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The Skill That Looks Like Magic (But Isn’t) | Oz Pearlman Read your Mind

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This is the full, timestamped transcript of "The Skill That Looks Like Magic (But Isn’t) | Oz Pearlman Read your Mind", an episode of Ryan Hawk published January 4, 2026 (52 min, about 11,809 words). It mentions 37 people, works and ideas, including Charm, America's Got Talent, Stephen Spielberg, Preparation, Disarm with charm.

What this episode is about

The content focuses on the insights of mentalist Oz Pearlman, who shares how confidence, charm, and persistence can be cultivated to excel in both magic and interpersonal relationships. He emphasizes the importance of curiosity about others, resilience in the face of rejection, and the cumulative impact of small actions in achieving one's goals.

Key takeaways

  • Magicians multiply smiles, but it's the relentless pursuit of mystery that makes a mentalist's magic stick.
  • Rejection's a doppelgänger; it's meaner in your mind than in reality—embrace the lesson, not the scare.
  • Israel: the Vegas of mentalism—home to an uncanny concentration of mind-bending maestros.
  • Great mentalists don't just follow rabbits; they collaborate, innovate, and chuckle at dinner with no words.
  • Magic is like a tech startup; stop innovating, and your illusions will vanish faster than a stray rabbit.

Who speaks in this episode?

What is discussed, and when

  1. – 5:00: Disarm with charm, Doug Anderson, Sponge balls, The Amazing Kreskin
  2. – 15:00: America's Got Talent, Bean and Bagel, Detroit Red Wings, Pep Boys
  3. – 20:00: America's Got Talent, Disarm with charm, Matt Franco
  4. – 30:00: America's Got Talent, Preparation
  5. – 35:00: Stephen Spielberg
  6. – 40:00: Jesse Ler, Mike Green, Rex Caswell
  7. – 45:00: Good to Great, Learning Leader Podcast, Productive paranoia
  8. – 50:00: Team of Rivals, Zion National Park
  9. – 51:31: America's Got Talent, Preparation

Notable quotes from "The Skill That Looks Like Magic (But Isn’t) | Oz Pearlman Read your Mind"

  • Disarm with charm. It's how to be charming to someone that allows you to win people over quickly. The fear of rejection is worse than the rejection for most people. People who don't give.
    about Disarm with charm · at
  • Sure did. Shout out to Doug Anderson, who I haven't seen in, decades, but he is indirectly the person who got me into magic. directly and indirectly because I kept at it. He.
    about Doug Anderson · at
  • The amazing Kreskin is kind of the biggest person in the United States for many decades. He was on Johnny Carson over 80 times. You can fact check me. He used to do a famous trick where.
    about The Amazing Kreskin · at
  • Later and it was they were opening three NTBs, National Tire and Battery, kind of like Pep Boys.
    about Pep Boys · at
  • Oh my god, dude. I like I had another job. So, I worked at Bean and Bagel making bagel sandwiches in the morning and doing toilets cuz I was the new guy. And I didn't mind. I was pretty good at cleaning toilets. I did toilets.
    about Bean and Bagel · at
  • Anymore. Okay. Because I rebranded about 10 years ago as O's the mentalist. I was on a show called America's Got Talent and I made a conscious decision to separate myself from…
    about America's Got Talent · at
  • And right away, going in with confidence has to do a lot with preparation.
    about Preparation · at
  • Heroes and so you're prepared to like I'm gonna ask him a million questions. I can't wait. And this is Stephen Spielberg. Yeah.
    about Stephen Spielberg · at

Who and what is mentioned in this episode?

People

  • Stephen Spielberg — Person · 4 mentions · first at
  • Doris Kearns Goodwin — Person · 2 mentions
  • Doug Anderson — Person · 1 mention · first at
  • The Amazing Kreskin — Person · 1 mention · first at
  • Uri Geller — Person · 1 mention · first at
    Yeah. It's so weird. It's like that's the hot bed. Uri Geller was the original the guy who used to bend spoons in the 70s.
  • Matt Franco — Person · 1 mention · first at
    Separate myself from the guy of the year before because the guy the year before, his name is Matt Franco. He's a good friend. Love you, Matt. He won. And I thought, we're too…
  • Jesse Ler — Person · 1 mention · first at
    I found a service online. The same Jesse Ler. Do you know Jesse?
  • Mike Green — Person · 1 mention · first at
    From there to Pat McAfee to AJ Hawk to all these other people and all these other channels to Mike Green like all these people that I've now met who have now become champions of me within a network and other networks.
  • Rex Caswell — Person · 1 mention · first at
    It also is a great reminder I had an amazing mentor I still have him named Rex Caswell who told me you are interviewing for your next job every single day. You have no idea who…
  • A. J. Hawk — Person · 1 mention
  • Dino Ciccarelli — Person · 1 mention
  • Nicklas Lidström — Person · 1 mention
  • Paul Coffey — Person · 1 mention
  • Steve Yzerman — Person · 1 mention

Books & papers

  • Good to Great — Book · 1 mention · first at
    I call it productive paranoia. Jim Collins like good to great is like I'm going to be overly insanely prepared every single time whether it's a podcast or a show for a billion people. I'm going to be so prepared I'm not going to.
  • Team of Rivals — Book · 1 mention · first at

Companies & orgs

  • America's Got Talent — Company · 5 mentions · first at
  • ESPN — Company · 2 mentions
  • National Tire and Battery (NTB) — Company · 2 mentions
  • Pep Boys — Company · 1 mention · first at
  • Detroit Red Wings — Company · 1 mention · first at
    And this was in the era of Detroit Red Wings, Hockey Town USA winning Stanley Cups every year. And I did openings with the following Paul Coffee, Dino Cicerelli, Nick Lindström, Steve.
  • Bean and Bagel — Company · 1 mention · first at
  • Learning Leader Podcast — Company · 1 mention · first at
    I said to you, we've done you've done over 650 right learning leader podcast. you've done and each one of those hopefully has been insightful for you and for your listeners. If you can get one little tidbit out of it, that's an amazing.
  • AOL — Company · 1 mention
  • IRS — Company · 1 mention

Concepts & topics

Places & events

  • Zion National Park — Place · 1 mention · first at
    Oh my god. And I actually no I thought I was thinking I was like oh because I went to Zion National Park and it's one of my favorite places in the world to hike.

Full transcript with timestamps

So right now you challenge me, but I've got somebody you'll never guess in a million years. Is that correct?

Yes. You've met his brother. You're the aren't you? There is no way, dude. What could they do to build O's the mentalist level of confidence in themselves?

Disarm with charm. It's how to be charming to someone that allows you to win people over quickly. The fear of rejection is worse than the rejection for most people. People who don't give up and don't give up and don't give up become the magicians, become the mentalists. Because not only do we want to learn how to do it, we then want to learn to do it to others.

