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The #1 Menopause Doctor Masterclass: How to Lose Belly Fat, Sleep Better & Stop Suffering Now!

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· 1 h 13 min · 12,988 words · 148 timestamped sections

This is the full, timestamped transcript of "The #1 Menopause Doctor Masterclass: How to Lose Belly Fat, Sleep Better & Stop Suffering Now!", an episode of Jamie Kern Lima published January 1, 2026 (1 h 13 min, about 12,988 words). It mentions 26 people, works and ideas, including Worthy, The Menopause Society, The New Menopause, American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG), Women's Health Initiative (WHI).

What this episode is about

This masterclass emphasizes the widespread yet often misunderstood challenges women face during premenopause and menopause, highlighting critical health issues such as heart disease, mental health disorders, and the impact on quality of life. Dr. Mary Clar Haver advocates for better understanding and treatment of menopausal symptoms, urging women to seek appropriate tests and consider hormone therapy as a safe and beneficial option for managing their health during this transition.

Key takeaways

  • One-hour menopause training: not enough for a lifetime’s hormonal chaos.
  • Menopause affects 50% of society, yet 9 out of 10 docs miss the memo.
  • Hormone therapy: It’s like Spotify Premium for your body, yet few stream it.
  • Perimenopause in your 30s? Surprise! Hormones love to play hide and seek.
  • Anxiety might be hormonal, not existential—time to connect those dots!

Who speaks in this episode?

What is discussed, and when

  1. – 10:00: Tain University, The Menopause Society, The New Menopause
  2. – 20:00: Estrogen decline, The New Menopause
  3. – 30:00: Worthy, Women's Health Initiative (WHI), Sharon Malone
  4. – 40:00: The Menopause Society, Postmenopause
  5. – 50:00: Worthy, The New Menopause, IT Cosmetics, Worthy movement
  6. – 1:00:00: Vaginal estrogen, Rachel Rubin, Unbreakable
  7. – 1:10:00: Worthy, South Texas, Worthy: How to Believe You Are Enough and Transform Your Life for You
  8. – 1:12:38: Worthy

Notable quotes from "The #1 Menopause Doctor Masterclass: How to Lose Belly Fat, Sleep Better & Stop Suffering Now!"

  • Obstetrics and gynecology specialist and certified menopause practitioner from the menopause society. She's also a certified culinary medicine specialist from Tain University…
    about The Menopause Society · at
  • Those things, you treated them almost in isolation. We didn't look at the root cause as the estrogen decline. I learned nothing about estrogen's effect on the cardiovascular…
    about Estrogen decline · at
  • Build your self-worth, you change your entire life. And that's exactly why I wrote my new book, Worthy: How to Believe You Are Enough and Transform Your Life for You. If you…
    about Worthy · at
  • On stage talking about the safety of hormone replacement therapy and how wrong the women's health initiative was and how many of those things had been walked back.
    about Women's Health Initiative (WHI) · at
  • Doing this for each one of us, but can you break down the three stages? Sure. P menopause postmenopause.
    about Postmenopause · at
  • Worthy of my hopes and dreams. And I'm sharing how you can too in my new book, Worthy: How to Believe You Are Enough and Transform Your Life. If you're ready to truly trust…
    about Worthy: How to Believe You Are Enough and Transform Your Life for You · at
  • Friend Dr. Dr. Vonda Wright, incredible clinician. She's writing a book called Unbreakable right now. she wrote the paper, the muscular skeletal syndrome of menopause. And…
    about Unbreakable · at
  • They looked at a chart review and said, If we went into the nursing homes and gave every single woman vaginal estrogen prophylactically, we could prevent 50% of eurospsis hospital admissions and save these poor women incontinence,.
    about Vaginal estrogen · at

Who and what is mentioned in this episode?

People

  • Sharon Malone — Person · 1 mention · first at
    To follow. This was the beginning of the menopausy and I see Aver Blooming and Sharon Malone and Dr. Carol Taverus on stage talking about the safety of hormone replacement…
  • Rachel Rubin — Person · 1 mention · first at
    So, our genital urinary system, we Rachel Rubin did her study.
  • Avrum Bluming — Person · 1 mention
  • Dr. Carol Tavris — Person · 1 mention
  • Jennifer Weiss-Wolf — Person · 1 mention

Books & papers

Companies & orgs

Concepts & topics

Places & events

  • South Texas — Place · 1 mention · first at
    Out with our so I have a chief resident come down the hall, happened to be male, happened to be from South Texas in his cowboy boots with his long white coat.

Full transcript with timestamps

That is a big breakthrough. That right there. I'm going to jump out of my seat, Dr. Mary Clar Haver, because the number of people listening right now that are going to be like, "Holy a minute.

Maybe I need to go in and ask for these tests and understand what's really going on with my body."

I went through the end of pmenopause and menopause and was absolutely blindsided and started digging into the science and the literature. I was just kind of shocked. It was a little bit of rage, you know, of what are we doing? What I'm supposed to be helping these women and these women are suffering right now. 1.2 billion women are in pmenopause or menopause. And whether or not you're experiencing this personally in your life right now, I guarantee you someone in your life is. It's not just weight. This is heart disease and dementia, diabetes, and stroke and muscularkeeletal pain are entire quality of life. their libido takes a hit. Sense of worth. One in five women are quitting their jobs. A lot of marriages break up. We're ignoring this.

So, you're a doctor and and you are realizing, wait a minute, how I was taught to treat uh my patients going through menopause or even to handle yourself going through pmenopause or menopause. This isn't working. No. Across the menopause transition, a woman can expect to have a 40% increased risk of a new mental health disorder, either anxiety or depression or even ADHD symptoms, but we're just telling her, "Oh, you're depressed and here's an anti-depressant." You know, "Oh, you're not sleeping. Here's a sleep aid." And no one's knowing to connect the dots. So many women are going to connect with this whether they're in pmenopause or about to be. And how do you know if you are? What are the three stages? What are so many of the symptoms? Oh my gosh, they go ignored. They go misdiagnosed.

