap is shared.

Yeah. It's, a, shared, bar, of, soap and, there's, visible, [ __ ], on, it. And, there's, visible, [ __ ], on, it., Like like how do you get past that?

You, didn't, look, after, you, stuck, that, bar of soap in between your ass cheeks. You didn't look. You didn't give it a a like a wash a rinse. Like, okay, you're going to rub that soap on your armpits, but then give the soap bar a wash.

You, know, what, I, mean? I, think, even, if, someone, does, sometimes use a bar of soap directly on their skin, it is common sense to not put it between your butt cheeks. that because even if it's genitals that's like really amplifying this.

Yes., And, even, if, it's, a, personal, soap bar, you wouldn't even want that for yourself. You'd be like, "Ooh, I shouldn't probably put my soap on on some [ __ ] and then just like use it for the rest of my body again the next day." Like even if he's not sharing it, like I think you still in your head you're like, "I'm not going to do it like that." Also

maybe, this, is, an, issue, because, didn't, he wipe his butt after pooping on the toilet or did he just go from diarrhea toilet flush shower?

That's, my, fear,, Morgan., That's, what, I'm really scared of. Like,, why, are, there, chunks, still?, Like, why, didn't, you, at least, give, like, a, one wipe so you're not dripping [ __ ] as you walk to the shower?

Like,, feel, okay. I, like, I, understand, too, feeling embarrassed and like I, don't, know., Yeah,, but, sometimes, you, do something that just is embarrassing.

Yeah., I, mean,, Justin's, caught, me, picking my nose here and there. Like, if you're not picking your nose, you're lying about picking your nose. Let's be real. Like, there's some things you just can't get with a tissue.

Not, the, same, thing,, Morgan. But, I, know, what, it's, like, when, he's, like when he called me out or whatever. And he's like, "Do did you just pick your I'm like

you, weren't, supposed, to, see, that.", But like that feeling of embarrassed or feeling gross. And maybe this is something he's dealt with before, but like,

okay,, let's, address, it, between, the, two of you. The fact your, family, you're, crying, to, your, whole, family., And what did you tell your family? Did you tell them you left [ __ ] chunks on our soap?

Yeah., And, like,, yes,, she's, throwing, them out. Like, sorry, new soap. This isn't this like oppressive act toward you. She's throwing out the soap that she found covered in [ __ ] I don't know what else she was supposed to do.

You, can, go, to, the, dollar, store,, the, 99 cent store, the Dollar General. You can go many places and get new soap. It I don't care. Like men have been using bars of soap for generations.

New, soap., It's, weird., It's, weird., You're not overreacting. This is gross. And I think

I, also, don't, think, she, said, anything like mean to him. No, I, think, she, was, shocked., It, was, like what? Like like what what have we been living in? Like what's been going on?

I, think, anyone, would, freak, out, if, they walked into their bathroom and went to go shower and get clean and there was poop all over their soap. Yeah, that's a normal reaction.

And, like, I, can't, see, without, my, contacts in and I don't shower with my contacts in. So like I Oh my god, that would be a really bad surprise.

I, wouldn't, know, right, away., Like, I, don't want to think about it anymore. It's bad. What are the comments?

Yeah,, tough, comment., Since, he, brought his family into this, then there is no reason why you can't absolutely be truly honest. The problem isn't that he uses the bar on his bare body. It's the fact that he uses the bar of soap directly onto his rectum to clean off diarrhea and that left chunks of poop on the bar soap. That is the issue.

Yeah., And, he, thinks, that, that's, normal and he thinks that that's fine. So that means it's a recurring thing. Yeah.

You, are, gross., Like, it's, not, gross, that you use the bar of soap on your body. It's gross that you left [ __ ] on the bar of soap.

Yeah., Now,, tell, that, to, his, mom, and sister since they wanted to confront you about his hurt feelings. And just so you know, not only is he disgusting leaving the poop on the bar of soap, but he is immature and runs to mommy and his sister to cry about his hurt feelings.

Those, two, points, are, very, unattractive in a man, and I definitely couldn't see myself being with someone like that long term.

Yeah., Also, and, that's, the, that's, like, what, I, was like really trying to get at here. Yeah

this, maybe, wouldn't, have, been, such, a, big deal. And I get being defensive. You can be defensive and be hurt and be embarrassed and whatever

but, the, fact, that, you, took, this, problem and you ran to outside sources and involved them in it and then had those sources come back and chirp at me and try to make me, I'm the bad person.

I'm, not, the, bad, person, here,, babe., This is all over just a bar of soap. It's easily rectified. Hey, you didn't know? You didn't know that you shouldn't wash that way?

