David Meltzer on Creating Confidence Podcast

What this episode is about

David Meltzer shares insights on confidence building and personal growth, emphasizing the power of intention and the importance of positive practices, such as the significance of water as a conductor of energy and the use of calligraphy for spiritual downloads. He discusses his unique approaches to self-improvement and the transformative effects they have had on his life.

Key takeaways

• Your thoughts are powerful, but they need intention—otherwise, they’re just noise in a crowded mind.
• Water holds energy and intention; speak positively and drink up—it's cheaper than therapy!
• Manifestation isn’t magic; it’s a mathematical formula of attention and intention creating happy coincidences.
• We often 'vote' for others’ desires; reclaim your ballot and choose what truly resonates with you.
• Risk isn’t always monetary—hopeless faith in empty beliefs can be just as costly to our well-being.

Who speaks in this episode?

• Heather Monahan (Host) · 11 min speaking
• David Meltzer (Guest) · 25 min speaking

What is discussed, and when

1. 0:00 – 5:00: Sports One Marketing, Master Dr. Shah, New York Times
2. 5:00 – 10:00: Atomic Habits, Buddha

Notable quotes from "David Meltzer on Creating Confidence Podcast"

• So excited to be introducing you to my guest today David Meltzer serial entrepreneur three times New York Times bestselling author CEO of Sports one marketing and host of the…

  about New York Times · at 0:04

• And you've this beautiful wall art that I didn't realize was actual calligraphy that someone a spiritual person had created for you yeah master dr. Shah and you take your…

  about Master Dr. Shah · at 1:11

• These things were my faith no religious context at all then I met a guy who wrote atomic habits James clearer and he talked about voting and I started saying faith is like…

  about Atomic Habits · at 5:12

• Hey I'll take the six breasts Buddha there's a variety of things you could do and then I roll just like if I was on fire I roll in this trajectory I want to go in not the one that caused me to get in these awful fights with the people that.

  about Buddha · at 9:07

• The scariest part we have people ask me two years when I went bankrupt two years after that I worked for Leigh Steinberg the most vulnerable sports agent I was making money but…

  about Sports One Marketing · at 14:54

Who and what is mentioned in this episode?

People

• Master Dr. Shah — Person · Referenced spiritual teacher/creator of calligraphy used by host/guest · 1 mention · first at 1:18
  Credited with creating spiritual calligraphy artwork that the host traces as a “download” practice for abundance/family intentions.

Books & papers

• Atomic Habits — Book · Referenced work · 1 mention · first at 5:15
  Cited in the discussion about habits and the concept of 'voting' for what one wants in life.

Companies & orgs

• Sports One Marketing — Company · Business focus · 1 mention · first at 0:10
  David Meltzer's company, mentioned as part of his professional background.

Concepts & topics

• Buddha — Concept · Referenced concept · 1 mention · first at 9:07
  Mentioned in the context of spiritual practices and finding center.

Media & podcasts

• New York Times — Media · Referenced media · 1 mention · first at 0:08
  Mentioned as part of David Meltzer's credentials as a three-time bestselling author.

Full transcript with timestamps

0:00 hi and welcome back I'm Fanning out I'm so excited to be introducing you to my guest today David Meltzer serial entrepreneur three times New York Times bestselling author CEO of Sports one marketing and host of the amazing podcast the playbook thanks for being here David oh my gosh I'm so excited I've waited for this I had such a good time here and you were one of those women I met I'm like oh my gosh I wish that a younger brother wasn't married yeah but you're amazing so I'm so excited to get on here and I wanted to start because I have like this huge reveal for you we were talking earlier I know and you all tell me I'm gonna tell you so we I took you down I tres calligraphies and I have I have cookie things that I do spiritual things that I do and I always tell people here's the rule one there can't be risk like I won't do something like in a you know Mexico City where they're like cut off your head and