We think it's something else. And I'm so excited. I'm going to jump out of my chair. Hormone therapy not only is safe, but preventative and beneficial. Why aren't we talking about why doesn't the world shout this from the rooftops? I promise you, you walk into nine out of 10 doctor's offices today, good, board certified well-meaning loving caring incredible doctors, and they have it totally wrong on menopause and hormone therapy. Nine out of 10. I've talked to now thousands of clinicians. How much menopause training did you get in medical school? We maybe got a 1-hour lecture 1 hour on menopause. This is affecting 100% of women who live long enough for the last third of their lives. That blows my mind. So if you're, you know, you're 36, you're 41,

you might be having anxiety, depression, all of these other things happening. So you go in for that and you're not checking your hormones. you're not thinking am I in par menopause or so you go in for that

you're thinking I'm anxious for that but nothing's changed in my environment and and and all these different things are happening to us and we're going into doctors who aren't for the most part trained in menopause so we're not getting our hormones checked probably not getting the correct tests or they think oh you're in your 30s your 40s you're too young and you're getting treatment for a symptom right whereas what we could be doing and why your work is having such a profound impact on so many people is in our 30s in our 40s.

We're going to talk about this, but understanding the underlying thing. Where are all of our hormones at? Where is our estrogen at? Could that be causing these other things that we think and and so many women are taking it to an identity level of, oh, I have this, I have that, I'm diagnosed with this, I'm diagnosed with that, but never actually the underlying thing that could impact whether you have any of those other things or not. Right? There are so many girls and women of all generations listening to the show. When we look at the data, it's all generations. And one of the things I one of the things that moves me to tears is when, you know, a woman will share it with her daughter and then she'll share with her grandma and then she shares it with her girlfriends. Whether you're a man or a woman, menopause is going to affect you because it's going to affect 50% of our society. Right now, whether you or

someone you love is experiencing pmenopause, which can start at 30 or even younger, or menopause, which can typically start in your 40s, 50s, or 60s. There is so much conflicting information about the subject. So few doctors are well trained, and there's so many things our mothers didn't tell us or even know about it. And it's time that you feel informed about what's going on with your body, your brain, and your hormones. Today is your menopause master class, and you're going to leave this episode with your own menopause toolkit equipped with the info and tools you need that I know are going to impact your life today. Whether it's how to sleep better, understand what's a menopause myth and what's the truth, lose belly fat, or stop suffering.

Finally, my guest today, many call her the top menopause doctor on the planet. Dr. Mary Claire Haver is going to take us from feeling powerless to power full on everything your doctor forgot to mention on topics including the exact tests you need to ask your doctor for during your next visit. The three stages of menopause on what's actually happening in your body on your changing hormones on hormone replacement therapy including the risks versus the benefits. Should you do it? How? and when on belly fat and weight gain linked to menopause and what you can do about it right now and on the surprising symptoms happening to so many women that go untreated and overlooked by the majority of doctors who just aren't as well informed as they could be. Today is a master class from the master of menopause herself. Dr.

Mary Cla Haver is a boardcertified obstetrics and gynecology specialist and certified menopause practitioner from the menopause society. She's also a certified culinary medicine specialist from Tain University, a best-selling author of multiple books, including her brand new book, The New Menopause. She's also the founder of the Mary Clair Wellness Clinic. She's a mom of two, a wife, and a woman on a mission who says that while menopause is inevitable, suffering doesn't have to be. And she is here to help you and me today. I love a truly lifechanging episode. And I am so excited for this one today. Whether you're listening for yourself or because someone that you love shared this episode with you, I want to welcome you to the Jamie Kern Lima Show podcast family. And today we are shedding light on everything your doctor forgot to mention to you about menopause. And for everybody new to this episode, can you

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I was a straight A student. You know, I I checked every box. And when I went through the end of pmenopause and menopause and was absolutely blindsided and started digging into the science and the literature that had not been taught to me, I was just kind of shocked. It was a little bit of rage, you know, of what are we doing? What I'm supposed to be helping these women and I don't have the tools to do it and these women are suffering. So my mission began, you know, I started like you with zero social media followers. We all start with nothing, right? No one inherits a social media following. And so I just kind of tentatively started talking about I really started in the nutrition space talking about weight gain and menopause, nutrition and menopause because that was kind of my biggest shock was someone who always had thin privilege all of a sudden had this I was dealing with weight gain in new places

that I had never experienced before and all the tricks that had worked before stopped working and all the advice I had given to patients wasn't working for them and also wasn't working for me. So that kind of took me down all these rabbit holes. And as the conversation around weight gain and menopause, the more I learned, the more I realized it's not just weight.

This is heart disease and dementia, diabetes, and stroke and muscularkeeletal pain and, you know, her entire quality of life. And what I realized is that the vast majority of women have this pivot at menopause where they have this loss of resilience,

this loss of them, this loss of self, this loss of, you know, their libido takes a hit, their, you know, sense of worth, their, you know, one in five women are quitting their jobs, you know, through the menopause transition. You a lot of marriages break up through this point. And I thought, we're ignoring this and we're treating it. It is a natural phase of life but it is one that needs to be really understood and I thought this is I'm stealing the quote but if if not me who and if not and when now let's do it now let's just start talking about it. So you're a doctor

and and you are realizing wait a minute how I was taught to treat uh my patients going through menopause or even to handle yourself going through permenopause or menopause this isn't working. Can can you can you take us through that moment because I think what you're going to share so many people can relate to because it's been their experience going to the doctor. They go in and then they get a prescription for something that has nothing to do with what they're going through and then they're still it's just they're still suffering. And can you kind of this is just so insightful to for you to shed light on your experience as a doctor realizing wait a minute how I was trained and and what I know so far isn't working for my patients. It's not working for myself. So I was taught that menopause caused three things. Hot flashes some genital urinary symptoms dry dryness um recurrent bladder infections

etc. and um your bones got weak. You know, you lose bone mass as you age and that was it. And if you wanted to treat those things, you treated them almost in isolation. We didn't look at the root cause as the estrogen decline. I learned nothing about estrogen's effect on the cardiovascular system, on the brain, on the muscularkeeletal system, on the on the lungs, on the kidneys, on the gut. And when I realized it's all tied together and really in OB/GYN we mostly focus on just vasa motor symptoms which are hot flashes basically and if you just treat just hot flash you only consider hot flashes to be the the pinnacle of treatment of menopause we're really doing a disservice to women

