Am I Just “Nice,” Or Am I A People Pleaser? Signs You’re People Pleasing
From What Your Therapist Thinks
This discussion explores the concept of people pleasing, highlighting the behaviors and patterns that define it, and questioning the reliance on external validation for self-worth. Experts explain how such habits may stem from a need for acceptance and survival within societal frameworks, while also addressing common misconceptions about mental health terminology prevalent on the internet.
Key Takeaways
- People pleasers run on approval: a habit, not a trait, forged from past survival tactics.
- When 'yes' is automatic, personal desires get lost in translation. Guard against becoming a self-erasing scribe.
- Internet's weaponized words: gaslighting, narcissism, dysregulation—often misfired, sometimes enlightening.
- People pleasing and codependency: a duet often mistaken for harmony, masking deeper chaos.
- Break the cycle: reclaim your value beyond availability; you're more than a 'yes' machine.
Who is mentioned in this episode?
5 people come up, including Chloe Bean, Christy Plantinga, Chloe.
- Chloe Bean (Person)
- Christy Plantinga (Person)
- Chloe (Person)
- Felicia Keller Bole (Person)
- Casia Urbanayak (Person)
Mentioned in this episode
- best therapist.com (Company)
- Internal Family Systems (IFS) (Concept)
- Parts work (Concept)
- somatic therapy (Concept)
- Trauma response (Concept)
- mind reading (cognitive distortion) (Concept)
- CPTSD (Concept)
- Best Therapists (Company)
- Radical responsibility (Concept)
- Chloe Bean Therapy (Company)
- Toxic Lady (Concept)
- Healing in Tune (Product)
- subreddit social skills (Company)
- complex PTSD subreddit (Company)
- High functioning anxiety (Concept)
- Emotional abuse (Concept)
- Neglect (Concept)
- EMDR (Concept)
- Podvision (Company)
- attachment (to outcome) (Concept)