0:55 you'll go to another life or whatever too risky for me but I traced calligraphies I believe they're downloads I have one for abundance and financial wealth and one at home for family there's six feet so I taught you how to trace these for people that don't know what that means you took me downstairs in your office and you've this beautiful wall art that I didn't realize was actual calligraphy that someone a spiritual person had created for you yeah master dr. Shah and you take your finger and run it along the actual calligraphy a number of different times in a row yeah and it's a download or I believe so it has no risk doesn't really cost anything and it works in my life those are the three components I figured out a new one that everyone can do that has really changed my life so we're 80% water and I believe in drinking a lot of water over a hundred ounces a day water is the biggest conductor of electricity but also of

1:48 intention when you speak to water if you've ever seen like the movie blink or whatever you could talk negatively to water or plants which are almost all water and it will literally turn brown or plants will die you the same thing with positive you talk positively in the water can clear it up same with plants they'll grow so I decided that all the water that I drink that I'm gonna put my intention for whatever it is into the water drink it into my body and hold that in tension at a I believe an electronic level like truly at an energetic level I'm putting energy into the water my thoughts a high vibrating energy drinking it into myself holding it all day so I'll say this is gonna be a great interview or this is gonna be a great meeting or it doesn't cost anything it's totally and I can't tell you I almost get a feeling now while I'm drinking that it's done like whatever I'm saying like the pieces come over me

2:41 if there's a certain situation life is happening with three teenage daughters and a wife or whatever and I completely reverse the energy or intention of what's going on in my life simply by drinking down a new thought or a new idea and I would highly suggest people try it out it doesn't cost anything it's not gonna hurt you and it has extraordinary results for me so you just speak what you want to come to fruition to the world thinking or thinking yeah I mean I'm going all-in

3:14 yeah Gary take that my boy so that's amazing and I like the fact that what you're qualifying here is there's no risk involved you're not suggesting people do crazy things or expensive things I think risk is monetary I think a lot of people get ripped off over hope and belief and faith that's unnecessary and find things that truly work for you and experiment with all the free stuff out there that you can do that may have significant impact on your life why not and this all came up because I mentioned to you I saw the secret a year ago I was not someone who believed in the I didn't even know I didn't understand the ability to manifest I had never heard conceptually about that so for me I was just exposed to so year ago and I thought there's nothing I can lose here by writing down what I'd like to manifest and then taking it to the next level and then trace it and then speak it into existence and not learning about

4:06 opening your mind to learn about all these things has a domino effect wouldn't you agree that you start finding yourself having contact with other people who are masters and this or experts in this well that's because there's a mathematical formula to this that I try to break things down to a really simplistic level so what we pay attention to and then we give it intention rates the coincidences in our lives in Cohen sightings and mathematical term to me it's not an accident it's two things that are perfectly coming together at a perfect time the right way in a perfect time so I'm very cognizant of what I pay attention to and the intention I give it so that I get the coincidences that I want in my life and it really works as a mathematical equation and I make it a consistent persistent practice to pay attention to the right things now here's where it takes another level for me is I thought about faith

4:58 you know like I'm gonna put faith in this and that got really confusing so I a granade it what I think say do and believe and I even started looking at the unconscious competencies my genetics of personality traits characteristics recessions and addictions and how all these things were my faith no religious context at all then I met a guy who wrote atomic habits James clearer and he talked about voting and I started saying faith is like voting I'm just gonna vote for what I want and biggest mistakes in my life I'm always voting for what other people want for me and then I'm pissed off when I get it and I'm resentful when I get it and I'm just very hard now I know what I'm voting for and I know it's gonna be elected into my life and so I keep voting for what I want and if my mind tells me something that I don't want I don't vote for it and I see so many people voting for what they don't want