and the more I talk about it the more women are like oh my god and so really when I was researching for the new menopause women would reach out to me on DM, social media, or in my clinic. Could my frozen shoulder be related to menopause? Could my eczema be related to menopause? Could my recurrent UTI be related to menopause? Could my loss of libido be related to menopause? And I would say instead of saying no, no, no, I'd say let me get back with you. And really like as a clinician what shocked me was the data is there and very very clear but no one's talking about it or sharing it on a larger platform

and I thought women are suffering needlessly and we're not addressing really what's happening. So for the mental health changes for example which 40% of us have across the menopause transition a woman can expect to have a 40% increased risk of a new mental health disorder either anxiety or depression or even ADHD symptoms you know so we have the psychological impact and the cognitive impact and but we're just telling her oh you're depressed and here's an anti-depressant you know oh you're not sleeping here's a sleep aid oh you're having muscularkeeletal pain, take some non-steroidals. Oh, you're and and no one's knowing to connect the dots because we're not training them.

So, she's walking out with six, seven prescriptions to treat each of the symptoms of her menopause.

And it's a whole paradigm shift to think, let's stabilize or and or replace her hormone levels and see what gets better and then we'll address the rest after. to have this sort of epiphany as a doctor

and then looking at the industry and also just your own experience. Can you can you share because I know so many women are going to connect with this whether they're in parmenopause or about to be or don't even know if they are yet. We're going to dive in by the way and how do you know if you are? What are the three stages? Um what are so many of the symptoms that oh my gosh they go missed they go they go ignored they go misdiagnosed. we think it's something else and I'm so excited I'm going to jump out of my chair. Okay, but before I get into that um can you share uh just a little bit about you know your own experience of of pmenopause for you personally and then also menopause and

how was it how was it um how was your experience with your own doctors you were going to at the time? So, I was on continuous birth control pills, meaning I skipped the placebo week and just suppressed my periods for my entire reproductive life. I've suffered from polycystic ovarian syndrome and I had the thin kind that doesn't respond to dietary changes as well. And it I did great with it. I felt great. I felt much better than I did when I was off of them. Of course, I had fertility issues. Both my kids were fertility babies. And thank God they're here. and you know I've had miscarriages and all the things you know but I have two healthy beautiful perfect children and thank God. So when I was about 48 I was making the decision with my practitioner. So my nurse practitioner who I worked closely with was my doctor right and so I said I think I'm going to get off the pill and see where I'm at.

Let's get some blood work and see where I am in my menopause journey. you know get and you know because I was thinking about bone density and hip fracture risks you know moving forward not thinking about cardiovascular disease and mental health and all that. So at the same time my second oldest brother my oldest brother died when I was nine from leukemia. My second oldest brother was very ill from hepatitis and HIV and there was a lot of back and forth for his end of he was kind of I didn't really think it was end of life. was.

But um you multiple hospitalizations for this complication and that complication and I get a call when I'm so I just stopped the pill and I'm my body's trying to figure out where it's at and I get a call in the O. So I'm operating and they call three, four, five times. So the scrub whoever was circulating picked up my phone, put it to my ear and they said, "Your brother's in a coma and you should come home." And I remember and I just s repeated what they said out loud to the O team. And they called one of my colleagues to come down cuz I was like really struggling. You know, I had to finish the surgery. I'm not going to let the patient die. But I was, you know, you could tell my brain was like distracted.

And they're like, "Okay, we're going to call in Dr. X." And so one of my colleagues came in. We got to like where we knew the patient was going to be fine. I got through the critical part of the surgery and he's like, "I'll close, scrub out, go home." And um I rush home and home is four hours away, so to my hometown. And he's um he had had a stroke and he was um they were going to move him home for hospice and that was really hard. So I called my husband, the kids, they start coming towards Louisiana because we were in Texas. And uh I'm also in menopause or very late permenopause. I don't realize it. Okay. So, I'm going through this incredible grief process. This man that I just worshiped and loved, but had to love him through some poor health choices. You know, despite his choices, I still had to love him and then now deal with his death. And we had this beautiful death. Three days, all the

family and friends at the bedside singing. Of course, he's in a complete coma. And my sister and I are doing all the like physical care for him. She's a hospice nurse. And um and then just the devastation, you know, when he passed. And I didn't realize it, but I was also having hot flashes, night sweats, depression, you know, like like my brain wasn't functioning the way it should, but I was so overwhelmed with grief, I couldn't realize it in myself. So, you know, we get through the funeral, we go home and you a couple three months go by and I'm struggling, struggling, struggling with weight all of a sudden. Like, I'm starting to put on weight in my midsection. I'm not sleeping. I'm getting up in the middle of the night and I'm like, "Okay, you're just depressed. You know, Bob died.

everything's fine. And certainly the grief was a part of it. You know, we get to about month six, I'm still really struggling with weight and really sleep disruption and and snapping at my kids and just being really short and just don't feel like myself. Okay? And I realized my grief is lifting. This is not grief anymore, you know? This is something else going on. And I was like, wait, when was my last period? It was six months ago. Like I couldn't even diagnose myself, Jamie. You know, like I was the expert and rush into my, you know, to to Dora, my nurse practitioner, and we get blood work. And yeah, my levels were all fully menopausal. And I was like, we need to pause for a super brief break. And while we do, take a moment to share this episode with every single woman that you know because this information can truly change your life and hers.

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and rush into my, you know, to to Dora, my nurse practitioner, and we get blood work and yeah, my levels were all fully menopausal. And I was like, what? I I'm too young. I'm 48, you know, I'm what's happening? And no, I was absolutely fully menopausal. I didn't even know the normal age range of menopause. That's how little education I had. I knew the average age was 51 and I thought I had till 51. I taken care of women like this my entire career and I realized I was a terrible menopause doctor. What do I not know? Okay. And that took me down the rabbit hole. My the change of my mind on So I went on HRT extremely reluctantly because I thought I might it would increase my risk of breast cancer.

Hormone replacement therapy. Yeah. Hormone replacement therapy. And I was terrified to do it because there's so much cancer in my family. But I was like I can't live like this. So, if it takes a couple years off my life, it's a gamble, but I'd rather have a better quality. I cannot live like this. Something's got to go. Go on hormone replacement therapy. Immediately, the world calms down. I'm sleeping again. I'm, you know, the weight was another story. That's a whole another book. But, um, but like I felt like I got my resilience back, my ability to cope with what was in front of me. Then I went to my first kind of menopause conference and it was in New York or actually it was in Santa Monica and I was going to present about nutrition and menopause.