Be curious. Be genuinely interested in people. Follow up. Follow up. Follow up. And then keep going.

That point right there is worth every minute. Never let someone else be in charge of your destiny. Little things add up to big things over time. Say yes, figure it out later. I've written this down. Can you cover your eyes? It's written. It's done.

Okay. I want to go back to when you were 13. So, your parents take you on a cruise. Yep.

Right. You see a magician and he pulls you up on stage. Is that what happened? Sure did. Shout out to Doug Anderson, uh, who I haven't seen in, you know, decades, but he is indirectly the person who got me into magic. I mean, directly and indirectly because I kept at it. He brought me on stage. He did a slight of hand magic trick for me. Kind of comedy magic. It's known as the sponge balls. It's a famous trick within magic. And I, you know, like literally I went back to my seat and me and my dad are starting to dissect theories. Like I think these balls are made out of some sort of nuclear material that when you squeeze them, the heat of your hand makes them multiply. Like all these ridiculous theories, which is honestly the best part of my job is when you walk back is the wonder you feel. And then some people just enjoy it, which is totally fine. Some people are like, I got to figure this out.

And most people go down that path of I got to figure it out. But they give up. They give up after a little while. But those people who don't give up and don't give up and don't give up become the magicians, become the mentalists. Because not only do we want to learn how to do it, we then want to learn to do it to others.

Who's another mentalist though that is O's level good? I I I can't think of one.

I appreciate that. The fact that you're saying that makes me feel good. my brand. I'm genuinely curious like

so there are other people I could tell you some of the big names in the world. There's people that have passed away. The amazing Kreskin is kind of the biggest person in the United States for many many decades. He was on Johnny Carson over 80 times. You can fact check me. He used to do a famous trick where you would hide his check anywhere in the theater anywhere in someone's underwear uh you know up in up in a thing anywhere and he would hold your wrist the person who knew it and he would muscle read and feel hot cold hot cold and if he wouldn't get to his check he wouldn't get paid and that was one of his famous tricks

so I stand kind of on the shoulders of giants there's a guy named Darren Brown in the UK who is a-list celebrity for them and he's really a pioneer in thinking um there's a lot of guys in Israel where I was born that are likecept exceptionally good at this. They have a the densest population of mentalists per capita of anywhere in the world.

Really? Yeah. It's so weird. It's like that's the hot bed. Uri Geller was the original the guy who used to bend spoons in the 70s.

Do you guys ever get together? Totally. Okay. Do you What do you talk about? We don't talk. We just look at each other and and No, the the the good joke is mentalists at dinner just look at each other, laugh, and they get mad and they look like all facial expressions. We really dissect a lot of it is performance-based. We share war stories of what went wrong, what didn't.

Idiate new ideas of what we can do next. Kind of the same way you would if you were a tech startup. How do we build a better mousetrap? Uh, and I think a lot of it is just relating to each other because our lives are parallel of being on the road of what went wrong at this show, what went right at this show, and how do we innovate? And that's what kind of you see in every industry. The people that make it to the top

are the ones who I think are kind, respectful to others. The minute you stop thinking, you know this better than anyone, that you can learn from others, the minute you start atrophying and dying, right? Every day, innovate, innovate. When I meet somebody who does what I do, who's like 18, I should part of you thinks, who's this kid? They don't know anything. I don't like that. I like the fresh perspective. I like to hear what they're working on. And even if it's silly, nine out of 10, I've seen that. I've learned it. The one out of 10, whoa, I never thought of it that way.

And they change the way I think a little because their inputs are different. They're from a different era. They grew up hardwired to the internet, right? I'm still I'm in my 40s. I remember AOL dialup.

Well, that reminds me of one of the things I'm inspired by your story after reading your book

and following all your stuff is you've gotten so many reps. And I want to start back

the restaurant gigs. You're going table to table. There's people who are rejecting you. They don't want to do it.

And it feels though like when you see sustained excellence, something like you.

Thank you. There's usually this insane amount of reps that most people don't ever see. Can you talk talk to me about those restaurant games where you're going you're how old? Like

I was 14 years old. 14. Okay. So it's kind of like in Malcolm Gladwell the 10,000 hours. Everybody knows the Beatles and they were doing those gigs in Germany for nobody in the audience.

This was a step above that because no one's throwing like beer bottles at me. But when I was writing the book and I was dissecting what made me who I am today. Yeah.

I think so much of it and so much of what I've seen again because my luck that I get to do is I get to be around people who are successful all over the world. I get to perform for them and learn from them just like you are

and seeing what makes somebody successful. Like what is that ingredient list that's perfect for that recipe of success? Whatever that means. Whether it's a gold medal at the Olympics, whether it means you're Elon Musk with hundreds of billions of dollars, whether you're married with children and you've been married, you know, 50 years and have kids and grandkids that all respect and love you. Those are all major measures of success I would love. But it's getting through the tough times and resilience, getting knocked down, getting back up. And the restaurants taught me that because when I walked up to someone and I'm 14 and I have a very fragile ego and after three tables in a row at differing levels of rudess go, "Dude, get out of here, man. Like I don't want to see this." Like or they catch you and what's in that hand? Like it hurts.

It hurts. Right. That's like a painful thing to experience. You know what I mean? Yeah. And I had to learn very quickly a tactic to a defense mechanism, if you will, because carrying that pain, pain turns into anger. And when I get to the next table, I'm angry at the next group, even though they haven't done anything wrong to me. And I realized after a few times, I'm leaving the restaurant angry. I hate doing this. And this is fun. I love doing magic. And I had a goal, which is I need to buy more tricks. My mom is like, I don't have any money. My folks got divorced. I'm not buying you more of these expensive magic tricks. So I realized to get my goal, I need to have a tougher tougher thicker skin. And I learned at that point in my life that I can't take this failure and rejection personally. And I learned this one thing which is how to take that fear of rejection and move it off of me, deflect it onto someone else. I created

I would almost call it like an agent in my own mind. When you're in showbiz, the conversations you don't want to have, your agent has. we got to negotiate contracts that he doesn't want to show up that early. He doesn't want to do this. He doesn't want to do that. Right? All of those things. When you have an agent, you're a big big wig. You get someone else to do those nasty conversations.

I'm 14-year-old doing restaurants. I don't have an agent. So, here's what I decided in my mind.

When they don't like me, they don't know me. They don't know O's Pearlman. They don't know who that guy is. They know this guy owes the magician who walked up to them. So, maybe my tricks aren't good enough. Maybe my approach wasn't good enough. Maybe they had a bad day at work or their kid's sick. I made it less about me and I was able to deflect all of that pain and hurt to this other person. It was they don't know him. I just got to get better at the tricks. When I walked up to the next table, I didn't take it personally. It didn't hurt the same way.