5:48 and then really upset or resentful or offended when they get it or even surprised and so I think all of these things combined together combined to voting is what I'm paying attention to the intentions the action right so it's not just paying attention and saying I want this or thinking about it it's actually get off your butt don't sit at home high on your mom's couch sick do something about it be efficient effective productive and accessible we were talking earlier I heard you Dave doesn't like busy no I hate busy busy means unaccessible I'm active I have activity I get paid for activity and I don't get paid for I'm productive and accessible I provide value and I'm accessible to what I want in accessible to others so how do you get that place because I know you weren't this way your whole entire life that's for sure you you went through some very hard times to get here what are some of

6:39 the things that you can point to the snores can take away so they can implement for their self that is great because I was lost even though I made a lot of money at a young age I was a lot of money dollars in year 20 lost yeah but I was lost and I was you know what I see is in an ego based consciousness so one of the tools that I started using was to define what that meant right what people meant when they called me a narcissist when they told me I was lost or you know creating all these negative interferences or corrosion x' - whatever I was doing and my wife was and my mom were the leaders and telling me how I lost and they were the biggest recipients of all my money which is really ironic right and which is I think causes problems and relationships but I started to define these needs that I had that weren't humbled needs that were creating interference or corrosion to my happiness or to that which inspired me

7:32 to me accelerating and growing because that's what inspiration does to us when we're inspired we accelerate and grow we expand so I started looking at my number one I had a huge need to be right and I started like yeah and I wasted so much time emotion energy and money on trying to be right and then I had a need to be offended and then I had a need to be superior then I had a need to be inferior then I had to need to be separate and altogether right these are just I started identifying I didn't need to be afraid I didn't need to be angry frustrated I get choked up I just literally started looking at myself and stopping and saying you're not happy why and I started practicing ending fear or this ego based conscious I just started practicing it and saying how long is it gonna take me I'm pissed off right now over nothing how long is it gonna take me to feel good again and instead of trying to move through being angry or

8:32 scared or resentful or offended or right I would say okay I feel this way how long it is gonna take me to get back to over here where I feel good this is a waste of time energy emotion and resources and money and I wasted more time emotion resource and money over the Eagle based often so I actually helped people get back to Center quickly and I used the stop drop and roll philosophy that anytime my mind body or soul or all three are on fire I stop I drop down to Center to breathe hey I'll take the six breasts Buddha there's a variety of things you could do and then I roll just like if I was on fire I roll in this trajectory I want to go in not the one that caused me to get in these awful fights with the people that I love the most Miley I look back in the first ten years of my marriage I don't know why my wife is still with me yeah but I literally I'm like what more like I wasted this woman is extraordinary and

9:34 I was looking and putting faith or voting for the things I didn't like in her and I got more of those and then I exacerbated the situation by focusing in paying my attention and putting intention into what I didn't want from her and that's what I was getting and all of a sudden I started making the shift and now we went out with Teddy Mellencamp and Eddie they're friends but they they're married in those first 10 years and you know my wife said oh Dave and I probably have argued twice in the last 10 years and she lit up like wow can you teach Eddie I'm like well first of all tell him how many times we argued in the first 10 years he's like twice a day that's how much I was ego driven I would hold on to things and focus in on the wrong things now I find the light and everything and I try to understand things I forgive it and I pray for its happiness what was the pivot moment for you was it

10:27 going bankrupt was it mentally something that happened that's awesome because most people think it was the bankruptcy which is not it at all there's three things that I looking back realized made a major shift for me the first was when my dad gave me a birthday present when I was 30 yeah my dad forgot my birthday when I was 10 he was my hero he left my mom when he's five one of the biggest things I'm still processing guilt wise is I would sit in the back of a station wagon which my mom packed me a dinner with five of my siblings and was working a second job after she was teaching to fill up greeting cards at the 7-eleven and I was in the back seat at five six and seven calling my momma lose asking her why she wasn't more like my dad and my dad was a rich deadbeat dad who married a girl closer to my age than his and my mom never said a word you hear me choking up cuz I sit there going oh my gosh so when I was 10 he forgot my