Yeah. By, the, way,, lofas, are, also, disgusting. Lofas harbor bacteria. I don't think a lofah is any better than just using the bar of soap. But I think there's a way that you could have cleaned without degrading the bar of soap that we shared. However, not an issue. We'll throw it away. We'll get new soap. This is how you should operate going forward.

Yeah. I'm, sorry, if, I, hurt, your, feelings., Get, a bedet. I, was, surprised, by, the, poop, on, the, soap.

Yeah., Get, a, bedet., Am, I, right?, Yeah. Hey, a bedet a shitafa. That, would, do, a, lot, for, them.

Whatever, you're, feeling. He, would, probably, like, that, cuz, he, seems to like this like, you know, not like a dry cleaning method so much. He seems to like going the wet cleaning method. I just the fact that he had that big of chunks. Like what? What are we doing? What are we doing? Did we not wipe? We did not wipe. That is the That is what we're doing. We did not wipe.

Yeah, we, did, not, wipe., I, can, hardly, stand, it and I'll tell you that it's gross. Okay moving on to this next one. This is coming from r/am I overreacting. It is titled, "Am I overreacting for getting pissed that someone had sex in my truck at the dealership?" I'll make this short, but I can always add more as this is a long story. My new truck developed a leak just under 12k miles, so I scheduled an appointment at the dealership. After three weeks, I get it back with a horrible smell inside with a driver's seat that clearly has ass cheek stains. Not swamp ass as it has been cold here. My interior door is scratched, probably from a wedding ring.

There is a stain on the seat that looks like the woman enjoyed herself. There is a stain on the floor. There is a shoe print on my headliner. Makeup on the visor and headliner. deep finger indents on a solid visor. I also found a hair tie and a hair clip in my console that is definitely not mine. The dealership refused to take any accountability and blamed me for the condition even though it was not like this when I dropped it off. My windows are blacked out as well. I should add that I'm single and I work from home, so there is a 0% chance it's from me or a cheating partner. After I brought it to the dealer's attention, they cleaned it but did a poor job, so I had to clean it again by a professional. Am I overreacting?

First of all, those people went crazy. Good for them. It's almost like they had fun. Oh my god, all the details of like the positions and the indents and the wedding ring scratch. Like, oh my god they went they went at it. This is on a porn site somewhere.

This, Yeah,, he, could, find, the, evidence probably if he searches hard enough, but I wouldn't recommend it. You're going to see a lot of [ __ ] like that. No, that is disgusting. That should have been taken more seriously by the dealership. And like I don't understand how they could like dismiss it so easily. Like that needs a serious clean job. That's disgusting.

You, can't, just, like, kind, of, wipe, it, wipe it off a little bit. No., And, the, fact, he's, noticing, all, of this because of a horrible all caps smell.

Oh, god,, I, forgot, that, part., Yeah, there's, probably, a, used, condom, somewhere lost in there

down, the, crack, in, between, the, seat, and the console. And, they, should, take, it, seriously, cuz it's like this could be a repeated employee problem that you have. Like you need to do some internal investigations like this isn't okay behavior.

This, is, gross., I, feel, like, that's, one thing like and I get people don't want to get sued. People don't want to lose money. So it really like has become this deny, gaslight, gatekeep. Like it it has kind of become that attitude with customer service. Like

you, don't want, to, fully, cop, to, it. Yeah., Like, no,, no, one, did, anything., You you brought it to us like that.

We'll, clean, it, because, we, are, kind,, but we're not cleaning it because we admit that we did that.

Exactly., And yeah, I, just, saw, this, post, from, a, woman, also on Reddit and she was like, "Am I overreacting? Like my dog got back from the groomers and like his teeth are knocked out. This lady was like, "I took my dog to the same groomers he's been going to for 5 years, like since he was a puppy. They told me that he bit the blow dryer and so his teeth are loose now." She ends up taking this dog to the vet. It's jaw is broke. And so she's like, "They're clearly lying to me." And a bunch of people in the comments, like one of which is a vet tech was like, "Oh yeah, like the dog probably fell off the table hit its jaw and broke its jaw." Like that's the force needed. They're lying to you.

And, it's, like, be, honest. Biting, something, is, going, to, break, its jaw. Like dogs are always biting things. They're biting bones.

Honest., Because, if, that, woman, would, have believed you and gone home, that dog that dog would have been living with a broken jaw.

Yeah. In, pain. Yeah., like, this, dog, needs, medical, care. Don't lie. Like these, businesses, have, insurance, for, a reason.

Your, insurance, is, going, to, cover, an accident. Will your insurance go up? Yeah. But that is the risk you take running a business and maybe not paying attention to the dog as you should have. Maybe not ensuring that dog's safety. That is your fault though.