The best metaphor visually is if I gave you a bowl of water, this is how I think about it, and I poured salt into it. Taste that water. It's salty forever. Good luck getting the salt out of the water once you've stirred it in. That's the same thing as negative feelings inside your mindset. If you could somehow put a little piece of plexiglass this thin, nothing in the middle, and then I pour in the salt, guess what? This part is all salty. But if I take this part, take a sip, tastes perfect. So if you can create that separation in your mind, so that rejection, the fear of rejection, which honestly is worse than the rejection for most people,

once you experience the rejection a few times, it's not that bad, right? It's like dating. It's a numbers game. You will probably not meet your spouse on the first try. Yeah,

you got to meet a whole lot of other people to realize what you like best in the person that hopefully ends up spending your life with

you. You probably get called by a lot of like people and sales teams, I would imagine, because that's it's a part of what you do. And and you wrote in your book, too, about you got to find an ally, like get an ally, and that could be like your best friend. You also have to be

uh how to be interesting is to be interested in others, right? And this is I've seen you do this before. This is what you're really really good at. You've already remembered everybody's names here. I noticed it.

Even though I would ask Colin, I'm like, Colin with one L or two L's? I didn't ask him. But that's the hook. That's the hook for Colin.

You know, like you this is just part of who you are. I like all about the business cards and following up after a bar mitzvah, sending them a card of you and them.

Stop that. You should that that point right there is worth every minute people use for this, which is never let someone else be in charge of your destiny. Yes.

And I learned that at a young age. And thank goodness it's silver linings cuz I had a bit of a I don't want to call it everyone's had harder childhoods and I don't want to compare to other people but I was pretty independent by the age of 16 where I need to support myself and I see that in hindsight it was a painful thing at the time given my family dynamics but it set me up for success. I would not be here. There's no question if that had not happened to me because I needed to succeed

and that's tough. That's my kids will never have that. So, you know, maybe they will, but I've set them up in a way where they don't they're not I wasn't going hungry, but I wasn't eating dessert. You know what I mean? So, I came from a background where I needed to create things for myself to pay for college, to pay for my apartment, to pay for books, to pay for tuition, all of the above. I had to find a way to do it.

And so, I learned when I do a gig, and I had a couple other businesses, too, which I I talk about in here. I was very entrepreneurial, is you don't wait for someone to go, "Oh, man, that'd be great. Let me get your business card. Great. For what? What do you Oh, what do you guys have coming up? Ask them. Oh, we have a holiday party. I go, Amazing. Let me get your number and your info and I'll have someone from my team call you. My team,

me, myself, and I, brother. There's no team, but it sounds fancier. Fake it till you make it. But I also with confidence said, "We do those all the time."

I got a call. I'll never forget this in my life. My mom would answer my phone. I didn't have a cell phone. This is 1996. And my mom gets a call and she has a bit of a thick accent and and it's a call for a corporate event. Have I ever done a corporate event? I don't even know what the word corporate is. Okay. I'm at a restaurant. I'm doing kids parties. But they call me and this is where our worlds diverge in a bit or converge, which is my first first foray into the sports world.

Yeah. Yeah. And should I go shorter on these questions? I'm rambling a bit, man.

Is I get a call and I'll never forget this. I can visually see it. I walked up to two women at my restaurant that I worked at when I was 14. And if people didn't like the tricks, I didn't want to give a business card because I had to hand print those. I went to Kinko's. I didn't have much money. I was cutting those myself, my man. That wasn't like a It was me cutting them with with a paper cutter. So I go, "Oh, they didn't really like me. They weren't that into it." She goes, "Can I have your business card?" And the other one goes, "Can I have one, too?" I'm like, "Oh, these are TWO OF MY CARDS. I DON'T HAVE THAT MANY."

You know, there was no gutprint.com or online, which I used. So I give them the cards and I'm like, "Oh, they just burned half my stack. You know, I only have like 20 for the night." And this woman called me a week later and it was they were opening three NTBs, National Tire and Battery, kind of like Pep Boys.

Yeah. And this was in the era of Detroit Red Wings, you know, Hockey Town USA winning Stanley Cups every year. And I did openings with the following Paul Coffee, Dino Cicerelli, Nick Lindström, Steve Eisermanman. I don't know how much you know hockey. These are all future Hall of Famers. These guys were taking photos and signing autographs. I was doing magic for the people in line waiting to get to them to make their experience better so that while they're waiting they get entertained and all of a sudden a 45minute line goes by in the blink of an eye. That's what they saw me do at the restaurant because at the restaurant I was the secret weapon. While you're waiting for your food, I would entertain you. Let's say the steak came back well done and you asked medium rare. We got to send it back. You're in a bit of a bad mood. I am the secret weapon the manager sends over to win you back over.

All of a sudden, the state comes back out. You didn't even notice he had such a great time with this guy owes. So again,

I when this woman took the card and you never know what to expect. She called me. I didn't even know what was going on. When she called me for the corporate event, we instantly made up a rate. We said, "This is what we do." Do you do these all the time? I'd never done one once. Say yes. Figure it out later.

I love it. Do you remember that first rate? I won't I won't make you talk about

I know for a fact that it was $50 was what I I at this Italian restaurant. I I somebody fact checked me on this the other day. I can't remember if it was two or three hours. I feel it was two hours, which is 25 bucks an hour in 96, all cash. IRS, don't come back at me. Statute of limitations. I was 14.

Did you feel like that was a lot of money? Oh my god, dude. I like I had another job. So, I worked at at Bean and Bagel making bagel sandwiches in the morning and doing toilets cuz I was the new guy. And I didn't mind. I was pretty good at cleaning toilets. I did toilets at my house, too.

I had no problem with it. Oh my god. Um, but at that job, I think, man, I think I was making like $4.65. 65 cents an hour.

Wow. And I got tips at uh not not cleaning toilets but at the restaurant. Yeah. Even though again at restaurants at the beginning I didn't want tips because I realized a private party for 200 bucks or 300 bucks would make me much more money than getting tips. Yeah. And tips sometimes people feel awkward about because they're like, "Oh god, I do I need money? Is this guy?" And if I could just take away that tension when I walk up and say, "Hey, I'm here as a special treat from the manager or the owner even better. then, oh, we don't have to pay him. This guy's a special treat tonight.

And suddenly people would open up to me more. You said you're doing magic tricks. What's the difference between magic and mentalism?

Magic, most people know what it is, is slight of hand. There's lots of different ways you can make

cards and coins. Cards and coins and birds and sawing women in half and you know, all of the illusions.

Sure. Illusions. Grand on a stage or close up in your hands, you know, with a pen, with a ring.