11:20 birthday I got pissed off because he lied to me and said he didn't believe in birthdays and I till I was 30 didn't get a present from him and he finally gave me a gift a jacket with no pockets and I got pissed off and called him I said what is this he goes to jacket I know what's it for he goes to remind you that you're just like me and I'm like what an like I'm just like you he goes yeah you're an over seller back in silver a liar and manipulator just like me oh my god and I was like I'm none of those things I'm a good husband I'm a good father I'm nothing like you uh you know I'm rich I go I'm successful and he goes no he goes you're just like me and I don't want you to I want you to hang this jacket to remind yourself you can't take anything with you I don't want you to be the richest man in the cemetery you're lost I was like so mad I hated him ironically today I say I hate my dad for all the things I hated about myself

12:17 then the second thing that happened was my in the fourth grade my best friend Robbie he asked my wife in sixth-grade camp to go steady he asked her in front of everybody goes will you go steady with dave meltzer he said no she said no tell him to ask me himself this is a lady I married so I third I got her that's how long I've been friends with Robbie but two weeks before another event my friend Robbie and I went golfing and I asked him why don't you hang out with me and he says I don't like who you hang out with and I said to him real quickly hey man I'm not doing what those other guys are doing we can hang out I'm still the same person and he said you can lie to me but don't lie to yourself that really killed me and then two weeks later is what my wife I came home wasted drunk my wife threatened to leave me told me that I was lost that I better take stock in who I was and what I wanted to become

13:10 the next morning I went into my room figuring out how I was gonna get divorced how pissed I was they need to be right they need to be offended I literally went through a list of how could she do this to me with all I've given her and then it just hit me all three of those things went through my mind my dad was right I'm sorry my life was absolutely right my best friend was right and I said it just came to me and I got really depressed I lied in bed I remember going how did I screw it and this is two years before I lost everything I'd set it myself up for some great failures from being an egomaniac but I literally lie there depressed going I've ruined my life like how could I be this foolish like I literally so I started outlining and then I remember rocky coming on the TV and he was getting beat up and he just kept getting up and that's when I decided I'm like if I can look up I can get up and I got up and I apologized to

14:08 my wife and I gave her a list of four things that I was gonna live by from then on gratitude forgiveness accountability and I was gonna live an inspired life again I was gonna be the guy that could do anything when they told me I couldn't play college football if they told you know whatever it was I was the can-do person right the try me guy not the wimey guy the try me guy and so I told her if she'd give me another chance that I would live this way and sure enough I from that day you know took me in and all of a sudden I watch this II grave right no I was so resistant to all this stuff and I met this lady that taught me to meditate in India then I started meeting all the people from the secret and then all these things happened I ended up being in the place that I am in this amazing the scariest part we have people ask me two years when I went bankrupt two years after that I worked for Leigh Steinberg

15:01 the most vulnerable sports agent I was making money but I was in a rented house rented furniture my wife was pregnant with her fourth child three girls under ten terrified my wife I was not terrified at all she kept saying this was the recession - yeah yeah 2008 so my wife kept saying you're not worried that worries me she said are you okay I said yeah I'm fine I got my check I wrote a check and said is this okay I'm gonna give this to Warren Moon my business partners charity for kids to go to college at-risk kids I said because could have gone to college of someone to pay for me and she looked at me and started crying said wow you finally get it and I was like you're okay with this she goes yeah I'm okay with that she goes you finally trust the universe I was like yeah I really get it I I do and she goes then double it I literally told her I said I go I don't trust the universe that much I literally said that

15:57 to her I said I'll give this and it's important because every time I give and still today I fight scarcity right I fight fear I still sometimes I write checks to charity and I think to myself I have four children two of them in college they got to go to graduate school get married I have a retirement I have all these things in the community I want to do should I be doing this today and then I remember lying in bed gratitude comes over I get choked up people like dude doesn't work unless you cry I'm like no I'm just emotionally connected I truly live this way I live this way and I avoid if I get fearful I go back to Center and I get connected to that emotion that you saw of that's the truth the truth my traits the fastest and I'm okay with people thinking I'm vulnerable or whatever I'm not I'm just connected to what I think people need to learn to get out of their own way and experience this unbelievable