It was you know lots of experts there, women I'd never met who I was starting to follow. This was the beginning of the menopausy and I see Aver Blooming and Sharon Malone and uh Dr. Carol Taverus on stage talking about the safety of hormone replacement therapy and how wrong the women's health initiative was and how many of those things had been walked back. I was tears. My daughter was with me. She was applying to medical school. Tears falling down my eyes and she's like, "Mom, are you okay?" I'm like, "Katherine, I didn't know. I didn't know. I didn't know. Like, this is my job. I am the expert. I did not know that for the vast majority of women, especially at this age, hormone therapy not only is safe, but preventative and beneficial. And why aren't we talking about why doesn't the world shout this from the rooftops? And that was really like that was the moment, the light bulb where I was like, "This is my mission.

This is my mission to share this as far and wide as I can." Because you had the aha moment that you're this incredible doctor and you're like, "I didn't even know these things." And then you're watching three other doctors talking about the research on hormone replacement therapy. You're seeing how it impacts you and you're like, why isn't this being talked about? Why don't people know about this?

Know how safe it is? You I promise you, you walk into nine out of 10 doctor's offices today, good, board certified, well-meaning loving caring incredible doctors, and they have it totally wrong on menopause and hormone therapy.

Nine out of 10. Why do you think there's so little information out there? And nine out of 10 doctors you say have got it wrong. Why do you think there's just so little information?

So when I look back and I've talked to now thousands of clinicians, how much how much menopause training did you get in medical school? Right. Because in the US we do a four-year medical school curriculum. Then we go off and do our specialty training which is 3 to 10 years depending on what you do. How much did you get? We maybe got a 1-hour lecture. 1 hour on menopause. This is affecting a 100% of women who live long enough for the last third of their lives. This is not a niche boutique, you know, this is all of us. And I got one hour of the most basic basic basic information in medical school. Then I go into my OBGYn residency, a 4-year curriculum, and over 50% of the time is spent in obstetrics.

Very important. Super proud of what I learned. I spent four years learning how to deliver babies safely and all the complications and how to sh help shepherd someone through a healthy pregnancy and deliver in the postpartum and everything. And then everything else gets shoved in the gynecology box. And that includes pediatric gynecology. That includes reproductive endocrinology, getting people pregnant, saying people with, you know, having um chromosomal disorders and how we manage that. Um down syndrome, you know, how that all affects females. Menopause got shoved into a tiny the smallest little sliver in a tiny box. We got six hours of lectures in four years of curriculum. We had no menopause clinics, no clinically relevant menopause training. And then in my last year, we had the women's health initiative being released and basically anything clinically like hormone therapy was taken off the table as an option

unless in the most severe cases and you really try to do everything else before you give her hormones because we were all terrified that we would give her breast cancer. And it was never true. never true.

We're going to dive into hormone replacement therapy, into the myths, into the truths, into every option that exists, into what you do right now dayto-day. Um, all the applications. Who's it for? Who's it not for? When do you start? How long do you do it? I'm excited about this. Um, but I want to I want to just tap into something you just said that blows my mind. So your 4year medical degree 1 hour of menopause training and then your 4year specialty in OBGYn 6 hours 6 hours

6 hours so 7 hours total in eight years how common is that what is the average would you say across every doctor

it's very common if menopause so in a OBGY and residency if menopause is included it's an elective So like a menopause clinic, there are menopause. It's getting better, but we have a very long way to go.

And tell me if if this perception is accurate or not. But when I think about doctors, because there are so many just rockar amazing um good-hearted hardworking, incredible doctors who are day in and day out treating their patients. They don't have time to go be doing a whole bunch of other so

to get Yeah. to you have to step outside of the box of your training. Yeah. So I am board certified. I have remained board certified by reading 114 articles a year and taking a quiz on each one to make sure I understand. So the American Board of OBGYn puts out a beautiful set of articles on the latest and new updates and everything and probably less than 3% have anything to do with menopause. And a lot of them are elective because we subsp specialcialize in OBGEN. So a lot of people do just surgery or just obstetrics or high-risisk OB or whatever.

And so you can even opt out of the few menopause articles that are out there. So

the American College of OBG, the American Board of OBG, I mean, I hate to call them out for this really have not prioritized it. So the Menopause Society, which I did not know existed until three years ago,

was kind of a rogue group of clinicians who said, "Hey, no one's focusing on menopause." and they started their own society

and started making their own guidelines and their own. So the American College of OBG and the menopause society are not connected.

So in 2022, the menopause society updated their menopause hormone therapy guidelines away from the old it's probably going to be dangerous. Give her the smallest amount for the shortest time possible to probably beneficial for most women. We've got a window of opportunity for cardiovascular disease probably. You know, there's no age at which you have to stop. But ACOG's guidelines have not been updated since 2014. They still say the exact same thing. So, most OBGs don't even know about the Menopause Society. They think they're doing a good job because that's what they were taught and they passed.

That was me. But all of a sudden, you realize, wait, you know, I maybe don't know what I'm doing. patients are coming in with questions or god forbid a video of me or you know a medical article I tell them to print out and hand to the clinician but they are so busy I mean things in medicine with the corporatization and and administrative burden have just gotten to the point where the burnout is terrible in multiple areas of medicine and you cannot lay the fault this at the at the this is a systemic problem and these are good doctors working really hard doing what they were trained to do and they just don't have the time they just don't have the time we're going to link to the menopause society and every other resource by the way and we're also going to dive into uh in this conversation how do you prepare for your appointment how do you know the questions to ask what test should you ask your doctor for we

are going there today which I'm so excited about um but I just want to call this out because you know we already have a challenge in our country and I would say every country around the world but we have a challenge where you know if we are fortunate enough to have what we consider a great doctor that our insurance actually covers. There's still a very high probability they've had little to no training on menopause menopause training.