You could still do a lot of magic. I'm still, not knock on wood, still an excellent magician. Some will judge me. I don't get to do that much magic anymore. Okay. Because I rebranded about 10 years ago as O's the mentalist. I was on a show called America's Got Talent and I made a conscious decision to separate myself from the guy of the year before because the guy the year before, his name is Matt Franco. He's a good friend. Love you, Matt. He won. And I thought, we're too similar. We're both kind of, for lack of better term, white dudes in their 30s. He was like 27. I think I was like 33. We're too similar where you would compare us to each other. And so I you don't want to be compared to somebody who won the next year because that hurts my chances. I feel I need to

be different. Do something unique or do something better than anyone else or if you can do both. That's the ultimate. And so I learned that early on. Branding is so important. And when I went on that show, I'm going to tell the story I want, not let the show tell the story about me.

And and the story that's a story-driven show. America's Got Talent isn't just about your talents. What story connects with America here in their heart that makes them root for you and vote for you?

And so I was doing mentalism, but mentalism is much harder than magic in a certain way. I'm going to tell you why. Because magic can be practiced in front of a mirror until you get almost perfect at a trick. Mentalism is near impossible to practice at home without an audience. It's like comedy. You can't tell jokes to a mirror and find out if they're funny. You need the audience to do it because mentalism is magic of the mind. It's the illusion of reading someone's mind, influencing their thoughts, or getting secret information that you would never know.

Yeah. Okay. And how much of that act like asking Heidi Clume to stand up and slowly turn around? Like how much of that was you?

I would have been cancelled nowadays for doing that, but that was so funny 10 years ago.

That was great. I just watched it last night again. Please go back and watch that clip. It's funny.

Did you plan to do that or were you saying like I'm just feeling it in the moment?

Did I plan to make her turn around? Oh, 100% planned it. I thought it was all planned. Like you're

So what's happening with the trick is not planned. It's it's jazz. Like I hope where this will go,

but it's a pick your own adventure. As things are going, I'm adapting. Yeah. Because again, you don't know what somebody will do in the moment.

Well, because part of your part of what it makes you good in addition to like making people go, "Oh my god, how's he do?" we were just talking about like how does he do this stuff is also you're very quick Howard makes a joke you have a great comeback somebody else you have a great like it obviously that stuff's not planned that's just on the fly so so is that just natural your personality do you actually work on that element of being funny quickwitted like where does that come from

some of that I believe is just I love comedy it's the same way that when you hear movie stars try to become rock stars right you always see the movie star that's doing a band and you're like oh I want that I I am the mentalist who wishes he was a stand-up comedian. I have a lot of friends that are standup comedians. And if I study anything as an art form, it's standup comedy. Yeah. Far more than what I do.

Okay. I actually try to avoid watching others that do what I do in a certain way because I want to be my own unique lane. I still watch and I still love it as a craft, but if I had to decide between the two for the rest of my life, never watch another mentalism trick or watch standup comedy, it wouldn't even be a thought.

I adore standup comedy. It's the purest form of entertainment that exists. You, the audience, and a microphone.

Yeah. And for some, they've gotten to the point where they play arenas, stadiums at the top end. That to me is mindblowing.

Yeah. Uh and I've had the good fortune to meet some who have now become good friends. And I like I love watching that. So, by watching comedy over and over, I think you start to get a feel for timing.

Yeah. Where to pause, what's funny, how to get people on your side. Right. With a heckler, there's a very fine line between punching down and offending your audience versus having them on your side and laughing with you at someone as opposed to laughing at someone. Those are two different things. The audience will turn against you very quickly if you're rude or dismissive or offensive.

Yeah. Okay. Uh but to to answer it fully, I think that that's developed over time.

Yeah. But there's something in there where again, if you want to know about me, I can tell you all about me. But how do you apply that to your life? If you're not a comedian, if you're not a mentalist, if you're not an entertainer, charisma and charm, and those are two slightly different things. They sound the same, but I I actually wrote a whole chapter just called disarm with charm. It's how to be charming to someone. It takes the sting out of so many things in life. It allows you to win people over quickly. Is charm. And what is charm?

What like how do you define it? and just the ability to smile, to make someone laugh, to be vulnerable in a certain moment. And

and that's a skill that's developed and that if you study it well, you can develop it quicker because everyone thinks it's natural.

Yeah. Do you do you have like a a doubt in your mind that you won't be able to do it or are you like, "No, I know I'll be able to do it."

When I did the Howard Stern initial one, I had a lot of doubts, but it was a calculated risk. This time, I feel much better. This time it's round two. It's almost like imagine if you're in a fight and in round one you won in an MMA and then you're going to go back in. Now I think I know the weaknesses. I've probed. I feel really good about it. And now I have home advantage. I've been there. I've seen what it's like. Now when I go in, I'm very prepared. The first time I go in, it's so much harder.

Why? Because at my shows, I'm the director. I point the camera where I want. I frame the shot the way I want. I'm in charge. When I walk into somebody else's set, you kind of lay the ground rules. So once I know what the rules are, I can kind of figure out what I'm going to do because right, my whole job is reverse engineering the human mind. How people behave, how they think, and how they act. And if I kind of get a feel for how you behave and act, I can utilize that to my advantage.

How much of it is the eyes? I thought about honestly wearing like sunglasses like a mask. I want to do whatever I could to like fool you or like is it just their whole being?

It's kind of everything. Yeah. You I'm guiding you along. It's a process. That's so crazy. How much are you like I was thinking about from the second you walked in the room. You remembered the names. You made a comment about my shoes. You you were grateful. You were grateful that I had your book. You know, then we did this whole little

act that we're probably going to finish at some other point. How much of it is that intentional or is that just owes? is that's just how you are. You're like, you don't even think. You just show up in that way. I'm curious of how much of it you have to actually, okay, I'm going to prepare to walk in that room. I'm always the mentalist. The second I walk in, I'm put on show. No, that's just how you are.

I'm If you were to meet me in day-to-day life, which I think you've met me slightly in civilian life, I'm the same person. Yeah.

And I think authenticity shows. Have you ever seen people when you watch them and then you meet them after, they're not the same person?

It's a bummer, man. I saw it happens on this podcast. But you've seen on this podcast, but I'm sure you've seen on TV with like, you know, you're integrated in the sports world where you see someone, they're on, but when they go off camera, it's like,

wow, he's super different or he's not that guy. And I'm not saying that's good or bad. You can be very successful in your career, and you don't have to be.

I'm a slightly more exaggerated version of myself when I'm performing. The volume is turned up a little, the charisma is turned up a little, the ability to kind of joke around, but it's me. And I think that resonates and that the audience knows it. You know it when you see it. That's what the quick is. That's what all those things are. So am I intentional? Yes. But certain things that again the book and I'm not trying to be a salesperson. I'm not teaching you any mentalist tricks. It's not I'm not teaching you how to read minds. The book says read your mind. That's what I do for a living. Right. But the first words out of my mouth in the book is I can't really read minds. It's all an act. Yeah. Right. And so what are the skills that have allowed me to get to the top of my field? And are they just mentalist tricks? And they're not. I've learned it. They have nothing to do with mentalism. They're the same tricks you

can apply in every part of your life. And just what you said, walking into a room, smiling, having no hesitation, connecting with somebody, remembering their name, giving them a compliment, such easy lowhanging fruit. Separate you from 90% of other people.