16:53 overwhelming feeling of giving why can't vote will be a positive thing though I think that is a wonderful thing yeah I think in my vulnerability makes me invulnerable exactly that's really where your power lies yeah it's a superpower and it's just being truthful and my life changed when I started illuminating who I truly am and stop trying to pretend who I'm not that is so true and it takes for so many people myself included so long because you're trying to follow the advice others are giving you the direction they're telling you you're not gonna succeed if you act like that if you dress like that if you look like that and the more you try to mold yourself into what they're telling you the less successful you become yeah you're voting for the wrong things right right that's exactly this now you talk about abundance you talk about lack and scarcity I think that you have three different ones what how do you lay those

17:41 out so there's three worlds that I think exist the first is the world of not enough and tons of people live in the world I'm not enough even if they have a lot of things there's never enough and that's extremely scarce world it's competitive it's filled with void shortages and obstacles when there's not enough that's exactly what you're gonna get I have friends in Newport Beach that have extraordinary homes that are worth more than cities in the Midwest and they're always talking about it gonna have enough you know they're looking for the next plane they're looking and they're not happy then there's the world which is confusing of just enough and a lot of positive optimists can live there philanthropists can live there where there's just enough of everything you know I'm happy I have just enough and I really don't think that's a healthy place to be at all because there's a world that I live in that is more than

18:29 things happening to me as a victim in the world of not enough happening for me in the world of just enough there's a world of things happening through me of more than enough an abundant world where everything comes through me my duty is appreciation meaning I'm supposed to add value to everything that I get and then give it away and then that expands me so I can get more I'm one of the biggest capitalists I've made more money since I went bankrupt being a capitalist but I'm driven to make a ton of money to help other people and have fun nothing is for me like I it's all through me I have a complete predetermined distribution system from my wife to my kids to my mom to my other relatives to my local community to my state to my country and even the world and I take all emotion out of it I know that my goal is to stay focused even my savings I don't risk anything and funky stocks or whatever I literally put it in

19:25 annuities that either make they're guaranteed 2% if the market crashes or I get the upside of the market if it does well but it's guaranteed annuities right it's a savings because I want to spend a hundred percent of my time just focusing and receiving because receiving is giving to me every single dollar everything that I receive I have a plan an intent that is going to go help somebody and that's inspiring to me and that's the world of abundance of more than enough and my goal in life is the impact a thousand people like you that I know can impact thousand people to impact another thousand to be happy because if I can impact a thousand times a thousand a million a million times a thousands of billion in my lifetime over the next 60 years or so if I can impact over a billion people to be happy the whole world would live in abundance there would be so much of everything you won't even believe what that collective

20:19 consciousness or belief would create in the world and I truly am living that I don't believe it like I live that I live the way that word you can see that happen from the effect that you have on people in the connection that you have with people you were you just brought up an interesting point receiving versus just giving and I've heard you make some great points on this that everyone wants to give but not everyone is capable or thinks they're capable of receiving why is that judgements and conditions we feel as if when we receive where someone has put judgments or conditions on what we've done because most people don't give unconditionally they and you notice all my emails always say unconditionally it's because I've tried to separate judgments and conditions from my life that receiving and giving our one and then I want people to feel comfortable receiving that they're worthy of everything my biggest problem when I

21:07 lost everything what wasn't giving I gave with conditions I gave my money my mom because I wanted to be the favorite child I gave my money the communiques I wanted my name I wanted people to say how generous I was all of those different things now I do it unconditionally I I don't want to trade anymore I just want to give and I want other people to receive and get the blessing when you give and receive the giver serotonins release it makes them happy the receiver serotonin is released in their mind it makes them happy but the most powerful thing about giving and receiving anyone that witness is giving and receiving serotonin is released whether it's on TV the internet a movie if you witness giving people are happy from witnessing it there's no greater thing that you can do then create the flow that I'm talking about this energetic flow and don't forget money is the object of energy it's a currency