For everyone listening right now, a lot of people start experiencing permenopause symptoms in their 30s or it could be younger. It could be, you know, and then and then menopause. I want to break this down for everyone because, you know, again,

as as as a woman going into a doctor, we're not learning these things. I also think sometimes there's now so much information online, so much of it's not vetted that in a single Google, we can all read all about the wrong info and not know if that's right. And we go to our doctor who maybe if we're blessed is amazing, but they don't have time or they actually don't have the experience. So, I want you to break this down and I'm so grateful to have you here today doing this for each one of us, but can you break down the three stages? Sure. P menopause menopause postmenopause.

What are they? How do we know if we're in them? All right, let's start with menopause and then we're going to work our way backwards and forwards. Okay, so menopause, guess what? Is one day in your life? One day.

Everything after is postmenopause till the end of your life. And then the 7 to 10 yearsish prior to that is pmenopause. So menopause is medically defined and this is a problem as one year after the final menstrual period. But it represents something much bigger than that. It represents the end of the production of hormones from your ovaries. So what most women don't understand and what I love to teach is that we're very females are different than males in multiple ways, but let's talk about endocrinology. Females are born with all of their eggs.

So you were born with a set amount of egg supply and your maximum egg supply was when your mother was pregnant with you at 5 months gestation and then they start going through a process of atreia which is an aging process so that the healthiest eggs survive right and then when we start ovulating at 11 12 13 14 however old to get that one egg to ovulate we lose about 10,000 in the process. So Jamie was born with 1 to 2 million eggs and by the time you were 30 you were down to 10% of that. About 120,000 on average. By the time you were 40 you were down to 3% of your original

3% of your eggs left by 40. Yes. On average. Okay. And then menopause represents no more eggs.

And how do we ovulate? What what is that process? Actually ovulation begins in the brain. So our brains are there's a gland in our brain called the hypothalamus and it is constantly checking the blood every day for estrogen levels and when the estrogen levels get low as in a normal cycle. So most women have seen the normal menstrual cycle hormones where we have a surge of estrogen midcycle and then progesterone surges on the second half. That's and that is like a very EKG like eb and flow that goes month after month after month. No problem in a healthy woman.

When you get to pmenopause, we reach that critical egg threshold. We're just down to enough where the signals coming from the brain saying, "Hey, give me the estrogen stop working as well."

So, the ovaries can't respond. They don't have enough of the eggs because around each egg are something called follicular cells and granulosis cells. And that's where the hormones are produced. So, we're running out of those units. So, the hormones go down from the brain saying, "Give me, give me eggs, give me estrogen." And the eggs are like, "I don't have enough. Sorry." And then the brain goes, "Wait, I need my estrogen." So it makes higher hormone levels coming from the brain. That's when we get into the chaos. So what used to look like this beautiful EKG every month now becomes chaos.

Estrogen levels surge higher than we've ever seen in your whole life. And then they crash and progesterone never gets where it used to be. So what used to look beautiful is now spaghetti. I literally take a pile of spaghetti and throw it out the wall. And that is what your hormones are doing for a 7 to 10 year process until you just run out of all the eggs. Then everything flat lines for estrogen and progesterone.

So many questions here. I know you've been mentioning, you know, heart disease, you know, all these different uh diabetes, all these different

conditions. And what so many people don't know is that when you don't have your hormones balanced and when you go through menopause and you may be deficient in hormones, it can impact and potentially cause so many other things,

multiple organs, multiple organ systems. It accelerates the aging process. So our ovaries age twice as fast as most other organs in our body. And when we lose the benefits, so estrogen turns out is insanely protective of our liver, of our joints, of our brains, you know, kidneys, gut, all of it. We work better as humans, female humans with estrogen on board. It's just the way it is, okay? That gets taken away, goes chaotic and gets taken away. Let's go organ system by organ system. So,

and this is starting in permenopause. It's starting in permenopause. So, and really for a lot of women, the symptoms are worse, especially mental health and cognition in pmenopause. Our brains hate chaos. Our brains love to know there's a system. Everything's working. This is coming. That's coming. And it's going to go over and over and over again. in pmenopause is when we see the most rapid expansive bone loss,

the most rapid expansive muscle loss and the most rapid increase in mental health changes in the forms of anxiety and depression and where we see the worst brain fog. All of that tends to stabilize stays, you know, we get this rapid expansion and then stabilization in post-menopause. Still not great. And then we go back on to normal aging. And when you're estrogen, your brain's saying, "We need more estrogen." and it's surging and it's plummeting and

so guess what estrogen and progesterone and as well as testosterone actually directly affect our neurotransmitters dopamine serotonin norepinephrine you know GABA all these important chemical signals in our brain that keep us functioning and and so there's this fascinating study

that just got released and I'm researching for the new book right now and it's called I just don't feel like myself in pmenopause

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And they actually quantified it and I it stopped me in my tracks because I was like, wait, this is what my patients are telling me and now they've done a study and this is a thing like I just don't feel like myself is good enough because forever I mean besides the lack of education in menopause. The other systemic problem is that there is a bias that women tend to sematicize a biological process. You know that. So basically what's coming from they don't recognize that is biology. They think it's psychology that's causing the problem.

They think it's all in my head. All in her head. It's all in my head. Yeah. Oh, it's she's or women just go through this. This is the age. But no one ever stopped to say why are all women going through this at this age?

I want to I want to call out something really big because I don't want it to be missed at all. So if the average age of menopause, you're saying it's about 51. 51 for for us for for Caucasians. So actually um Asians a little bit tiny bit older, African-American women a year and a half younger, South Southeast Asian women 46 48 is the average age of menopause. So when if Perry when the brain is like something right is 7 to 10 years before that it is completely reasonable for a woman in her 30s

to be waving a flag going I'm not sure what's going on but I don't feel okay. Here's the big aha I'm having right now that may be a big aha as well for everyone listening. So if you're, you know, you're 36, you're 41.

You might be having anxiety, depression, all of these other things happening. So you go in for that and you're not checking your hormones. You're not thinking, am I in pmenopause or so you go in for that? but nothing's changed in my environment

and and and all these different things are happening to us and we're going into doctors who aren't for the most part trained in menopause. So, we're not getting our hormones checked, probably not getting the correct tests or they think, "Oh, you're in your 30s, your 40s, you're too young." And you're getting treatment for a symptom, right?