Yeah., And, I, feel, lie. I, do, feel, like, obviously, there, are, going to be some cases where people get you like they hear you admit something and they take it all the way. But I think in general where businesses get like bad reviews and bad reputations is if they don't actually handle concerns seriously and they try to like avoid and pretend it wasn't their fault and kind of like gaslight you about it because even if something happens like employees have sex in your car if they just fully say I am so sorry. I don't know how this happened. We don't have any footage of this happening but I understand why you feel like it must have happened here.

will fully take care of any cleaning service like like there is such a way like people appreciate that

and, this, whole, like, evasive, thing, it like it doesn't build any trust like that that person's never going to go back there.

No,, there's, like, something, that's, going around too on Tik Tok right now that's gone pretty viral. So maybe some of you have seen it, but it's this girl who like set her phone up outside of like a random shop and she was trying to get like a video of her outfit. She's carrying a Duncan coffee cup.

And, the, woman, of, the, shop,, it's, like, "It must be a coffee shop bakery." Is like, "Really? You're going to take that video here?" with the Duncan in your hand.

And, the, girl, is, like,, "Oh, my, god,, I'm, so sorry. Like, didn't cross my mind. Like I'm so sorry.

She, goes, in,, buys, a, pastry, cuz, she doesn't need a coffee. She's got a coffee." So she does not buy the pastry because we don't beg and it's like she just came in your store.

Yeah. And, gave, you, business., She, realized, she might have been a little rude, which she was on a [ __ ] sidewalk. Like get real.

Yeah. But, she, realized, maybe,, hey,, maybe, I shouldn't have done that. Went inside bought something, and then you kicked her out.

Yeah. So, the, girl, made, a, video, about, it, obviously., And, the, lady's, like,, "Oh, my god, freaking out." And it's like that's just not how you treat people.

Who, cares, if, she's, got, a, Duncan? Initially,, I, was, like,, did, the, lady think that she was like making some kind of diss video by being like, "My Duncan is so much better."

No,, she, literally, went, in, and, tried, to support. Yeah., No,, I, was, like, a, small, little cafe. Like, if you would have played that cool, like if you would have been like, "Hey, my coffee is better than Duncan. Come on in and try some."

Yeah. You, would, have, looked, great. Yeah., Who, doesn't, love, free, coffee?, But customer service like it needs a kick in the butt, I think. And

it's, just, Yeah,, it's, tough. It's, not, necessarily, the, people,, it's like it's the companies. The companies aren't getting it.

And, I, Yeah., What, was, the, original Oh,, sex, in, the, car. Yeah,, we, do, get, an, update.

Oh,, we, get, some, updates, on, this, one. Wait,, no, way. Yeah,, brief, update., Called, the, police. They won't take a police report as it's a civil matter. or all they could do was document that I called. This happened at redacted in Surprise, Arizona 85388. And another Reddit member told me my one-star review is already gone from their Google reviews.

Oh, my, god. Which, I, don't, feel, like, people, should, be able to do that. It, shouldn't., It's, It's, actually, really hard to like I don't know. Even sometimes fake bad reviews can be hard to remove. I know. It's crazy.

The, general, manager, called, me, today, which was useless. He wanted to know if the other manager called me, which he did. They're both passing off responsibility on each other. I called corporate this past Saturday and issued a complaint, but I was advised not to expect anything out of it as that falls on deaf ears. I will be taking to social media and uploading video pictures and audio recordings taken while dealing with this terrible business.

Mhm. Um,, apparently OP did post pictures. Oh, my, god. So,, we, have, some, pictures.

Oh, my, god. So,, here's, the, seat. Oh, my, god., Like, it, honestly, that, looks like a

It, looks, like, someone, had, a, yeast infection and like there it's like it's like chalky residue on their seat.

Wait., Yeah., Why, does, it, look, like, that? I think that's what he's calling the [ __ ]

Cuz, I, swear, you, could, have, sex, in, a, car and get away with it. There's, like, full-blown, jizz.

Okay., Yeah. That's, like, jizz. Yeah. All, over, his, floor, mat. Oh, my, god., Is, that, blood?, Oh, my, god. Look at the handprints. These are like [ __ ] crazy hand creases. Like this person was like gripping like they were hanging off a cliff.

Yeah,, there's, no, way, that, you, wouldn't have seen that. That looks like blood.

I, think, there's, blood., So, or, lipstick. Yeah,, maybe, she, was, on, her, period, or there's lipstick like on the visor on the roof of the car. Like it is pretty bad when you look at the pictures actually.

Oh, my, god., And, if, they, I, feel, like, if the car company had been more like forthcoming and kind about it, it wouldn't have gone to like the places it's going now.

No, issue. I, was, going, to, say, like, with, the, Google remove Google review removing thing they will remove any review that has like, profanity, in, it., So, I, don't, know if like it mentioned the sex or anything like that and it just automatically gets flagged by Google for that.