Yeah. if you can do them consistently and effectively and genuinely though like it from you again we've hung out outside of this too it feels the exact same it doesn't feel like it's an act like sometimes you come across let's say again going back to sales professionals that's what I did for a long time leading up to this I think what makes you really good at that is being genuinely curious right

interested in the other person like genuinely for real uh listening to them asking follow-up questions yeah sometimes like making jokes But if if it ever feels like you're in character or you're inauthent not authentic,

it immediately is like, ah, it's a bad feeling. And I feel like that's something you've also mastered. How would you help other people? Because it sounds weird. How would you help other people be more genuine? It's like, well, just be more genuine. But but I think that's part of what makes you good.

Vulnerability is something that again it was a catch word for many years, but many of us don't understand it effectively, which is just think why people behave the way they do in certain scenarios. Mhm.

And let me give you a great example, and it's one that again, you'll try to find, but it has a direct parallel to your life. We I'm in New York City.

When we get into elevators here, it it's not like the suburbs. You get in the elevator, you don't look at people, you kind of look up, you wait to get to your floor, and you get out.

Why is it, and this experience has happened to most people, it's a little jarring and frightening. If an elevator stops, if you get stuck in an elevator, and I'm not wishing you for hours, but I've gotten stuck in an elevator with strangers for 30 seconds to 90 seconds. The elevator gets stuck, we're all looking around. We all realize what just happened and suddenly there's this moment where the tension between us melts. The tension goes away and everyone opens up to each other like, "Oh man, we're stuck in here. Huh?

What are we going to do?" Like there's just this levity that occurs. Do you know what I mean?

What happened? Why did that happen? We were all strangers. We all ignored each other until this moment. We maybe are going to share 30 extra seconds with each other, right? What changed? What shift in our behavior occurred? And I think there's something where we shared an experience together. You were able to be vulnerable about it. And it's the same as if I walk into a room and I'm at a party. I was recently at a party. I didn't know anyone. I got invited by one person. It was kind of like, you know, a birthday party and I had to be there and it was it was great, but I don't know anyone. So there was a couple there and at one point I just walked up and says, and I say to them, I go, "Do you guys know anybody? I don't know anybody here." And everyone laughed and we just broke the ice. Yeah.

And all it took was coming up with the lightest bit of confidence, even if I didn't feel it,

acknowledging my feelings of like, I don't know anybody here. Do you guys know anybody? I'm just, you know, I know who to come up and talk to. Being real with somebody in that moment immediately takes away the used car salesman feeling. You've just been honest. Even if you were selling something, say, "I've got to hit this quota and I got to be honest with you. I don't know if this the best choice for you. I think I might have a better product.

Why don't I Why don't you tell me more about what you need right now? And I want to find a way to get you the thing that you need the most, not that makes me the most. Right away, do you know how much that just reduces someone's feeling because everyone feels as if you're about to gotcha me.

Yep. Yep. You come across and it seems like you have genuine confidence. This is a question that comes up. I have a I think a very strong feelings about this, but I want to hear your thoughts where or scratch that. How could somebody else what could they do to build O's the mentalist level confidence in themselves? So that's I tried to distill that because [clears throat] that comes over time for a lot of us. Experience over time leads you to confidence because you've seen reps

evidence. There's just no question the reps lead to it. Going on TV like this week, I don't know when this is coming out. If this is afterwards, I'm on Howard Stern. We were just talking about I'm on Jimmy Fallon on Thursday. And truthfully, if even a year ago I would have done this, I would have been much more nervous. But you ask me, what makes you confident?

Being prepared is a huge one. Yes. And most of us think we're not in charge while you're so confident. You could be more prepared. If you're going to go into an important meeting, who is in the room with you? Well, I don't know that. How do you not know that? How do you not try to learn a little bit about them? And and online, it's so easy to look up right now very easily. I walked in here 650 podcasts. I've done my homework. That's the lightest bit you can do. Walk in there. And I'm not saying to stalk someone, which is what people tell me, like, do you hire private investigators?

No. But I will do the least bit of due diligence to understand what makes this other person tick.

Yeah. And right away, going in with confidence has to do a lot with preparation.

Y also, there's some level of knowing what really matters. So, how do I explain this? I was very, very nervous the first time I tried out for America's Got Talent. This is a show that 10 years ago changed my life. I didn't get on the first time. I bombed and it wasn't my fault. And I usually I always blame myself, but they didn't know what I was going to do. I was doing a mind readading like act and they didn't have an audience for me. I walked into a room with a guy on a headset who's like, "All right, do your thing." I'm like, "I'm not a singer. I need to read someone's mind." And so the whole time he was distracted on a headset, it didn't go well. There's no reaction. It sucked.

And so I learned that one, I was very tense. I didn't advocate for myself. I wasn't my own biggest cheerleader.

You know, that's the difference between being a diva and setting your boundaries of what I need for this to go right.

And so, again, if you're going to go in, this is a great example, and you're going to talk to your boss about getting a raise. It's been months. You have laid out in your mind the case. Why do I deserve this? You know, they they promised me this six months ago and and and all these things. Are you going to go in there on Monday morning when you know they have a million things on their plate, they're busy, the weekend, it was a holiday. Like what are you thinking? Think like them, not like you. Think what the other person when. Notice patterns. When does this person seem in the best mood? Oh, is it Wednesday afternoons? Why is that? Oh, they do their Pilates class. Again, be a mentalist. Do some analysis of your own.

And you ask me, where do I get the conference from? I get the conference from preparing very effectively. Yep.

And then knowing that the preparation has worked in the past. Will it always work? No. Things still fail. But I know that when I did America's Got Talent, I tried out a second time. I didn't get on that time either. And so when the third time happened, I realized

my life didn't end every time I didn't get on the show. I still had a job. I was still able to feed my family. Life was still pretty good. So, you know what? If I don't get this, it's not the end of the world. And there's a real power to having a realization that it's not the end of the world.

Yeah. Life goes on. The planet will still spin. In a thousand years, you and I will be dust. It ain't that serious. There's some realization of like realizing that and saying do your best, prepare and don't don't don't whiff it, but like at the same time, you've got to come into it less tense.

Yeah. One other story I loved in the book that about connecting with people is you're about to meet one of your heroes and so you're prepared to like I'm gonna ask him a million questions. I can't wait. And this is Stephen Spielberg. Yeah.