Whereas what we could be doing and why your work is having such a profound impact on so many people is in our 30s, in our 40s. We're going to talk about this, but getting, you know, understanding the underlying thing. Where are all of our hormones at? Where is our estrogen at? Could that be causing these other things that we think? And and so many women are taking it to an identity level of, oh, I have this, I have that, I'm diagnosed with this, I'm diagnosed with that, but never actually the underlying thing that could impact whether you have any of those other things or not. That is a big breakthrough.

It is a huge That right there. I'm going to jump out of my seat, Dr. Mary Clar Haver, because the number of people listening right now that are going to be like, "Holy wait a minute. Maybe I need to go in and ask for these tests and understand what's really going on with my body because what they think is going on with their body might just be a symptom of something else that's not being treated or even recognized." So, in huge in the new menopause, you know,

which was really driven by my followers, people asking me questions, could this be related to my menopause? Instead of saying, nope. I was like, I don't know. Let me dig. I couldn't. We have 77 symptoms in this book.

And I go through the why and the pathophysiology. These things were I didn't make this up. These are actual papers written, but they're because menopause is in the word, they tend to be buried in obscure journals. Let let me give you some perspective here from a medical standpoint. When you go to PubMed, which is the database for peer-reviewed medical journal articles, right? So, as a physician, as a clinician, as a researcher, this is where I go to find the good stuff, right? And I type in the word pregnancy, we have 1.1 million articles come up.

Amazing. Important. That is brain power research. NIH dollars. Like, like to generate that kind of research takes money, takes investment, takes time, takes commitment. Okay, let's type in the word menopause knowing more women will go into menopause than have children than be pregnant. Okay, it is right now about 98,000.

So more than 10 to one difference. Okay. Okay. Let's type in the word perry menopause. I did this yesterday. 6,800. more women will go through Perry than menopause because we're going to lose some due to accidents or untimely deaths. That's where

more women will go through Perry. And if you think about what that represents focus

the wise, the hows, the wins, and that is what we're fighting to change. So Dr. Mary Cla Haver's book, The New Menopause, her upcoming book, The New Perry Menopause, which I am also equally very excited about. I want to ask you because this is a shocker. You say there's over 70 symptoms you you know most of us we think oh hot flashes

and that's it and then right that's what the doctor asked what I was taught right that's what you were taught

oh and then in a few years your bone density we'll check bone density at 65 oh and then your something might happen to your vagina get dry but you know we got some cream for that

yeah okay share with us because so many people are listening are like I feel like they're

lightning bolts are going off. Yes. Yes. share with us some of the symptoms that so many women share with you they have and they didn't realize, oh my goodness, this is a symptom of permenopause or this is a symptom of menopause. It could be. Yeah.

Um so I'm going to go top to bottom so keep my head straight because you know menopause. Okay. Um so brain uh start with so our brains we have psychological changes and then we have cognitive changes right so in the psychological change we have a 40% increase in mental health problems usually anxiety andor depression across the transition through pmenopause and now we know some incredible data coming out of Australia that stabilizing those hormones with hormone therapy is better to treat her than giving her an anti-depressant

or the traditional treatment for anxiety and depression that she deserves a trial and maybe the two can work together and you know so if you have a patient who's like listen something is wrong nothing has changed in my because I'm like death in the you know all the the the stressors no my I was handling my life I had it and now I don't I've lost my resilience I'm anxious I'm snapping. I can't sleep. My mind is racing. I'm getting up in the middle of the night with a rolodex of every bad thing I've ever done in my life. You know, every mistake I've made, every person whose feelings I hurt, and I can't turn it off, and this is not normal for me. And what we weren't trained to do as clinicians is listen to the woman saying, "This is not normal for me."

And I was taught to think, "This is just what women go through." And I think it's absolute now that I've gone through it. And like it wasn't fair. It wasn't fair.

Can you talk about I know um I want to ask you about a WW in a second. This is a big one. I'm telling you. Um but but really quick, can you can you share too because I know Frozen shoulder. So we'll keep going through. Keep going because this is I want everyone to know.

Cognitive brain fog, word salad, forgetting, you know, I just saw a politician being made fun of for word salad. I'm like, she's in menopause. Give her a break. keto. Um, one in five women in the UK are quitting their jobs because of untreated menopause. You know, we think 1 to 10 or more in the US. Like this is a big deal. These women are high functioning, leaning into their jobs, empty nesting. They're ready to like give all their knowledge and expertise and wisdom and then suddenly they're absolutely hamstrung by the cognitive changes associated with menopause. Good news there is that it does tend to stabilize, but it could take a few years. And so many walk away from a career because they just don't feel like they can do their jobs. I'm talking surgeons, lawyers, school teachers, you know, and and how many marriages are being affected by this?

How many relationships with my daughter? My daughter joked that, you know, I survived mom's per menopause when I was a te, you know, like you survived my teenage years while I survived your permenopause. I was like, that really wasn't fair. And, you know, like for us to both be going through that at the same time. Um so then as we move down the muscularkeeletal system so my dear friend Dr. Dr. Vonda Wright, incredible clinician. She's writing a book called Unbreakable right now. Um she wrote the paper, the muscular skeletal syndrome of menopause. And there were two um researchers from Duke University a few years ago, a couple years ago, and it was the head of the OBGEN department and the head of um the orthopedic surgery department. And there's some lore here, but I think they were like at lunch in the cafeteria or something at the hospital and we're talking about all the frozen shoulder and the ages and they're

like, "Do you think they could be related?" D. So they just pulled charts and did a review study and found, wow, yeah, it's definitely elevated in this menopause situation. And if they're on hormone therapy, they have it less,

less frequently, less often. They could not get it published in a single orthopedic journal, but they got it published in a menopause journal

and it kind of set the world on fire. Then Vonda Wright went in and wrote another paper all about detailing the pathophysiology and all the mechanical things and everyone went crazy because no one in the orthopedic world could recognize that frozen shoulder is absolutely related to the loss of estrogen. M

so besides that um arthralgas joint pain in my world you know in the menopausy we think that probably a significant maybe 80% of fibromyalgia is actually misdiagnosis and it's really muscular skeletal syndrome of menopause.