Maybe there's, like, certain, things, we, have, to be careful of. I, know., H, that's, true.

Or, if, it, like, defames, certain individuals at the company. Yeah., The, thing, is, though, too, like, the dealership should have handled this because like

if, that, is, blood, that's, a, biohazard. Yeah. That's, a, biohazard., Like, that's disgusting.

Being, kind, goes, a, long, way. So, we, get, another, update. No, way. 6, days, ago, I, posted, about, my, bizarre situation. After reading a majority of the comments here as well as social media, I dug deeper into finding reviews on this dealership. There were hundreds of negative feedback across multiple sites about damage to customers vehicles and/or financial fraud by padding loans without customers consent or knowledge and other shady things.

Oh, my, god., The, day, after, making, my, post, the sales manager at the dealership called me to basically tell me it's the general manager's responsibility, so this call was pointless. The following day, the general manager calls me and basically tells me it's the sales manager's responsibility, but he will call me back tomorrow or the following day. Neither manager ever called me back. Yesterday, I filed a complaint with BBB, Better Business Bureau

and, with, the, attorney, general, with, my story. Today, someone from the dealership called, believe it's customer relations, and they told me they received my complaint from the attorney general and they would like to fix the damaged items in my truck.

Oh,, now, you, do., I, told, him, I, need, a, new driver's seat, a new rear seat cover new visor, and a new door panel on my driver's door. He said, "That's fine and I can bring it in."

Yeah,, cuz, you're, scared, now. I, kindly, replied, that, there, is absolutely no way I'll be back at their dealership. So, he told me they contract with a third party company that comes to the customer's homes to do the repairs. I agreed to that, and now I'm waiting on the third party repair company to call me to schedule it. I'm hoping all goes well, but honestly, I'm not holding my breath. He also said they can reverse the thousands of dollars of add-ons that I never agreed to if my electronic signature is attached. I wouldn't know because they still have never given me copies of me asking for 9 months.

There's, definitely, going, to, be, at least one more update regardless of what happens with the repairs. Thank you for the suggestions. It's given me the motivation and knowledge to get results. And then included more pictures of the truck seats which same ones we saw already. This is like the scratches on the back seat. Oh my god. Like guys these are like very obvious scratch marks. Like these are deep scratch marks.

I've, never, even, seen, that, from, like, an animal. Like, to, be, honest,, like, I'm, actually very

It's, almost, like, when, they, were, having sex, they were getting off on the fact it would be obvious that they had sex there.

Like, that, was, part, of, the, enjoyment, for them. Yeah., No,, they, definitely, wanted, to leave their mark. Um, so we have another update. There's a lot of updates on this one. I did not know until we got here. Um, 10 days ago I posted the first update, a correction to the last update. It was not the customer service relations that called me. It was a senior partner at the dealership. He told me that the seed store panels and visor would be replaced. Shortly after posting that update, I received multiple calls from multiple employees saying that replacement was never discussed and that they will clean it up, that I misunderstood the senior partner. I recorded the call and I certainly did not misunderstand. The general manager has been calling me every couple of days telling me their third party repair company will be contacting me to clean my truck. I've consistently said I'm not in need of a cleaning, that cleaning it

will not remove the damage. In one of the calls with the GM, he suggested swapping my truck to a new one, and I accepted the offer. Shortly after, the saleseople called me wanting to do a trade-in, which will cost me thousands of dollars on a loss on my new truck. So obviously I refused. The GM implied it was a simple swap, not a typical tradein where they profit selling two vehicles.

Yeah. Yesterday, I, got, a, call, from, the, third party company and sent pictures of the issue. He confirmed the seats cannot be repaired and must be replaced as well as the visor and door panel. He informed me that he will tell the GM and I should expect him to call me. Still waiting. This would piss me off

because, now, this, goes, beyond, just repairing the things that you broke cuz it's taking so much time. It's taking so much work and effort.

Like, you, need, to, actually, compensate, me above and beyond the damage that you've done.

Now, it's, my, time and, it, hazard, like, it's, like, what, am, I being exposed to?

Yeah, this, looks, like, blood. It's, disgusting. There's, the, jizz, on, the, rug,, you, guys. It's like just wait. I received a response from the dealership on BBB saying they are working it out with me. They are not working anything out. They're just wasting my time. Call me every couple of days trying to get me to agree to a simple cleaning. I'll give it until Tuesday for action. Then I'll be taking the next steps to make this a legal issue. New update.

Wow. So,, this, new, update, is, coming, from, this past June, 3 months after the, original, post. So, I bought a new Ford Maverick in Surprise Arizona 85388 at the only Ford dealership in town. So if you're out there listening, I think it's very clear which one it is.