22:01 that goes into the current or the flow the more you have the more you little tracked in that the same as this faith or voting the you know green card gets you so much gold card platinum black card from Amazon same thing with faith or voting if you have black card faith that's abundance or you just have green card faith you're not gonna get a lot out of the universe the same as Amazon so one of the things that's really unique about you that I feel coming into your office is your energy what how do you describe to people how you've affected or change or honed your energy and put it to work for you yeah I think the whole office has a different energy and I think is the biggest compliment that we give here is I love the energy in this place well I believe everything is connected and there's two sources of energy that we have to focus in on and the first is the one that most people don't understand

22:49 it's that we are like a lamp we're plugged into the biggest source of energy that's why in your pinky you could light up all of Los Angeles for an entire day that's how much energy you have just in your pinky that's because you're connected to an unbelievable source of light energy this unbelievable vibration and so my first focus is is what's corroding or interfering with that connection and I know that by the temperature of my feelings why do I feel scared why do I feel angry why do I feel tired and so I'm very conscious about if there is an interference or corrosion or I don't feel that I'm getting enough suck from that huge energetic source then I'm gonna fix that first and then I worry about the appreciation process of that energy coming through me me adding value to it and then which is difficult all these different connections that we have in here with the five people in the studio right now I want I called it

23:44 holding the energy I want to make sure that I'm in sincere and authentic about my own frequency the strength of my signal the spectrum of my signal and the clarity of my signal so that when you and I are in an interview that we truly feel connected it's an emotional connection the the I'm channeling a lot of these ideas through me but they're going through you as well and it's a different interview than even with like Gary who's one of our friends right but it's different mine is an emotional connection that I truly am honed in on I'm really motivated and inspired by this and it's coming through me and I can feel the connection between you and I and an emotional level and the content will hopefully carry the signal this I'm in the clarity to all the listeners as well do you see that that ability to connect with others as one of your strong suits yeah and I think it's a practice skill you know the people buy

24:39 on emotion for logical reasons that we have to there's five steps to learning that one is credibility the higher your credibility people ignore credibility the higher credibility that you have the more people will connect to you easily meaning that if I had a hundred percent credibility I could ask you anything and you would say yes the second is the emotional connection we got to find this common connection we have to energetically connect to someone and we have to ask questions or talk or or get somebody to feel and I know it when I get choked up that not only am i connected here which is us trying to articulate but I also could feel your eyes getting watered up that I was know that you're feeling that pain and that and remembering that it was touching you right it was touching you then the easy part where most people try to make the connection it's quantifying reasons impacts describing the features or

25:33 benefits or the capabilities and then that's where people get lost they start at the bottom right and if you lose sales as an example of connecting people always start on the features and benefits the majority of them if they would start with credibility to be able to connect to somebody then the emotional connection then described statistically efficiently you would get a shared vision and be able to expand and accelerate that vision whatever it is it could be selling but it also could be they get your kid to eat his Peas but isn't that's a great point you bring up getting your kid to eat their Peas is selling terrific yeah I mean life's really tough sale by the way however don't you see that one thing that I learned from leading corporate America becoming an author and doing these different things my sales expertise is what made me good at books because there's great authors out there they

26:23 don't know how to sell books oh yeah so it doesn't matter what you're doing in life to hone that five-step process that you just detailed I hope everyone really picks up on that that's for everyone to learn so if you want to go out to dinner with your husband tonight you need to sell them on why it's a great idea and if you're not they approaching it that way it's not a negative it's like what you're saying be credible connect on emotional level you know if you really step into that and own that power it will take you to such stronger greater places in your life yeah you know that I try to get out of the sellings I'm a born salesperson like you so I love talking about sharing a vision right stimulate interest transition interest share a vision and if we're able to share that vision then it's our responsibility to manage and develop the vision to actually execute on what we're doing with value and if