Stephen Spielberg. And so you're all amped up and ready and yet you get there and you do your work, right? Okay. And then afterwards, you guys get your time to talk, but it didn't go maybe like you thought it would go. What What happened?

So, I I did Stephen Spielberg's dad's 99th birthday, which was awesome. Okay. It was in this like in LA, and it was I didn't know how many people were going to be there. I thought like small. It's like a group of 65 to 75 people if I remember right.

You know, seven tables, all family, couple friends, but it's it's really intimate. And at the end of it, Stephen be lines to me and I'm like, "Oh, yeah. I'm ready." like, you know, and I thought I you don't know how much time you're going to get with him. Yeah. Maybe maybe 30 seconds. Shake hands. Great to meet you, Stephen. Bam. I'm going to hit him with a question or two. He talked to me for upwards of 20 minutes. Like to the point where it got awkward. I'm like, should I go? You know, like, do you need to talk to your family? Like, and he just asked question after question after question. And when I left, it was like a blur. You know, when you leave like something in a blur? Certain things are adrenaline and you leave. It's kind of like if you do sports and you get off the field, you So I'm like, "What just happened? I didn't ask Stephen Spielberg a single question about Jaws, Close Encounters, you know, like I had all

these things I wanted to ask him about inside baseball." Sure. Sure. And I'm like, man, I totally screwed that up. But over time, the lesson from it kind of it got through. It got through to me. I go, it wasn't about me. It it was it wasn't like what I was going to ask him. It was about him. It was learning what makes him tick. And I just realized he that's why he's Stephen Spielberg because even though he could have been braggadocious. He could have been this guy who's like look at me. Yeah, I'll tell you this movie this.

Like he didn't do any of that. All he did was ask about me. He made me feel so interesting because of all the stuff about me. Now keep in mind I have a weird job. But I realize he does this with everyone. He has a natural thirst, a natural curious spirit that's allowed him to become that incredible director who can watch you watch movies of his where you the characters pull you in.

And I learned at that moment, no matter what heights you attain, no matter who you become, right, and I want to be ambitious and driven, if you can make the other person feel like they're a star when they meet you, they will always remember that memory. They will always remember it.

And that's a real lesson I've learned and taken away, which is try to deflect. Yes. Yes, if people ask you questions, answer, but ask them something about themselves back that no one's asked them. Make them feel seen and heard and make them feel like they are the star of your movie as well.

When you see and hear Stephen Spielberg doing it, it's the ultimate. I mean, that guy could just sit back and answer questions from everybody all day and we'd all love it still,

right? Do you know who I am? I'm Steen Spielberg. He has every right to say that.

Yeah. But it it it's it's so it's it goes along with the next question I'm going to ask you because when I after 650 plus of these and you've you spent time around some of the most powerful uh impactful people in the world. Um and I think about the commonalities of those people leaders specifically who have sustained excellence over time and I think that that's one of them is they're they're genuinely curious people. They're good listeners. Right. What are some other attributes of the people that you've spent time around that have sustained excellence over time that's like, "Oh, that that might be a little different than just the the average normal person."

You know, I think that to some degree, and people don't want to hear it, little things add up to big things over time.

Like, if you were to ask my kids, you know, what do I ingrain in them all the time? Gratitude

and being polite. And I think that one of my secrets to success has always been being very polite. I know that sounds so silly. Please, thank you. Always, always write a thank you note. When I was coming up as and doing like barnbot mitzvah, birthday parties, I realized early on something which is when people are throwing a party, it's very stressful, right? You're throwing like a 60th birthday or kids bar mitzvah or a wedding and they're th it's stressful, man. You got to deal with people. You got to deal with the event planner. This you're spending a lot of money. The person hosting doesn't always have the greatest time, right? They're so worried about everyone else. So, how do you make them feel seen, heard, and understood and realize that what they really want for most people is to have know that it was a great party. So, when I used to do hundreds [snorts] of bar and bot mitzvah, that was like my big market. I

would take a photo with the Barbot Mitzvah kid, the guest of honor at some point, usually while I'm doing a trick, I'd be like, "Here, take my phone." And I and I'm like, "Do something cool." I'm like, "Ah." And we get a fun photo of the two of us. And I found this online service where I could instantly upload the photo. I would always give a compliment that wasn't generic. Something about their kid that stood out. Very specific. Their poise, their comedic timing. They told me that they're doing so great at lacrosse and I can see their competitive spirit.

Something that is not generic that also shows that you've raised a good child, that you've put in the work to make this person who they are. Do you know what I'm saying? Like the kind of compliments I love hearing about my child.

And and I I don't know why I had that sense as a 25year-old, but I knew that. And if I send these cards to them on Monday, the parties are usually on Saturdays, it would get there Tuesday or Wednesday, and they would get something that proved to them because they might not have seen me performing. They heard about it from others, but the parents rarely saw me. And I to this day, and this is 15, 20 years later, will get emails when I'm on TV and stuff from being like, "Yo, I just dug up this card from 17 years ago. You were at Benjamin's Bar Mitzvah." And now he's like, you know, he's 30 now and he has a kid of his own. And I'll never forget that this and like that has a staying power where again it's the little touches. It wasn't much. I took a photo.

I found a service online. The same Jesse Ler. Do you know Jesse? Yeah. He's been on here. Great guy.

The the the the power of a handwritten note in today's day and age when everything's AI and everything's email and everything's automatically sent back to you through some CRM. There's a power in the human touch that still exists. And I think that so often I've seen it where the people I've really connected with and you say what's what's really shined the human touch, the little things that they do that are like wow they remembered that about me or they knew me and they're like an A-list celebrity. It's crazy. They didn't have to. How did you remember that about me?

Yeah. Take notes. Write stuff down. Yeah. I have a whole chapter. All I do is take notes after everything. I'll leave here today. I'll write some stuff down. I'll remember it. And if I run into that person again in a month, in a year, in five years, if I can, it's not even remembering it. I can cheat. Can literally look at my phone and say, "Oh my god, we met at this place. Look, I have a note about this person."

Yeah. It's literally like a mentalism trick to reveal that information to people even though they gave it to you already. Because it shows you took the time.

Yeah. I was trying to sum you up after reading this and my experiences preparing for this and it was uh very kind, very curious, pays very close attention and then I wrote followup, followup, followup. It's just that it it it seems like a little thing, but it's a huge thing of that your whole career now you've also made the most of your opportunities when you've earned them, right? you've got big opportunities, you made the most of them.

But the the early days of the followup, follow up, follow up, I think that's a that's something anybody can do. You don't have to read minds to follow up. You just got to pay attention and put in a little bit of extra effort, but not even that much. But anybody can do it, but it's weird that most people don't.

Most people don't. You just hit the nail on the head, which is most people will also assign blame to others in a certain way. So, what'll happen is you'll do a follow-up and you'll say, "Well, they didn't write me back." Oh, man. And then, screw them, right? You immediately say something nasty about them. What if they're just busy right now? What if the timing isn't right?