I, was, extremely, adamant, about, not, having a service plan or lowjack. No add-ons no extras, no upgrades whatsoever except a factory added to hitch. First red flag was when it eventually came in 6 months later. The dealer tried to charge me an absurd amount for dealer add-ons that weren't even on the truck. So, obviously, I refused that and they did me a favor and took off the cost. Next up in finance, I was repeatedly adamant about no service plan and no lowjack. It was nowhere in any of the forms I signed and I read every word. I was in there for hours and they were annoyed with me. So, they said that neither will be on my loan and they'll email me the electronic copies. I never received them. I get my loan paperwork in the mail weeks later and I was shocked to see nearly 4,000 more than what I had signed for.

Oh, my, god,, this, company. It, took, months, and, a, dozens, of, calls, to the dealer, but they refunded a majority of the service plan and they promised the LJack would follow, but never did. Here we are a year later. I've reported them to the attorney general, BBB corporate with zero results. They no longer take my calls or respond. They did eventually send my electronic forms a year later, and they absolutely transferred my signature twice without my knowledge or consent. Fraud. There is zero chance I signed these forms. I'm not the only one that has had fraudulent add-ons in Surprise, Arizona. If you did also message me, I may be taking legal action. A small update on the damages to my truck. While it was in for warranty work, they refused to take accountability. But I've heard from dozens of other peoples that they had bizarre, unexplainable damages to their vehicle as well while it was in for

service. I'm compiling evidence that this has been happening for years. I have audio recorded every single interaction with this company from the beginning. They are in such a deep hole and there is indisputable evidence of financial fraud, not just on my loan but on others that I've spoken with as well. Sue them.

Sue, them., That, is, insane. This, company,, how, are, they, getting, away with this for so long? Oh my god. Unreal. Unreal. And it's crazy cuz they would like probably just keep getting away with this if they didn't do things that were so obvious. Like unavoidably obvious.

Yeah., I, am, shocked, by, this., Ford, used, to be like synonymous with like a good deal, good value, good car, but like to go in and then like you're trying to get yourself in an affordable car and then you get a surprise $4,000 add-on.

Yeah. Fraud., That's, just, they're, con, artists. Like that is insane. Yeah. It's, really, really, slimy.

Yeah., And, like, not, sending, like, the paperwork that you've signed and being like, "Oh, that guy didn't say this and that guy didn't say that." It's like I hope that this that this blows up on social media because that seems to be sometimes the only thing that people take seriously.

Mhm. I, know., Completely, unique, experience. Quite, odd., Yeah., I, wonder, how, many people have had that happen to them and their car at the dealership. Clearly a few at that dealership, but I don't know if they've had the like sex like the scratch marks and the jizz and the blood and the indents and the Oh my god. I can

I, know., I, can't, wait, till, you, guys, see these pictures. They're pretty They're, pretty, damning.

They're, pretty As, far, as, evidence, goes,, like, that, is some evidence. Well,, and, the, fact, he's, already, had, that clean. Those are pictures like

Oh,, yeah. Like, the, thing, Well,, those, are, probably taken before it was clean. But even the

scratch, marks, and, stuff. Yeah., Like, the, third, party, being, like, "Yeah, no, we can't repair that." Like

it's, replace, only. Yeah. Like, that's, still, there, then? And, even, if, you, clean, it,, it's, like, how deep of the cleaning can you really get at the end of the day?

Well,, yeah,, you, can't., And, if, like, the foam was crushed or torn, like that's damaged to the foam or whatever material the seats and stuff is made out of. But that's just like so disheartening, too. Like you spend your hard-earned money on this brand new vehicle and then by no fault of your own it's extremely damaged.

Yeah., Which, should, be, such, an, exciting experience and like really cool and

I, know. Yeah. It's, so, sad, when, people, are, like like, just, so, rude, about, your, property too. Like have you ever been in your car when someone doors you?

I, don't, know. Oh, my, god., I, was, at, I, don't, even remember where like Nordstrom Rack or somewhere shopping. I'm sitting in my car like getting ready to go out or I just gotten back in my car. Dude in a white Tesla rolls up, whips his door into the side of my car and I'm in there and I rolled out my window and I was like "Are you [ __ ] serious?"

Oh, my, god. I, literally, like, I, just, instant, rage. Yeah. And, I'm, like,, "Are, you, [ __ ], serious?" And he just goes, "Sorry." And walks away.

Well,, give, me, your, insurance,, [ __ ] Oh my god. Are, you, [ __ ], kidding, me?, I've, been like I had someone back into me and it was like I honestly think it was like 18 year olds, and, they, were, like,, "Oh, my god, I'm so sorry." I was like "It's fine." And I drove away cuz my car is like so beat up that I was like, "I'm not going to ruin their day over this." God, I know. I had a person rear end me and it just was like too much for me to deal with and it was like a tiny bumper dent scratch and I'm just like, I can't.