27:11 you do that everything in your life will thrive you'll create ambassadors in your life all those closest to your relativity to the farthest relativity I'm always trying to coach people and live my life to have ambassadors I don't like followers I want someone that will impact other people with what I teach them and that's an ambassador and all you need yeah you know I came up this I was Gary I'd tell people you know what Millennials are young people you guys are thinking two years six years I'm thinking 20 years 60 years and when I say that if you do the math if you can get to ambassador's a year people that will impact to people themselves every year that will impact to people by tenant both in just five years you'd have 64 ambassadors in ten years you would have 2015 years you had 64,000 and 20 years you'd have two million ambassadors do you know impactful you are with two million ambassadors you're

28:07 like Gary Vee level of impact and yet most young people are on the two to six year plan I'm on the 20 to 16 year old plan so when I take the time to sit down with you I know that you're gonna leave here as an ambassador someone that's gonna impact people with the knowledge that I've shared with you in order to manage and develop that so it thrives you're gonna for the rest of your life there'll be one or two tidbits you might even go back and listen to this that you start impacting people and then someone 10 years from now like oh my god you change my life that was amazing that's what I look for and I think time is a variable that young people have to look at but stop looking at things in 2 to 6 years look at it in 20 to 60 because you're gonna live to 110 I hear you saying that and I I'm putting myself in their shoes cuz I've been there you're the one you've been there to write a difference Harley

28:54 those worse for sure and it's and it's a tough position to be in when I remember those moments so it was because the struggle was so real and so hard it it felt too overwhelming to look that far ahead does that make sense yeah and - you don't have this situation is easy for an old guy to say look 20 or 60 years when you've already worked for 25 years right I totally get that and the only things that we can do though and why I teach this so much even to young people is I know that when they're ready I've planted a seed and some reap 22 year olds the seed will water today some at 32 some at 42 and is some in 52 but I feel a responsibility or duty or because my vision is to impact so many people to plant those seeds and everyone that I have because whether it's they bouncer you or a coach or a teacher or a preacher whoever it is later on in life when they're ready the plant will grow just like bamboo it this is so well said

29:51 because I I'm running through my own mind connecting those dots the coach that first planted the seeds for me and then my mentor in business when I first started out I just started connecting all these different dots - sitting right here today with you that is literally how it works somebody along the way whether it be someone in your family a friend it doesn't matter some type of a mentor or even someone you follow on social media you know those dots will connect you just need to allow for that time to transpire well the most significant lessons I've learned in my life was when my dad planted a seed when I was 30 years old that didn't take root until I was 38 I didn't till I didn't see the jacket right I planted a seed and at the time I didn't see it at all I was so against him I thought it was an insult I thought this that he was manipulative he was an over seller back in selling the lie he

30:39 and yet he was admitting it to me but I couldn't admit that I was that I carried that quantum memory that I carried that genetic trait that was in me and that I was gonna stop the chain the genetic chain of that obsessive behavior that different behavior I was going to stop that and he was trying to plant the seed but I have 30 years old with all that money and everything on my side the Midas touch I had no capability of watering that seed or letting it grow until I was 38 did you keep the jacket yeah it's gotta be buried in the jacket you sew the jacket still hangs today is of course reminds me I kept it even when he told me and I hated him there's something that told me not to throw it away and I at first I thought I'd burn it and I just kept it even when we lost our house it went into storage was one of the first thing I look for because almost everything I owned went into storage because we had this tiny red a house

31:31 with red furniture instead of the Rancho saying to pay home that's one of the first things I look for that and I have an all-star Jersey from Gene Tenace how did you end up or did you end up forgiving your father oh I did for sure so through the process of the gratitude accountability and forgiveness and inspiration I learned about people that I had to be around that either bleed me or I had resistance with and I learned the lesson of one understanding so all the challenging relationships in my life I set forth on understanding the relationship not trying to change a 7 year old man I wanted to understand him and learn lessons from him and then finally to forgive him and to pray for his happiness and once I did that my dad and I became closer and closer passed away the day after Father's Day two years ago at 80 years old he most people for me that's really young in my family but the man lived on