There's so many levels of things where put the ball in their court, but you keep the ball in your court at the same time. So, you don't want to be overly aggressive. We know the people that follow up too much. That's a whole different can of worms. There's a little goldilock zone of finding the right amount of time to give someone and giving them the right excuse. A good one is I used to always do this is I would say if somebody needs me more than I need them, the dynamic has shifted. But what if this is a TV producer and I really want to get on this show and they don't really need me at all. Well, I'm going to stay in touch, but I'm going to give them the out and say, "Hey, I know you've been so busy lately. God knows how much stuff is on your plate right now. So, let me know how we're doing. If not, I'll make sure to check back in a couple months." So, I will make sure to check back in. So, when I'm following

up, all I'm doing is is is saying, "Oh, by the way, I promised to get back to you, so I don't want to, you know, I didn't forget." So, it's they forgot, but you've now kind of taken it on yourself to have an entry point again. Think of it as you're dating someone. You left your toothbrush in their room, in their bathroom. You have a reason to come back. I got to get my toothbrush back. Right? So, you want to proverbial leave some sort of hint or something there for the followup. and I some of the biggest things I've ever landed ESPN the thing that brought us together can backtrack to a a a bar mitzvah 18 years ago where I first met Adam Shfter and that that the first seed was planted and I had to keep watering it watering it watering it small plant small plant until it grew into this thing and now look at all things that came from all the things I've done with ESPN where Adam Shfter originated them and then

from there to Pat McAfee to AJ Hawk to all these other people and all these other channels to Mike Green like all these people that I've now met who have now become champions of me within a network and other networks.

It it also is a great reminder uh I had I had an amazing mentor I still have him uh named Rex Caswell who told me told me you are interviewing for your next job every single day. You have no idea who might be in the audience. Yep. You have no idea. But you give it your all every single time. And one time Adam Shfter is in the audience. Yep. And now you know that's one of the people that has set you up among along with a bunch of others. But I think that's a good lesson in life like you never know. So you got to give it your all every single chance you get.

Yes. And I wouldn't say having a mentality a mindset of fear but there is a scarcity mindset that I like which is if I'm not performing for even a week in my mind I go I'm unemployed again. I got to get back at it. I could be at the top of the game.

You probably have gigs though lined up for a long time now, right? at this point, but like for a while you

even now I still have the same mindset. There's no [clears throat] question. And it like in

like it could end tomorrow 100%. Do you genuinely think that? Uh so I know it's not going to because I have things booked out.

Yes. But you have productive paranoia. I call it productive paranoia. Jim Collins like good to great is like I'm going to be overly insanely prepared every single time whether it's a podcast or a show for a billion people. I'm going to be so prepared I'm not going to leave anything important to chance.

I think so. I have a little bit of I have to leave things to chance because otherwise it gets stiff. So I go into it with a very loosey goosey like I know what's going to happen. Yeah. But if you watch structured performers and I could I could offline just show you somebody who does what I do and then you watch them and go, "Oh, wow." They're not loose the way you are. The way you just said, there's the jokes, there's this. They have almost like an actor or actress who's saying lines. They're saying lines to a show that they've already

feel that probably yet. Some people don't mind it. I don't I don't think that that's

that doesn't necessarily There's still people at a very high echelon that can do that.

Yeah. I like the being quickwitted in being able to respond to Howard Stern like your friends even if you're Were you nervous at that like AGT? Like were you nervous?

Yes. But I I convert nervousness into a different energy. Nervousness when people say it to me. Um I'm not anxious. Nervous is a healthy emotion. Anxiety is different. Anxiety is a my mind is just catastrophizing say this going to go wrong. This is going to go wrong. This wrong. My nervous energy is I'm going to do everything to make this go right. And I know it's going to go right. I'm going to kill it. And I I have that fixation. But the nerves are let's get into it. And then the moment it's kind of like starting a a marathon. Once the marathon starts, I'm in the sweet spot. Once the performance starts, that's what I've been training for. That's that's the, you know, the cherry on the Sunday. Now I'm ready. I'm not nervous while performing. No. Sometimes I'm nervous while preparing.

Yeah. Like that anticipatory you're about to run out in front of 105,000 people in a football game. It's like it's hard to

that it feels amazing, but it's a little bit like ah and then you just want to get hit, you Like that's probably you just want to like have the first line or the first trick and it goes. Okay. Uh we did some stuff before to prepare. What what what was that all about?

Oh, so I like to give you an idea. So it's really important to say I mean I see your marker here and I'm like what's what is he preparing? What's he doing

right here? What is this marker? So I I I wanted to ask you questions that you'll say later. Was he leading me in a certain direction with the questions? And and maybe I was, maybe I wasn't. But I said to you, we've done you've done over 650 right

learning leader podcast. you've done and each one of those hopefully has been insightful for you and for your listeners. If you can get one little tidbit out of it, that's an amazing thing. And I asked you to take a moment and and and to marinate on this and said, if you were to think of the first person, if I said you could interview anyone, right? Not someone you've already done, but somebody new. And I said, if it could be number one person, how quickly, bam, does that pop in your head? the number one person. It was quick. Near instant. Near instant, right? It's quick. You know why? Because

that's easy to do. It's like asking me, you know, what's my favorite color? It's blue. So easy. Like I I know it, right? It's a muscle memory thing.

I wanted to shake you out of autopilot. So if you were to now go down the list and say, you've done that first person. It was incredible. Who's number two? And I go, "Oh, well, number two." And then and then it takes usually a hint longer. And see see the nod. The nod took longer that time. Thinking of the second one took a little longer. But then if you were to keep making a list and I would say do number three, it'd be a struggle. Do number four right this minute. Can you think of who'd be number four? See, it's a struggle. See, stop. You don't have to. But I want everyone to see what spontaneity means right now. That look in your eyes of oh god, who would I pick? That's what I want. I want the struggle.

Okay. Now, if you were to go back and back the number two person, I feel in your mind that you were like, [snorts] you not going to get this one. Is that is that how you felt?

I don't think there's any possible way. And I feel bad. No, no, totally fine. And then and then when I said to you number three and you were on the fence about number three and all right, I got it. And then when number four is a struggle and you even think about it, you didn't think about this before. I want to make sure they understand that. Go back to number three.

Okay. See, I seeing who number three is. Um I think number three in your mind doesn't have that same level where I think you want to interview them, but I think it's achievable. I think that literally in your mind it's somebody where you're like, I think I'm gonna get them soon. You've never interviewed this person, have you?

But I think you've met them before, haven't you? Don't say don't say anything. There's something there. There's something there.

There's Oh, hold on. Hold on. I I feel like unfortunately there's no way you're going to get this.