My bumper is already so messed up that I was just like that, was, my, old, car.

I'm, just, like, uh, but but, if, I, had, a, new, best, believe, I, would be like hey give me your insurance.

Give, me, your, insurance., Okay,, moving, on. We've got another one that's quite interesting. I think you're going to get a kick out of

Yeah,, I, get, kicks. I'm, going, to, give, you, a, choice., Okay. Okay., Option, one., Bride, uninvited, half the guest list two weeks before the wedding because her psychic said the energy was too crowded.

Yes,, that, one., That, one. Are, you, sure? Okay., Well,, tell, me, what, the, other, one is, but I'm really into that one.

Or, my, brother-in-law, invited, me, and, my husband to an orgy. That's, really, compelling,, too., But, I think the psychic like that's I think I'm into the psychic thing right now.

The, psychic? Yeah. Okay. Sorry,, guys., I, feel, like, they're, gonna want the other one. It'll be on Patreon. It'll be on Patreon. I'll give it to you next on Patreon.

Perfect. That's, how, we'll, we'll, remedy, that, one. Okay. So, this is coming from r/wedding shaming. 5 days old. Bride invited half the guest list 2 weeks before the wedding because her psychic said the energy was too crowded. I'm still processing this. The wedding was supposed to be this Saturday in Asheville. Was supposed to be My cousin Vanessa has always been into spiritual stuff. crystals, tarot, astrology whatever. Fine. Not my thing, but you do you. But about six months ago, she started seeing this spiritual adviser who she treats like a therapist, life coach, oracle, all rolled into one. The wedding planning has been pretty normal up until last week. 200 people invited venue booked, catering confirmed. I'm a bridesmaid, so I've been somewhat involved in the planning. Last Tuesday Vanessa sends out a group text to the bridesmaids saying we need to have an emergency call. We get on Zoom and she

tells us that she had a session with her psychic and the psychic told her that having over 80 people at the wedding would disrupt the spiritual alignment of the union and create energetic blocks in the marriage. She said she and her fianceé Matt decided to cut the guest list down to 75 people. 2 weeks before the wedding. We all kind of sat there in silence. Finally, one of the other bridesmaids asked how they were deciding who to uninvite. And Vanessa said the psychic helped her create an energy compatibility chart for all of the guests. Anyone who wasn't in alignment with their vibrational frequency got cut.

This included Matt's entire extended family except his parents, most of Vanessa's co-workers, and about half of our family, including my parents. My parents, who already bought plane tickets and booked a hotel. Yeah, it's 2 weeks before. She sent out a mass email that night. Not even individual messages, just a group email that said something like, "After deep spiritual consultation, we've decided to honor our authentic truth by creating a more intimate ceremony."

No. If, you, have, received, this, email,, it means your energy is not aligned with our sacred union at this time. Please respect our journey.

That's, so, crazy. People are losing their minds. Matt's mom called my mom crying. Multiple people are demanding their gifts back. Matt's brother posted something on Facebook about it. And Vanessa's response was to post a quote about releasing toxic energy.

Oh, my, god. Here's, the, kicker., I, didn't, get uninvited. I'm still a bridesmaid, but my parents aren't invited anymore. I asked Vanessa how that makes sense, and she said, "Your energy is evolved beyond your parents' energy. It's not personal. I told her I'm not coming if my parents aren't invited. And she said, "That's my choice, but I'm choosing fear over love." Then she asked if I'm still doing my bridesmaid duties this week because they need help setting up. The wedding is in 4 days. Last I heard about 30 people have confirmed they're still coming. The venue won't refund them because it's too late. Matt seems completely checked out. His family is furious. And Vanessa keeps posting Instagram stories about honoring your truth even when others don't understand.

I don't even know if this wedding is still happening at this point. Have they joined a cult?

This, sounds, like, ault, like, already., I, do think that there are God I even like know someone who I don't want to give too much away but they were like seeing somebody for one thing and then that person started giving them advice on like food and advice on like this and that and like life things and and it got to a place where it's like why are you going to this person not a therapist by the way like about all of these things and they're like making the decisions about your life and it's hard cuz I like want I want to give people the freedom to like believe in what they believe in and, like, if, they're, into, a, little bit, of like a woo woo type thing that's okay but like to this extent no this is absurd.