Wow. Yeah. So, and then um if we look at the gut, so work done by Zoe out of the UK, they collected stool samples on like a billion, not a billion, but several thousand women across the menopause transition and looked at the gut microbiome and saw, my god, across the transition, she loses diversity of her gut. She loses the healthy bacteria and her gut now looks like a man's. You know, we had all we enjoyed all this protection, this better health, this slower track to cardiovascular disease and gut health and brain health. And now we ex we blow past the men

and and get dispiosis can impact like every part every part. How you metabolize drugs, how your brain functions, where the serotonin's made. I mean, it all works together.

So, um, our genital urinary system, you know, we Rachel Rubin did her study. They looked at a chart review and said, "If we went into the nursing homes and gave every single woman vaginal estrogen prophylactically, you know, we could prevent 50% of eurospsis hospital admissions and save these poor women incontinence,

you know, urgency, frequency, and recurrent urinary tract infections. The number one treatment for a woman, if no one hears anything but this today, for recurrent UTI in her pmenopause journey is not recurrent antibiotics.

It is vaginal estrogen. Giving your body back the hormone that kept those tissues healthy. Treat the root cause besides the cosmetic things, the skin and the hair. And we lose 30% of our collagen the first five years of menopause.

Wow. And we're going to dive into hormone replacement therapy as well. Can just just high level, can hormone replacement therapy um and getting your your hormones back to where they are ideal. Can that in most cases resolve most of these things you just listed?

Yes, that's what it's looking like. I mean, we are still aging and no one denies that. are still going to have certain disease processes, but all hormone therapy is going to do is put you back on the track that you were on and just take menopause out of the equation, right? Nothing is I joke, nothing is better than your 25-year-old ovaries, and I can't put those back inside of you. Hormone replacement therapy is good, but it's not perfect. Not the same doses work for everyone. We have a lot of trial and error in how we prescribe it. But my goodness, in my clinic and all the women who stopped me in the bathroom in every airport in America, telling me how it gave them the courage to ask or taught them how to find a clinician who's educated and then they were able to go and determine for them, make a decision for themsel if this was right for them and how many aspects of their life are better that

they didn't realize would get better because they didn't know that whatever they were suffering from could have been related to menopause is unbelievable to me. You know, it's such new information also for so many women. I want to I want to just highlight one thing you mentioned earlier as well about our eggs. We're all born We're all born with the full number of eggs we're ever going to have in our ovaries. And you said by the age of 30, 90% of them are gone.

Gone. We only have 10% of our eggs. And then you said by the age of 43% 3% 3% of our eggs are left. I want to call this out because, you know, in my journey of um, you know, my husband and I trying to get pregnant and, you know, I had many miscarriages and went through fertility and I'll never forget sitting down

uh and seeing the chart. I just I had no idea that our eggs decline so so quickly and that we lose so many of them. And I remember making the decision um in my 30s to uh to do egg retrieval because I'm like, "Oh my goodness." Like I have at this I think at that point I had 5% left and I was like, "Wow." And then you know the the quality also can decline. Can you um can you just share you know and we're going to dive in deep into um hormone replacement therapy. I want to talk about how estrogen, you guys, estrogen impacts like literally almost every part of your body

in a positive way for most of us. Yeah. So, I'm excited to dive into that. But, but there are so many girls and women of all generations listening to the show when we look at the data, it's all generations. And one of the things I one of the things that moves me to tears is when, you know, a woman will share it with her daughter and then she'll share it with her grandma and then she shares it with her girlfriends and it's just it's overwhelming. So, I'm just thinking of the number of women who need to know this right now. But your advice, Dr.

Mary Clare Haver on the optimal age um if a woman is going to uh do uh you know freeze her eggs um or decide to do embryos, whatever she decides is best for her. And you know, when should she do it? When can she still do it? If she's sitting there and going, "Wait, I'm 40 right now. Wait, I have 3% left. Should I do it now?" What is your advice? the sooner the better and find someone who knows what they're doing. So, a reproductive endocrinologist because those are average numbers, right? My sister-in-law got pregnant spontaneously at 41. My best friend in high school got pregnant spontaneously at almost 42. Yeah,

those are pretty rare, you know, and they have healthy children, thank God, and those are my nieces and you know, I love them. But like that that is really really rare. So, you can't cling to that story and think, "Oh, that'll happen to me." You know, nature does not care. And you know, so many things are out of your control. So if you're thinking about it, if you're gonna not decide to have children right now for whatever reason, career job education if you're getting into your mid-30s, you should go and get evaluated. You don't want to be blindsided by the fact that you're going to struggle. You want to know ahead of time because that fertility doctor can do several rounds of tests and be able to tell you, "Okay, these are your chances percentage-wise."

if I were you, you know, and say if you choose to retrieve now or maybe wait, you've got a couple years, you know, if you're going to try spontaneously to get pregnant. Um, but there, you know, uh, Dr. Natalie Crawford does a tremendous amount of education around this topic. I can't recommend following her enough. And she has a new book coming out, too, and, you know, went through her own fertility journey. So, not only is she like a medical expert, but she really, really, really gets it because she went through it. I want to talk about the tests we should ask our doctors for and I want to dive deep into hormone replacement therapy. Sometimes we're people pleasers or we let our doctors give us an answer because they're busy and we don't speak up or we get the feeling like what we just shared even though it was vulnerable maybe wasn't taken seriously in our appointment. And I can you share uh what WW is? Yeah.

Okay. And then what do we do about it if we feel like it's happening to us? So there's this this actually happened to me when I was a resident. So I was an intern which is your first year out of medical school and you're I was freaking out as an intern just praying to God, you know, I have all this responsibility now and please don't let me kill anyone and you're just like kind of really anxious all the time. I was not the overconfident kind of jerk doctor, you know. I was like double triple-checking, you know, just it just so aware of my patients and how they felt and and always trying to like feedback on their energy and see, you know, are they understanding me? And so I so excited. It's my first like day in gynecology clinic. So I just done a block of labor and delivery so that, you know, you do these little monthlong rotations. And so I just left the labor unit where I was delivering babies all

night. It was so great, so much fun, so much energy. And then I go into gynecology, which is like very serious. and I have my white coat on. I pull a chart and I see this woman and she's in her mid4s and she has a laundry list of complaints. She's not sleeping, her libido's off, she's got some aches and pains, she's gaining weight, she's, you know, has um some nausea, you know, her hair's thinning, just kind of a laundry list. And I'm like, "Wow, why is she in gyne clinic, you know, like we're here for the vagina, you know, and the uterus and um cycles are still regular, but she's just not feeling right." So I'm so my upper level who's in charge of me, right? So they don't just let us loose as interns. We have to check everything out with our so I have a chief resident come down the hall, happened to be male, happened to be from South Texas in his cowboy boots with his long white coat.