I think I think uh jump back. It's a guy. Is it a guy? Number three, right? Yeah. Yes. I don't I don't know who what order. Whoever you were just thinking of a second ago, if that's a guy,

you haven't met him directly, but I feel like there's maybe you're on the phone or something. There's some story here connected between the two or you've spoken to this person and then you set it up and you're like, it's going to happen one day soon. It's somebody you've met his brother. You were thinking of Eli Manning. You're thinking of Peyton Manning, aren't you?

Stop it. Is it Pton Manning? Is it Pton Manning who popped into your head? There is no way, dude.

There's no way. And then and the other person. You definitely aren't getting two.

I don't think I've even written that. You've never written this down? There's always people haters on you. Have you ever written this down? Have you ever posted this on social media? Have you ever spoken this out loud or 000?

Have you posted about this person ever? I have mentioned the person before. I have

as like somebody you want to meet. Yeah. Is there any way I would know that? I mean, I doubt that.

How many people have you mentioned you want to meet? Oh, lots. Lots. So, how do we know this would be the person? Did you ever say this would be my number two person?

No. No. So, right now, you challenge me. You go. I've got somebody you'll never guess in a million years. Is that correct?

Yes. And when I said it's a guy, you said number two. You would never have said that if they were both guys. So, this is a female.

Dude, this is not happening. I think that this is somebody you're fascinated with because you're you're familiar with her work and her work inspires you. That's where it's at for sure.

And I've written this down. Can you cover your eyes? And I hope I spelled this right. Keep your eyes closed. Keep your eyes closed. I'm going to show this.

Open your eyes. Showing the camera. I can't change what I wrote. It's written. It's done. You were thinking of when you thought of Pton Manning, you thought of Pton Manning. But here, am I right? You were thinking of one word, two words, three words. Who popped in your head the moment I said, "Who would you love to meet?" You changed your mind multiple times. Who is it? What's her name?

Doris Karns Goodwin. Doris Karns Goodwin. Do you even know who that is? Biographer. Famous biographer. Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. Team of rivals. I mean, seriously, dude. how you do this. That one is insane. That's why I said before we start recording, I feel bad about this one because there's no way.

No way. You know, we end on a high note. There's always the ricochet. What I love is people always ask me the same question. They'll say, "What if it goes wrong? What if it goes wrong?" And what I learned is it used to go wrong much more often, but it still goes wrong.

So, you just say a name and it' be wrong. Well, so here's the thing. you've you've you're looking at it the wrong way, which is the premise is that you would know it was wrong. Let me give you a great example. If I say to somebody, think of your ATM pin code, something I'm famous for, and I guess it and they go, that's not the right pin code. It looks like I got it wrong. It's pretty you got it wrong. But what if I say to you, think of two different football players right now, and I guess both those football players, and and and I tell you their jersey numbers, and what if I wanted their jersey numbers to be your ATM PIN code, but they weren't? You never knew that that was where I was going with it. So, I actually got it wrong. I know I got it wrong, but you never got to that point in the trick. So for you, all I did was get it right because you never knew what was going to be wrong. Do you understand? I

set up the terms of what happens. So watch the best stuff is unexpected where you don't expect it. You don't expect it. And I say to you, imagine a thought bubble. I call it this thing right now above you. You see a thought bubble. And this is what I said, something unexpected. And I I said person, place, or thing. But you've already done a person. So I say a place or a thing. And I want you to close your eyes and seeup bup a thought bubble just this second appears above your head and it's unexpected. This is the part I said when I walked in this room. I said what if it's something you couldn't expect? Open your eyes.

Person place thing. It's not a person because I told you not to do it. How many words are in that bubble? Tell me. Is it one word, two words? How many words?

One. One word. Right. When I shake hands with you, imagine that I go inside of your brain. I go into that bubble. Shake my hand. Zion. Is that what it said? Right in that bubble. Yes. Dude, you got to give me like a little bit of how you can figure that out. I just need a little bit. Oh my god. And I actually no I thought I was thinking I was like oh because I went to Zion National Park and it's one of my favorite places in the world to hike.

I don't know I don't I don't I don't even know what to say. I have had that effect on people. Speechless works for me. Shooken up running out of the room throwing holy water at me. All of the above have occurred before.

O I know we got to go. Thank you. Thank you. Thanks for having me. I love you, man. This is so cool.

Thank you. Thank you for reading my book and spreading the word. And honestly, I hope you get a few nice tidbits out of it because to me, if you get three things out of it that you still use 10 years from now, this was worth every bit of blood, sweat, and tears that went into it because it's hard writing a book. Everybody,

get reps, be curious, be genuinely interested in people. Follow up, follow up, follow up, and then keep going. The confidence is built through evidence, and that's also through preparation. I mean,

never let somebody else, never let somebody else be in charge of your destiny. make those mentors and champions, but at the end of the day, no one will work as hard for you as you do.

And the story of of why you didn't get on America's Got Talent the first time is and the second time are great stories because the third time you advocated for yourself a little bit more. Yep.

And then you did what you do. You made the most of it. And I think that's something that sometimes people struggle with of advocate for yourself. Don't be afraid to say, "Hey, I mean Colin probably got annoyed at the number of emails. I'm like, "Hey, I need I need to have a tray in front of me cuz I have an iPad." Yeah,

like little details are important, you know, sitting here like this. Like little things like that. But that's part of what I've learned over time of, hey, just set it up ahead of time so that when O comes in, we can have a good time. So anyway, I appreciate that. I appreciate the attention to detail. Thank you. Thanks for having me.

Questions about this episode

Who speaks in "The Skill That Looks Like Magic (But Isn’t) | Oz Pearlman Read your Mind"?

Ryan Hawk (Host), Oz Pearlman (Guest), Colin (Guest).

What is "The Skill That Looks Like Magic (But Isn’t) | Oz Pearlman Read your Mind" about?

The content focuses on the insights of mentalist Oz Pearlman, who shares how confidence, charm, and persistence can be cultivated to excel in both magic and interpersonal relationships. He emphasizes the importance of curiosity about others, resilience in the face of rejection, and the cumulative impact of small actions in achieving one's goals.

What is mentioned in this Ryan Hawk episode?

37 people, works and ideas are mentioned, including Charm, America's Got Talent, Stephen Spielberg, Preparation, Disarm with charm, Doris Kearns Goodwin. Each one on this page links to its own page with every episode that mentions it.

How long is "The Skill That Looks Like Magic (But Isn’t) | Oz Pearlman Read your Mind"?

The episode runs 52 min; the transcript is about 11,809 words in 195 timestamped sections.

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About this transcript: the episode's spoken words as captioned on YouTube, split into timestamped sections. Reclip.Me locates every person, work and idea in the text, keeps the time it is first named, and quotes the words around it verbatim. Last updated January 24, 2026.