This, is, someone, who's, like, taking advantage of you because obviously like this has not made your wedding better. This has ruined your wedding. It's ruined the whole thing and like and relationships. It's it's hard to know cuz like some people do just like deeply believe in stuff and like I believe in the power of psychics and I believe in you know certain woo woo things but

totally at, the, same, time, I, wouldn't, let, someone convince me like oh all of these people are negative and you need to cut half them out and need to embrace people that are only on your frequency blah blah blah like at that point I'd be like oh yeah no this person is taking advantage of me

but, like, it, does, sound, like, a, cult people do get sucked into cults like the, other, day, Kayn, was, talking, about Scientology and how like she accidentally like went through the courses and like literally paid for some of the courses and

wait, how, was, it, like she's, got, she, had, like disguised, as, something, else.

Yeah., She, like, got, invited, to, hang, out with a friend and the friend was like "Oh,, you're, already, here., Do, you, want to go to this meeting with me?" And it was a Scientology meeting. And so like I get when people can get into cults and like "Oh totally."

You, kind, of, lose, sight, of, like, reality, but it's like it's hard to tell. It's like, is it that? Is it a mental health crisis? Like, why is the fiance so okay with this? Because

if, Justin, woke, up, one, day, and, was, like, "Oh, we need to cut half the guest list."

Yeah. I'd, be, like,, "What's, going, on?", Let alone, "Oh, this is 2 weeks before the wedding. Our money's gone. Deposits have been paid. Everything's locked and loaded." Yeah.

So,, what?, It's, such, a, negative, place, to start a marriage off of. And yeah, I mean there are a lot of people I think who are susceptible to the kind of language that a cult uses or like like oh, you're a special person. You're and you're so much more evolved than all these other people and like you should only be around XYZ and and the reason that this hasn't worked out for you isn't your fault, but it's because of like these people not being good. like that obviously that sounds nice and like people who are you know either experiencing a hard time with something or having insecurities about something like it sounds very good to hear that and actually you're such a special person like who who doesn't as a child think that they're a special person. I don't know I I it's it's tough and I don't like blame the people who end up in those situations because I think it can happen to a lot of different people. It doesn't

mean like, oh, if that happens to you you're stupid. No., No., I, think, it's, honestly, I, think the past couple of years have really shown us how easy it is to fall into cults. And like

yeah, cults, are, cults, because, they're, good, at marketing and they know what language is going to suck people in. So, I do think you can fall into a cult or a way of thinking and still be a smart person. Like, it it's

I, don't, know., It's, it, it's it, sucks, though., It's, cuz, like, what, do you do as a family member or as like that bridesmaid?

Hell, no. Yeah. Hell, no., We, won't., And, it's, like,, are you not giving them like if they're getting I guess we don't actually know that they're in a cult, but if they're getting like sucked into a situation where they need

to, still, have, people, from, their, regular life to like try to logic with them like is just cutting them off like

I, know, cuz, I, think, they, say, like, you shouldn't cut people off especially in times of crisis but crisis but um this might be the wakeup call she needs because there hasn't really been a crazy thing like this.

Yeah. So,, this, might, be, the, Oh,, no., Your actions are going to have consequences.

Enjoy, your, wedding. Oh, my, god., Wait, I, saw, a, tweet, today., Let, me, make, sure this is real and that I wasn't looking at pace or something like that. Kim Kardashian expresses her frustration in new Tik Tok vlog over psychics who told her she would pass the California bar exam only to fail. But it's like maybe it'll be a moment like that where it's like, okay, they clearly lied to me. like this isn't making my wedding better, but also this was so funny.

Oh, my, god, I, just, saw, it, today. I, saw, like, and, this, could, be, a, rumor, but allegedly she used like chat GPT to study for the bar, too.

I, think, it's, like, girl,, take, out, your [ __ ] book. Take She, said, that., I, think, she, actually, said that she will ask chat GBT like law questions. It's like you are not going to pass if you need to do that. Like you should be the one knowing it. I don't know. I want to like study the way she did where you just like study in your free time.

Yeah., With, like, a, private, team. Yeah., Like, I, I've, like, thought, about that like now that I'm not doing OT. Like what other side quest can I kind of do? Like that would just be interesting. I still want to take that civics class from Harvard with you. We talked about that.

I, want, to, do, that., Um I, like, any, kind, of, like, archaeology, type stuff. Like those are fun. Yeah. I've used it um Ed X before and you can do a bunch of different like like Harvard does classes through them like all types of colleges do classes with them and a lot of them are free and then if you want to get a certificate in it you pay for like the certificate version. Yeah that makes sense.

Yeah., I, just, want, to, like, I, know, being, a lawyer is hard. I know the bar is hard. Like Alejandra studying for her LSAT like that was insane. I want to like just take one just to like see the vibe. Like how bad could you

take, a, class, or, take, the, test? Just, like, a, little, elsat., Just, like, how bad would you

just, like, to, see?, I'm, just, like, so curious what the questions are. Like the logic games were so insane.