32:28 three packs of cigarettes and candy so it's an extraordinary health miracle that he lived there so not like him because I know how committed you are to your health your eating your working out I mean all of this yeah and but I was on the path to end up just like him but you chose to change and that's what really hit me from the story when you your wife put you against the wall and said okay you know I can't do this anymore and you thought about it you came out saying here's what I'm gonna do no one was making you do it you decided you wanted to do it yeah something came through me I hear people talk about being saved you know and I try to keep things out of religious context because it separates us and I don't want to do that to the listeners but for me something came through me at that time because I was really angry and lost and it just hit me and those four things came through me like the Ten

33:21 you know I wrote those things down and I still this office has the energy my books have it it's those four things anybody asked me I make quick decisions because they're just based off of gratitude forgiveness accountability and inspiration I literally am very hardcore on those values and I believe in making a lot of money to help a lot of people to have a lot of fun everything's simplified to me in mathematical I love how you reframe the idea of making a lot of money because so many people and I felt this way you know they look down on you thank you why do you want material things or why are you doing this and it's such a better way to embrace it embrace abundance embrace that you're bringing value to the world and it's just an exchange of value but you're also gonna bring more goodness forward when you're supported to do it and there's lessons in everything there's lessons in buying a Ferrari

34:07 now I owned a Ferrari for the wrong reasons but there's lessons in owning a Ferrari so I even to self-absorbed monetary things I look at it in a different way to learn the lessons and to make it a profit it's a little different than most people but I actually if I'm gonna buy something I look for some sort of lesson experience or profitability that can come from it so I look at things which automobile which food I eat there's just a different perspective that I have and I make sure that I have enough not only for me but for everyone else as well that's so beautiful all right you can't get off this show without answering one question when in your life have you struggled the most with your confidence still with my children so I mean I I practice ending fear but the one fear I I just you know I walk outside in my 70 nose daughter car's not there or you know there on prom or the nine year olds playing in

35:01 the street or whatever it is you know the only thing that I truly you know I'm dealing with that that way is my children I will continue to practice ending I just AM emotionally attached so much to their well-being and feel responsible for them so that's such a real and I relate that with a twelve-year-old son so much that watching them go through these hardships and changes and challenges that we know they're facing don't do things that you did you know my son was a play tackle football and I'm like stock right he's mine you know what's interesting about confidence-building is that my son I'd never played he went to middle school and came home I'd like to play tackle football and immediately I said no and he asked me to open my mind to the idea of trying to learn something new I ended up letting him do it he ended up really striving so hard for something that he was a complete rookie in and had great camaraderie a great

35:52 experience he came out of that season more confident than I've ever seen him because he stepped right into that fear and went for it and was such a great learning lesson for me more than for him that's beautiful it's a beautiful world David Meltzer front of you so thank you an ambassador of you because I am well vice versa and anytime anything I can do for you let me know I appreciate it so much thanks for being here

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Who speaks in "David Meltzer on Creating Confidence Podcast"?

Heather Monahan (Host), David Meltzer (Guest).

What is "David Meltzer on Creating Confidence Podcast" about?

David Meltzer shares insights on confidence building and personal growth, emphasizing the power of intention and the importance of positive practices, such as the significance of water as a conductor of energy and the use of calligraphy for spiritual downloads. He discusses his unique approaches to self-improvement and the transformative effects they have had on his life.

What is mentioned in this Heather Monahan episode?

5 people, works and ideas are mentioned, including Sports One Marketing, Atomic Habits, New York Times, Master Dr. Shah, Buddha. Each one on this page links to its own page with every episode that mentions it.

How long is "David Meltzer on Creating Confidence Podcast"?

The episode runs 36 min; the transcript is about 7,384 words in 42 timestamped sections.

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