Really nice guy. Now I don't want to blame him because this was a systemic problem. He's got, "What you got?" said, "Miss Smith, she's a 45-year-old, you know, with a complaint." She's like, "Hm, did she have her thyroid checked?" And I said, "Yeah, yeah, she had a couple months ago and it was normal." And you he asked about a couple labs and I was like, "No, all these are normal." And he goes, "Okay, I think you got a WW." He that Texas accent, I'll never forget this. And I said, "Excuse me." And he said, "Now, don't write this in the chart, but we called out a WW." And I said, "What's that?" And he said, "That's a whiny woman."

And I said, "Okay." And he said, "Pat her on the knee. Get a couple more lap tests. They're probably going to be normal, but this is just what women go through. And they like to complain at this age." And that stuck with me like, is this true? Is this a thing? Like we never wrote it in the chart. No faculty ever said this to me. This was a resident kind of information handown. So I kind of forgot about the story. Then when I was writing the new book, it like bubbled up in my memory and I thought, "Oh my god, I need to like I need to be honest with the world and like like have them realize the mentality behind and I thought, is this something specific to the cell?" Someone taught him that. No one makes this stuff up. So I asked around the country as my, you know, platform has grown. I asked other clinicians and they're like, "Oh yeah, Madame Dolores in Miami, TBD total body in New York and whiny gyny on the west

coast." So, this is a kind of a thing, this lore of women who just come in in their mid-30s, mid-4s and complain about a lot of stuff. And women just like to whine and complain because they're not happy with their lives.

And it took me 20 years to realize that woman was in pmenopause. And to this day, I have to pull myself back from that training. When a woman comes in with a lot of complaints, I have to stop the process in my brain that says, "Oh, she's no believe her."

Your job is to believe her. Why would she come in here with this list? You must believe her. You owe that to her because you were a terrible doctor for 20 years for these menopausal women that you didn't know how to treat. So, this is your job. Believe her and get to the bottom of this. I'm just thinking about all the women that get that sense that their doctor is thinking something like that and then they leave not believing themselves. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I've seen the videos of the women crying in their cars after the doctor's appointment, and I thought, I think I've done that to someone probably more than once, and I'm sorry, but I'm going to do better now. So,

I know you've shared how part of your mission is when you think of your daughter

Mhm. for her to never have an appointment like that. No. No. I Well, one's in medical school, so she's calling me or, you know, I get texts anytime menopause is mentioned, she's like keeping me up to date on what they're learning and and I think she knows a little bit more than than a couple of her professors just because of osmosis from being around me. But I do think it's getting better. I think it's getting more recognized. But I do think we have a very long way to go. But

you know, we have a whole generation probably for all time of women who haven't been taken seriously who who the medical establishment has not truly understood everything that menopause can affect

and how it can be how it can affect a woman's life. And we deserve better. We are owed centuries of research, centuries. And and that is my that is my quest. You know, I wrote a citizens guide to menopause advocacy with six policy and with Jennifer Weisswolf who who is incredible. She's a NYU lawyer who does a lot of writing for women's health policy. So, we came up with a guide and it's on our website for the basic woman sitting on the couch in Ohio. If you're out there listening to us, you know, you can do something about this. And policy number one is mandatory menopause education for all medical students. All clinic any clinician who touches a woman needs to know this and how it affects if you're an orthopedic surgeon how it affects your specialty.

If you're a neurologist, how it affects your specialty like like just going into this blindly and assuming women or little men and that our change in hormones don't affect multiple organ system is ridiculous. But the first thing we have to do is change the way we educate. I think um so many people listening to us right now are going to start by sort of changing the way they educate themselves. I've always felt um you know that if we are able we really have to take charge of our own healthare

especially in this this time you know of your life you must be the CEO of your own healthcare you must advocate for yourself is not enough to depend on the people in charge to do the right thing

right they can be well intended they just might not know I want to dive into hormone replacement therapy and I want to talk about you know our menopause toolkit how do we build one How do we know what test to ask for? So many questions about finding the right doctor, especially if you kind of feel like yours isn't. Remember, this episode is not just for you and me. Please share it with every single woman that you know because it can change her life, too. Coming up, this conversation is so incredible, and y'all can't seem to get enough of Dr. Mary Cla Haver and this menopause master class. So, we are continuing this conversation and diving even deeper. I am so excited. You're not going to want to miss part two of our conversation with Dr. Mary Cla Haver where we are tackling your changing hormones and hormone replacement therapy. That's coming up in the next episode of the Jamie Kern Lima Show. And

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Who speaks in "The #1 Menopause Doctor Masterclass: How to Lose Belly Fat, Sleep Better & Stop Suffering Now!"?

Jamie Kern Lima (Guest), Dr. Mary Claire Haver (Guest), Oprah Winfrey (Guest), Melinda French Gates (Guest).

What is "The #1 Menopause Doctor Masterclass: How to Lose Belly Fat, Sleep Better & Stop Suffering Now!" about?

This masterclass emphasizes the widespread yet often misunderstood challenges women face during premenopause and menopause, highlighting critical health issues such as heart disease, mental health disorders, and the impact on quality of life. Dr. Mary Clar Haver advocates for better understanding and treatment of menopausal symptoms, urging women to seek appropriate tests and consider hormone…

What is mentioned in this Jamie Kern Lima episode?

26 people, works and ideas are mentioned, including Worthy, The Menopause Society, The New Menopause, American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG), Women's Health Initiative (WHI), Worthy: How to Believe You Are Enough and Transform Your Life for You. Each one on this page links to its own page with every episode that mentions it.

How long is "The #1 Menopause Doctor Masterclass: How to Lose Belly Fat, Sleep Better & Stop Suffering Now!"?

The episode runs 1 h 13 min; the transcript is about 12,988 words in 148 timestamped sections.

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