Interesting., I, have, no, idea, what, it consists of besides like playing Lwoods and Legally Blonde the musical my sophomore year of high school. That's

Oh,, that's, a, flash. The, closest, I, know, to Lwoods., Easy. 175., I, know, she, got, 175, in, the, musical. No, I just like I'm I'm a little bored right now. I'm finding that I need a hobby.

Let's, We, can, do, sewing. I, know., I, did, learn, how, to, sewish., Like I can turn it on and press the pedal and do a straight line.

So,, I, need, to, like That's, a, huge, starting, point. Start, going, to, some, classes.

Sewing, just, not, the, law, school, route., I don't have I don't have time for that realistically, but I'm just curious about it.

Yeah., Well,, that's, I, think, that's, beyond like a hobby. That's like I, know., I, don't, like, consume, your, life.

I, don't, need, it., I, can, read, my, basic contracts well enough and then I have a lawyer so I'm fine. I'm just so curious like you know this this little study on the side baby bar method. I'm just curious. I do think she is like spending a lot of time on it. I just don't

think, it's, the, same, as, like, full-time going to school. Yeah,, I, know., Very, different.

And, clearly, it's, not, working, out, for her. So no. Top, comment, on, this, one., Don't, go, to that wedding. Don't help. She's crazy. Tell her that she is bad energy for you.

Ooh,, that, speak, her, language, a, little bit. Mhm. Try, to, communicate, with, her, in, a, way, she understands. I actually think your vibrations have been low lately.

I, think, something, about, your, oracle. She's disrupting your energy and it's not putting out what people would like to receive.

I, think, I, see, a, darkness, coming, out, of your aura that wasn't there before.

Maybe., Next, comment, down., And, what, kind of doormat allows his entire family to be cut from the guest list?

Yeah, his, name, was, Matt. Oh, doormat. You, know, what?, There, was, a, guy, I, was talking to named Matt and he had me put his name in my phone as not a doormat because I needed to hear that. I guess not a doormat. You needed to stand up for yourself a little bit. Um, lot of comments just people like "So, she thinks you'd still want to show up and provide free labor when you have said you won't come to the wedding. That's a new level of entitlement." Like, basically just like this this gal has lost all sense of reality. I would love an update with this one. OP did delete the post. OP did delete their account.

I, bet, they, found, it, and, it's, become, like a family, drama. Yeah,, good, old, family, drama., It's, hard because if you're someone's bridesmaid like you're very good friends and if I had a friend go through this

I, would, be, concerned, about, them., Like obviously there's the root of you're an [ __ ] and you're being crazy, but it's also like are you in a situation where this like oracle person is taking advantage of you? Like

I, I, would, also, do, my, best, to, try, to reach them in a way about what's going on and be like, "Hey, I'm worried about you. Like this can't be good."

I, don't, know., Something's, got, to, give. Otherwise, I, mean,, that, guy's, got, to, call, it., Like, if she wants to live this spiritual life, then she can do it. But

you're, cutting, off, half, your, family., For what? Like for her delusions? No.

Well,, it, sounds, like, he, might, also, be kind of in it. Like, it said that they they talked and they agreed on who they'd removed from the list.

True. So,, I, don't, know., All, of, these, have, been incredible experiences. I don't think a single one of them is a unique experience that I'm jealous of.

No, they, all, are, completely, unique experiences and thank God for that. Can't tell which one I'd hate the most.

Oh, god., I, mean,, I'm, just, like, I'm, mad, by them all. Like the car dealership one

the, cat, one, really, set, me, off, from, the jump. That one was really brutal.

All, of, them., The, anatomy, textbook., Do you remember where we were when that happened? That was like a lifetime ago. Feels like ages ago.

Where, were, you, when, you, first, heard, that story? I, wish, I, didn't, hear, it., I, wish, I, could unhear some of these. But that's all I got you guys. We are headed over to Patreon with this very same theme. Some unique experiences. We've got some good ones again. Just kind of crazy weird.

I, really, like, the, stories, that, we, did, on the bonus episode. I, know., They're, really, good., And, one, of these obviously that I teased is going to go over there. So I'm going to record that right now. But thank you so much for being here. another episode and head over to Patreon if you want more. There is a free story, one that I teased with um S that's going to be over there as a free story. So, come on over and join us. But other than that, until next time bye

bye.

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Michaela (Guest), Kayn (Guest).

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The discussion revolves around unusual and spooky experiences, particularly focusing on a haunted monkey named Gordy that seems to cause technological glitches and strange occurrences in the lives of those who encounter it. The hosts explore themes of supernatural events and their willingness to visit haunted locations in a group setting for support against potential hauntings.

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The episode runs 1 h 50 min; the transcript is about 20,773 words in 429 timestamped sections.

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